Quote Originally Posted by Tasuki_Civic
you tellin me that the idea of "who tha fuck is this dude" number is and it wouldnt cross your mind that dude would want more than what he says. there are men out here like that. no matter status.

See, you're doing exactly what I was trying to show Lil Paki is not good either. You are totally convinced that something bad is happening BEFORE you even ask what's up. That in turn will likely automatically make you think in only one direction regardless. That is counter productive. He MAY very well be screwing around or he may just be flirting and forgot to throw away the number or he may have gotten the number for that girl to sew you a special valentine's day pillow. The point is that you DON'T KNOW for sure until you ask.

A lot of women are awful about making their worst fears into prophecies. Sometimes this could be avoided by merely giving someone the benefit of the doubt until they don't deserve it. If the guy HAS cheated before and is on thin ice, then shoot yeah you're gonna think the worst right out of the gate. But if he's been a decent guy up until that point, which after only 6 mos is highly likely, then why not give him the benefit of the doubt until he DOES screw up. If you can't look at someone you're sleeping with in the eyes and tell when he/she is lying to you, then you probably shouldn't tie up your feelings with that person. That's what booty calls and friends with benefits are for. If it's someone you "love", then by the time you tell them you "love" them you should be able to read them enough to tell if they're lying to you. Besides, the story is either plausible or not. If it's not, then break it off in him. If it is, don't act like a psycho and go postal because you may just be over reacting.

By the way, no offense but this is one of the reasons both guys and girls get the bad rep of being "psycho" is because they are always thinking of the worst before they think of the best in common scenarios. If I was in the dating scene and I was liking a certain someone for a few months when she suddenly without asking freaks out about a phone number on MY dresser, I'd kick her to the curb on the spot. This is exactly why a lot of relationships which otherwise may work out end up NOT working out. People come with pre-dispositions that "I'm gonna get hurt", "he's GONNA cheat on me because the last one did", "hes gotta be cheating because he smells good", or whatever other pre-conceived idea they come in with.

There is nothing wrong with merely asking what's up, and then based on their answer you react.