Overcoming Shyness, learning to be a "people person"

[Tinton]

Your post was ok, except for this part. Pretty shitty of you. You're nobody to just not answer a phone call just because you don't have anything to say to whomever is calling you. You say yourself that you don't call unless you have something specific to talk about. How do you know that's not what the person calling you is doing? Yet you expect them to text you. You kind of bit your nose off to spite your face. I'd rather be alone than to have "friends" like you. Later, QD.

Heh, nah, its my phone its my choice whether to answer it or not. Most of the time I DO answer its just people telling me bullshit anyways. They wanna bore me with mundane details of their life or whatever, they can send me an e-mail and I'll read it when I have time. Not having me answer the phone when I'm walking to class, and then I gotta cut them off because I don't have the time to talk to them then.

BTW I was wrong in my original post. I do call people if I do have a specific thing to talk about...but its usually after I told them before that I'd call them. So they at LEAST know what's going on. I rarely ever just call someone out of the blue.

1 of my friends is so annoying he absolutely refuses to use texts. Like, I'll send him 1 and he'll immediately call me. Then he's surprised when the convo stops in like a minute because I don't have anything else to say.

Really, 1 thing that can help you is thinking of topics of conversation. If you want to talk with some random person, just think of things you may have in common. Thinking about the setting can really help, if you're in school talk about classes or something. You're at the grocery store talk about food. You're at an arcade talk about the games. Usually just being in the same place as the other person gives you 1 thing in common.

[quickdodge®]

Heh, nah, its my phone its my choice whether to answer it or not.

I meant to put that I figured you would use this excuse. And you're right. But are you related to Sylvia Brown or John Edwards by any chance? Do you relate to Whoopi Goldberg? How do you know someone is going to call you only to talk about "mundane" things? I don't know, but to me it just seems rude. I cann't be that way. I can't just know that I can call whoever I want whenever I want if I have a specific topic/question and if the other person has a specific topic/question to call about, they have to text me. I guess these damn morals and values just keep getting in the way of the "cool" factor. Later, QD.

[Tinton]

I meant to put that I figured you would use this excuse. And you're right. But are you related to Sylvia Brown or John Edwards by any chance? Do you relate to Whoopi Goldberg? How do you know someone is going to call you only to talk about "mundane" things? I don't know, but to me it just seems rude. I cann't be that way. I can't just know that I can call whoever I want whenever I want if I have a specific topic/question and if the other person has a specific topic/question to call about, they have to text me. I guess these damn morals and values just keep getting in the way of the "cool" factor. Later, QD.

Generational differences.

Many of my friends won't pick up unless they know I'm calling. I'm the same way.

[quickdodge®]

Generational differences.

Lolol. No. But in a way you are right. With each new generation, the generosity, morals, respect towards other people get lower and lower. But, in a technical sense, generations have nothing to do with actual morals. Morals stay the same throughout. People just overlook them.

Many of my friends won't pick up unless they know I'm calling. I'm the same way.

Hmmmm. So you have to make an appointment to call your friends and vice versa? What do you do, mail them a letter saying that you are going to call them at 4:35pm on Monday July 16, 2007? Later, QD.

[Tinton]

Lolol. No. But in a way you are right. With each new generation, the generosity, morals, respect towards other people get lower and lower. But, in a technical sense, generations have nothing to do with actual morals. Morals stay the same throughout. People just overlook them.



Hmmmm. So you have to make an appointment to call your friends and vice versa? What do you do, mail them a letter saying that you are going to call them at 4:35pm on Monday July 16, 2007? Later, QD.

Nah I usually make plans with them in texts, e-mail, IM, etc. Then I usually call to confirm like if I'm on my way to meet them or whatever.

Great QD, what would you do? If someone just called you up and started talking to you about their life and random stuff and you REALLY wanted to get off the phone because you're busy and have other stuff to do? Would you answer and politely tell them you'll call them later? Normally that's what I'd do but usually I don't have time to call them later. So what should I do? Answer, speak for a second, then tell them I got to go? Well, back in your day you didn't have this problem because you didn't have cellphones, if you were out doing stuff you weren't home to answer your phone.

[quickdodge®]

Well, back in your day you didn't have this problem because you didn't have cellphones, if you were out doing stuff you weren't home to answer your phone.

You know I was actually trying to give you a decent conversation instead of running straight into the ground, but if you want to go that route, trust me, I can do that. I'm not going to try to get you to see where you are a shitty(in that respect) person. You do what you do. If you and your friends are cool with how it works, then fine. That's no problem. There was cellphones back in my day. There were also these things called pagers. So fucking what. Later, QD.

[speedminded]

You know I was actually trying to give you a decent conversation instead of running straight into the ground, but if you want to go that route, trust me, I can do that. I'm not going to try to get you to see where you are a shitty(in that respect) person. You do what you do. If you and your friends are cool with how it works, then fine. That's no problem. There was cellphones back in my day. There were also these things called pagers. So fucking what. Later, QD.

i'm gonna take a wild guess QD could be seen with a brick or bag phone bag in the day?