Absolutely, I do agree that I have LEARNED TONS within the past 5 years...that's why I said that "It would be a different story if she was 16"...her parents need to give her some freedom at 21. I am sure that her decision making skills are a little better than they were then...
I think as far as her parents go...only she or Nemesis can really say "why" her parents safe-guard her so much at 21. And you are right, we don't know why they make their judgements the way they do...so that's left up in the air. From what Nemesis says, she seems like an average 21 yr. old, and it's her parents that have all these ridiculous insecurities. Maybe she's the BABY, or something! lol...
The thing is...it seems that every time this situation comes up, they always say "NO". I don't agree with lying...I think if you can avoid that, then if at all possible, do so...but in this case...it's a lose lose dilema.
If she tells the truth, she still won't be able to go. If she lies, she is disappointing her parents. Either way, it's going to suck for someone. She needs to move out! lol...she need a room mate!??!! I wanna move out too!