Yeah you need to look at not just what we want, but god forbid something happened whos life around you it will destroy.

Im really sorry though about your boy man, nothing worse than seeing someone you care about in this situation and there is nothing you can do to help, besides just be there..... and trust me, That makes a big difference to him just knowing you are there. Even if he is in a coma still, he knows you are there. And being there for his family like you have is a big help to them.