all the people saying not to ship it until i have the money in hand...

no shit!

lol... what im referring to are these scams that people will do where theyll send you a check and you deposit it and it goes in just fine and everyone is happy, and then about 10 days later all the sudden the bank informs you that it has bounced, and alllll that money disappears. im not a complete dumbass (oh, you live in nigeria? and you said the check is in the mail? ok fuck it ill go ahead and ship)

but yeah... jennb i was thinking about that same methodology and yeah, i think ill be telling him to get a cashiers check which ill verify with his bank and mine and make sure they tell me it isnt fraudulent.