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    Ok so this has been a long standing argument between my girl and I.

    My ex and I did not end well as she cheated on me but months later we reconciled and decided to put the friendship back together that we had had before we had started dating. Since then her and I have still maintained contact and continue to be friends.

    I am now dating a different girl that i have been with for a year and half that i love to death but she has to be one of the most insecure people i have ever met.

    So the argument is that she does not like that i still talk to her because of what happened between her and I. I honestly don;t get it. It doesn't have anything to do with her. I have tried explaining this to her a thousand times but she doesn't get it and she says that I don't Understand where she is coming from.

    IMO she has no reason to even be concerned with something that happened before i even knew her and something that has already been taken care of.

    So she sends me a text today after i bring her lunch to tell me that she still doesn't like me talking to my ex and that she wants to talk about it. I say fine. So she comes over and tells me that she doesn't like me talking to her and i ask her ok what do you want me to do. So she says i don't want to tell you what to do but i want you to do what you think i want you to do . WTF. I told her I'm not going to quit talking to my ex because her and i are just friends and it has nothing to do with her. It's not like i still hang out with her or anything. she has done nothing to piss off my new girlfriend or anything so why the **** should I.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AlanŽ
    Nah not even. theres not enough alcohol on the planet that would convince me to bang that chick.I wouldn't hit that with Magic Johnson's dick.....on second thought
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    She is looking at it like, there was something there in the past, something may come up again. EVEN IF there is no chance that would happen, you can tell her all she wants but that won't convince her. I can see where she is coming from but I can also see where you are coming from. The best thing to do is nail her in the ass.

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    Ahh, I just notice your age. Makes sense...
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    ^I am actually a lot more mature for my age then you would think
    Quote Originally Posted by AlanŽ
    Nah not even. theres not enough alcohol on the planet that would convince me to bang that chick.I wouldn't hit that with Magic Johnson's dick.....on second thought
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ruiner
    Ahh, I just notice your age. Makes sense...
    so true so true.. I was mature at a young age too but doesn't mean I didnt make dumb decisions. As you get older you realize that the good ones do not come a dime a dozen so if she means that much to you.. it wouldn't even be a question of what you should or shouldnt do.

    I know if I had to choose between someone I love and a ex that cheated on me.. it would be a no brainer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tony
    so true so true.. I was mature at a young age too but doesn't mean I didnt make dumb decisions. As you get older you realize that the good ones do not come a dime a dozen so if she means that much to you.. it wouldn't even be a question of what you should or shouldnt do.

    I know if I had to choose between someone I love and a ex that cheated on me.. it would be a no brainer.
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    Once a cheater always a cheater. Friendship counts for that too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 00_Rusty™
    This guys speaks the truth.

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    NO SHIT AT ALL I JUST HAD MILK AND A COOKIE. I DIPPED THAT BITCH AND EVERYTHING, SORT OF LIKE I DID MY NUTS INTO YOUR MOTHERS LOOSE VAGINA.
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    Quote Originally Posted by tony
    so true so true.. I was mature at a young age too but doesn't mean I didnt make dumb decisions. As you get older you realize that the good ones do not come a dime a dozen so if she means that much to you.. it wouldn't even be a question of what you should or shouldnt do.

    I know if I had to choose between someone I love and a ex that cheated on me.. it would be a no brainer.
    QFT and reps.

    I had a girlfriend who cheated on me, and the conversation in which I broke up with her was the last time I ever talked to that whore.

    Your current g/f basically is saying choose your friendship with the old girl or your current relationship. You can't have both.
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    I saw my girl cheating on me and then I laughed at her sorry ass. Well the next days she calls me and I hung up. She calls again and leaves this crazy message. So the following week she comes to my house crying asking why Im not talking to her and I just said "I caught you cheating on me. Duh." LOL Then I slammed the door on her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tony
    so true so true.. I was mature at a young age too but doesn't mean I didnt make dumb decisions. As you get older you realize that the good ones do not come a dime a dozen so if she means that much to you.. it wouldn't even be a question of what you should or shouldnt do.

    I know if I had to choose between someone I love and a ex that cheated on me.. it would be a no brainer.
    Again though her and i had been friends before and the whole her cheating on me thing yea i can see where you are coming from but the whole ex-girlfriend thing aside which is really my point because she wants me to do the same thing with other people that i hang out with. who do you choose your friends that have been there for years or your girlfriend who has only been there for a year and a half. to me friendship first unless your married in this case i'm not. that's really what i'm getting at
    Quote Originally Posted by AlanŽ
    Nah not even. theres not enough alcohol on the planet that would convince me to bang that chick.I wouldn't hit that with Magic Johnson's dick.....on second thought
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    quit being a dumbass and quit talking to that skank before you lose your current toys
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    so put someone else in the "skanks" shoes your saying that i should still ditch a friend for the sake of a relationship man come on be real
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    Nah not even. theres not enough alcohol on the planet that would convince me to bang that chick.I wouldn't hit that with Magic Johnson's dick.....on second thought
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    yep
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    Quote Originally Posted by redGT
    so put someone else in the "skanks" shoes your saying that i should still ditch a friend for the sake of a relationship man come on be real
    Your "friend" cheated on you while you two were dating. How you can trust your "friend" again is beyond me. Cheating is a conscious effort that she willingly did.

    There is a saying: "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."
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    HAHAHAHA obviously you dont love your girl that much!! In relationships u make sacrifices as you get older and mature better you will learn that!!


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    again though if this was just a friend like one of my guy friends and she told me to stop hanging out with them your saying that i should do it? So i give up a friendship and then what? The other thing that pisses me off is that she has told me to do change this and that and the other and I have I mean where the hell do I draw the line guys?
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    Nah not even. theres not enough alcohol on the planet that would convince me to bang that chick.I wouldn't hit that with Magic Johnson's dick.....on second thought
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    If you where butt fu*king them!! then yea she has every right too tell you stop!!


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    Quote Originally Posted by redGT
    again though if this was just a friend like one of my guy friends and she told me to stop hanging out with them your saying that i should do it? So i give up a friendship and then what? The other thing that pisses me off is that she has told me to do change this and that and the other and I have I mean where the hell do I draw the line guys?
    Look at it from your gf's perspective: you are not only good, close friends with an ex, but you are friends with an ex that CHEATED on you.

    No wonder she is concerned! How would you feel if your g/f was good friends with her ex that cheated on her? Something is weird about that, ya know? It's not normal.
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    Man, you really need to listen to the valid advice you are getting here. I mean can't see that you are only focking up your current relationship. Leave your ex aka "the friend" the fock alone. Ask yourself this question, "Do I really love (insert name)? Do I really want to mess things up with her, over someone that cheated on me in the past?" I understand what you saying though. But, be real man. My ex cheated on me, and she tries to this day after 2 years to be my friend, hell she wants me back ( and she is married now). I ignore that b!tch all I can. Just don't lose what you have now for someone from the past. That's just my two cents.
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    ^^^To me that's called mature when two people can sit down and resolve a problem to where there is no more drama resulting from that problem.

    Again though no one has answered my question where do you draw the line? I have done everything she has ever asked but yet have not asked anything of her? Yes in relationships there are sacrifices but they are all coming from me
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    Theres a song that goes you cheated on him, whats going to say you wont cheat on me! obviously you ex is a whore for cheating on you, and your girl know this, so she cheated on you. So obviously she has no morals.
    So if she walked in your house naked? could you resist? why even give her room too have the chance,. Obviously you dont love or care for your girl like you claim!!

    Why be friends with a girl cheated on you anywas? friendship or not!! shes always gonna be a whore!


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    1 more thing! obviously your realationship with your ex didnt mean anything too her, why would a friendship?


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    Quote Originally Posted by B18c1Turboed
    Theres a song that goes you cheated on him, whats going to say you wont cheat on me! obviously you ex is a whore for cheating on you, and your girl know this, so she cheated on you. So obviously she has no morals.
    So if she walked in your house naked? could you resist? why even give her room too have the chance,. Obviously you dont love or care for your girl like you claim!!

    Why be friends with a girl cheated on you anywas? friendship or not!! shes always gonna be a whore!
    yes absolutely i could because it wouldn't happen because she doesnt go back to people she has already dated once shes done shes done.
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    Nah not even. theres not enough alcohol on the planet that would convince me to bang that chick.I wouldn't hit that with Magic Johnson's dick.....on second thought
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    resolving a problem to cause another one lol
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    good luck with you relationships i guess you will learn your lesson the hardway
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    well i already texted her to tell her she won so i get problem solved but i still feel like im doing all the giving and not getting anything
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    Quote Originally Posted by redGT
    well i already texted her to tell her she won so i get problem solved but i still feel like im doing all the giving and not getting anything
    welcome to a relationship

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    ^and you think thats right this is the whole point of all this I am tired of doing all the giving and not getting its supposed to be give and take and all i have done is give and give and give
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    Life will be alot easier if u jsut stop talkin to her. honestly what is your ex doing for you as a friend. Besides intefere with your current relationship with the girl u "love". Same sex friends are different unless ur gay..lol, which ur obviously not. Most girls wont tell u to stop hanging with male friends, unless they are messing up the relationship, and "good/real" friends never do. and truthfully, the only reason ex's that have done wrong want to be friends, is to make themselves feel better about what they did in the first place.

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    drop the girlfriend then and keep the friendship with the cheating ex

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    Quote Originally Posted by tony
    drop the girlfriend then and keep the friendship with the cheating ex

    and get some of this after....

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    well either way i guess im ****ed i gave her what she wants now she wants to know what the big deal is whatever i could really care less at this point this whole thing is pissing me off and depressing as all hell
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    Once you drop the g/f, send her my way. I will know how to treat her, as opposed to you.
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    If you broke it off with her, grow up and move on. There is no reason to stay CLOSE friends with an ex, shes an EX FOR A REASON.

    I stay CORDIAL with my exes for the most part in the event that i might run into them, but i dont stay their friends nor call them ever.

    Shes an ex for a reason, cut her off, time to move on. Either that or break up with the current GF. Shes right, you have to choose, cant have it both ways.
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    Quote Originally Posted by 00 RUSTY
    nce you drop the g/f, send her my way. I will know how to treat her, as opposed to you.
    hey you know what **** you man aight just because we have different views on ex's doesnt mean i dont know how to treat my girl you don't know me ***** what part of the last three times i have said i gave her what she wanted did you not understand. if you cant understand that what makes you think you can treat her better than i can
    Quote Originally Posted by AlanŽ
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    Quote Originally Posted by redGT
    hey you know what **** you man aight just because we have different views on ex's doesnt mean i dont know how to treat my girl you don't know me ***** what part of the last three times i have said i gave her what she wanted did you not understand. if you cant understand that what makes you think you can treat her better than i can
    Am I the one that made a thread on IA of all places asking for advice? No. Another thing, I am laughing irl at you for even posting this, and then getting pissed off when someone is being saracastic. You have some growing up to do. There shouldn't have been anything to think about. Obviously, you just did the right thing by telling your girl she won, but do you really think that she is going to let you forget about this?

    Either way carry on with your b!tching and crying.

    Oh btw, F*CK you chump.
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    Quote Originally Posted by 00_Rusty™
    Am I the one that made a thread on IA of all places asking for advice? No. Another thing, I am laughing irl at you for even posting this, and then getting pissed off when someone is being saracastic. You have some growing up to do. There shouldn't have been anything to think about. Obviously, you just did the right thing by telling your girl she won, but do you really think that she is going to let you live this down?

    Oh btw, F*CK you chump.
    forgive me if you were in fact being sarcastic but as im sure you can understand i am in no shape to be guessing if someone is being sarcastic. my mind is all over the place.
    Quote Originally Posted by AlanŽ
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr. KiDD
    If you broke it off with her, grow up and move on. There is no reason to stay CLOSE friends with an ex, shes an EX FOR A REASON.

    I stay CORDIAL with my exes for the most part in the event that i might run into them, but i dont stay their friends nor call them ever.

    Shes an ex for a reason, cut her off, time to move on. Either that or break up with the current GF. Shes right, you have to choose, cant have it both ways.
    QFT!

    Why f*ck up a good relationship for the sake of a girl that f*cked you over in the past?? Don't try to be greedy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by redGT
    forgive me if you were in fact being sarcastic but as im sure you can understand i am in no shape to be guessing if someone is being sarcastic. my mind is all over the place.
    Forgiven my son. But don't you think that it is just a wee bit ridiculous to let a chick get you this twisted?
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