What would you do?

[Tiff-O-Bitties]

Do not move this to the relationships/sex section, please!!

Say that you have a best friend (of the opposite sex) and feelings b/w both people are stronger than just friends; however, you've tried the dating thing 2 times in the past and it didn't work... now, whenever you try dating someone else, you can't b/c your "best friend" gets jealous and vice versa...

What would you do? Explain.

[Hulud]

Do not move this to the relationships/sex section, please!!

Say that you have a best friend (of the opposite sex) and feelings b/w both people are stronger than just friends; however, you've tried the dating thing 2 times in the past and it didn't work... now, whenever you try dating someone else, you can't b/c your "best friend" gets jealous and vice versa...

What would you do? Explain.
dont worry what they think, i mean it didnt work theres nothing they can do now. if they are going to be that childish then you just have to stop being friends with them. because they are going to hold you back from finding that special person.

[Tiff-O-Bitties]

I don't really know what I'd do...

[Tasuki_Civic]

either work out your problems or jus be jealous until it goes away. im sure you dont want to stop being friends......but if it keeps up you mite miss out on someone good in tha future cause yall cant make up ya minds or you guys mite be a good couple.

[BTLFED]

dont worry what they think, i mean it didnt work theres nothing they can do now. if they are going to be that childish then you just have to stop being friends with them. because they are going to hold you back from finding that special person.

Exactly. :goodjob:

[Tasuki_Civic]

yeah or what hulud said jus stop it

[A.P. Photography]

dont worry what they think, i mean it didnt work theres nothing they can do now. if they are going to be that childish then you just have to stop being friends with them. because they are going to hold you back from finding that special person.
Sometime drastic measures such as this are called for. :(

[buddha@TeamFX]

Tiff hun...sit down and talk to him...and explain to him that if he wants to be with you then he needs to tell you and if he just wants to be friends he needs to understand that your going to be dating other guys..!!

[Tiff-O-Bitties]

^ that's kinda what i was thinkinng Buddha..

[buddha@TeamFX]

Tiff has buddha bear ever been wrong??...LOL...

[Darling Nikki]

hahahah buddha bear...hahahahaha

[Tiff-O-Bitties]

unfortunately, yes, he has, just like I have.

[Leisa]

I would definitely go with Bhudda... :)

[Hulud]

Tiff hun...sit down and talk to him...and explain to him that if he wants to be with you then he needs to tell you and if he just wants to be friends he needs to understand that your going to be dating other guys..!!
i had assumed she had already done that after two tries
but yea do that then what i said

[Tiff-O-Bitties]

i had assumed she had already done that after two tries
but yea do that then what i said

no no no.. we broke up the first time cause he wanted to be back with his ex (a 17 year old skank, by the way, he's 22)... we broke up the 2nd time after he cheated on me with a stripper, or a couple of strippers.. We never got back together, we just somehow became best friends again.

[Hulud]

no no no.. we broke up the first time cause he wanted to be back with his ex (a 17 year old skank, by the way, he's 22)... we broke up the 2nd time after he cheated on me with a stripper, or a couple of strippers.. We never got back together, we just somehow became best friends again.
and you would even fathom the thought of giving him another chance?

[babygurl]

Tiffy!

I know you are talking about! And I like him and all! But I have no respect for what he did to you! You deserve better than to be treated like that!

I agree with BUDDHA BEAR :lmfao: cute! That you should sit down and talk with him! IF he is getting jealous, and the feelings are still there....then tell him to be a real MAN! And not cheat, nor want to date a 17 year old skank! and TO TREAT YOU LIKE A FUCKING QUEEN! THAT YOU ARE!

Just sit down and talk to him about everything!

[babygurl]

and you would even fathom the thought of giving him another chance?


that is how I feel!

But it is her choice, and we as her friends, should respect it and try and support her! And Just warn him that if he screws her over again! He will get ran over!

[4dmin]

dating and being friends afterwards is always hard, you two just need to sit down talk about it, have some good makeup sex, etc... then answer the question :goodjob:

by the way i'm not jealous your dating other guys, just as long as i get a piece :lmao:

[Hulud]

that is how I feel!

But it is her choice, and we as her friends, should respect it and try and support her! And Just warn him that if he screws her over again! He will get ran over!
i respect her choice im just wondering if im missing something

[buddha@TeamFX]

I know the guy personally and he has a great heart and means well..We've been friends since 5th grade...and i think alot of him...but what he did to tiff was wrong...he's made some bad decisions...its time to make some decisions now hold up to them...

[babygurl]

I know the guy personally and he has a great heart and means well..We've been friends since 5th grade...and i think alot of him...but what he did to tiff was wrong...he's made some bad decisions...its time to make some decisions now hold up to them...


I am going to agree with BUDDHA BEAR!

I have known this guy a short time, but he has a good heart! he did make bad choices! SO I just say we beat him up a few times, and he will learn! LIRL!

[Kevykev]

In all my life experience I have realized that there is only one thing that matters.. And that is your individual happiness. That said, If you are involved with someone be it best friend or lover and they get in the way of your search for happines than cut them off.

In the end, we are all alone. It is most important to stay true to yor own wants and neeeds and not worry about making anyone else happy..

I guess basically what I am trying to say is do whatever makes you happy..... If you do not want to be romantically involved with your best friend than dont, and If you want to date other people than do it.. Regardless of whos feelings you hurt along the way! compromising your self happiness so another can sleep at night is moronic! And if the roles were reversed would you get the same from the other?? probably not. Your best friend, if he had the chance would get with whomever he wants given the chance..

Im done


take ot from me.. a homosexual negro

[Tiff-O-Bitties]

and you would even fathom the thought of giving him another chance?

i know, it makes me look stupid, but love is blind... it's true. Love stinks and love hurts.. I hate it, but it's one of those things..

Everyone who sees us together knows that we are beyond perfect... we keep trying this b/c we know that no one else could put up with us... it's ridiculous... He's an asshole and I'm a bitch... He gives me hell and I take it, and I do the same... I don't know.. I'm really just f*ing confused.. :rant:

[Hulud]

i know, it makes me look stupid, but love is blind... it's true. Love stinks and love hurts.. I hate it, but it's one of those things..
that is true


Everyone who sees us together knows that we are beyond perfect...
dont date someone based on others opinions

we keep trying this b/c we know that no one else could put up with us...
that cant be true, there are billions of people in this world, you just need to get out and meet people

it's ridiculous... He's an asshole and I'm a bitch... He gives me hell and I take it, and I do the same... I don't know.. I'm really just f*ing confused.. :rant:
thats good that you get along but whats to say he wont leave you again?

[Kevykev]

I have a great idea!!! you guys should have an orgy! Im serious.. a big sloppy orgy with baby oil!

i want you to live like a lesbian for a week and see if you like vagina or penis better!

now if you do, than your decision is easy!

Now if your best friend during your orgy gives a guy a reach around than your in trouble..

I want you to have an orgy with 4 men and 2 girls.. But dont sleep with your best friend during this baby oil extravaganza.. see what he will do?? we he go for the other woman or choose a sausage penetration! This will be the ultimate test of love for you 2

[PhAtBoYMr2]

i thought one of the options would be..."Run to Xlr8nmr2s arms while he warms me with his comfort and we spend the rest of the night making sweet love"

but that option wasnt on there....so im not voting...sorry

[ProjectWidow]

In all my life experience I have realized that there is only one thing that matters.. And that is your individual happiness. That said, If you are involved with someone be it best friend or lover and they get in the way of your search for happines than cut them off.

I completely agree. Making yourself happy first comes before anything else. I have learned this and try to tell other people. Its always sad to see girls and other people get hurt because they are doing things for other people and not themselves. I realized awhile ago, who cares what other people think of you?

I don't really know what to tell you Tiff but only you can make that decision. If you think he is the one for you then I would continue and try to work it out. But if he cheated on you twice then what makes you think he won't do it again? I read what other people said that he is a great guy and all, so then what makes him cheat? Im sorry that this happened to you twice but the best thing I can tell you is do what you think is right. Don't let anyone else's opinion influence yours. Just do what makes you happy even if that means trying to work things out with this guy.

[AtifSajid]

LOL^^

edit..damn why you got to hit post before I do?

[Kevykev]

I completely agree. Making yourself happy first comes before anything else. I have learned this and try to tell other people. Its always sad to see girls and other people get hurt because they are doing things for other people and not themselves. I realized awhile ago, who cares what other people think of you?

I don't really know what to tell you Tiff but only you can make that decision. If you think he is the one for you then I would continue and try to work it out. But if he cheated on you twice then what makes you think he won't do it again? I read what other people said that he is a great guy and all, so then what makes him cheat? Im sorry that this happened to you twice but the best thing I can tell you is do what you think is right. Don't let anyone else's opinion influence yours. Just do what makes you happy even if that means trying to work things out with this guy.


Dont agree with me bitch!

[Sledlude]

no no no.. we broke up the first time cause he wanted to be back with his ex (a 17 year old skank, by the way, he's 22)... we broke up the 2nd time after he cheated on me with a stripper, or a couple of strippers.. We never got back together, we just somehow became best friends again.


PLEASE have more respect for yourself than that- you are obviously a pretty girl who deserves better. If everything was great and you were meant to be and all that jazz, you wouldn't have broken up in the first place. It seems like you guys are both young so.... maybe there's a little growing up to do on both sides before ANYTHING (even a friendship) can work. As far as the jealousy thing goes, tell him to kiss your ass, you do what you want, he can always call up his 17 year old skank or stripper pals to keep him company.

when people treat you like shit, it's mostly because of thier own issues and not so much you. keep your head up and tell him to back the fuck up til he grows up. :) just my :2cents:

[IntegraXTR]

keep it on the low so the friend doesn't get jealous, that way you can do both of them. j/k

[Tiff-O-Bitties]

keep it on the low so the friend doesn't get jealous, that way you can do both of them. j/k

haha.. that's hard to do when he just shows up at my apartment at random times.... besides, i wouldn't do that anyway.

[ahmonrah]

yeah, y'all need to talk that shit out. for real. it's no use pinning all those emotions down cause what you 2 are doing now is taking what you really feel for eachother and trying to transfer that to someone else, hence the reason you 2 get jealous at eachother when you 2 date other people. there's a fire between you 2 dont deny it. either talk it out or your gonna end up doing something to eachother that will kill the friendship/possibility of being together. just face it.

[ahmonrah]

-PLEASE have more respect for yourself than that.........
-if everything was meant to be,you wouldn't have broken up in the first place
-maybe there's a little growing up to do on both sides before ANYTHING (even a friendship) can work.
As far as the jealousy thing goes.............
-when people treat you like shit, it's mostly because of thier own issues and not so much you. keep your head up ..... :) just my :2cents:


-if everything was meant to be,you wouldn't have broken up in the first place.... ......imo, not exactly true, but i feel you. i look at it like this. sometimes your with the right person but it may not be the right time......


-maybe there's a little growing up to do on both sides before ANYTHING (even a friendship) can work. :goodjob: that is needed on both sides from whati gathered from her first post.



As far as the jealousy thing goes............. they to me both have harbored feelings for eachother that goes beond friendship and that's the reason they both get jealous of eachother.


-when people treat you like shit, it's mostly because of thier own issues and not so much you. keep your head up ..... :) just my :2cents: :goodjob:

[JustinSane110™]

dont worry what they think, i mean it didnt work theres nothing they can do now. if they are going to be that childish then you just have to stop being friends with them. because they are going to hold you back from finding that special person.
:werd: Agreed completely.

no no no.. we broke up the first time cause he wanted to be back with his ex (a 17 year old skank, by the way, he's 22)... we broke up the 2nd time after he cheated on me with a stripper, or a couple of strippers.. We never got back together, we just somehow became best friends again.
Ummm.... fuck him (not literally though, lol). I mean if he's had 2 chances and fucked them both up (in epic ways) then fuck that. I mean I could understand if you had to break up cuz one of you moved away for school and couldn't handle the distance, or something like that but homey fucked up amazingly bad both times. Just move on and date other people and if he starts getting jealous and shit, then fuck him (again, not literally haha).

[RISKYB]

if its ment to be it will be if not them it wont just let it go and it will either progress or not in its own time, you cant rush or you will always be left with what if?

[Boosted S60R]

I agree with what budda has said tiff-o.

[LaurenK]

I say leave it alone, and let whatever happends...happen. If it hasn't worked in the past, it probably won't work this go around. Everything happends for a reason, so you never know. If it's meant to be it will be. :)

But...I wouldn't force the issue.

[thinkfast®]

Tiff if this is about me and you just let it go, I totally understand if you don't wanna be with me, yet you can't live without me. The whole stripper thing wasn't my fault.. I think I'm an addict and I will get help, I need help..

I'll be ok.

[Rabunchic]

Tiff,
I know both of you and I can see the feelings when you are together. Just do like Buddah says and sit him down and talk to him. I have known him longer than I have you but you both are good people.

[Tiff-O-Bitties]

Ricky, why did you have to do that to me? It really hurt, it still hurts... I can't sleep at night, all I do is cry... It makes me sick to think about you. I wish just for one second, you could feel the pain I feel. It's over.

[thinkfast®]

Tiff I dont think you understand, its more complex then me just cheatin on you.. this is indirectly your fault, believe it or not... I thought we could take this time apart so you could get your priorities in order, but it hurts me too, I dont care who knows it!!

Friday nite was so great, but then we get in front of the IA crowd at the meet and you put on a show, like I'm not even there? It hurts Tiff, but at least I can find comfort in your fun bags, they've helped me through some tough times

hold me?

[Tiff-O-Bitties]

Ricky, I am so tired of just being your sex toy, why can't you love me for me and not my "fun bags?" I've given you everything, I mean, everything... How could you just run off with some 17 year old tramp and with some nasty ass strippers? Have you even thought about what diseases you might be carrying? And then you come back to me and spread that shit around some more.. God... I won't ever hold you again, you are nothing to me, nothing. I didn't do shit in front of everyone at the IA meet because you didn't deserve it. You and I are over, Puto.

[thinkfast®]

they weren't nasty to me

plus that one chick, her heart aint even in it.. I'm just helpin her get through college.

this is a weak ass thread anyways. see if you get any more back door action again. EVER AGAIN.. nothin but throat babies from now on

[Tiff-O-Bitties]

tee hee hee... love ya ricky.. you can hold my fun bags anytime you want...

[JustinSane110™]

LIRL!!!! I just noticed the option says "other, please explain". :lmfao: :lmfao: :lmfao:

[thinkfast®]

tee hee hee... love ya ricky.. you can hold my fun bags anytime you want...

thats what I'm talkin about, I knew you'd come around

you know if I wasn't on cloud 9 sky high Friday I woulda jumped in the backseat w/ ya, you know, just to keep you company

LIRL

[Tiff-O-Bitties]

thats what I'm talkin about, I knew you'd come around

you know if I wasn't on cloud 9 sky high Friday I woulda jumped in the backseat w/ ya, you know, just to keep you company

LIRL


damn it, I was hoping for that... Yeah, ya'll were pretty much, well... um..... good to go... like... taco bell's crunch wrap supremes...

[thinkfast®]

damn it, I was hoping for that... Yeah, ya'll were pretty much, well... um..... good to go... like... taco bell's crunch wrap supremes...

please explain

[BTLFED]

Wow...this thread took a left.....hmm

~leaves~

[JustinSane110™]

Wow...this thread took a left.....hmm

~leaves~
Damn, you must've been coming the other direction, cuz it took a right from where I was going.

*checks map*

http://i23.photobucket.com/albums/b365/JustinSane110/ThreadDirection.jpg

:lmfao: :lmfao:

[BTLFED]

Yeah, I am going downhill. You are going up. Makes sense.

[nightracer]

tried sex yet :dunno: