Is Marraige overrated

[1000cckiller]

Man I must ask is marraige overrated, because it is like people are getting married for stupid reasons and then end up getting divorced. Like I have a friend who is also on IA, he talking to someone from here too. He has been talkin to her for two months and now he wants to marry her. So let me state his reasons for wanting to marry her.

1. we do all the same shit.
2. she hangs out with all my friends.
3. she has dinner cooked when I get home.
4. we smoke together.

Those reasons are for cut buddies, or jumpoffs.

Marrige lately has become just a form of companionship and not a form of love.

When I marry it is going to be with a woman on my level, that means smarts and money wise. And it is no way she is going to be on my nuts eveyday.

Also as most people know the first six months a relationship is pretty much perfect, after that it goes how it goes.

[2.0civic]

marriage=tax writeoff

[william_jeff]

what about divorce

btw this is too deep for the whoreslounge, this should be in lifestyles.

don't nobody in the whoreslounge want to talk about this shit

[JstAneon]

yes

[JennB]

I don't think it's overrated at all. It's a really great thing if done for the right reasons. Too many people either rush in or don't think it through. Be patient... if the person you are with truly wants to spend their life with you, just wait a little while... they aren't going to run off if you don't marry them immediately. And if they are, then they aren't worth it.

[Kelly]

Wow... This thread has potential.

I agree 100%. Marriage isn't what it use to be.

[Jimmy B]

personally, i cant wait to get married.. i have been with her for about a year and 3 mos now, we are engaged we have a beautiful son together, we get along great(of couse little arguments here an there) and i love her deeply.

sometimes its true that when you meet someone you know its the right person..

[PhAtBoYMr2]

marriage is over rated and bitches are psycho

if there not pyscho now they will get crazy when they get older...

[1000cckiller]

well some one move it to lifestyles please, and also this is not deep. And JenB it not me, I am a hoe, I can admit that. It's one of my boys on here he needs to wake up, he can barely support himself a wife isnt going to cut it.

[Leisa]

Hell no marriage isnt overrated..Marriage is a wonderful thing as long as you know without a doubt you are with the person you are supposed to spend the rest of your life with... They are there through thick and thin, good and bad... to experience new things together and enjoy the beauty of it all..

Marriage is what you make it... I love being married to Brett and couldnt imagine life with out him.

[PhAtBoYMr2]

just leave it here it's fine.

[1000cckiller]

marriage is over rated and bitches are psycho

if there not pyscho now they will get crazy when they get older...

I completely agree Mark, but what do us players know uhm.....

[Kelly]

I can't wait to get married. I just know it's important to not have any doubts.

[PhAtBoYMr2]

I know that if you leave your heart in someone elses hands they will probaly end up crushing it and your just leaving yourself vulnerable. Maybe not by cheating on you but what if they die? You will probaly die with them or can't go on with life.

Love will get you killed.

[PhAtBoYMr2]

oh yeah and what lag who are you?

[Killer]

marriage itself is NOT over rated.....

marrying for the wrong reasons just means ur an idiot...

[1000cckiller]

marriage itself is NOT over rated.....

marrying for the wrong reasons just means ur an idiot...

i agree but why do people think the early part of a relationship constitutes marraige

[Killer]

i agree but why do people think the early part of a relationship constitutes marraige

no idea, other than fairy tales make them believe so... and also they see their friends getting married, so they think they ought to as well....

the first yr, even 2 years of a relationship are normally perfect... then you hit the 3 yr mark and everything starts getting rough... called the third year lull, if you haven't made it to that or through that i don't think you should get married... there are exceptions, but i've personally been through it, and so have most of my friends...

[Kelly]

Because they are ignorant...


However *puts on flame suit*
I don't think you should date anyone you couldn't see yourself marrying. Why waist the time? That's my

[Ruiner]

I don't think it's overrated at all. It's a really great thing if done for the right reasons. Too many people either rush in or don't think it through. Be patient... if the person you are with truly wants to spend their life with you, just wait a little while... they aren't going to run off if you don't marry them immediately. And if they are, then they aren't worth it.

Troof.

I couldn't see myself waking up next to any other woman in all honesty. To tell you the truth, I've woken up next to many beautiful women over the years, but it's a very shallow feeling after a while. It's hard to explain. You sorta realize it as you get older.

Is it overrated? No, unless you do it for the wrong (immature) reasons.

[Kelly]

no idea, other than fairy tales make them believe so... and also they see their friends getting married, so they think they ought to as well....

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[Killer]

Because they are ignorant...


However *puts on flame suit*
I don't think you should date anyone you couldn't see yourself marrying. Why waist the time? That's my

true, but dating and hooking up are two different things...

going on a date with someone is how u find out if you could see yourself w/them or not (unless u know them some other way)

but i agree you should not actually start a relationship unless you see it working out in the long run.

[Killer]

....

what?

Because they are ignorant...

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[1000cckiller]

no idea, other than fairy tales make them believe so... and also they see their friends getting married, so they think they ought to as well....

the first yr, even 2 years of a relationship are normally perfect... then you hit the 3 yr mark and everything starts getting rough... called the third year lull, if you haven't made it to that or through that i don't think you should get married... there are exceptions, but i've personally been through it, and so have most of my friends...

i understand, i have been with my girl three years, and I am just now thinking of marraige.

[Bballjamal]

good thread!

[Kelly]

what?

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Just lettin you know I saw it...

[Killer]

Just lettin you know I saw it...

k... it wasn't directed towards you....

[Kelly]

It has been...

And I'll admit to it. It happens, when you see all your friends getting married you kinda catch yourself wishing it was you... Or at least I did. Especially since I don't get to see Killer every day like I'd like.

[Jimmy B]

To tell you the truth, I've woken up next to many beautiful women over the years, but it's a very shallow feeling after a while. It's hard to explain. You sorta realize it as you get older.

i feel ya, trust me, i feel ya!

you speak the truth my friend, i have had more than my fair share of beautiful, hot, desired women. but like brandon said, sometimes it just gets plain repetitive.

i love waking up in the middle of the night, looking over at my beautiful finace' knowing that i will do that every day for the rest of my life.

scary? you bet it is, you always wonder and hope that the other person will always feel the same way but that is what trust is, most of teh people on here are too young to know what it really feeels like, but the ones that do, its a beautiful thing!

[Killer]

what most people in general don't realize that just because you've been together for a year doesn't mean you should get married... you shouldn't base marriage on other peoples standards, you take your own time (how ever long it may be) you wait till you are stable, and work things out for yourself....

do not go on what you see others do, or what your parents did...

"my parents were married at 20" is not an excuse, and neither is "my friends just got married and they just graduated"

you hear that way too often from people...

[Kelly]

i love waking up in the middle of the night, looking over at my beautiful finace' knowing that i will do that every day for the rest of my life.

That is the sweetest thing I think I have ever heard...

[quickdodge®]

Marriage is what and your spouse make of it. Plain and simple. This question can only be answered based on opinions. Especially if you think it is over rated. There is only one fact to remember about marriage: It is what you make of it. Later, QD.

[quickdodge®]

i love waking up in the middle of the night, looking over at my beautiful finace' knowing that i will do that every day for the rest of my life.

Lolol @ your fiance hi-jacking your screen name. Later, QD.

[04CoorsCan]

I dated my highschool sweetheart for 8 years and we were engaged, bought a house, etc. But one day we both decided this wasn't for us. Then I met my "now" wife and we dated for two years, been together 5, and have a beautiful 3 month old baby boy. I never knew love until I met her and had my son. Marriage is hard, being a parent is hard, but nothing in life that is worth having is easy....We fight and bicker just like anyone else, but before my dad died....the one piece of advice he gave me was "Never go to bed mad"...and as corny as it sounds, we abide by that and are just as happy now as we have ever been.

To quote what Leisa said about Brett...."I couldn't imagine my life without my wife and my baby boy"...Marrige/love is NOT 50% / 50%.....it's 100% / 100% and lots of give and take...but in the end...it's MORE THAN WORTH IT!! But that's just my .02.

[04CoorsCan]

Marriage is what and your spouse make of it. Plain and simple. This question can only be answered based on opinions. Especially if you think it is over rated. There is only one fact to remember about marriage: It is what you make of it. Later, QD.

You are so wise....You are IA's personal YODA.

[quickdodge®]

going on a date with someone is how u find out if you could see yourself w/them or not (unless u know them some other way)

As stupid as I think everything you ever post on IA is, this is 100% true. How the hail else are you going to know if you could think of marrying someone by just guessing and not going out/dating? Later, QD.

[PhAtBoYMr2]

Marriage is what and your spouse make of it. Plain and simple. This question can only be answered based on opinions. Especially if you think it is over rated. There is only one fact to remember about marriage: It is what you make of it. Later, QD.

and thats some real shit right there....

But i guess it all depends on the person. I'm the type of person that really can't see myself with just one person because i love going out and meeting people and i can't put all my trust in someone because chances are they will fuck you over more then once.

[quickdodge®]

You are so wise....You are IA's personal YODA.

I don't always teach E-thugonomics. I'm an English teacher, math teacher, proofreader, ghost hunter and personal therapist. Later, QD.

[1000cckiller]

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[william_jeff]

Marriage is what and your spouse make of it. Plain and simple. This question can only be answered based on opinions. Especially if you think it is over rated. There is only one fact to remember about marriage: It is what you make of it. Later, QD.

real talk right there

one other fact is that if you do not communicate well, your marriage will be the complete shits. you MUST communicate and be willing to work shit out. like someone said, it's all in give and take. you can't just take take take, there are two people in that marriage and you have to come to agreements in alot of things. communication is by far the largest factor in marriage period. by communicating you will learn if you have that person's trust, love, etc.