Quote Originally Posted by xPhantomSilviax
I wasn't necessarily citing you specifically, but you just reminded me that a lot of straight men will say they have no problem with gay men, so long as they respect that they are straight, yadda yadda. In fact, I would bet that's the mentality of most of the people in this thread making moronic posts. My point is if you want respect, you have to give respect. Personally, I could care less if someone (male or female) is straight, bi, or homo... if they seem like someone interesting who I would want to be friends with, then we can be friends.
so in essence, me and you think the same way...and as with my comment that " no problem with gay men, so long as they respect that i am straight".......it's true, and based on EXPERIENCE. lemme see if i can paint a pic:

i'm 21, me and my girl move d-town atl. small apartment c-plex off p'tree.
our U-HAUL pulls up, i get out, she's a GA TECH student with class in a few, so i tell her to get to class, i'll empty the truck myself.....so that's what i do.

across the street i see window blinds flicker, i look over, they close. hours later the truck is nearly empty, except for the couch = huge!

across the street, i hear a door open/close and a dude asks me "hey bruh..you need help?" it's summer, hot as a ***** and i'm like "yeah..."
he helps me move it in, as my girl gets home, she walks up and takes one look at the dude and gets INSTANT GOOGLY EYES....she scurries inside as i think to myself "did she just....ah great...this is gonna be interesting"

long story short, he helps me move the couch, then over about 20min, commences to tell me about the neighborhood, the people that live there and asks about me/my girl, over a beer i give in gratitude for helping with the couch. since he asked about us, i do the same
then the WTF occurs...........

me: "so what do you do?"
him: "personal trainer/ calender model for black women magazines like ESSENCE"
me: "ahh that's kewl as ****! get a lotta play i bet!"
him: "PLENTY!, ....i do interior design too..."
me: "ok, that's.....kool too..."~til then (21) didnt know anyone in that line of work. ahem moving on....

him: "your stocky, you played sports?"

me: "yeah football, fullback, all growing up ~insert flashback to glory days~ yep, been over 200lbs since 8th grade but less than 10%fat. went to the service, came back but need to get the pudge down, since i've gotten lazy, gotta a card? what do you charge for training? rashad by the way" ~shake hands~

him: "yeah, you gotta THICK build..umm hmm ~scans me, i look like "he didnt just..."~ well since you're a neighbor i'll do it free. but answer me this..."

now i'm confused......
me: "OK??"
HIM: "do she take care of you?"
me:" huh?"
~pause~ him: "you know, she TAKE CARE of you..."

me clueless to his insinuation : "psst nah man..psst you know. she go to school i make sure the crib is paid for, we do for eachother"

well, i didnt get what he was asking(didnt want to either, felt weird as i put his looks together since the BLINDS flickering! so he got to the point..


him: " i'm sayin, if you need , if she aint doin you right, i gotcha ~b-boy stance~

me: "WHA? NAH HOMIE I DONT GO THERE....." tryin not to get

Him interupting: "i'm sayin though, you thick, u gotta big one in those shor..."

me: ~snatch the beer out his hand ~ "dude, take yo ass back across the street dude, **** this beer~toss it down the street~, told you i don't go there....WTF?" i get up walk in the crib and slam the door.

my girl was studying in the back room, came up to the front: "who was that?! ~her weak ass attempt to hide excitement over joe~

me: "sigh....the neighbor.....and sucks for you he's gay, just made a pass at me....."~grab a 40oz, damn that 16oz, from the fridge, plop on the couch~

she looked like someone stabbed her frickin soul!!!

3 months later he finally apologized( i mean mugged him everytime i seen him, that shat pissed me off!) , with her as a witness, tellin me "here in the ATL you gotta know, it's Downlow peoples all over" ~citing dudes with families, but playin with PAUL too~

we stayed there for 2yrs, he respected my stance and started tellin me what to look out for, why he got that way (molested as a boy) and never came at me that way again.

even met his ex wife before we moved to decatur, he didnt step out on her during marriage, she knew he was bi b4 they got together, and he told her when he was gonna go the other way, and got a peaceful divorce(in her words.) he earned respect in my eyes. (their son is a DR. at crawford long now)


hence my reason for "so long as my stance is respected, we cool...yours is as well"