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flipture
I don't even know where to begin right now... Should be quite entertaining. She went from trying to be controling but semi normal (for a woman) to psycho keniving (sp) crazy girl... She was one of those that said she wasn't happy and hated me blah blah blah alteast once a month (yes that time) for atleast 8 or 9 months. We were together for a total of 2.5 years so thats a good part of the relationship. She alwasy tried to control me but i'm a pretty independent person and I'm not going to chage my ways just because someone else thinks their way is better...etc... She never wanted to do shit with me like car meets, or any of my hobbys really. She was one of those that was all talk and no go. She'd talk about all these ideas, as good as they may have been, but would never follow through and make them happen or do ANYTHING really... haha.
So anywho, i'm rambling, the last straw was pretty much before we went to florida for Ultra ( a big electronic music concert kidna thing, biggest name djs in the world... ). The last time that she had fliped out and said that she wasn't happy and all that i decided thta that had to be the last time because i was tired of her bullshitting... I figured the florida trip would make a good test to see if it shoudl really end or not. So right before we went, she notified me that her best friend was coming. then later she also notified me that he was going to be staying in our room. WHen i mentioned the fact that i didn't really like tha tidea and that she should have asked me if it was cool, she got mad and said some stupid shit like "I didn't want to stay in a room alone with you anyway". Needless to say i was pissed and left the house (we lived together) for like 4 or 5 hours... She calls me up later to ask if i'll go shoe shopping with her or something stupid. Thats her way of sying i'm sorry lets make up.
The whole time at the mall she's REALLY nice and holding my arm and being lovey (which she never is). She asked if i was mad or whatever i said hell yeah, and made her appologize verbally (the first time she EVER said it out loud). I thought this was a big step in the right direction...
Basically we went to florida and we had a good time but it was liek her and her friend were ganging up on me the whole time. If i said something as a conversation starter, (her best friend is a guy) he and/or her would almost put me down for it or something like that... But if he said somethign similar they would talk about it for hours. I realized then that we couldn't even really communicate any more. She was just fucking shutting me off..
The whole time i realized i had issues and told her and acted on the fact that i was willing to work on them. She blatently said that she was not willing to change or work on herself at all... That pretty much alone made me realize that it wasn't going to work...
When we got back, we went to sleep, then when we woke up, she almost immedately started bitching at something small and sutpid that i did.. don't even remember what it was. I didn't put up with the shit, she started the "I'm not happy" shit again and i said alright well you need to go ahead and find somewhere else to live, we're over... She agreed and was strong, said ok, good, thats what i wanted basically.
BIG RELIEF! I hadn't felt so free or good in over a year. The last year of it wasn't even like a real releationship but i was on the inside so i didn't really realize it.
The next two nights she ended up getting herself drunk as shit by herself. She even once threatened to kill herself. I went back over to the house to make sure she wasn't going to do anything stupid because i did still care about her... It just didn't work out between us. She was saying all this shit about how she was sorry that she couldn't be good enough for me, and i was going to make someone very happy, and all that stuff. Make smeared all over her face, crying, burning crumpled newspaper in the fireplace. She passes out in front of the fireplace while i'm on the phone with her mom, and i end up covering her up with a blanket and putting a pillow under her head to be nice and all...
From that point on she was psycho all the way. She took my stuff when she moved, stole my cat, tried to RACE me to my house to take the dogs from me so she could have total control over them. Her best friend who went to florida with us wouldn't let me get my cat from his house and said if i stepped foot inside the house he would call the cops.
Me and her DJ at the same club and her best friend even went as far as to "recruit" someone to "take care of me" physically of corse, if things got out of hand... Not that they could have done anything... But i wouldn't have started shit anyway. The whole time she has been the one starting shit and causing drama. I simply wanted her out of the house, to split up our things, and move on. Still even now i will go to look for something and find that she's taken it. Like coffee filters. Why the fuck would she take my coffee filters when she doesn't even really drink coffee!? She took my friends chairs that i actually retrieved yesterday, all my tupperware and things of that sort, EVERYTHING. She didn't even bother talking to me about splitting up some of that stuff even though most of it was mine. I was more than willing to do whatever i need to help her out and get her on her feet again.
Then she refused to pay her portion of the mortgage for the previous month that she was already late for the day we got back from florida. She also refused to pay her share of it for the next month, which she wasn't living there, but all of her things were still in the house so i couldn't get a room mate. I even told her that i would take responsibility for the whole payment if she would just get her shit out. She also tried to take an $1800 check that was for repairs on the house from th emortgage company. It was set aside when we bought the house.
I pretty much ended up getting everything i needed though.... I snagged the $1800 check out of the mail before she could grab it. I did owe her $500 for money i borrowed for my transmission so i put that torwards the $1000 worth of mortgage she owed me. The dryer in my house was also her so i kept that in payment for $250ish of what she owed, and i have a $250 check that she wrote before all of that went down that will cover the rest.
THEN she stole $500 out of my bank account (our accounts were still linked) stupid of me for not closing it before then. But one thing she forgot was that i still remembered her password for online banking and simply transfered my money back, closed the account and opened a new one... I used some of that $1800 and changed all of the locks on my house so she can't get in because now i don't even trust her in the house if she would steal 500 out of my bank account with out even asking. She just felt that i owed it to her and that she didn't owe me any mortgage payment so she took it. The tables have turned. Shes in the position i was in before. Now I"M the one hanging up on her and telling her not to call me LOL. The only thing that she has of mine still (minus the things that i'm letting go because i don't want to bother with them) is my cat. I may take her to court over it or something, but i'm not sure....
I still have to refinance my house to get her name off of the mortgage. Word to the wise, don't finance a house with a girl to help her with her credit until you are MARRIED!!!! I also have a little leverage with her because her prelude is in my name. If she trys to fuck with me any more I'll just reposes it and sell that shit. I really don't want to get nasty with her, i do wish her the best and all but if she fucks with me, i fuck back :P
I'll update as the crazyness continues...
sigh...
I'm really happy now being single... Oh and mine tried the "Wheres your reciept" thing on me too heh.
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