Divorce is such a big part of most people's vocabulary that they prepare for that rather than a future with someone. I've seen many couples that do just that. Always talking about how WHEN we get divorced this WHEN we get divorced that......not even a little IF in there.

If couples had truly open channels of communication, a lot of divorces would be avoided. My wife asks me all the time, "how can married couples NOT be able to talk about ________ " (fill in the blank cause anything could be fit there). It's crazy cause we talk very very direct about everything. Sometimes too direct. Once things are out on the table, it's easier work with them. I have seen very small and simple misunderstandings lead to divorces because the couple was too hard headed to talk about it.