well being that i've lived and learned i'll jump in here.

before marriage - i don't do it anymore, i had my 1 person i lost it to. (what a disaster that was, but i guess i learned alot about what i want, and that people lie to get what they want) but i would definately want to try the car before i bought it. i mean there is always room for improvement but if someone is a dead lay (thanks #1 preciate that) then i won't be buying it. its kinda sad to say but the only thing that seperates friends from lovers is a sexual encounter (friends with benefits aside) but basically if she can't get me off or do the things that make me happy in the bed room i don't see myself locking down into a lifetime of marriage and love with that person. thats like knowing the lake is full of alligators but you jump in anyways already knowing whats going to happen i think its stupid. now i'll say that i haven't had sex since that 1 person and i'm quite happy about it. i get my joys from other places than just full on sex. besides not having to worry about the classic "i'm late" thing is something i never have to worry about. i don't do it b/c it gives me a peace of mind, and my religious faith is more important to me, than some random chick who's easy to get laid from in a few dates time.

just my personal opinion

amy - have a dead lay and you'll understand its not like your loli doll that you get to do whatever you want lol. they b!tch complain and irritate you b/c its like trying to have sex with someone who is just well..... dead its like OMG do something stop being a lazy whiny b!tch! lol