Relationship advice AGAIN

[Brut]

Damn I sure don't have good luck with relationships now do I? lol Ok well this time this is what happened. Sunday (july 1) I was at work and she was with some friends at the movies. Well while she was at the movies the guy with her made a move and ended up making out with her and gave her a hickey. She just now told me today all her friends said don't tell me because I might break up with her. Well she told me and I was crushed, I was real hurt and all and upset. I didn't break up with her I was kinda glad she had told me too. I knew something was wrong and cause on Sunday I got sick and all I have bronchitis as of right now, the weather has been shit tomorrow is the day that my older brother commit suicide (july 4) and all. So you could say July is the greatest month for me. My girlfriend says she loves me still with all her heart and all and I still love her but she has lost a lot of my trust from doing that. I asked one friend what his opinion was and what he would do in my position he said forgive and forget he said she told you right? and I said yes and then that means she loves you and all. Well I want some of yall's opinions what would you do if you were in my position or what is some advice you would give me? Thanks in advance No flaming me and all please thanks

[Blitanicle99]

Break up with her, if she comes crawling back she does care about you. If not, shes full of it.

[Wurm]

you can take the girl our the trailer park but you can never take the trailer park out the girl

[Brut]

you can take the girl our the trailer park but you can never take the trailer park out the girl

huh

[Wurm]

huh

lmao if you cant understand that then you need to stay away from women

[cactusEG]

hol shit dude srry to hear about ur bro... and i say dump the girls fast cus if she really loves u she wouldnt of pulled that faul shit on u. go to a nice club and find u a new girl

[Brut]

hol shit dude srry to hear about ur bro... and i say dump the girls fast cus if she really loves u she wouldnt of pulled that faul shit on u. go to a nice club and find u a new girl

Ya thats what I was thinking and she. if she really loved me why would she pull that on me and all. As for the club thing I don't believe I would find 'nice' girls there and all. Ionno maybe?

Break up with her, if she comes crawling back she does care about you. If not, shes full of it.

The thing is I don't want to leave her I really love her and all and I don't want to leave her. Maybe I should try that I suppose?

[cactusEG]

Ya thats what I was thinking and she. if she really loved me why would she pull that on me and all. As for the club thing I don't believe I would find 'nice' girls there and all. Ionno maybe?


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you work at the Mall of Ga, how hard could it be to find a girl or date?

[Lucky DAWG]

hol shit dude srry to hear about ur bro... and i say dump the girls fast cus if she really loves u she wouldnt of pulled that faul shit on u. go to a nice club and find u a new girl

that made no damn sense.
why would u go to a club to look for a nice girl to date?

how long u been with her and how much does she mean to you? its all really a matter of your opinion. If you are able to stand the nights of worrying about her going out and doing it again then shes obviously worth it. if you don't think shes worth the hassle then don't do it.

just don't make it out to be a matter of pride and dump her to save face.

Do what you think feels right. She obviously wants a second chance so you just have to decide if you want to fight to keep what you've got or let it go and cut your losses.

gl and keep us posted

[quickdodge®]

why would u go to a club to look for a nice girl to date?

You don't. Later, QD.

[Hektik]

first of all how long have yall been dating and how old are yall.. are there any ties within the relationship ie. do yall live together, do yall have shared bank accounts. im assuming from just reading your post that there are no kids involved...


if there are no ties and you guys are still young than i would leave her.. no point in cotinuing in a relationship that has already been tainted.. she can regain your trust but it will take alot on her part. plus you will always have it in the back of your head at least for a long time. what she did wasnt just a mistake if she went along and "madeout" with this guy to the point where she got a hickey then there was alot more than him just making a move on her... she had alot to do with it.. also just because she told you doesnt mean she trully loves you or that she is sorry... just think really hard about it and wether its worth all the trouble, and the heart ache that continuing in a relationship with someone who has cheated on you will bring...
G/L....

[VooDooXII]

The unfortunate events of July are irrelevant. I can understand that it RUINS your mood and outlook towards things, and I'm sorry to hear about all that, but really...they're separate issues.

That aside, you need to leave that girl. Alright, she told you...but the fact that she didn't want you to know earlier is no good. Leave that girl...if she can't stay faithful to you, fuck it. How are you supposed to feel like you've got someone special when she's making out with every next guy she goes to a movie with. I mean, that's what I'd do...no "forgive and forget" with garbage like that. If you've lost that much trust...then it's probably not worth it.

How long have you two been together anyway?

[blackshine007]

She's not as in love with you as you are with her. Dump the skank and call it a day. If she "allowed" another man to put a hickey on her neck, Think about what else she's "allowed". Real talk, pimp, dump the skeezer, and find new love. But make sure to take it slow with the next female. But not too slow.

[VooDooXII]

But make sure to take it slow with the next female. But not too slow.

It's all about balance!

[blackshine007]

It's all about balance!

Tru dat

[sullen]

break up..... tell her you guys will just have to be friends for a while. no benefits. see if she is still interested, if she goes straight into dating, she's full of shit. and if she does, you do too. if she comes back, tell her shits gotta be different. i mean, she trusted you enough to tell you. better than keeping it a secret. at least she told you so she could let you deal with it. big breaker of the trust, but good show of character in that. but then again, loss of character in getting a hickie....


or get a mutual friend to give you a hickie and when you go to pick her up for something let it "slip" and "accidentally" show her. if she gets mad, fuck her. if not, tell her something happened....you're sorry, guage her reaction. if she still wants to work things out, go for it.

[blackshine007]

break up..... tell her you guys will just have to be friends for a while. no benefits. see if she is still interested, if she goes straight into dating, she's full of shit. and if she does, you do too. if she comes back, tell her shits gotta be different. i mean, she trusted you enough to tell you. better than keeping it a secret. at least she told you so she could let you deal with it. big breaker of the trust, but good show of character in that. but then again, loss of character in getting a hickie....


or get a mutual friend to give you a hickie and when you go to pick her up for something let it "slip" and "accidentally" show her. if she gets mad, fuck her. if not, tell her something happened....you're sorry, guage her reaction. if she still wants to work things out, go for it.

Dude, that has to be one of the dumbest things I've read from you, so far. Why the hell would you wanna play some dumb game like that? Basicly, what you're saying is to string some other girl along so you could piss off some skeezy slut to make her just jealous enough to wanna get back with you? In the end, going that route just makes you look like a true dumbass. Then you're back to square one.

I better not EVER hear any more bullshit like that come from you again. That's freaking retarded. No more love advice for you

[sullen]

how long have you been seeing eachother?

[VooDooXII]

how long have you been seeing eachother?

I'd like an answer to this...but moreso out of curiosity.

If it hasn't been long...then she's too easy and definitely not worth it.

If it has been a while...then who knows? She may have not told you about a couple other things all the while.

[Brut]

"forgive and forget" with garbage like that. If you've lost that much trust...then it's probably not worth it.

How long have you two been together anyway?[/QUOTE]

I think about almost half a year now. She gave me the excuse that when she was making out with the guy that she thought it was me and thats why she kept going and all.

She's not as in love with you as you are with her. Dump the skank and call it a day. If she "allowed" another man to put a hickey on her neck, Think about what else she's "allowed". Real talk, pimp, dump the skeezer, and find new love. But make sure to take it slow with the next female. But not too slow.

Thats what really pissed me off was the hickey thing.

you work at the Mall of Ga, how hard could it be to find a girl or date?

Its not I could find another girl and all again lolol

break up..... tell her you guys will just have to be friends for a while. no benefits. see if she is still interested, if she goes straight into dating, she's full of shit. and if she does, you do too. if she comes back, tell her shits gotta be different. i mean, she trusted you enough to tell you. better than keeping it a secret. at least she told you so she could let you deal with it. big breaker of the trust, but good show of character in that. but then again, loss of character in getting a hickie....


or get a mutual friend to give you a hickie and when you go to pick her up for something let it "slip" and "accidentally" show her. if she gets mad, fuck her. if not, tell her something happened....you're sorry, guage her reaction. if she still wants to work things out, go for it.

This one is the one for sure so far I am going to ggo with

I'd like an answer to this...but moreso out of curiosity.

If it hasn't been long...then she's too easy and definitely not worth it.

If it has been a while...then who knows? She may have not told you about a couple other things all the while.

[VooDooXII]

I think about almost half a year now. She gave me the excuse that when she was making out with the guy that she thought it was me and thats why she kept going and all.

That's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard.

I don't know...personally, I wouldn't want to be with some girl who says she loves me but just goes off playing tonsil hockey with random guys.

Think things through, and do what you think is right. Personally, I'd leave her...though I'm not exactly an expert with things like this.

maybe ALL HE DID WAS EAT HER OUT..... is that as bad as fucking? you tell me. same fuckin ballpark.

I thought you were about to go Pulp Fiction on us...

[Leisa]

"forgive and forget" with garbage like that. If you've lost that much trust...then it's probably not worth it.

How long have you two been together anyway?

I think about almost half a year now. She gave me the excuse that when she was making out with the guy that she thought it was me and thats why she kept going and all.



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She thought it was you???? What the fuck was she not aware you were at work and that another guy was sitting beside her?

[Jerra]

We all make mistakes. She didn't fuck him... It happens. If ya'll have been together more than a few months, then I would think about breaking up with her, otherwise, give her a shot...if you love her. People get scared and do stupid shit. trust is important though, and if you can't trust her then it won't work.

[Brut]

We all make mistakes. She didn't fuck him... It happens. If ya'll have been together more than a few months, then I would think about breaking up with her, otherwise, give her a shot...if you love her. People get scared and do stupid shit. trust is important though, and if you can't trust her then it won't work.

I wanted a womens Im gonna go with yours. I love her thats for sure I trust her and all but not as much as I use to.

[cactusEG]

We all make mistakes. She didn't fuck him... It happens. If ya'll have been together more than a few months, then I would think about breaking up with her, otherwise, give her a shot...if you love her. People get scared and do stupid shit. trust is important though, and if you can't trust her then it won't work.

dont take adive from here. i bet u do that shit

[Jerra]

dont take adive from here. i bet u do that shit

Watch yourself. You can talk about me all you want, but do not question my relationship. I'm giving advice not directions...he does not have to listen to me. I have seen many good and bad relationships...and am an outside oppinion. Don't bring my shit into this when there is no need.

[sullen]

We all make mistakes. She didn't fuck him... It happens. If ya'll have been together more than a few months, then I would think about breaking up with her, otherwise, give her a shot...if you love her. People get scared and do stupid shit. trust is important though, and if you can't trust her then it won't work.

we dont all go fuck the people our friends bring at the movies...hopefully not. why the hell was she there with another guy anyways? be just as fucking mad at him as you are at her man. his fault just as much as hers. and she might as well have let him in her pants, she started the whole act by letting him suck on her neck. who knows, maybe ALL HE DID WAS EAT HER OUT..... is that as bad as fucking? you tell me. same fuckin ballpark. its all the same shit. no matter what it was.

[Lucky DAWG]

we dont all go fuck the people our friends bring at the movies...hopefully not. why the hell was she there with another guy anyways? be just as fucking mad at him as you are at her man. his fault just as much as hers. and she might as well have let him in her pants, she started the whole act by letting him suck on her neck. who knows, maybe ALL HE DID WAS EAT HER OUT..... is that as bad as fucking? you tell me. same fuckin ballpark. its all the same shit. no matter what it was.

they made out in a movie theater, stop putting ideas in his head and making him feel like shit. it doesn't matter what happened then, its a matter of if he wants to trust her in the future.

and don't be mad at the guy, you'll be letting the girl off too easy. your concern is with her not him, he is nothing but an obstacle. And i see no problem with him being there, you should allow your girl to go out friends if they are guys, you should be able to trust them like that. She obviously just slipped up. as i said before your call if you want to handle the stress of thinking she might cheat again.

[Brut]

they made out in a movie theater, stop putting ideas in his head and making him feel like shit. it doesn't matter what happened then, its a matter of if he wants to trust her in the future.

and don't be mad at the guy, you'll be letting the girl off too easy. your concern is with her not him, he is nothing but an obstacle. And i see no problem with him being there, you should allow your girl to go out friends if they are guys, you should be able to trust them like that. She obviously just slipped up. as i said before your call if you want to handle the stress of thinking she might cheat again.

REPS to you for sure. I am comfortable with letting her go out with guy friends and all no prob other guys have hit on her and all in hte past and shes pushed them away and I don't know why this time it fell through. It was just a slip up I suppose.

[Jerra]

REPS to you for sure. I am comfortable with letting her go out with guy friends and all no prob other guys have hit on her and all in hte past and shes pushed them away and I don't know why this time it fell through. It was just a slip up I suppose.

Don't make it less of an issue than it is. It is a big deal, and not just a slip up. You have to work through it. Don't try to tell her she can't go out with dudes...that just means you shouldn't be with her. Take it as a compliment that otehr guys hit on your chick.

[ironchef]

REPS to you for sure. I am comfortable with letting her go out with guy friends and all no prob other guys have hit on her and all in hte past and shes pushed them away and I don't know why this time it fell through. It was just a slip up I suppose.

There are things you can slip up in a relationship, such as forgetting to call or random shit like that. But making out with another guy? Thats not something you should ever slip on.

[VooDooXII]

and don't be mad at the guy, you'll be letting the girl off too easy. your concern is with her not him, he is nothing but an obstacle. And i see no problem with him being there, you should allow your girl to go out friends if they are guys, you should be able to trust them like that. She obviously just slipped up. as i said before your call if you want to handle the stress of thinking she might cheat again.

Even still man, you're 18...so don't get too caught up. You've got a lot more time.

[Jerra]

we dont all go fuck the people our friends bring at the movies...hopefully not. why the hell was she there with another guy anyways? be just as fucking mad at him as you are at her man. his fault just as much as hers. and she might as well have let him in her pants, she started the whole act by letting him suck on her neck. who knows, maybe ALL HE DID WAS EAT HER OUT..... is that as bad as fucking? you tell me. same fuckin ballpark. its all the same shit. no matter what it was.

I'm not saying what she did was ok, but I do think that if they love one another he should be able to give her another chance.

Was there alcohol involved?

[blackshine007]

We all make mistakes. She didn't fuck him... It happens. If ya'll have been together more than a few months, then I would think about breaking up with her, otherwise, give her a shot...if you love her. People get scared and do stupid shit. trust is important though, and if you can't trust her then it won't work.

This was a dumb post, too. If she just so decided to tell you that she cheated, how many other dudes do you think she might have went through behind your back. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Let her be. Way too many fishes in the ocean to be fucked up over a scampie

[Jerra]

This was a dumb post, too. If she just so decided to tell you that she cheated, how many other dudes do you think she might have went through behind your back. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Let her be. Way too many fishes in the ocean to be fucked up over a scampie

Not a dumb post. She told him...he should take it as a one-time thing, but watch for anything fishy.

[Jerra]

Be careful...check up on her when you can...but don't let her know about it. It will make you feel better to know that she isn't doing shit she shouldn't be. Just watch for changes in her behavior and pay attention to what she is doing and with whom. I love my man, but lord knows I have made mistakes that would suggest otherwise. In the end, I get scred when a guy gets too close...my own problem, and I try to run...or push him away. I also have a nasty habit of testing him...to see how he'll react. Be careful, but chances are, based on her past...she may have some trust issues herself. Love her, be good to her...and expect the same.

[Lucky DAWG]

Be careful...check up on her when you can...but don't let her know about it. It will make you feel better to know that she isn't doing shit she shouldn't be. Just watch for changes in her behavior and pay attention to what she is doing and with whom. I love my man, but lord knows I have made mistakes that would suggest otherwise. In the end, I get scred when a guy gets too close...my own problem, and I try to run...or push him away. I also have a nasty habit of testing him...to see how he'll react. Be careful, but chances are, based on her past...she may have some trust issues herself. Love her, be good to her...and expect the same.

i have the same bad habit.

but jerra is right.
keep doing what you are doing, don't stoop and become the asshole boyfriend who bullies her and won't let her go out.

if hurting you wasn't enough to make her change, then she never will. So one more chance i say. just don't change what you do is what i'm saying

[Hektik]

Be careful...check up on her when you can...but don't let her know about it. It will make you feel better to know that she isn't doing shit she shouldn't be. Just watch for changes in her behavior and pay attention to what she is doing and with whom.

Why would anyone want to live like this..... If you cant completely 100% trust who you are with then why spend your life chasing them around hiding behind corners and shadows trying to catch them in the wrong... yea sure there are moments when that trust might be questioned, but not to the point where you would have to go through their email and shit....



either way G/L to you and your relationship...

[ironchef]

She loves you with all her heart, yet makes out with another guy? And then gives you the excuse that she thought it was you? WTF man, get your shit straight, go dump that whore, get a happy ending from an asian massage parlor, and then find a new broad.

[Lucky DAWG]

She loves you with all her heart, yet makes out with another guy? And then gives you the excuse that she thought it was you? WTF man, get your shit straight, go dump that whore, get a happy ending from an asian massage parlor, and then find a new broad.

she said she thought he was you?
thats a new twist. if thats true then that puts a new spin on this