well i dont know your situation but me personally i wouldnt allow her to come in out of my life as she pleases...it doesnt work like that and she would be notified of that. but if you do still want be with her then really your only option is to let her know how you feel...lay it out on the table(no homo). if its meant to be, she will come around and realize what she has, if its not then gl on search in finding ms. right