Divorce Question?

[lilgapeach]

I herd that you can put an article in the paper and if the spouce doesn't respond with in so many days yo uare divorced. I don't see how that could be true. Does anybody know anything about this?

[SLOWR/T]

umm sorry i dont know anything about this but your Avatar is AWESOME!!!!

[lilgapeach]

umm sorry i dont know anything about this but your Avatar is AWESOME!!!!

Thanks I was just fixing to change it lol

[Leisa]

yes that is correct if you are not able to get in touch with the other person... an article will be placed in the paper and they have 30 days to respond to it... if they dont respond, you are granted your divorce... I know this because when Brett divorced his exwife this is how he did it because he didnt know where she was at the time ...

[4dmin]

^ i believe that is the stipulation is not knowing where someone is

[lilgapeach]

yes that is correct if you are not able to get in touch with the other person... an article will be placed in the paper and they have 30 days to respond to it... if they dont respond, you are granted your divorce... I know this because when Brett divorced his exwife this is how he did it because he didnt know where she was at the time ...

What if you know where the person is and you have tryed and tryed to contact them but they wont contact you back? Also How do you go about doing that do you just place the add or do you have to go to the court house first, and what does the add have to say, sorry so many questions.

[quickdodge®]

What if you know where the person is and you have tryed and tryed to contact them but they wont contact you back?

You file for divorce and let the sheriff take care of serving the person. They will get ahold of the guy. Once he is served, that's all she wrote.

Also How do you go about doing that do you just place the add or do you have to go to the court house first, and what does the add have to say, sorry so many questions.

Here is a quote from HERE:

If the filing spouse has made a 'good faith effort' to locate the missing spouse, and can swear under oath and penalty of perjury that they do not know the current whereabouts of the respondent and have made an effort to locate them, the missing respondent can be 'served' by publication of a notice in a local newspaper.

Check out the link I posted up there. Later, QD.

[lilgapeach]

Thanks QD.

[Jaimecbr900]

Everybody is right. The posting on the newspaper is only to be able to show that someone was "served". Although this is only used when you have no clue of the whereabouts of your spouse, as in desertion. You will be granted a divorce on your grounds, kinda like someone that doesn't show up to court to defend themselves loses by default.

QD is right. It sounds like in your case you should just let the sheriff serve them and if he decides not to show up to his own divorce case, then he's just plain stupid and deserves to lose.

[lilgapeach]

Everybody is right. The posting on the newspaper is only to be able to show that someone was "served". Although this is only used when you have no clue of the whereabouts of your spouse, as in desertion. You will be granted a divorce on your grounds, kinda like someone that doesn't show up to court to defend themselves loses by default.

QD is right. It sounds like in your case you should just let the sheriff serve them and if he decides not to show up to his own divorce case, then he's just plain stupid and deserves to lose.

Yeah well my thing is we have been separated for like 5 years and I am broke as hell so I have to do this the cheep way and the court house said that when I file the papers they have to be signed by both of us and noterised and the instruction paper I have says that we both have to sign them infront of the notry person, I talked to an officer in that county about serving him the papers and he said that they could only do that if I were doing this with a lawyer. I hate cops I hate my ex lol I wish that after so long of being separated you were automaticaly divorced lol, that would be to easy though.

[quickdodge®]

In some counties, if you start at your mailbox, walk around your house, backwards, 3 times and recite the alphabet backwards, you should end up at your mailbox and open it and the final decree will be in there. I don't understand how it works, but that's what I understand. Later, QD.

[lilgapeach]

LMAO I could never get that lucky.

[Jaimecbr900]

It's not that expensive to do an uncontested divorce even using a lawyer. I've seen ads for $399.

Personally, I wouldn't use a lawyer in your case. If yall don't have a ton of property or kids to divide up, no lawyer is really needed. If I'm not mistaken you pay the $25 sherriff fee and the $25 or so filing fee, and you're off to the races.

You can also contact the county for them to refer you over to legal aid. I believe it's free too. Although that may take you longer to do it, but I think it's free.

To be honest, I'd borrow the little bit of money I needed (if you don't have it) and I'd go ahead and file the paperwork myself and be done with it. Let the sherriff's dept serve him at work or home, and then a court date will soon follow. You have your day in court, and voila! 30 days later you're done forever.

[quickdodge®]

I read earlier today that it was 90 days. Unless I read something different. Later, QD.

[Jaimecbr900]

I read earlier today that it was 90 days. Unless I read something different. Later, QD.

You may be right.

I've never been divorced myself. I was a pen stroke away from it years ago, but that's as close to divorce as I wanna get right now.

That's just what I'd heard before. Even so, 90 days vs 5 yrs should be a walk in the park for her.

[quickdodge®]

Yup. I have been divorced once. Later, QD.

[lilgapeach]

It's not that expensive to do an uncontested divorce even using a lawyer. I've seen ads for $399.

Personally, I wouldn't use a lawyer in your case. If yall don't have a ton of property or kids to divide up, no lawyer is really needed. If I'm not mistaken you pay the $25 sherriff fee and the $25 or so filing fee, and you're off to the races.

You can also contact the county for them to refer you over to legal aid. I believe it's free too. Although that may take you longer to do it, but I think it's free.

To be honest, I'd borrow the little bit of money I needed (if you don't have it) and I'd go ahead and file the paperwork myself and be done with it. Let the sherriff's dept serve him at work or home, and then a court date will soon follow. You have your day in court, and voila! 30 days later you're done forever.

In the county I have to file it in is $85. I can't use legal aid, I tryed that they only help you if you were abused or something else which he was abusive but when I called the lady I spoke with asked when the last insodent was, I was like umm I don't remember then she said if it was more than 30 days ago they can't help me. Anyways thanks everybody for the info it kinda helped I am still confused as hell. When it comes to this legal shit I am clueless as hell, I might just get a loan or something and hier a lawyer probably be my best bet, since I am stupid when it comes to all this LOL.

[Brett]

In my case they I didnt know where she was and didnt care to know, so I had to have my lawyer post it in the paper, then you have to wait like 6 months before you can offcially be divorced, so the other person has time to contest. Thats how mine was because I didnt contact her, I just filed and waited my 6 months till it was able to be final

[lilgapeach]

In my case they I didnt know where she was and didnt care to know, so I had to have my lawyer post it in the paper, then you have to wait like 6 months before you can offcially be divorced, so the other person has time to contest. Thats how mine was because I didnt contact her, I just filed and waited my 6 months till it was able to be final

you have to have a lawyer post it in the paper for you?

[Brett]

I dont think so, You just have it posted in the announcement section..... And that takes care of that part, Just make sure you keep a record that you did it.

[quickdodge®]

The paper divorce is 90 days, now. Later, QD.

[Spyder]

The paper divorce is 90 days, now. Later, QD.

there is a 90 day cool off period after you file to make sure that is what you wanted to do, belive me im recently "experianced"

[Rabunchic]

Amy talk to Babygurl. A girl in our club works for a lawyer that does divorces. See if Babygurl can help you!