Baby?? No daddy...

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QD yours does mean the most to me because I have read your other stuff previously talking about your kids and their achievements.

I appreciate that, but I don't want to take all the credit for saying the same thing that others have posted.

Now at the same time, do you think that it is possible to have two people come together and raise a child even though they have no relationship (other than friendship) amongst themselves?

If I were forced into a "YES/NO" answer, I'd go, 100%, no. I think a situation like that would be very stressful for all 3 parties involved. As far as the child is concerned, he/she is going to realize the living accommodations going on(Mother and Father sleeping separate beds). This will be an awkward arrangement for the child to go through. He/she will come to realize that this is not your normal family growing up. A woman's feelings change drastically during pregnancy and after child birth. A woman is going to want to raise a family as a complete whole. Father, Mother and child. It's easy to think and type this now in the initial stages of a future plan, but as time progresses, and you too, things may change. It's all a part of the "mothering instinct."

I think it would be very hard and stressful to have a man and woman living in the same house as friends raising their child. And, as stated above and although probably easier than living together, having the man and woman living apart while both raising their child can be just as hard. On the child.

Now what I said can not be applied to all situations. But I can guarantee you the greater majority of it can be. Later, QD.

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I appreciate that, but I don't want to take all the credit for saying the same thing that others have posted.



If I were forced into a "YES/NO" answer, I'd go, 100%, no. I think a situation like that would be very stressful for all 3 parties involved. As far as the child is concerned, he/she is going to realize the living accommodations going on(Mother and Father sleeping separate beds). This will be an awkward arrangement for the child to go through. He/she will come to realize that this is not your normal family growing up. A woman's feelings change drastically during pregnancy and after child birth. A woman is going to want to raise a family as a complete whole. Father, Mother and child. It's easy to think and type this now in the initial stages of a future plan, but as time progresses, and you too, things may change. It's all a part of the "mothering instinct."

I think it would be very hard and stressful to have a man and woman living in the same house as friends raising their child. And, as stated above and although probably easier than living together, having the man and woman living apart while both raising their child can be just as hard. On the child.

Now what I said can not be applied to all situations. But I can guarantee you the greater majority of it can be. Later, QD.

Thanks man. I have thought this all out and while yes I have doubts and insecurities, I did need to hear other people's opinions. Considering that normally friends to tell me what I want to hear I needed to hear opinions of those outside my circle.

Thanks again...Oh and Killer...Maybe you should read the posts.

[Killer]

Thanks again...Oh and Killer...Maybe you should read the posts.

why??? you're point is you want to raise a child and not deal with the father.... if there was more to it than that you would have posted it in the original thread, and explained yourself there...

i'm not saying you're a bad person.... at all.... you may have your reasons for not wanting a man around...

i just think it's an extremely stupid idea to purposely raise a child without a father.

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why??? you're point is you want to raise a child and not deal with the father.... if there was more to it than that you would have posted it in the original thread, and explained yourself there...

i'm not saying you're a bad person.... at all.... you may have your reasons for not wanting a man around...

i just think it's an extremely stupid idea to purposely raise a child without a father.

I do not need the father in the picture but I did state in the original post that he is welcome to be a part of the child's life. It is more of a statement where I am making sure that it is noted I am not tryin to "trap" a guy into being with me. That is why I said you should read.