Quote Originally Posted by Drummerboy View Post
So how long does it take for a group of people to get over it? You have to remember that groups are made up of individuals, and although pack mentality can take over, if enough individuals stand up and say " What happened to my great grandparents/grandparents was horrible, there's no excuse, but I'm not going to continue living in that mindset when opportunities are available to me if I work hard and earn them." With 2 exceptions EVERYONE I hang out with is black. And none of them think they deserve anything more than anyone else because of their heritage or skin color. But they KNOW they deserve what they've earned. The human psychology argument works in theory, but I don't see how it works in application.
There is no simple answer to that. Some people already are over it (as your friends seem to be), others will take longer. Some people cope with it in destructive ways, others in more constructive ways. Telling someone to just get over something rarely seems to help speed up the process.