Baby?? No daddy...

[Killer]

Why not? You do realize that marriage is not for everyone and at the same time a possibility for everyone, right? I am a little bothered by the fact that everyone seems to see a family as consisting of a father and a mother and yet we all know that single parenthood is prevalent in America. The same country founded on Christianity and yet we cant seem to keep marriages together...Hmm.

I am taking many opinions into consideration but do not tell me that a child cannot grow to be an amazing person without their father in the picture. IT happens all the time and at the same time it is something that is frowned upon in society. I love how some of these posts make it seem like I am cold-hearted and a bitch, yet I am the one asking for advice instead of just going out and doing as I please and calling the future father a "sucker" when I get what I want.

I know that I am going to be judged in life and that isnt a problem for me, but at the same time please look at yourself first. I have yet to act on anything that I am typing and yet I am being judged by Bible pushers that live their life fornicating and participating in things that Jesus wouldnt be too proud of...But it is ok... "Cast the first stone," right?? (and killer this isnt just for you.)

again, i'm not basing anything i said on religion.... and i'm not saying a child can't grow up to be a great person.. they can... and i've seen many that have...

but for that child there will always be something missing,(i've seen it, and dealt with it) i don't know if you had or didn't have both of your parents... for the most part i've had mine.. they were divorced though.. and it wasn't a pretty one at that..... there were many times i "wished" my dad was there to show me how to do this, or teach me how to do that.... let me work on his car with him... the things a father should be doing.. and as a child i was robbed of a lot of that.... there were times i was with my father as a young child.. and i did get to do some of the things a son should do with his dad.... so i'm not asking for a pity party.. just giving my insight.... like i said, i completely missed where you said the father could be in the childs life.... i read over it more than once, don't ask how, but i did...

[william_jeff]

again, i'm not basing anything i said on religion.... and i'm not saying a child can't grow up to be a great person.. they can... and i've seen many that have...

but for that child there will always be something missing,(i've seen it, and dealt with it) .... there were many times i "wished" my dad was there to show me how to do this, or teach me how to do that.... let me work on his car with him... the things a father should be doing.. and as a child i was robbed of a lot of that.... there were times i was with my father as a young child.. and i did get to do some of the things a son should do with his dad.... so i'm not asking for a pity party.. just giving my insight.... like i said, i completely missed where you said the father could be in the childs life.... i read over it more than once, don't ask how, but i did...

such a true post, edited for the same things i had to deal with

I have to agree with majority in this thread. It is extremely hard and tough on the child growing up without a father. My father died when I was two. I constantly envy those with both mother and father. I will never know what it feels like to call someone daddy. To be "daddy's little girl." I want those things so bad that my heart hurts. I feel that there are so many things in life I missed out on because my father isn't around. You know, the special moments only a father and daughter can have. Plus I have a sister I have never met and probably will never meet. You have to also consider that. Do they have other children? Will my child get to meet them? It's a lot of factors in that equation. I just don't think it is a good idea. If you want your child to be happy, give them what they will need and will be thankful for in the future. Think about it

quoted for truth also

IMO that child will grow up with thoughts of having their father in their life. i know my sister took it hard and so did my brother when my father died, even though i am the youngest, they still at the same time wish that dad was their.