Are the Pics ok?

**NEMO** · 09-14-2009, 07:41 PM

Ok say you have been in a relationship for couple months. And your GF/BF has a kid with someone else.

Is it ok for them to have pics of their kid with the father/mother posted on facebook or myspace?

I can understand having the actual pics saved so you can give them to the kid when they get older. but I dont think it is right to have them posted up.

**81911SC** · 09-14-2009, 07:42 PM

Who are we to decide? Different cases, different scenarios.

**Evil Goat** · 09-14-2009, 07:43 PM

he who cares the least pulls the most pussy....

**Jecht** · 09-14-2009, 07:43 PM

Well I don't see why not other than it might cause a misunderstanding with someone who isn't familiar with the person. If it doesn't bother you, why worry?

**redfire6i** · 09-14-2009, 07:45 PM

My ex had pictures of her sons dad on her myspace and it didnt bother me, he was a dick too.

**NEMO** · 09-14-2009, 07:48 PM

i mean i just dont understand why if you wasnt happy in the relationship with them why have pics posted up

**BobbyFresco** · 09-14-2009, 07:49 PM

So what you're really saying is you're insecure, right?

**Evil Goat** · 09-14-2009, 07:50 PM

Originally Posted by NEMO

i mean i just dont understand why if you wasnt happy in the relationship with them why have pics posted up

insecurity is a bitch sometimes....let it go...remember who she's with and stop being a baby

**lanning** · 09-14-2009, 07:51 PM

she has a kid by him, so as long as she is in your life he will be in your life also

**BobbyFresco** · 09-14-2009, 07:52 PM

And if your gf is a good mother, she's not going to allow you to force the child's father out of the picture, no pun intended. Deal with it.

**TSiFTW** · 09-14-2009, 07:53 PM

Originally Posted by Evil Goat

insecurity is a bitch sometimes....let it go...remember who she's with and stop being a baby

Exactly. Look at the dude in the picture and say yeah I'm fuckin your ex you SOB, shoulda took better care of her.

**NEMO** · 09-14-2009, 07:53 PM

Originally Posted by lanning

she has a kid by him, so as long as she is in your life he will be in your life also

i dont have a problem with that. i have a kid also. but i dont have pics of my daughter with her mother

**Slomaro Z28** · 09-14-2009, 07:54 PM

Originally Posted by Evil Goat

insecurity is a bitch sometimes....let it go...remember who she's with and stop being a baby

x2, at the end of the day shes in bed with you right?

**BobbyFresco** · 09-14-2009, 07:54 PM

Originally Posted by TSiFTW

Exactly. Look at the dude in the picture and say yeah I'm fuckin your ex you SOB, shoulda took better care of her.

Because that's ALWAYS the case...

OP just needs to man up and deal with it.

**lanning** · 09-14-2009, 07:57 PM

Originally Posted by NEMO

i dont have a problem with that. i have a kid also. but i dont have pics of my daughter with her mother

i dated a mom and she had pictures every where with her daughters father, it never really bothered me. i understand where your coming from, but its just myspace. i have pictures with friends that i hate now but im not going to take them down. what does she say about it?

**NEMO** · 09-14-2009, 07:57 PM

Originally Posted by Slomaro Z28

x2, at the end of the day shes in bed with you right?

when she is at my house

but she has her own place also

**NEMO** · 09-14-2009, 07:59 PM

Originally Posted by lanning

i dated a mom and she had pictures every where with her daughters father, it never really bothered me. i understand where your coming from, but its just myspace. i have pictures with friends that i hate now but im not going to take them down. what does she say about it?

she doesnt think its a problem. but i mean she still has some up of all three of them

**quickdodge®** · 09-14-2009, 08:01 PM

I wouldn't like it at all. The ex is an ex for a reason. That is a past life for her. Shit like that should be boxed up and put away, not displayed across the world. I would never do that to my wife (and I don't). It has nothing to do with insecurities. It's just (to me anyway) proper relationship etiquette. I'm not insecure at all about my relationship and neither is my current wife. Later, QD.

**NEMO** · 09-14-2009, 08:03 PM

Originally Posted by quickdodge®

I wouldn't like it at all. The ex is an ex for a reason. That is a past life for her. Shit like that should be boxed up and put away, not displayed across the world. I would never do that to my wife (and I don't). It has nothing to do with insecurities. It's just (to me anyway) proper relationship etiquette. I'm not insecure at all about my relationship and neither is my current wife. Later, QD.

that is exactly how i see it

reps to all

**lanning** · 09-14-2009, 08:04 PM

Originally Posted by NEMO

she doesnt think its a problem. but i mean she still has some up of all three of them

IMO i wouldnt let it bother you, im sure she would have the pictures up if he was in them or not

**03RCode** · 09-14-2009, 08:12 PM

Originally Posted by BobbyFresco

So what you're really saying is you're insecure, right?

That's what I'm getting out of it.

**NEMO** · 09-14-2009, 08:14 PM

ok let fast forward to the future a little.

say we get married one day. so it will be ok for her to hang up pictures in the house of her daughter and the father?

**redfire6i** · 09-14-2009, 08:18 PM

Originally Posted by NEMO

she doesnt think its a problem. but i mean she still has some up of all three of them

ehhh...thats pushing it for me.

**Evil Goat** · 09-14-2009, 08:39 PM

Originally Posted by NEMO

ok let fast forward to the future a little.

say we get married one day. so it will be ok for her to hang up pictures in the house of her daughter and the father?

man, you're seriously overthinking this....how long have you all been dating?

**NEMO** · 09-14-2009, 08:51 PM

Originally Posted by Evil Goat

man, you're seriously overthinking this....how long have you all been dating?

about 6 7 months

**Kourt** · 09-14-2009, 09:08 PM

Wow, I wondered why you put the new pics up on myspace. Honestly my first thought when I saw them was that you and Tori were back together. You dont care what I think but I think it is really weird, even for her to do it. Unless it is a very special picture of the kid like the first smile, or first steps or something then I think there is plenty of pictures that could be posted WITHOUT the other parent in them. Also, I don't think 2 wrongs are going to make a right in this situation. You posting those pictures is kind of putting it accross that you don't care, instead of proving the point that you do. I probably don't have the best advice though since I have neither a baby or babydaddy.

**lanning** · 09-14-2009, 09:56 PM

so you posted pictures of your kid with an ex bc she has her pics with the father up?

**ueyedgr8tness** · 09-14-2009, 09:59 PM

I feel u bro i went through this awhile back but u only worry about it if u plan to marry her.

**amandDA** · 09-15-2009, 12:43 AM

Originally Posted by 81911SC

Who are we to decide? Different cases, different scenarios.

agreed 100% no two situations are the same

**AnthonyF** · 09-15-2009, 05:16 AM

Never date anyone that has a kid with some1 else. Many problems solved.

-Ant.

**punkr6** · 09-15-2009, 07:29 AM

Originally Posted by AnthonyF

Never date anyone that has a kid with some1 else. Many problems solved.

-Ant.

Sooooo True.....

**quickdodge®** · 09-15-2009, 07:35 AM

Originally Posted by punkr6

Sooooo True.....

Soooooo not true (depending on the situation). The wife I have now is the only girl I have ever been in a relationship with that did NOT have a child. I've never had anything but good experiences with women with children. I guess it boils down to the type of dude you are and the type of female the lady is. Later, QD.

**punkr6** · 09-15-2009, 07:39 AM

Originally Posted by quickdodge®

Soooooo not true (depending on the situation). The wife I have now is the only girl I have ever been in a relationship with that did NOT have a child. I've never had anything but good experiences with women with children. I guess it boils down to the type of dude you are and the type of female the lady is. Later, QD.

I have to desigree, it may have worked out for you. But I see guys everyday that have an enormous amount of problems due to other peoples kids. It can work, but it makes it a lot harder in most cases...

**quickdodge®** · 09-15-2009, 07:39 AM

Originally Posted by lanning

so you posted pictures of your kid with an ex bc she has her pics with the father up?

Damn.

Nemo, bad move. "Revenge" moves like that will certainly NOT help the situation. Especially if she already thinks there is no problem with it. That is only going to beget more problems between you two. Here's how:

She's ok with putting pics up of exes.
You're not, so you're already irritated.
You put yours up for revenge.
It doesn't bother her because she's cool with that.
That makes you more angry so now you're even more irritated.
Your irritations are then going to start irritating her.

Trying to make someone "see how it feels" is not always the answer. Later, QD.

**quickdodge®** · 09-15-2009, 07:43 AM

Originally Posted by punkr6

I have to desigree, it may have worked out for you. But I see guys everyday that have an enormous amount of problems due to other peoples kids. It can work, but it makes it a lot harder in most cases...

Like I said in parentheses, it all depends on the situation and people. Several questions to ponder:

Do you know for a fact that their problems are due to another's child?
Do you really think that just because you see a few dudes around that may have problems due to another's child that that would mean they all do?

I'm saying you can't base a whole theory around a few people you know of or you knowing more folks that have problems than not, you know. Later, QD.

**AnthonyF** · 09-15-2009, 08:12 AM

Every person is different. Period.

Me personally, I could not be with some1 that had a kid with some1 else. I could never really care for the kid and make him feel like my own and I'd have to deal with the other "parent" including any drama that might follow.

-Ant.

**quickdodge®** · 09-15-2009, 08:28 AM

Originally Posted by AnthonyF

Every person is different. Period.

Me personally, I could not be with some1 that had a kid with some1 else. I could never really care for the kid and make him feel like my own and I'd have to deal with the other "parent" including any drama that might follow.

-Ant.

Sad, but definitely respectable opinion. Later, QD.

**§treet_§peed** · 09-15-2009, 11:19 AM

I love kids. But I hate EX's that still linger around.

**Sammich** · 09-15-2009, 11:36 AM

Originally Posted by quickdodge®

I wouldn't like it at all. The ex is an ex for a reason. That is a past life for her. Shit like that should be boxed up and put away, not displayed across the world. I would never do that to my wife (and I don't). It has nothing to do with insecurities. It's just (to me anyway) proper relationship etiquette. I'm not insecure at all about my relationship and neither is my current wife. Later, QD.

AGREED

**ShooterMcGavin** · 09-15-2009, 06:55 PM

and you really care what IA has to think about this matter bc why?

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