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10-04-2006, 01:25 PM
Tips for Reducing Stress/Conflicts
Taken from Richard Carlson, Ph.D. – Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
Don’t sweat the small stuff. It’s all small stuff!
Make peace with imperfection.
Let go of the idea that gentle, relaxed people can’t be super-achievers.
Be aware of the snowball effect of your thinking.
Develop your compassion.
Remind yourself that when you die, your “in basket” won’t be empty.
Don’t interrupt others or finish their sentences.
Do something nice for someone else – and don’t tell anyone about it.
Let others have the glory.
Learn to live in the present moment.
Imagine that everyone is enlightened except you.
Let others be “right” most of the time.
Become more patient.
Create “patience practice periods”.
Be the first one to act loving or reach out.
Ask yourself the question, “will this matter a year from now?”
Surrender to the fact that life isn’t fair.
Allow yourself to be bored.
Lower your tolerance to stress.
Once a week, write a heartfelt letter.
Imagine yourself at your own funeral.
Repeat to yourself, “Life isn’t an emergency”.
Experiment with your back burner.
Spend a moment every day thinking of someone to thank.
Smile at strangers, look into their eyes, and say “hello”.
Set aside quiet time, every day.
Imagine the people in your life as tiny infants and one-hundred-year-old adults.
Seek first to understand.
Become a better listener.
Choose your battles wisely.
Become aware of your moods and don’t allow yourself to be fooled by the low ones.
Life is a test. It is only a test.
Praise and blame are all the same.
Practice random acts of kindness.
Look beyond behavior.
See the innocence.
Choose being kind over being right.
Tell three people (today) how much you love them.
Practice humility.
When in doubt about whose turn it is to take out the trash, go ahead and take it out.
Make light of being overwhelmed.*
Spend a moment, every day, thinking of someone to love.
Agree to disagree.
Understand separate realities.
Put a ceiling on your desires.*
Every day, tell at least one person something you like, admire, or appreciate about them.
Don’t go to bed mad.
Resist the urge to criticize.
Write down your five most stubborn positions and see if you can soften them.
Just for fun, agree with criticism directed toward you (then watch it go away).
Search for the grain of truth in other opinions.
Stay playful*
Remind yourself that you can’t take it with you.
Understand the statement, “Wherever you go, there you are”.
Breathe before you speak.
Be grateful when you are feeling good and graceful when you’re feeling bad.
Become a less aggressive driver.
Relax.
Be an example of peace.
Turn your melodrama into a mellow-drama.
Embrace change.*
Do one thing at a time.
Defer gratification.*
Think of something you did right today.*
Be flexible with changes in your plans.
Think of what you have instead of what you want.
Practice ignoring your negative thoughts.
Be willing to learn from friends and family.
Be happy where you are.
Remember that you become what you practice the most.
Quiet the mind.
Become clutter-free.*
Make service an integral part of your life.
Do a favor and don’t ask for one in return.
Think of your problems as potential teachers.
Get comfortable not knowing.
Acknowledge the totality of your being.
Cut yourself some slack.
Stop blaming others.
Become an early riser.
When trying to be helpful, focus on the little things.
Remember one hundred years from now, all new people who won’t remember.
Lighten up.
Nurture something.
Remember, it’s the little things that will be remembered the most.*
When in an argument, look for the other point of view first.
Listen to your feelings (They are trying to tell you something.)
If someone throws you a ball, you don’t have to catch it.
Embrace change.*
Surrender to the fact that there is always something to do.*
Fill your life with love.
Realize the power of your own thoughts.
Give up the idea that “more is better”.
Keep asking yourself, “What’s really important?”
Remember, it’s the little things that will be remembered the most.*
Mind your own business.
Remember, this too shall pass.
Look for the extraordinary in the ordinary.
Treat others as if this were the last time you were going to see them.*
100. Live this day as if it were your last. It might be!
I'm in class and my teacher in health class put this up for us to help us this school year. Thought I would share it with everyone else
Taken from Richard Carlson, Ph.D. – Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
Don’t sweat the small stuff. It’s all small stuff!
Make peace with imperfection.
Let go of the idea that gentle, relaxed people can’t be super-achievers.
Be aware of the snowball effect of your thinking.
Develop your compassion.
Remind yourself that when you die, your “in basket” won’t be empty.
Don’t interrupt others or finish their sentences.
Do something nice for someone else – and don’t tell anyone about it.
Let others have the glory.
Learn to live in the present moment.
Imagine that everyone is enlightened except you.
Let others be “right” most of the time.
Become more patient.
Create “patience practice periods”.
Be the first one to act loving or reach out.
Ask yourself the question, “will this matter a year from now?”
Surrender to the fact that life isn’t fair.
Allow yourself to be bored.
Lower your tolerance to stress.
Once a week, write a heartfelt letter.
Imagine yourself at your own funeral.
Repeat to yourself, “Life isn’t an emergency”.
Experiment with your back burner.
Spend a moment every day thinking of someone to thank.
Smile at strangers, look into their eyes, and say “hello”.
Set aside quiet time, every day.
Imagine the people in your life as tiny infants and one-hundred-year-old adults.
Seek first to understand.
Become a better listener.
Choose your battles wisely.
Become aware of your moods and don’t allow yourself to be fooled by the low ones.
Life is a test. It is only a test.
Praise and blame are all the same.
Practice random acts of kindness.
Look beyond behavior.
See the innocence.
Choose being kind over being right.
Tell three people (today) how much you love them.
Practice humility.
When in doubt about whose turn it is to take out the trash, go ahead and take it out.
Make light of being overwhelmed.*
Spend a moment, every day, thinking of someone to love.
Agree to disagree.
Understand separate realities.
Put a ceiling on your desires.*
Every day, tell at least one person something you like, admire, or appreciate about them.
Don’t go to bed mad.
Resist the urge to criticize.
Write down your five most stubborn positions and see if you can soften them.
Just for fun, agree with criticism directed toward you (then watch it go away).
Search for the grain of truth in other opinions.
Stay playful*
Remind yourself that you can’t take it with you.
Understand the statement, “Wherever you go, there you are”.
Breathe before you speak.
Be grateful when you are feeling good and graceful when you’re feeling bad.
Become a less aggressive driver.
Relax.
Be an example of peace.
Turn your melodrama into a mellow-drama.
Embrace change.*
Do one thing at a time.
Defer gratification.*
Think of something you did right today.*
Be flexible with changes in your plans.
Think of what you have instead of what you want.
Practice ignoring your negative thoughts.
Be willing to learn from friends and family.
Be happy where you are.
Remember that you become what you practice the most.
Quiet the mind.
Become clutter-free.*
Make service an integral part of your life.
Do a favor and don’t ask for one in return.
Think of your problems as potential teachers.
Get comfortable not knowing.
Acknowledge the totality of your being.
Cut yourself some slack.
Stop blaming others.
Become an early riser.
When trying to be helpful, focus on the little things.
Remember one hundred years from now, all new people who won’t remember.
Lighten up.
Nurture something.
Remember, it’s the little things that will be remembered the most.*
When in an argument, look for the other point of view first.
Listen to your feelings (They are trying to tell you something.)
If someone throws you a ball, you don’t have to catch it.
Embrace change.*
Surrender to the fact that there is always something to do.*
Fill your life with love.
Realize the power of your own thoughts.
Give up the idea that “more is better”.
Keep asking yourself, “What’s really important?”
Remember, it’s the little things that will be remembered the most.*
Mind your own business.
Remember, this too shall pass.
Look for the extraordinary in the ordinary.
Treat others as if this were the last time you were going to see them.*
100. Live this day as if it were your last. It might be!
I'm in class and my teacher in health class put this up for us to help us this school year. Thought I would share it with everyone else