guy code or whatever..

[FAM0U5]

What do the people of IA think? Is it ok to date a friend's ex? given this situation, You been with this girl for a couple of months and whatnot but the realationship was getting serious but things came up.. [living in another state, money, and blah blah.] So of course you being into this girl you talked about her.. a lot. So now that you two are not together your buddy that knows everything about her CAUSE of you is making moves on her but is denieding the actuations... but clearly he does it in front of your face.

this is what I got from him " situational consequences and correlating various relationships. weighing the situation and attempting to find a happy medium. sorting things out in my head in other words."

Poll coming just wait

[roxie911]

I think if you let her go...she's fair game for anyone. Who are you to keep a guy from finding a girl that he might end up being REALLY happy with??

[FAM0U5]

I think if you let her go...she's fair game for anyone. Who are you to keep a guy from finding a girl that he might end up being REALLY happy with??

the fact that he's using the infomation I gave out [dumb mistake] to make him seem like the perfect guy for her... Again I didn't want to let her go but at that moment I had to.

[Elbow]

You must have a ton of relationship issues and such you post about girls a lot.

[GirlieZ]

I think if you let her go...she's fair game for anyone. Who are you to keep a guy from finding a girl that he might end up being REALLY happy with??

agreed.

plus when you are young, does it really even matter? you need to date/meet different ppl. thats part of the game and education.

[roxie911]

the fact that he's using the infomation I gave out [dumb mistake] to make him seem like the perfect guy for her... Again I didn't want to let her go but at that moment I had to.

If you saw a girl that you liked and you happened to know some info about her that you know would help your chances...I'm pretty sure you'd use it to your advantage too.

[On_Her_Face]

Depends on how you feel.

Types of situations
Let's say you care and don't want your friends messing with this girl.
-Your real friends won't fuck with her
-Your "friends" will fuck with her
-People you don't know will fuck with her

Let's say you don't care
-Everybody will fuck with her.

Didn't read your thread, but the odds are against you in any situation.

[FAM0U5]

You must have a ton of relationship issues and such you post about girls a lot.

heh Its all in a short time period, plus Its not something Im gonna break my head over, it's just that MOST of my friends pretty much agree that our "ex's" are off limits. But I guess one didn't think so..

[FAM0U5]

If you saw a girl that you liked and you happened to know some info about her that you know would help your chances...I'm pretty sure you'd use it to your advantage too.

it depends on the situation of course.

[roxie911]

heh Its all in a short time period, plus Its not something Im gonna break my head over, it's just that MOST of my friends pretty much agree that our "ex's" are off limits. But I guess one didn't think so..

I think that's stupid...you can't help who you're attracted to. Plus, in 10 years it's not even gonna matter, so, why dwell on it now?

[FAM0U5]

agreed.

plus when you are young, does it really even matter? you need to date/meet different ppl. thats part of the game and education.

True Im not hell bound on this, I dont have the time to dwell. Im just a lil pissed that a "friend" is doing this to me.. knowing how I felt about the girl.

Depends on how you feel.

Types of situations
Let's say you care and don't want your friends messing with this girl.
-Your real friends won't fuck with her
-Your "friends" will fuck with her
-People you don't know will fuck with her

Let's say you don't care
-Everybody will fuck with her.

Didn't read your thread, but the odds are against you in any situation.

You are correct sir.

[Jaimecbr900]

No, NO, and HELL NO.

You never date a friend's ex. NEVER. If they are truly your friend, then you respect that, period.

Some of you have not been fully cooked yet, so this is where having been around the block a few times, i.e. being old, is advantageous.

Friend's exes should always be strictly off limits, UNLESS you either have, A: the friend's blessing, or B: it was just some menial one-night type of relationship. If they dated for any reasonable length of time or you KNOW that he/she (your friend) had feelings for that other person......then its absolutely "NO".

[roxie911]

True Im not hell bound on this, I dont have the time to dwell. Im just a lil pissed that a "friend" is doing this to me.. knowing how I felt about the girl.

then you shouldn't have let her go. It's your mistake...don't take it out on your friend. If you REALLY REALLY liked her, you would've found a way to make it work.

[FAM0U5]

I think that's stupid...you can't help who you're attracted to. Plus, in 10 years it's not even gonna matter, so, why dwell on it now?

It's not something Im gonna be pround about, knowing that the chick Im with was with my friends as well.. Thats just me, also it may create a problem up ahead maybe a "rekindling" an old flame.. something that I wouldnt want to brother with.. just saying

[JITB]

i would never mess with a friends ex.. it just goes against my code.. especially if yall are good friends. And if you know that your friend liked the girl alot. its just asking for problems..

but the world is all fucked up nowadays.. dudes dont follow no kind of codes.. they just fuck and suck everything without any boundaries..

[punkr6]

friends come and go, but a good woman is hard to find....

[FAM0U5]

No, NO, and HELL NO.

You never date a friend's ex. NEVER. If they are truly your friend, then you respect that, period.

Some of you have not been fully cooked yet, so this is where having been around the block a few times, i.e. being old, is advantageous.

Friend's exes should always be strictly off limits, UNLESS you either have, A: the friend's blessing, or B: it was just some menial one-night type of relationship. If they dated for any reasonable length of time or you KNOW that he/she (your friend) had feelings for that other person......then its absolutely "NO".

You know what Im talking about!! REPS!

[roxie911]

No, NO, and HELL NO.

You never date a friend's ex. NEVER. If they are truly your friend, then you respect that, period.

Some of you have not been fully cooked yet, so this is where having been around the block a few times, i.e. being old, is advantageous.

Friend's exes should always be strictly off limits, UNLESS you either have, A: the friend's blessing, or B: it was just some menial one-night type of relationship. If they dated for any reasonable length of time or you KNOW that he/she (your friend) had feelings for that other person......then its absolutely "NO".

Why should it even matter?? If you let someone go, you're saying they're free game for anyone. If you're gonna get hurt by someone talking or flirting with your girl, then you're obviously not over them and probably shouldn't have broken up with them in the first place.

[punkr6]

is your friend gonna suck your dick and make you dinner ? I think not....

[FAM0U5]

then you shouldn't have let her go. It's your mistake...don't take it out on your friend. If you REALLY REALLY liked her, you would've found a way to make it work.

Yes understandable however, not going into details of why I couldnt.. or why it didnt happen.

[roxie911]

It's not something Im gonna be pround about, knowing that the chick Im with was with my friends as well.. Thats just me, also it may create a problem up ahead maybe a "rekindling" an old flame.. something that I wouldnt want to brother with.. just saying

Who cares what your friend thinks?? He's obviously ok with the idea. If YOU were HIS friends you'd just be glad that he's happy, right? Like I said before, if you really wanted her you wouldn't have let her go.

[BKgen®]

It's okay to date her, but only if she screwed your friend over and the sole purpose of you dating her is to show up at her doorstep one day later in the relationship to present her with a cardboard box full of angry wasps.

[roxie911]

It's okay to date her, but only if she screwed your friend over and the sole purpose of you dating her is to show up at her doorstep later in the relationship and present her with a cardboard box full of angry wasps.

Nice "It's Always Sunny in Philidelphia" reference

[BKgen®]

Shut your whore mouth.

[NewGen33]

Oh shit I just dealt with some crap like this. Here's my take on it. I thinks it's ok to as long as they both come to you and ask *prob won't happen though* if its cool that they date. Not that you have to just out of respect and consideration. At least the friend should and it ended up helping me get over her because I knew I could do waaaay better.

[FAM0U5]

Who cares what your friend thinks?? He's obviously ok with the idea. If YOU were HIS friends you'd just be glad that he's happy, right? Like I said before, if you really wanted her you wouldn't have let her go.

Yes I would be happy for him.. but this is not the case, He knew that now that Im better and able to do things and was trying to get back with her wether it be starting over or whatever.. I was gonna try. He told me not to that he didn't want to see me depress again and whatnot but yet he's trying to get with her? after he told me not to.. so he's draging my name threw the mudd to make him look better? which is also part of the story but didnt care to give details.

[murderrsiren]

ask him, if hes like me and dont give a fuck, then go for it. If he does, fuck her while shes drunk so she'll know nothing.

win/win

[roxie911]

Yes I would be happy for him.. but this is not the case, He knew that now that Im better and able to do things and was trying to get back with her wether it be starting over or whatever.. I was gonna try. He told me not to that he didn't want to see me depress again and whatnot but yet he's trying to get with her? after he told me not to.. so he's draging my name threw the mudd to make him look better? which is also part of the story but didnt care to give details.

So...you gave up a girl because of personal problems?? I'm just gonna say what I said before...if you REALLY REALLY liked her and really wanted her, you would've found a way to make it work.

If he's doing that then he's not a real friend. So, I guess that makes the man law kinda pointless.

[lanning]

real friends ask first and make sure its ok

[On_Her_Face]

So...you gave up a girl because of personal problems?? I'm just gonna say what I said before...if you REALLY REALLY liked her and really wanted her, you would've found a way to make it work.

If he's doing that then he's not a real friend. So, I guess that makes the man law kinda poitnless.

Girls like you live under rainbows and are surrounded by butterflies or leprechauns all the time.

[roxie911]

Girls like you live under rainbows and are surrounded by butterflies or leprechauns all the time.

lol no. I'm being practical. You let a girl go. Girl finds another guy (she's not gonna sit around and wait forever). You find another girl who makes you just as happy. You forget about past girl eventually.

[FAM0U5]

So...you gave up a girl because of personal problems?? I'm just gonna say what I said before...if you REALLY REALLY liked her and really wanted her, you would've found a way to make it work.

If he's doing that then he's not a real friend. So, I guess that makes the man law kinda poitnless.

Well thanks roxy for your thoughts.. well personal problems was invloved but not fully but oh well I wanted to know what IA thought and wonder If I was alone in this feeling. Again not bent over it just a lil eh.. oh well, good thing my other girl wont ever leave me cause she cant; till I sell her lol.

[roxie911]

Well thanks roxie for your thoughts.. well personal problems was invloved but not fully but oh well I wanted to know what IA thought and wonder If I was alone in this feeling. Again not bent over it just a lil eh.. oh well, good thing my other girl wont ever leave me cause she cant; till I sell her lol.

Just giving you my opinion Glad you're not getting all pissed because some people disagree with you lol Good luck with it anyway

[On_Her_Face]

lol no. I'm being practical. You let a girl go. Girl finds another guy (she's not gonna sit around and wait forever). You find another girl who makes you just as happy. You forget about past girl eventually.

Yeah but she's not fair game for true friends. No if ands or buts about it.

[roxie911]

Yeah but she's not fair game for true friends. No if ands or buts about it.

That's not the way I look at it, but it's whatever.

If you let a girl go, you can't control who she goes out and sees. If you're gonna get pissed because she's seeing someone you're not comfortable with, then you shouldn't have let her go.

but once again, that's my just opinion.

[FAM0U5]

Just giving you my opinion Glad you're not getting all pissed because some people disagree with you lol Good luck with it anyway

Well there is no point in trying to make other people think like me. Everyone thinks differently I just think it was F up that it only has been a month-ish today.

[On_Her_Face]

That's not the way I look at it, but it's whatever.

If you let a girl go, you can't control who she goes out and sees. If you're gonna get pissed because she's seeing someone you're not comfortable with, then you shouldn't have let her go.

but once again, that's my just opinion.

You can not control who she goes out and sees, I have never said that. Your true friends should honor how you feel. She can try to go for a guy's best friend but if he is a true friend and the guy doesn't want his friend with her then it will never happen (applies to true friends only).

See the difference?

[roxie911]

You can not control who she goes out and sees, I have never said that. Your true friends should honor how you feel. She can try to go for a guy's best friend but if he is a true friend and the guy doesn't want his friend with her then it will never happen (applies to true friends only).

See the difference?

Not really. I think if your friend feels that he'd be happy with her, then you should be all for it. Now, if he was just trying to fuck her I'd be a little concerned lol

[lanning]

roxie would you date your ex's best friend?

[On_Her_Face]

Not really. I think if your friend feels that he'd be happy with her, then you should be all for it. Now, if he was just trying to fuck her I'd be a little concerned lol

It's fucked up either way. Guys usually listen to each other at my age, and if it were the case of them being in "love" well that is bullshit. Love is 99.69% impossible to find at younger ages. I may love the cougar I slept with two weeks ago, but I don't love her (Yes it makes sense).