Baby?? No daddy...

[Killer]

Why not? You do realize that marriage is not for everyone and at the same time a possibility for everyone, right? I am a little bothered by the fact that everyone seems to see a family as consisting of a father and a mother and yet we all know that single parenthood is prevalent in America. The same country founded on Christianity and yet we cant seem to keep marriages together...Hmm.

I am taking many opinions into consideration but do not tell me that a child cannot grow to be an amazing person without their father in the picture. IT happens all the time and at the same time it is something that is frowned upon in society. I love how some of these posts make it seem like I am cold-hearted and a bitch, yet I am the one asking for advice instead of just going out and doing as I please and calling the future father a "sucker" when I get what I want.

I know that I am going to be judged in life and that isnt a problem for me, but at the same time please look at yourself first. I have yet to act on anything that I am typing and yet I am being judged by Bible pushers that live their life fornicating and participating in things that Jesus wouldnt be too proud of...But it is ok... "Cast the first stone," right?? (and killer this isnt just for you.)

again, i'm not basing anything i said on religion.... and i'm not saying a child can't grow up to be a great person.. they can... and i've seen many that have...

but for that child there will always be something missing,(i've seen it, and dealt with it) i don't know if you had or didn't have both of your parents... for the most part i've had mine.. they were divorced though.. and it wasn't a pretty one at that..... there were many times i "wished" my dad was there to show me how to do this, or teach me how to do that.... let me work on his car with him... the things a father should be doing.. and as a child i was robbed of a lot of that.... there were times i was with my father as a young child.. and i did get to do some of the things a son should do with his dad.... so i'm not asking for a pity party.. just giving my insight.... like i said, i completely missed where you said the father could be in the childs life.... i read over it more than once, don't ask how, but i did...

[quickdodge®]

but do not tell me that a child cannot grow to be an amazing person without their father in the picture. IT happens all the time

As in a previous post of mine, I stated that it does happen. But the chances are very slim. It is shown/proven that children reared in single parent homes are more likely to end up on the wrong side of the tracks. I won't judge you for your decision. But I hope you reconsider. Later, QD.

[SLOWLYbtngU]

cornercarver makes a valid point also, it seems like the thought of meeting someone that you would like to spend the rest of your life with, you have cast off to the side. i believe that if you regain that 'feeling' that you can/will meet someone you are willing to spend the rest of your life with, you will wait for that person to have a child with.

IMO it's all about patience right now and whether you can wait to have your own child. Having children can be a wonderful thing for you, but it can be an even more wonderful for the child, to have both mother AND father in their life. I grew up without a father, not because my mother or I wanted to, but because of an untimely death. I grew up without a father since the age of 6 and i wish many days that i had a father that was there with me. Granted it was no ones fault in this situation, but you have the choice that you can make, to not forsake your child the opportunity and privilege, that you can control to have that father in their life.

Thank you. I realize that my post makes it seem as if though I want the kid like tomorrow. I am more looking for opinions, information, and different options. I have not ruled out adoption either. I have volunteered at a couple of foster homes through the children's hospital that I work with and have definately seen the need for parents in these kids' lives.

[BluesClues]

I have to agree with majority in this thread. It is extremely hard and tough on the child growing up without a father. My father died when I was two. I constantly envy those with both mother and father. I will never know what it feels like to call someone daddy. To be "daddy's little girl." I want those things so bad that my heart hurts. I feel that there are so many things in life I missed out on because my father isn't around. You know, the special moments only a father and daughter can have. Plus I have a sister I have never met and probably will never meet. You have to also consider that. Do they have other children? Will my child get to meet them? It's a lot of factors in that equation. I just don't think it is a good idea. If you want your child to be happy, give them what they will need and will be thankful for in the future. Think about it

[DinanM3atl]

This is quite possibly the dumbest thread I have ever read...

You obviously have a couple options... This is a BIG choice and something it sounds like you need to think of yourself because you are completed confused.

1. Artificial... I don't know what the problem is but this is the ONLY way you are going to find the situation you are looking for

2. Dad will be in the kids life(good thing)


I don't know where you are going to find someone to just have sex with you and "trying" to get a kid... I don't think many dudes would like to be in the situation... HELL maybe you are trying to set someone up for some child support... That is just fucked up...

[SLOWLYbtngU]

the man with 2 first names makes a good point. I know you may not want to spill all your life's thoughts and goals, but is marriage something you have already told yourself is out of the question? Honestly(if this is the case), I would only see this ringing true for one thing. You don't want to settle down with a man because you like the single, party lifestyle. Not a thing wrong that, but if you do like that and don't want to give it up, a child is NOT what you need to be thinking of. A child is going to need you to hang up those days.

But if you do see a chance of you getting married and raising a child, that's what you should wait on. Later, QD.

I may not be the typical (girly girl) female on here, but of course I would love to get married. I would love to one day have a husband to call my own. I have not ruled that out and have considered how having a child would work against me when it comes to finding a mate.

[Killer]

You break my GODdamn heart. You thought you had it bad, huh? I wonder what it'd be like if my Father left my Mom, sister and I and got married to another woman. I wonder what it'd be like if my Father had two more children with that lady not a year later. I wonder what it'd be like if my Father then came back and got a divorce from my Mom. I wonder what it'd be like if my Father then went to court and willingly disowned my sister and I so that he wouldn't have to have anything to do with us. I wonder what it'd be like if after we moved on(here to GA-2100 miles) if my Father and his new family moved across country and ended up living 15 minutes from us until the day he died without never hearing a word since I was 1 year old. I wonder how that woul........oooops, my bad. I know exactly how that feels. So save your sob stories for someone who hasn't had it worse. Later, QD.

first of all, this isn't a fucking competition to see who the hell had it worse! and i never said i had it worse than anyone!!! i'm telling her that growing up with out a dad is rough, and i know that because i've dealt with it first hand.... and that i'm not basing my thoughts on the situation because i grew up in church being taught that way(because i did not grow up in church) at all....

everyone has different situations qd.... some harder than others... i'm sorry you had to read part of mine, and that it wasn't worse than yours.... you sir are a fucking tool... and i personally, am tired of hearing your sob stories as well... every chance you get you tell one, and let us all know how much of a west coast gangsta you were, and how hard your life has been. yet when someone else throws some insight out there it's not good enough cause it doesn't compare to your story!?!?!?!?

[quickdodge®]

I would love to one day have a husband to call my own.

Thread needs to be locked here. If you really want that in your future. Then, by no means, do not go through with your thoughts currently. Wait. I promise you will NOT regret the decision and your life and your child and possibly your husband will all thank you. Over and over again. Later, QD.

[quickdodge®]

first of all, this isn't a fucking competition to see who the hell had it worse! and i never said i had it worse than anyone!!! i'm telling her that growing up with out a dad is rough, and i know that because i've dealt with it first hand.... and that i'm not basing my thoughts on the situation because i grew up in church being taught that way(because i did not grow up in church) at all....

everyone has different situations qd.... some harder than others... i'm sorry you had to read part of mine, and that it wasn't worse than yours.... you sir are a fucking tool... and i personally, am tired of hearing your sob stories as well... every chance you get you tell one, and let us all know how much of a west coast gangsta you were, and how hard your life has been. yet when someone else throws some insight out there it's not good enough cause it doesn't compare to your story!?!?!?!?

You say something that was worth a shit?



Hmmm...

I didn't think you did. I'm sure the people with good insight and posting skills all thank you for destroying a decently took topic. Later, QD.

[Killer]

I may not be the typical (girly girl) female on here, but of course I would love to get married. I would love to one day have a husband to call my own. I have not ruled that out and have considered how having a child would work against me when it comes to finding a mate.

then wait.... imho it's the best thing to do.

[william_jeff]

Why not? You do realize that marriage is not for everyone and at the same time a possibility for everyone, right? I am a little bothered by the fact that everyone seems to see a family as consisting of a father and a mother and yet we all know that single parenthood is prevalent in America. The same country founded on Christianity and yet we cant seem to keep marriages together...Hmm.

single parenthood for the most part though is unvoluntary. some cases either a father/mother dies, divorce resulting in custody issues, is incarcerated(sp?), or just doesn't care at all about the child. i know of little cases where someone outright says before ever being pregnant that the father doesn't have to be a part of the situation, that they just want a child. most cases where i hear this is when someone already has a person in mind that they would love/like to spend the rest of their life with, not just a 'donor' as it were.

I am taking many opinions into consideration but do not tell me that a child cannot grow to be an amazing person without their father in the picture. IT happens all the time and at the same time it is something that is frowned upon in society. I love how some of these posts make it seem like I am cold-hearted and a bitch, yet I am the one asking for advice instead of just going out and doing as I please and calling the future father a "sucker" when I get what I want.

There are many cases where fatherless children grow up to be successful, and there are also times where fatherless children grow up to be heathens. FORTUNATELY, i have beaten the odds and have been semisuccessful, and have not been a menace to society, as it were. I'm not looking at you as cold hearted, just stating my opinions, that waiting would be the best option.

I know that I am going to be judged in life and that isnt a problem for me, but at the same time please look at yourself first. I have yet to act on anything that I am typing and yet I am being judged by Bible pushers that live their life fornicating and participating in things that Jesus wouldnt be too proud of...But it is ok... "Cast the first stone," right?? (and killer this isnt just for you.)

*mouth zipped* pwnt

[Dirty Octopus™]

OK, so I want to have a child and have considered all of my alternatives for pregnancy, and even though I want a child... I dont want to deal with a father. I know that sounds odd but I am not sure how to explain it to people. I am fully capable of having and taking care of a child by myself but cant bring myself to do artificial insemination(sp?) but at the same time I feel odd explaining to a guy that I am trying to get pregnant and dont really need him in the picture. If he wants to be there that is fine...But I just dont want any drama when it comes to the raising of the child.

What are your opinions? I am just kinda wondering what everyone else thinks.

You speak of fathers as if they are children themselves... or extra baggage if you will...
It's fine and dandy that you are in the i'm an independant woman and i dont need help from anyone club.
But... you have to give men a chance. We deal with the frivolities of women on a daily basis and carry on as normal. We say you can't live with them but the can't live without them always reigns. You and I both know this. Look at our parents... What if one decided to "not deal with the drama" that came with the other upon meeting?
I wouldn't have a father to love me and tell my mother how much he missed me when i moved out. Sure there have been a lot of bad times and a load of not seeing eye to eye but the potency of the Good Times soooo outweighs the bad.
You wouldn't have a father to help you in your MANY times of need at the drop of most every dime...
Sure our Mother's can do most everything themselves while our father's are gone but their deeds cannot be looked over.

Exactly what "drama" are you talking about?
It SEEMS as if you are indeed being selfish and just want everything YOUR way. YOU don't seem to want a man of any sort to tell YOU how to or help YOU raise YOUR child. And that's just not cool.

[Killer]

You say something that was worth a shit?



Hmmm...

I didn't think you did. I'm sure the people with good insight and posting skills all thank you for destroying a decently took topic. Later, QD.

first off, i openly admitted my mistake to jos about not seeing where she said the father could be a part of the childs life, and completely changed my tone with her after that... you're the one keeping the bullshit going with your "i've had it worse than you" bull crap... i simply stated my situation, as did william_jeff telling us his father passed at an early age. and you had to (like always) be better/worse than everyone else.

now the bullshit will stop when YOU and I stop going back and forth, and letting the topic be the only thing we discuss....





again SlwlybtngU, i in no way am judging you, or think your child would grow up to be a horrible person... I do think that you will save the child a lot of stress, and drama if you wait to find a father for the child... not just a sperm donor.

[josh green]

I am not deterred by a woman that already has a child, its just the reaction that the child has to me that is scary. I mean, depending on its age how are you going to act towards it, try to be a father figure to it or not?... I think this also has to do with the age of a child. I know it would be hard for me to be disciplined by someone that wasnt my father if I was 6-8yrs of age or older.
I think that is what might scare someone off when they hear the other has a child.

[quickdodge®]

first off, i openly admitted my mistake to jos about not seeing where she said the father could be a part of the childs life, and completely changed my tone with her after that... you're the one keeping the bullshit going with your "i've had it worse than you" bull crap... i simply stated my situation, as did william_jeff telling us his father passed at an early age. and you had to (like always) be better/worse than everyone else.

Yes you did, but in that same post, you decided it best to keep the shit up and post back me instead of just ignoring it.

now the bullshit will stop when YOU and I stop going back and forth, and letting the topic be the only thing we discuss....

Keep your posts worthwhile and I won't say anything about it. Don't judge or assume if you're not going to find out all the facts. And no need to argue the previous sentence because you admitted that you just assumed. Later, QD.

[william_jeff]

again, i'm not basing anything i said on religion.... and i'm not saying a child can't grow up to be a great person.. they can... and i've seen many that have...

but for that child there will always be something missing,(i've seen it, and dealt with it) .... there were many times i "wished" my dad was there to show me how to do this, or teach me how to do that.... let me work on his car with him... the things a father should be doing.. and as a child i was robbed of a lot of that.... there were times i was with my father as a young child.. and i did get to do some of the things a son should do with his dad.... so i'm not asking for a pity party.. just giving my insight.... like i said, i completely missed where you said the father could be in the childs life.... i read over it more than once, don't ask how, but i did...

such a true post, edited for the same things i had to deal with

I have to agree with majority in this thread. It is extremely hard and tough on the child growing up without a father. My father died when I was two. I constantly envy those with both mother and father. I will never know what it feels like to call someone daddy. To be "daddy's little girl." I want those things so bad that my heart hurts. I feel that there are so many things in life I missed out on because my father isn't around. You know, the special moments only a father and daughter can have. Plus I have a sister I have never met and probably will never meet. You have to also consider that. Do they have other children? Will my child get to meet them? It's a lot of factors in that equation. I just don't think it is a good idea. If you want your child to be happy, give them what they will need and will be thankful for in the future. Think about it

quoted for truth also

IMO that child will grow up with thoughts of having their father in their life. i know my sister took it hard and so did my brother when my father died, even though i am the youngest, they still at the same time wish that dad was their.

[Jimmy B]

i agree with alot of the people in here a child NEEDS a father...

who are you to say that YOU dont want the child to have a father??? that proves you dont need a child!

you said that the nation was based on christianity, yes.. true, but "we" cant keep marriages together, its because a divorce is the easy out, jsut liek you are trying to do, with volountarly(sc) rasing a child with no father?? (God help your child if you have one)

i wish i read this topic sooner.. i would have alot more responces,.. all telling you that you are a dumbass

[Scrilla]

[QUOTE=Dirty Octopus

[Kyle]

i think that the child is much better with two parents, a kid needs a father and a mother in the picture to mature properly, i dont think it would be fair to the kid (especially if its a boy) to not give it a chance to have a father. thats what i think

I'm with efman. I think it would be a very selfish and wrong decision to do what you are wanting to do. I posted, just the other day about the causes and effects on one parent child raising. I think you'd be doing the child a disservice. Later, QD.

Agree with both of these guys.

Having a kid may be ideal for you, but it's not the right thing to do. Think of the kids future and his/her needs, not only your own.

[Scrilla]

[QUOTE=Dirty Octopus

[Black R]

I am not deterred by a woman that already has a child, its just the reaction that the child has to me that is scary. I mean, depending on its age how are you going to act towards it, try to be a father figure to it or not?... I think this also has to do with the age of a child. I know it would be hard for me to be disciplined by someone that wasnt my father if I was 6-8yrs of age or older.
I think that is what might scare someone off when they hear the other has a child.

J. Green, MILFhunter!

[SLOWLYbtngU]

Lol...To the people calling me a dumbass for asking advice....Jesus fucking christ...Do you realize that in the very first post I say that if the father wants to be a part of the childs life I am not the one to deny him that...I am jsut not going to force him to be around...Lol...You people humor me...You really do. Not all. Just some. I love how you come in here judging me and yet you are the same fuckers that post all kinds of ignorant ass bullshit in other forums... Why dont some you ask yourselves what makes up a family.

Forgive me for not being a uptight bitch and forcing the child's father to be in the picture...Forgive me for not wanting to remind the child on a daily basis that their father didnt want to be a part of their life. Forgive me for wanting some opinions and advice on a certain topic that I have considered. Thank you for calling me a dumbass because some of you are so fucking narrow minded that you dont even take into consideration that I am asking for advice and comments without the judgmental bullshit. For cryin out loud. State your opinion without attacking the person. Shit...Do some of you even realize how a discussion works? You break the subject down...Not the person..This isnt fucking war...IT is a discussion about what I have considered. Did I say it was today? No. Did I say it was tomorrow? No. What I did say is that I do want to have a child and it is up to the father whether or not they want to be a part of their life. What is so wrong in that? Is it the fact that I am a female saying that I am fully capable of providing a loving home without a father. Is it the fact that I am challenging society's beliefs on what constitutes a family? I mean seriously...How often are females used for only one thing and it is socially acceptable to certain people??? Would it not be the same thing for me to admit that all I need is male ejaculate so that I may conceive a child with no desire of keeping him in my life?

Who are you people to say what MY child will feel when we are all different.

For those of you that have shared your experiences, I am defiantely taking them into considerations but please dont make it seem like i dont know what it was like to not have a dad because my parents are still married. I know what it is like to grow up with a drug addict/alcoholic father that was rarely "around" mentally to realize I was around him physically. I know what it is like to go through my teenage years with my father in jail and have him blame me for the reason he is in jail. I also know what it is liek to be 18yrs old and have a father that wants to be there for me but it is too late. Hence, why I said it is up to the fahter to be in the picture...I will not force him to be...Please for crying out loud read the fucking posts before you share your fucked up ignorance.

[SLOWLYbtngU]

This is quite possibly the dumbest thread I have ever read...

have you been to whores lately? Have you heard of Kainejuice??? And this is the dumbest...Get the fuck outta here dude...You're crazy....

[SLOWLYbtngU]

You speak of fathers as if they are children themselves... or extra baggage if you will...
It's fine and dandy that you are in the i'm an independant woman and i dont need help from anyone club.
But... you have to give men a chance. We deal with the frivolities of women on a daily basis and carry on as normal. We say you can't live with them but the can't live without them always reigns. You and I both know this. Look at our parents... What if one decided to "not deal with the drama" that came with the other upon meeting?
I wouldn't have a father to love me and tell my mother how much he missed me when i moved out. Sure there have been a lot of bad times and a load of not seeing eye to eye but the potency of the Good Times soooo outweighs the bad.
You wouldn't have a father to help you in your MANY times of need at the drop of most every dime...
Sure our Mother's can do most everything themselves while our father's are gone but their deeds cannot be looked over.

Exactly what "drama" are you talking about?
It SEEMS as if you are indeed being selfish and just want everything YOUR way. YOU don't seem to want a man of any sort to tell YOU how to or help YOU raise YOUR child. And that's just not cool.

Kashime..Read next time... please. It would have saved you typing time

[Tasuki_Civic]

Joss i feel the same way! believe me not! you can ask Jesse. i told him all about it. "I" personaly would want a relationship and all that lovelyness but lets be real...and not blind ourselves on what happens in alot of relationships.

so if it is your choice to make children without a relationship father. its totaly fine. you shouldnt feel bad about it. and dont let others tell you wrong.

on another note.....dont miss out on having a complete family only because you are mad at men.

lol but i agree with still

[SLOWLYbtngU]

Joss i feel the same way! believe me not! you can ask Jesse. i told him all about it. "I" personaly would want a relationship and all that lovelyness but lets be real...and not blind ourselves on what happens in alot of relationships.

so if it is your choice to make children without a relationship father. its totaly fine. you shouldnt feel bad about it. and dont let others tell you wrong.

on another note.....dont miss out on having a complete family only because you are mad at men.

lol but i agree with still

Yeah see that is the thing, everyone is taking it as I am some feminist type thing...It isnt that at all, I am not saying screw men...I love men...I love everything about them. I am just saying that even though my child may not have his dad in the picture I have plenty of strong males in my family that will be a part of my child's daily life...No it wont be the same as the child's father, but there will be men in my child's life that they can look up to.

::sigh::

I guess I am done until someon else posts up what a horrible selfish bitch i am....Because you know...They "read" it all...

[Clegger]

oh god this has turned into the biggest sob story thread ive ever seen.

Im glad there are other people on here that think this is the most retarded thread. Almost as bad as that McDonalds should have a delivery service thread.

If the roles were reversed and I posted about how I wanted to get a girl pregnant and have a child and then not want the quote "drama" of having a mother in the picture I would have gotten so bashed.

[SLOWLYbtngU]

oh god this has turned into the biggest sob story thread ive ever seen.

Im glad there are other people on here that think this is the most retarded thread. Almost as bad as that McDonalds should have a delivery service thread.

If the roles were reversed and I posted about how I wanted to get a girl pregnant and have a child and then not want the quote "drama" of having a mother in the picture I would have gotten so bashed.

I am done responding to you on here..Check your pm's. Talk to me there...This isnt on topic so if you have something with me...PM me...Thank you.

Dumbest thread...lol....

[tony]

oh god this has turned into the biggest sob story thread ive ever seen.

Im glad there are other people on here that think this is the most retarded thread. Almost as bad as that McDonalds should have a delivery service thread.

If the roles were reversed and I posted about how I wanted to get a girl pregnant and have a child and then not want the quote "drama" of having a mother in the picture I would have gotten so bashed.

I think its moreso about understanding the situation and understanding women. Don't know the OP at all but my sister went through the same thing, ended up having two daughters with the guy and I think all she wanted was the children. Was she selfish? Its my sister and its hard to say, on the outside looking in I'd say yes but seeing how happy she is.. its what she truly wanted in her heart, then again my sister is in her mid 30's, established and knew her time was running out.

My advice, think LONG and hard on this one.. a child changes your life drastically, some for the good and others for the worse. There isn't much room to make dumb decisions when you have a child that looks to you and only you. And like everyone else said, having both parents together does so much for a child.. having a stable loving home sets the standard for when they grow up and build their own relationship, it also helps with their confidence.

I could go on and on about it, I have a son out of wedlock and growing up I went through seeing my parents happy together.. then watch them go through divorce. Just be sure with whatever you choose that there is a strong male figure in your childs life.

[SLOWLYbtngU]

I think its moreso about understanding the situation and understanding women. Don't know the OP at all but my sister went through the same thing, ended up having two daughters with the guy and I think all she wanted was the children. Was she selfish? Its my sister and its hard to say, on the outside looking in I'd say yes but seeing how happy she is.. its what she truly wanted in her heart, then again my sister is in her mid 30's, established and knew her time was running out.

My advice, think LONG and hard on this one.. a child changes your life drastically, some for the good and others for the worse. There isn't much room to make dumb decisions when you have a child that looks to you and only you. And like everyone else said, having both parents together does so much for a child.. having a stable loving home sets the standard for when they grow up and build their own relationship, it also helps with their confidence.

I could go on and on about it, I have a son out of wedlock and growing up I went through seeing my parents happy together.. then watch them go through divorce. Just be sure with whatever you choose that there is a strong male figure in your childs life.

Thank you! That is all I can say...You were kind of a sigh of relief after all of the insults. Thank you.

[Tasuki_Civic]

Yeah see that is the thing, everyone is taking it as I am some feminist type thing...It isnt that at all, I am not saying screw men...I love men...I love everything about them. I am just saying that even though my child may not have his dad in the picture I have plenty of strong males in my family that will be a part of my child's daily life...No it wont be the same as the child's father, but there will be men in my child's life that they can look up to.

::sigh::

I guess I am done until someon else posts up what a horrible selfish bitch i am....Because you know...They "read" it all...

I AM THE SAME WAY your not alone. everything doesnt have to be the "american way" ive met plenty of pple that came out great in a single parent home all because the support they lack of one parent they got from the family and that is all that counts. nothing is wrong with this idea and it is not unhealthy. lol some pple rather stay in a marriage being miserable all for the kids and being stupid as if they are hiding whats going on when the kids see it all along. then its not healthy. alot can come from that......believe me i know

[Tasuki_Civic]

I think its moreso about understanding the situation and understanding women. Don't know the OP at all but my sister went through the same thing, ended up having two daughters with the guy and I think all she wanted was the children. Was she selfish? Its my sister and its hard to say, on the outside looking in I'd say yes but seeing how happy she is.. its what she truly wanted in her heart, then again my sister is in her mid 30's, established and knew her time was running out.

My advice, think LONG and hard on this one.. a child changes your life drastically, some for the good and others for the worse. There isn't much room to make dumb decisions when you have a child that looks to you and only you. And like everyone else said, having both parents together does so much for a child.. having a stable loving home sets the standard for when they grow up and build their own relationship, it also helps with their confidence.

I could go on and on about it, I have a son out of wedlock and growing up I went through seeing my parents happy together.. then watch them go through divorce. Just be sure with whatever you choose that there is a strong male figure in your childs life.

you do seem the only sincere person on this thread

[Tasuki_Civic]

Lol...To the people calling me a dumbass for asking advice....Jesus fucking christ...

those are the people who kept in their own box. dont take them serious unless they sound somewhat sincere or have some overstanding of how you feel.

[TIGERJC]

Get a dog

[BTEC]

I read some of this, not all of it so excuse me if i repost.

I personally dont like the idea of being a sinlge parent bc that the way I was raised (dad died on the job when i was 6) and I saw how rough it was on my mom. I love the idea of an independent woman but only if she has to. For instant if the guy who got the woman pregnant is a piece os shit or if he dies or whatever. But to just choose to be a single parent puzzles me. Me and Tasuki had several conversions about this and I didnt the idea then and I dont like it now for the simple reason that its hard raising a kid and doing all the work alone is alot for 2 ppl let alone one. I understand that u have family to help and all but its still good to have the other half to help out IMO.

I dont like the idea of good woman being alone or abandoned by humans with sperm and left with the duty of raising a kid alone. Slowly, from what I know of u so far, id classify you as a good woman and should be treated well. Therefore you shouldnt have to worry about putting up with ne abnormal relationship shit from a dude, but it happens. I can go on forever on this so ill end it now.

[SLOWLYbtngU]

Get a dog

I have three and a cat.

[SLOWLYbtngU]

I read some of this, not all of it so excuse me if i repost.

I personally dont like the idea of being a sinlge parent bc that the way I was raised (dad died on the job when i was 6) and I saw how rough it was on my mom. I love the idea of an independent woman but only if she has to. For instant if the guy who got the woman pregnant is a piece os shit or if he dies or whatever. But to just choose to be a single parent puzzles me. Me and Tasuki had several conversions about this and I didnt the idea then and I dont like it now for the simple reason that its hard raising a kid and doing all the work alone is alot for 2 ppl let alone one. I understand that u have family to help and all but its still good to have the other half to help out IMO.

I dont like the idea of good woman being alone or abandoned by humans with sperm and left with the duty of raising a kid alone. Slowly, from what I know of u so far, id classify you as a good woman and should be treated well. Therefore you shouldnt have to worry about putting up with ne abnormal relationship shit from a dude, but it happens. I can go on forever on this so ill end it now.

Thank you Jesse. It means a lot to me that you think highly of me. I appreciate that. I understand your view as well. Everyone that has explained and answered truthfully have given me things to think about. Once again, I am not doing this today or tommorow...I am sorry if that is how it came off.

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Thank you Jesse. It means a lot to me that you think highly of me. I appreciate that. I understand your view as well. Everyone that has explained and answered truthfully have given me things to think about. Once again, I am not doing this today or tommorow...I am sorry if that is how it came off.

no, i didnt think that u were doing it soon. Just giving my opinion on the subject right now. Either way we're gonna be cool like we are now (we USED TO talk alot more), maye cooler then. Im with u either way hommie. Do yuh ting gyal.

[Extrememustang]

Go sleep with a homeless guy you selfish bitch. Oh yea and btw your every poor ghetto black guys dream. You should have posted this in the Idontneednobabysdaddy.com/forums

wow

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wow

yeah that shit had me pretty steamed how he just went off like that. and then to throw in the ghetto black guy thing. I let it ride but just to put it out there, my pissosity level hit max boost when i read that.