Quote Originally Posted by BABY J
Effed up. Here is the thing man... NEVER EVER EVER put ALL of your trust in a person. The human factor is ALWAYS there. Always have some "mad money" stashed, 2 - 3 months of rent/bill money stashed as well and don't touch it. As far as snooping - I do not do it. In essence, you find something that you do NOT want to find - so why torture your own mind like that?? The day I wake up and feel that I gotta anoop - is the day that I break it off. W/out trust, you got NOTHING.
I should have realized that it wasn't worth it because of the trust factor. You are 110% correct.

Now - the next thing. This is why it's IMPERATIVE that the person you date/marry is your FRIEND. And not just some BS word people throw around. The TITLE "hubby/wife/gf/bf" means jack. But you HAVE to have something to fall back on in relationships - and that is a FRIENDSHIP. Any man will cheat on some "bitch" (no offense) who is JUST his "gf" or his "wife" - wooopty fuckin doo. But a man would not want to hurt his "friend" (a TRUE friend). Any woman will cheat on some idiot "husband" - these terms are something we created for the peope OUTSIDE of the relationship - not for the 2 people IN the relationship. You're not IN LOVE w/ some1 te day before you get married, and then love them a "little bit more" after you get married. Titles mean nothing... but if there is a friendship there, then that is REAL.

There is room to still be friends after all this, or build a friendship - however, she was not feeling any guilt (it seems) - so odds are, you'd be building a friendship for the sake of sharing a child - and that's worth it. Once some1 shows you their true colors, BELIEVE THEM THE FIRST TIME. I do not backtrack... you're just one woman out of every other woman on the planet.

Best wishes homie.

To be honest, I really thought we were friends before all of this happened. Now I see it was just a front on HER part. I can't believe that she told me she would never keep me from my daughter and now that is exactly what she is doing.