Court Yesterday

[JennB]

Basically, the attorney said he's an idiot and that when they find him guilty of child abandonment (which they will), then not only will he have no visitation, but he'll be forced to pay the $960/month stated on the child support calculator...

Good, and I hope you get every penny of it.

I've been there, my parents were divorced when I was young and my dad was off in his own world doing nothing for us. My mom sued him and won, of course. Luckily, he grew up eventually and realized what a mistake he had made and ended up helping me out with a LOT of stuff in my teens. Anyway, some grow up and straighten up and some don't... but you certainly don't have to wait for that day. You can and will be a better parent on your own than he ever would have been and your son will be a better person for seeing how strong you are. I am as tough and determined as I am because I was raised by a mom that taught me how to take care of myself no matter what life threw at me. I know that it's possible to do anything I put my mind to and succeed no matter what. My mom taught me that and showed me that by always fighting for a better life for me.

I honestly think I had a better life with just my mom than I would have with both parents around.


side note: Now I'm not saying everyone should go be a single mom, it was HARD for my mother. She sacrificed a whole lot for me and worked her ass off. I think it would have been wonderful to grow up with a happy mom and dad but that's just not what was in the cards for me. I think we all have to do the best with what we have.

[Killer]

Good, and I hope you get every penny of it.

I've been there, my parents were divorced when I was young and my dad was off in his own world doing nothing for us. My mom sued him and won, of course. Luckily, he grew up eventually and realized what a mistake he had made and ended up helping me out with a LOT of stuff in my teens. Anyway, some grow up and straighten up and some don't... but you certainly don't have to wait for that day. You can and will be a better parent on your own than he ever would have been and your son will be a better person for seeing how strong you are. I am as tough and determined as I am because I was raised by a mom that taught me how to take care of myself no matter what life threw at me. I know that it's possible to do anything I put my mind to and succeed no matter what. My mom taught me that and showed me that by always fighting for a better life for me.

I honestly think I had a better life with just my mom than I would have with both parents around.


side note: Now I'm not saying everyone should go be a single mom, it was HARD for my mother. She sacrificed a whole lot for me and worked her ass off. I think it would have been wonderful to grow up with a happy mom and dad but that's just not what was in the cards for me. I think we all have to do the best with what we have.

^^ truth!!

[The Ninja]

Is that you in ur avatar/sig? If so... amazing you were able to have a recognizable lower half after squeezing ~8lbs. of flesh through your hole....


Congrats on... umm... getting through everything. Takes a helluva woman to put up with that ****. Means you gotta be man enough for the both of you.

And your tat is sick.

[Ruiner]

Congrats, Tiff. I hope that you can collect off of him, though. I have a feeling he will refuse the court's order, though. Good luck and keep your head up!

[Tiff-O-Bitties]

Thanks so much everyone!

I can't remember every post right now, but yes, Max does know his paternal grandmother... She keeps him once a week. She will always take up for her son because it is her son; however, she is fully aware of how I feel about the situation. She also knows that with what I've been through, if Maximus EVER does this to a girl, I will not bail him out, I will not support him in his freakshow decisions and I will not get him an attorney.

I know it seems like I'm kind of money hungry (which IMO, I have every right to be) but I'm really not, I don't want a penny nor do I need anything from his sorry a$$. I just want all this over and done with and him out of mine and Max's lives.

JennB - I hate that you suffered through that as a child, but like you said, it made you determined and strong and I give you major props for that!

d-ninja - Thanks. Yes, that's me in the pics and that is my tat. I'm even smaller now than in that picture and I'm definitely proud of the body I have now (Even though I would like bigger Boobs, lol!)

Ruiner - Thanks so much. He probably will not do what the court orders which is fine, he will sit in jail each time he doesn't pay.

[Reaper]

^^your a badass haha

[Stormhammer]

lol

good thing you left him

why? He's a dumbass.

Maximus is such an awesome name - always thought so, always will

[Tiff-O-Bitties]

lol

good thing you left him

why? He's a dumbass.

Maximus is such an awesome name - always thought so, always will

thanks, lol.

[AznTraitor]

tiff, long time no talk....but sucks you had to endure all of this, but you've stayed strong and stood your ground so kudos to that....in the end, everyone will get what's coming to them!

don't worry too much about this, even though it's a headache, it's going to work itself out.

[NevrNufTorq]

jaime's in here!!! he'll post you up some good advice!

[Reaper]

jaime's in here!!! he'll post you up some good advice!

yeah he always does

[Jaimecbr900]

jaime's in here!!! he'll post you up some good advice!

Tiff knows exactly how I feel about her situation, don't you Tiff?

I will say one thing:

A Father is NOT a Father by seed, but by deed.

In today's society, even with tougher laws and enforcement, there are far too many "men" who simply walk away from their children who are truly the only innocent(s) in the whole situation. When I did some extensive volunteer work with the Juvenile court system, most of the things that I saw there made me go.... . Even when you had beaten, battered, and neglected children whom were being taken care of extremely well by foster parents.....they still longed and even begged for their "parent(s)" to get them back. It breaks your heart to see these kids who only know neglect to still have a primal urge to have their blood parents back.

What's even sadder is that even wild animals with brains the size of golf balls take care of their own better than us "smart" humans.....

[Tiff-O-Bitties]

Tiff knows exactly how I feel about her situation, don't you Tiff?

I will say one thing:

A Father is NOT a Father by seed, but by deed.

In today's society, even with tougher laws and enforcement, there are far too many "men" who simply walk away from their children who are truly the only innocent(s) in the whole situation. When I did some extensive volunteer work with the Juvenile court system, most of the things that I saw there made me go.... . Even when you had beaten, battered, and neglected children whom were being taken care of extremely well by foster parents.....they still longed and even begged for their "parent(s)" to get them back. It breaks your heart to see these kids who only know neglect to still have a primal urge to have their blood parents back.

What's even sadder is that even wild animals with brains the size of golf balls take care of their own better than us "smart" humans.....

I do know how you feel and if it wasn't for your encouragement, I probably would have never done a thing. I wasn't suffering and I probably never will ( I have an awesome support system!!! ), but you can only take so much from one person before you explode. Anywho, thanks for your input Jaime, it means a lot to me! Can't wait to see you and Walker Sunday!!!

[Dr.G35]

nice taking up for yourself. reps i hate dead beat dads. there in the same category with child rapists to me. but thats just me

[IndianStig]

is he part of that dead beat dad/scum of the world group we see on cops all the time, lol?

more power to you, he's gettin what he deserves, *******.

[NevrNufTorq]

Tiff knows exactly how I feel about her situation, don't you Tiff?

I will say one thing:

A Father is NOT a Father by seed, but by deed.

In today's society, even with tougher laws and enforcement, there are far too many "men" who simply walk away from their children who are truly the only innocent(s) in the whole situation. When I did some extensive volunteer work with the Juvenile court system, most of the things that I saw there made me go.... . Even when you had beaten, battered, and neglected children whom were being taken care of extremely well by foster parents.....they still longed and even begged for their "parent(s)" to get them back. It breaks your heart to see these kids who only know neglect to still have a primal urge to have their blood parents back.

What's even sadder is that even wild animals with brains the size of golf balls take care of their own better than us "smart" humans.....

told ya you'd have something useful, thought provoking, and intriguing to say!!! see ya round bro!!!

[Jaimecbr900]

Can't wait to see you and Walker Sunday!!!

Word! Walker coming too?

[SOHC MONSTER]

Congrats girl. My best friends sister went through the same thing. she got prego and the dude dipped out. He got engaged, then married and never saw the kid once. She gave him the opportunity to step up and be a man, he refused. She took his azz to court and got 15k in back child support and like 1k per month. He is really screwed.... New wifey and no money! I think its hillarious!

[civic95]

This guy is a real POS! It's not a pet, it's a baby.

[OTG Signs]

Sounds like a ****ty situation to be in, but it's great you might end up with $960/mo. You can more than make do with that.

I hope your signature is not a picture of you.

[blazin']

all I can say is....milk it for alllll its worth!! he'll realize one day he ****ed up...but by then it wont be you who he will have to make things right with...itll be his son! and that will be the hardest thing he will ever have to do!

Exactly...I sincerely hope you get everything you can out of his sorry as$.

[NevrNufTorq]

Sounds like a ****ty situation to be in, but it's great you might end up with $960/mo. You can more than make do with that.

I hope your signature is not a picture of you.

just a quote about her son...whats wrong with it guess you dont like tatoos

to each his own though