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Last edited by Hiro; 02-27-2007 at 12:48 PM.
Sorry to sound like a dick, but why would you air out your personal story and then ask 98% of the people you have never met to help you decide one of the biggest decisions in your life? You know what you wanna do, you just expect people to come on here and tell you your right or wrong.Originally Posted by Hiro
This is when people take the internet and base thier life on it way to much. This is your life, Not IA members lives, so why ask people on here if you are making the right choice. No one knows you or him as well as you 2 do, so asking strangers is kinda whack. You want to ask people, then as VERY CLOSE FRIENDS and family who know you and your life, not us.
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Not a girl but on something like that, I think i'd be more worried about how well I am financially. Not how your relationship is going. If you get there, and ya'll break it off who's screwed? The one w/out money and a place to stay. I'd atleast make sure I had enough money to get home more than anything else. You only live once, its all worth a try. Best bet however is for each of you to do what you can to save your ass incase of a fall out.
I KNOW IF I WENT TO JAPAN THE LAST THING I'D WANT IS TO HAVE A GIRLFRIEND WITH ME....IF YA GET WHAT I'M SAYING, WINK, WINK, NUDGE, NUDGE, SEXZORZ, SEXZORZ.
THATS JUST ME THOUGH...
two questions:
how old are you and how long have you been together?
X2 of course you love each other now, but moving across the world you need money for real just in case 'something' happens
I CAN'T BELIEVE ran would end the relationship, I mean he is a very creepy individual and I am actually surprised he even has a girlfriend that loves him.
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haha. Yeah, even I am surprised at how well we get along sometimes. lol.
Hmm... I thought this whole "going to Japan" thing was a hoaxbut oh well.. I'm bored and will give my opinion.
I would never, ever move, disrupt my life, give up everything for someone unless I was sure. Long term relationship with a definite future and no doubts. If the other person in a good realtionship got a great job offer, school, something like that... it would be worth the risk... or if it was a move for the hell of it that both people wanted. I've known plenty of people who moved and then the relationship ended... after that they were miserable. The only way it worked out for them afterwards is if they liked where they moved and had built a life other than just what they did with their partner.
From the other side though, I love my bf to death and would never even think to go somewhere without him. If I felt an overwhelming need to go somewhere other than here, he would be part of the whole decision and even if I got tired of Atlanta, I'd rather be here with him than away and without.
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ummmm yeah why would you talk about something so personal on here, but anyways. Thats a BIG move to move half way around the world for someone you arent related or married to. Only you know whats best for you we cant make that for you. If you are ready to leave friends and family for him and your relationship could go on to be more then go for it, but remember it is up to you.
Well, if you don't go, can I take your place? ...Please
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Hey now I only want parts from Japan. Not Parts from ran. No offense ran lol
Hmm... I thought this whole "going to Japan" thing was a hoax
I would never, ever move, disrupt my life, give up everything for someone unless I was sure. Long term relationship with a definite future and no doubts. If the other person in a good relationship got a great job offer, school, something like that... it would be worth the risk... or if it was a move for the hell of it that both people wanted. I've known plenty of people who moved and then the relationship ended... after that they were miserable. The only way it worked out for them afterwards is if they liked where they moved and had built a life other than just what they did with their partner.
From the other side though, I love my bf to death and would never even think to go somewhere without him. If I felt an overwhelming need to go somewhere other than here, he would be part of the whole decision and even if I got tired of Atlanta, I'd rather be here with him than away and without.
I second this thought, if you have to ask yourself or think about it. Then you shouldn't do it, If you where in love and he was committed then this wouldn't be a topic today. Trust me if you go your making a mistake. Life changes like this shouldn't be a ? if they are don't do it.
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So he left already? So you're available?
Yeah, you'r probably right. I have already asked my family and close friends, and all encourage me to go. So, just getting other thoughts on the matter, I guess.
Well, I would agree, but it's not JUST hm I'm going for. Like I said, I wanted to end up there anyway. So this just gives me an opportunity. In fact, a while back when we were just kindof shooting it we were saying we were just putting our goals together in the end.
Hahahahahaha!So he left already? So you're available?
Busted nothing man. We've already talked about this.
I'm going to put as plainly as possible. If you want to go to Japan then fine. I've got no problems with that. Go, start a life and be happy but do not, I repeat DO NOT, follow me. Don't take this as an attack. I say this with the deepest, heartfelt intention. I will not have a shadow following me when I leave.
Go for yourself and yourself alone. I am, and you should do the same.
lol that's wrong.
so basically, he's a douchebag and is selfish and only thought about himself and his problems and decided to run away and hopes that everything will be hunky dory in jdm land because he's gonna "find himself"....I thought his idea to go was lame the first time, this only adds to it.
everyone has problems, but leaving the country only makes things worse for everyone else....what's gonna happen when you get in a shitload of trouble? you gonna call your parents to bail you out thousands of miles away? or what happens if you die? your parents gonna have to pay to have your body shipped back.
take a spiritual journey at the bottom of a bottle or fucking go camping for a really long time...it works pretty well for the hippies.
You're just going for the cheap hookers... admit it!
Ok then in that case ask yourself this. Take him out of the picture, are you ready and financially able to up and move to japan. Do you have a job there do you have a place to live. etc. If any of this is not in order you aren't ready to go. You need to look at it like what if next month we are thru with each other. Cause trust me you dont want to be stuck in a place where you have to have someone to survive. Then you will be miserable in your relationship and stuck.
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this is something that u should make sure that u wana go for yourself. in other words hiro, when you go, be prepared to get your own place right off the bat and go ahead and start your own life. ran could still be ya bf, but if you want to go FOR YOURSELF, then go, being there w/ ran could just be your 'bonus'
If you do go follow his advice....he is right you have to make your own life out there too or it just wont work
There you go from the horses mouth. If you go your crazy. Unless you go on your own with your own job and place to live. In that case if japan is where you want to be fine. Move there start a new life but leave ran out of it seems thats his idea anyways.
Just Start over Here or there
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Second thing id like to know Hiro is how old are you. And what do you do for a living.
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I've yet to see anything you've ever posted to be worth two sh*ts, but I'll humor you for shits and giggles.
First of all yes, I am a selfish fucking douchebag. Yes, at this point in time I am only thinking of myself. You don't like it? Tough fucking shit. Second, running away? I don't have any problems jackass. I have a great family, a well paying job, a reliable car, and every life luxury I could want. I'm not running away from shit. I'm going to find a new life whether for better or for worse.
Making things worse for everyone else? The only way it's worse for them is if they can't let go. If that's the case, then that's their own fucking problem. Could I get in trouble? Sure, but I won't be appealing to my family to bail me out. Part of leaving them behind means not depending on them. Yeah, I could wind up dead on the street. Hey, at that point I really won't care what happens since I'll be dead.
You're a fucking tool.
Last edited by Ran Kizama; 02-27-2007 at 12:59 PM.
lol oWn3d
I'm sorry for this guys,I didn't mean to start this.
What did you expect? It's IA. LOL.
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As for RAN yall shouldnt be saying nothing to him he can choose to move anywhere same as Hiro. Doesnt make him a bad person for leaving they arent married and he has his whole life to think about. This topic is wether she should go with him or not. Some of yall need to grow up this topic isnt made for your immature thoughts.
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oh god, I'm a fucking tool because I actually make sense. Oh wait, let me sell everything and run away to China because Dim Sum is so good.
please, no matter how you slice it, you are weak, you are selfish, and from what I have read up to this point, if you havent found yourself by now, it's not gonna happen. Go see a therapist and see what happens.
don't try and act like you are a hero or doing something thats "important" by selling off your shit and heading over to another country to figure out who you are...
Be sure to contact the VA and let them know you are leaving the country to find a life in Japan so they can stop payments, because it's obvious your injuries arent severe enough to keep you from walking aimlessly around Japan. Oh, and rip up your passport and any other items that link your previous life here.
Are you guys really in love? To the point where you can't imagine your life without the other? If not then I wouldn't advise you going. To me it sounds like Ran is all about himself right now and even though it hurts, it's ok. Everyone goes through that. Maybe this time apart is what you need. If you're miserable after months of being apart from each other and want to make it work, THEN you should maybe move over there. If you guys move on and are happy without each other then it wasn't mean to be (for now). Take some time apart... Maybe it will end up making ya'll stronger in the end. If not, theres someone better for both of ya'll.
What's wrong with being selfish if you are young and have no one else to support or worry about? What else is there? When you are pretty much on your own, you live for and do things for yourself.
If you aren't married or in a very serious relationship, no kids, no other family to support or obligations to uphold.... then what else would hold you back from doing what you want?
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how does wanting to move make u selfish and not know yourself?? thats what i dnt get...copyright is a tool
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