What would you do?

**Tiff-O-Bitties** · 02-20-2006, 11:32 AM

Do not move this to the relationships/sex section, please!!

Say that you have a best friend (of the opposite sex) and feelings b/w both people are stronger than just friends; however, you've tried the dating thing 2 times in the past and it didn't work... now, whenever you try dating someone else, you can't b/c your "best friend" gets jealous and vice versa...

What would you do? Explain.

**Hulud** · 02-20-2006, 11:34 AM

Originally Posted by Cav-E-R

Do not move this to the relationships/sex section, please!!

Say that you have a best friend (of the opposite sex) and feelings b/w both people are stronger than just friends; however, you've tried the dating thing 2 times in the past and it didn't work... now, whenever you try dating someone else, you can't b/c your "best friend" gets jealous and vice versa...

What would you do? Explain.

dont worry what they think, i mean it didnt work theres nothing they can do now. if they are going to be that childish then you just have to stop being friends with them. because they are going to hold you back from finding that special person.

**BTLFED** · 02-20-2006, 11:36 AM

Originally Posted by Hulud

dont worry what they think, i mean it didnt work theres nothing they can do now. if they are going to be that childish then you just have to stop being friends with them. because they are going to hold you back from finding that special person.

Exactly.

**buddha@TeamFX** · 02-20-2006, 11:38 AM

Tiff hun...sit down and talk to him...and explain to him that if he wants to be with you then he needs to tell you and if he just wants to be friends he needs to understand that your going to be dating other guys..!!

**Hulud** · 02-20-2006, 11:50 AM

Originally Posted by buddha@TeamFX

Tiff hun...sit down and talk to him...and explain to him that if he wants to be with you then he needs to tell you and if he just wants to be friends he needs to understand that your going to be dating other guys..!!

i had assumed she had already done that after two tries
but yea do that then what i said

**Tiff-O-Bitties** · 02-20-2006, 11:52 AM

Originally Posted by Hulud

i had assumed she had already done that after two tries
but yea do that then what i said

no no no.. we broke up the first time cause he wanted to be back with his ex (a 17 year old skank, by the way, he's 22)... we broke up the 2nd time after he cheated on me with a stripper, or a couple of strippers.. We never got back together, we just somehow became best friends again.

**A.P. Photography** · 02-20-2006, 11:37 AM

Originally Posted by Hulud

dont worry what they think, i mean it didnt work theres nothing they can do now. if they are going to be that childish then you just have to stop being friends with them. because they are going to hold you back from finding that special person.

Sometime drastic measures such as this are called for.

**JustinSane110™** · 02-20-2006, 11:57 PM

Originally Posted by Hulud

dont worry what they think, i mean it didnt work theres nothing they can do now. if they are going to be that childish then you just have to stop being friends with them. because they are going to hold you back from finding that special person.

Agreed completely.

Originally Posted by Cav-E-R

no no no.. we broke up the first time cause he wanted to be back with his ex (a 17 year old skank, by the way, he's 22)... we broke up the 2nd time after he cheated on me with a stripper, or a couple of strippers.. We never got back together, we just somehow became best friends again.

Ummm.... fuck him (not literally though, lol). I mean if he's had 2 chances and fucked them both up (in epic ways) then fuck that. I mean I could understand if you had to break up cuz one of you moved away for school and couldn't handle the distance, or something like that but homey fucked up amazingly bad both times. Just move on and date other people and if he starts getting jealous and shit, then fuck him (again, not literally haha).

**Tiff-O-Bitties** · 02-20-2006, 11:35 AM

I don't really know what I'd do...

**Tasuki_Civic** · 02-20-2006, 11:36 AM

either work out your problems or jus be jealous until it goes away. im sure you dont want to stop being friends......but if it keeps up you mite miss out on someone good in tha future cause yall cant make up ya minds or you guys mite be a good couple.

**Tasuki_Civic** · 02-20-2006, 11:36 AM

yeah or what hulud said jus stop it

**Tiff-O-Bitties** · 02-20-2006, 11:39 AM

^ that's kinda what i was thinkinng Buddha..

**buddha@TeamFX** · 02-20-2006, 11:44 AM

Tiff has buddha bear ever been wrong??...LOL...

**Darling Nikki** · 02-20-2006, 11:45 AM

hahahah buddha bear...hahahahaha

**Tiff-O-Bitties** · 02-20-2006, 11:46 AM

unfortunately, yes, he has, just like I have.

**Leisa** · 02-20-2006, 11:48 AM

I would definitely go with Bhudda...

**babygurl** · 02-20-2006, 11:56 AM

Tiffy!

I know you are talking about! And I like him and all! But I have no respect for what he did to you! You deserve better than to be treated like that!

I agree with BUDDHA BEAR

cute! That you should sit down and talk with him! IF he is getting jealous, and the feelings are still there....then tell him to be a real MAN! And not cheat, nor want to date a 17 year old skank! and TO TREAT YOU LIKE A FUCKING QUEEN! THAT YOU ARE!

Just sit down and talk to him about everything!

**4dmin** · 02-20-2006, 12:01 PM

dating and being friends afterwards is always hard, you two just need to sit down talk about it, have some good makeup sex, etc... then answer the question

by the way i'm not jealous your dating other guys, just as long as i get a piece

**Kevykev** · 02-20-2006, 12:19 PM

In all my life experience I have realized that there is only one thing that matters.. And that is your individual happiness. That said, If you are involved with someone be it best friend or lover and they get in the way of your search for happines than cut them off.

In the end, we are all alone. It is most important to stay true to yor own wants and neeeds and not worry about making anyone else happy..

I guess basically what I am trying to say is do whatever makes you happy..... If you do not want to be romantically involved with your best friend than dont, and If you want to date other people than do it.. Regardless of whos feelings you hurt along the way! compromising your self happiness so another can sleep at night is moronic! And if the roles were reversed would you get the same from the other?? probably not. Your best friend, if he had the chance would get with whomever he wants given the chance..

Im done

take ot from me.. a homosexual negro

**ProjectWidow** · 02-20-2006, 12:41 PM

Originally Posted by Kevykev

In all my life experience I have realized that there is only one thing that matters.. And that is your individual happiness. That said, If you are involved with someone be it best friend or lover and they get in the way of your search for happines than cut them off.

I completely agree. Making yourself happy first comes before anything else. I have learned this and try to tell other people. Its always sad to see girls and other people get hurt because they are doing things for other people and not themselves. I realized awhile ago, who cares what other people think of you?

I don't really know what to tell you Tiff but only you can make that decision. If you think he is the one for you then I would continue and try to work it out. But if he cheated on you twice then what makes you think he won't do it again? I read what other people said that he is a great guy and all, so then what makes him cheat? Im sorry that this happened to you twice but the best thing I can tell you is do what you think is right. Don't let anyone else's opinion influence yours. Just do what makes you happy even if that means trying to work things out with this guy.

**Kevykev** · 02-20-2006, 12:42 PM

Originally Posted by ProjectWidow

I completely agree. Making yourself happy first comes before anything else. I have learned this and try to tell other people. Its always sad to see girls and other people get hurt because they are doing things for other people and not themselves. I realized awhile ago, who cares what other people think of you?

I don't really know what to tell you Tiff but only you can make that decision. If you think he is the one for you then I would continue and try to work it out. But if he cheated on you twice then what makes you think he won't do it again? I read what other people said that he is a great guy and all, so then what makes him cheat? Im sorry that this happened to you twice but the best thing I can tell you is do what you think is right. Don't let anyone else's opinion influence yours. Just do what makes you happy even if that means trying to work things out with this guy.

Dont agree with me bitch!

**Kevykev** · 02-20-2006, 12:33 PM

I have a great idea!!! you guys should have an orgy! Im serious.. a big sloppy orgy with baby oil!

i want you to live like a lesbian for a week and see if you like vagina or penis better!

now if you do, than your decision is easy!

Now if your best friend during your orgy gives a guy a reach around than your in trouble..

I want you to have an orgy with 4 men and 2 girls.. But dont sleep with your best friend during this baby oil extravaganza.. see what he will do?? we he go for the other woman or choose a sausage penetration! This will be the ultimate test of love for you 2

**PhAtBoYMr2** · 02-20-2006, 12:35 PM

i thought one of the options would be..."Run to Xlr8nmr2s arms while he warms me with his comfort and we spend the rest of the night making sweet love"

but that option wasnt on there....so im not voting...sorry

**AtifSajid** · 02-20-2006, 12:42 PM

LOL^^

edit..damn why you got to hit post before I do?

**IntegraXTR** · 02-20-2006, 03:55 PM

keep it on the low so the friend doesn't get jealous, that way you can do both of them. j/k

**Tiff-O-Bitties** · 02-20-2006, 04:02 PM

Originally Posted by krucial7integra

keep it on the low so the friend doesn't get jealous, that way you can do both of them. j/k

haha.. that's hard to do when he just shows up at my apartment at random times.... besides, i wouldn't do that anyway.

**ahmonrah** · 02-20-2006, 04:11 PM

yeah, y'all need to talk that shit out. for real. it's no use pinning all those emotions down cause what you 2 are doing now is taking what you really feel for eachother and trying to transfer that to someone else, hence the reason you 2 get jealous at eachother when you 2 date other people. there's a fire between you 2 dont deny it. either talk it out or your gonna end up doing something to eachother that will kill the friendship/possibility of being together. just face it.

**RISKYB** · 02-21-2006, 06:45 AM

if its ment to be it will be if not them it wont just let it go and it will either progress or not in its own time, you cant rush or you will always be left with what if?

**Boosted S60R** · 02-21-2006, 09:35 AM

I agree with what budda has said tiff-o.

**LaurenK** · 02-21-2006, 09:42 AM

I say leave it alone, and let whatever happends...happen. If it hasn't worked in the past, it probably won't work this go around. Everything happends for a reason, so you never know. If it's meant to be it will be.

But...I wouldn't force the issue.

**thinkfast®** · 02-21-2006, 01:55 PM

Tiff if this is about me and you just let it go, I totally understand if you don't wanna be with me, yet you can't live without me. The whole stripper thing wasn't my fault.. I think I'm an addict and I will get help, I need help..

I'll be ok.

**Rabunchic** · 02-21-2006, 02:28 PM

Tiff,
I know both of you and I can see the feelings when you are together. Just do like Buddah says and sit him down and talk to him. I have known him longer than I have you but you both are good people.

**Tiff-O-Bitties** · 02-21-2006, 02:36 PM

Ricky, why did you have to do that to me? It really hurt, it still hurts... I can't sleep at night, all I do is cry... It makes me sick to think about you. I wish just for one second, you could feel the pain I feel. It's over.

**thinkfast®** · 02-21-2006, 03:29 PM

Tiff I dont think you understand, its more complex then me just cheatin on you.. this is indirectly your fault, believe it or not... I thought we could take this time apart so you could get your priorities in order, but it hurts me too, I dont care who knows it!!

Friday nite was so great, but then we get in front of the IA crowd at the meet and you put on a show, like I'm not even there? It hurts Tiff, but at least I can find comfort in your fun bags, they've helped me through some tough times

hold me?

**Tiff-O-Bitties** · 02-21-2006, 04:06 PM

Ricky, I am so tired of just being your sex toy, why can't you love me for me and not my "fun bags?" I've given you everything, I mean, everything... How could you just run off with some 17 year old tramp and with some nasty ass strippers? Have you even thought about what diseases you might be carrying? And then you come back to me and spread that shit around some more.. God... I won't ever hold you again, you are nothing to me, nothing. I didn't do shit in front of everyone at the IA meet because you didn't deserve it. You and I are over, Puto.

**thinkfast®** · 02-21-2006, 04:10 PM

they weren't nasty to me

plus that one chick, her heart aint even in it.. I'm just helpin her get through college.

this is a weak ass thread anyways. see if you get any more back door action again. EVER AGAIN.. nothin but throat babies from now on

**JustinSane110™** · 02-21-2006, 04:13 PM

LIRL!!!! I just noticed the option says "other, please explain".

**Tiff-O-Bitties** · 02-21-2006, 04:12 PM

tee hee hee... love ya ricky.. you can hold my fun bags anytime you want...

**thinkfast®** · 02-21-2006, 04:15 PM

Originally Posted by Cav-E-R

tee hee hee... love ya ricky.. you can hold my fun bags anytime you want...

thats what I'm talkin about, I knew you'd come around

you know if I wasn't on cloud 9 sky high Friday I woulda jumped in the backseat w/ ya, you know, just to keep you company

LIRL

**Tiff-O-Bitties** · 02-21-2006, 04:19 PM

Originally Posted by thinkfast

thats what I'm talkin about, I knew you'd come around

you know if I wasn't on cloud 9 sky high Friday I woulda jumped in the backseat w/ ya, you know, just to keep you company

LIRL

damn it, I was hoping for that... Yeah, ya'll were pretty much, well... um..... good to go... like... taco bell's crunch wrap supremes...

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