i feel you, my parents brought me up with that same mentality HyPer50. i'd get my ass kicked by my parents if i started a fight, but if i got into i had to make sure i won. but i realized as i got older the majority of confrontations i ran into were from misunderstandings or he say/ she say, then i had to track down the source of the issue and str8ten it with dude that wanted to beef right there.