my apology to IA and fellow mods........

[Scotsman]

I'm gonna try to keep this short and sweet. This past weekend my wife was gonna leave me and take my 21 month yr old son with her , i was told our marriage was on paper only. This all stems from my raging alcoholism . I have been battling this since i was 14 , it runs rampant in my family , here lately it has taken a serious toll on me. As i look back at threads i have started and post i have made , i am ashamed at the majority of it , some things i said i regret others i would still say in my sober state , i am not lookin for any pity by any means , and this is not a "look at me "thread . it is simply to explain some of my actions towards others , as of yesterday i checked my self into an outpatient rehab(i would do inpatient, but i have to continue to work to support my family) and am being put on antabuse meds this week , so again sorry to all those that i did hurt and offend

[-EnVus-]

Get better soon bro and remember better days are ahead

[Dylan]

It's ok buddy. I'm really proud of you for being able to stand up and take action. Regardless of whatever happens keep your head up.

[isa2o3]

You are all good man. We are going to have our differences, but we have been on here for years. Sometimes we fight and then we make up. At the end of the day everyone has the right to be here. And we are glad to have you here.

[ZOSICK]

Good choice looking for help when your family is in need rather than let it go..
i too tend to drink 6 coors lights every other day and post dumb ass stuff i would not post sober.. so good luck brother!

[Echonova]

Brotha... Being able to publicly admit there is a problem, is a big step in the right direction and not an easy thing to do. The first step down a long road is always the hardest. I cannot tell you (in a freaking internet post anyway) how proud I am of you. You have been battling this demon for a long time, and that fact there are actions behind the words this time gives me great hope.


You are a greater man than the sum total this world would have you believe.

[Catnip]

Brotha... Being able to publicly admit there is a problem, is a big step in the right direction and not an easy thing to do. The first step down a long road is always the hardest. I cannot tell you (in a freaking internet post anyway) how proud I am of you. You have been battling this demon for a long time, and that fact there are actions behind the words this time gives me great hope.


You are a greater man than the sum total this world would have you believe.

+1

Wish the best for ya, man.

[Austin?]

You need to spend time with you families instead of staring at the computer replying IA post. From the look of your post count you asking for a separation.

[-EnVus-]

You need to spend time with you families instead of staring at the computer replying IA post. From the look of your post count you asking for a separation.
His post count has nothing to do with the OPs thread of Topic

[Dylan]

You need to spend time with you families instead of staring at the computer replying IA post. From the look of your post count you asking for a separation.

Really? Grow up man.

[Austin?]

Really? Grow up man.
Shut the hell up dick face if I read correctly he want no pity.

[Julio]

1000 mile journey begins with 1 step... Good luck sir.

[Browning151]

It takes a lot to stand up publicly and acknowledge that you have a problem and that you're taking action to fix it and take care of your family, I don't know you personally but that says a lot about what kind of person you are. Best of luck with the recovery, I'm sure you'll have a ton of support from your IA family whenever you need it.

[Relentless]

Good luck with the rehab and your family, man. Hope it all works out for you.

[Scotsman]

thanks a million for the support everyone , except Austin , you are now up for ban friday , haha

[Scotsman]

Good choice looking for help when your family is in need rather than let it go..
i too tend to drink 6 coors lights every other day and post dumb ass stuff i would not post sober.. so good luck brother!heck i wish it was beers , it was straight gin (to mask the smell) and i lied to my wife for a couple years about , now i know deep down she knew the whole time

[Relentless]

thanks a million for the support everyone , except Austin , you are now up for ban friday , haha

hahaha ... good one !

[DarKStaR]

http://mauivents.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/08/MAUIVENTS.jpg

But seriously good luck man

[Scotsman]

actually just got back from picking up my blood work , i am very surprised my liver is not a raisin , some levels are as lil high (didnt surprise me) , but the counselor said i'm good to go for the meds

[Austin?]

Yea maybe I need a few days off of IA.

[Vteckidd]

I've found through personal experience the best thing is find another stimulating hobby. I gave up social binge drinking over a year ago and dedicated myself to gym and playing basketball.

Its an outlet, a mind occupier.

Find something to transfer that energy of drinking into something else. It helps.

Good luck man

[Scotsman]

I've found through personal experience the best thing is find another stimulating hobby. I gave up social binge drinking over a year ago and dedicated myself to gym and playing basketball.

Its an outlet, a mind occupier.

Find something to transfer that energy of drinking into something else. It helps.

Good luck manthanks man , you have def seen the beast , imagine that cut in half and thats the daily scotsman

[cactusEG]

No shame my good man. It takes a strong person to come out and admit they have a problem. You did right by enrolling yourelf in a program. Keep your head up and try ur best to move foward. You have all my support homie

[green91]

Congrats on taking the first step to get off the sauce. Take a few minutes now and write down why you are starting, what you are feeling, and what you've got to lose. It may help you to be able to go back and read what you were feeling months from now when the uphill challenge gets tougher.

[Dylan]

I guess you're 27 going on 12 lol. Good luck dealing with the real world one day :lmfao:

[Scotsman]

Congrats on taking the first step to get off the sauce. Take a few minutes now and write down why you are starting, what you are feeling, and what you've got to lose. It may help you to be able to go back and read what you were feeling months from now when the uphill challenge gets tougher.excellent idea

[Crazydelsol]

you are a cool guy! i hope everything goes well from now on!

[Scotsman]

I guess you're 27 going on 12 lol. Good luck dealing with the real world one day :lmfao::thinking:

[Echonova]

:thinking:Austin?'s age says 27...

[Scotsman]

Austin?'s age says 27...actually just caught that ,lol , thanks........

http://i41.photobucket.com/albums/e277/MrXX/falk.jpg

[Dylan]

actually just caught that ,lol , thanks

http://i41.photobucket.com/albums/e277/MrXX/falk.jpg

el oh el wut da fawk.

[Scotsman]

el oh el wut da fawk.you are way to young to remember who that is ,lol

[Dylan]

you are way to young to remember who that is ,lol

Well, that may be the case, however, you're so old that you know who it is!

[Scotsman]

Well, that may be the case, however, you're so old that you know who it is!touche

[silversol]

Robert man You made a huge step admitting you have a problem! Its runs in my family and luckaly i dont have a addictive personality. The person in my family with a major problem drinking still to this day wont admit they have a problem! Me any you have a history And if you ever need someone to talk to you know im only a phone call away!

[teh bri]

I'm gonna try to keep this short and sweet. This past weekend my wife was gonna leave me and take my 21 month yr old son with her , i was told our marriage was on paper only. This all stems from my raging alcoholism . I have been battling this since i was 14 , it runs rampant in my family , here lately it has taken a serious toll on me. As i look back at threads i have started and post i have made , i am ashamed at the majority of it , some things i said i regret others i would still say in my sober state , i am not lookin for any pity by any means , and this is not a "look at me "thread . it is simply to explain some of my actions towards others , as of yesterday i checked my self into an outpatient rehab(i would do inpatient, but i have to continue to work to support my family) and am being put on antabuse meds this week , so again sorry to all those that i did hurt and offend

It definitely takes a lot for someone to admit their faults. Trust me, been there and done that more than once. But the best way to look at it is, you're seeking help and you're putting in effort in supporting your family and that's all that matters. I'm almost going through the exact thing, besides the marriage part, so I know where you're coming from. If you need anything, you know how to contact me. Best wishes in your recovery and I wish and respect everything you're doing.

[metalmatt47]

It takes a real man to stand in front of a crowd of their peers and admit such a tragic flaw. You have the strength to stand out and admit your problem, so I hope you have the strength to follow through with your treatment. You're taking all the right steps and I really hope and pray that you'll make it out.

Keep it up man. I don't know you, but you don't seem like a half bad dude.




Best of luck with you and your family. Also, if you need to talk about it, we're all here.

[cferg94lude]

Good luck man, I haven't been here long and don't know you but like others have said it takes a real man to admit their faults. This will be a life long battle for you and I wish you the best of luck.

[jonbuice5591]

my cousin actually had a problem witht his last year and he too checked himself into an out-patient rehab and got put on some pain meds and he has been doing great ever since. he just hates whenever people are like hey man wanna come have a drink this weekend because he knows that if he takes one drink it will light his fire again and he wont be able to control it. good luck man! i know its a battle but you can conquer it.

[stretch]

I'm gonna try to keep this short and sweet. This past weekend my wife was gonna leave me and take my 21 month yr old son with her , i was told our marriage was on paper only. This all stems from my raging alcoholism . I have been battling this since i was 14 , it runs rampant in my family , here lately it has taken a serious toll on me. As i look back at threads i have started and post i have made , i am ashamed at the majority of it , some things i said i regret others i would still say in my sober state , i am not lookin for any pity by any means , and this is not a "look at me "thread . it is simply to explain some of my actions towards others , as of yesterday i checked my self into an outpatient rehab(i would do inpatient, but i have to continue to work to support my family) and am being put on antabuse meds this week , so again sorry to all those that i did hurt and offend

the first step to recovering from any problem, is to admit and come to terms with urself that u do have one. Props for taking the steps to better urself and save ur family. u have my blessings and i hope u stick to it, this site needs guys like u......
P.S. and for the idiot who is trying to kick this man while he is down, u are an insensative prick of a BOY. go sit ur ass down somewhere this is serious business here

[Bacon]

Come on, Scotsman. I need a sobriety buddy. I got your back, man.

[Sammich]

GL on battling alcoholism and fighting for your family which seems salvagable

[Brett]

Good Luck bro!! DO whatever it takes to make the wife proud, family is first

[GlennsEK]

Good Luck bro, your taking a big step in the right direction.

[Boosting EG]

Get better soon bro and remember better days are ahead

what he said

[Scotsman]

my cousin actually had a problem witht his last year and he too checked himself into an out-patient rehab and got put on some pain meds and he has been doing great ever since. he just hates whenever people are like hey man wanna come have a drink this weekend because he knows that if he takes one drink it will light his fire again and he wont be able to control it. good luck man! i know its a battle but you can conquer it.no pain meds for me , the meds i will be taking will make me violently ill if i have any alcohol at all , including mouthwash

[Dylan]

no pain meds for me , the meds i will be taking will make me violently ill if i have any alcohol at all , including mouthwash

That's the way to go. It's what my mom did and it worked, still sober 7 years to this day. You can do it if you really want to, all it takes is the will. :goodjob:

[Sammich]

i'm curious as i'm not fall out alcoholic, i go out on the weekends and get a drink, i've reduced myself to not drinking during the week...but to the real alcoholics, i guess to say, you cant have any alcohol once sober, unless you're ready to go back into drunkenness? thats crazy

[teh bri]

i'm curious as i'm not fall out alcoholic, i go out on the weekends and get a drink, i've reduced myself to not drinking during the week...but to the real alcoholics, i guess to say, you cant have any alcohol once sober, unless you're ready to go back into drunkenness? thats crazy

I've seen alcoholics go to rehab, get help and then have a drink every now and then when they go out with their family. I don't think they HAVE to stop drinking alcohol but they recommend them not to, in case the urge occurs again. Like I said, I DON'T THINK they have to, I may be wrong.

[Sammich]

yea i hope not, i hope they're at least able to at least have a beer every now and again w/o having to worry about going back to the same old drunken state. i try to keep myself under control so alcohol wont be my crutch.

[DA-TEG90]

It takes a lot to stand up publicly and acknowledge that you have a problem and that you're taking action to fix it and take care of your family, I don't know you personally but that says a lot about what kind of person you are. Best of luck with the recovery, I'm sure you'll have a ton of support from your IA family whenever you need it.

well said

[Scotsman]

Thats my issue though , I cant have just one , I dont have an off switch

[Xrated O.G.]

Thats my issue though , I cant have just one , I dont have an off switch


Well neighbor Im glad to see your taking the right steps in the right direction. I come from the old school of "tough love". So with that being said, if I hear or see of you having even a sip of the juice, I will in fact whoop your ass from one side of the neighborhood to the other. STAY STRONG BRO...

[RL...]

Atleast you are taking steps to get better...but getting rid of an addiction means changing your way of life...the people you hang with, your thought process, the activities you do...make a plan and stick to it and good luck.

[uproot]

Dang, just now seeing this. You're doing the right thing and I hope all goes well for you sincerely. If you need anything call me. for real. call me.

[gforce71]

Good luch man, you've got my number. call me if you need anything. I know you can do it if you really try!

[bodhi]

its unfortunate that your wife had to leave you for you to realize you needed serious help.

at 33 with an almost two year old and drinking as if you were a teenager is a good enough reason for any mother to leave...i hope you don't blame her and understand where she is coming from. i hope no one here has shown you pity because you dont deserve it - maybe your kid - but not you. now mainly focus on overcoming your issues no matter what it takes.

fuck and if you wish to get back with her in the future, show her how you're trying to better yourself not so much for you, but for your wife and kid.

[-EnVus-]

its unfortunate that your wife had to leave you for you to realize you needed serious help.

at 33 with an almost two year old and drinking as if you were a teenager is a good enough reason for any mother to leave...i hope you don't blame her and understand where she is coming from. i hope no one here has shown you pity because you dont deserve it - maybe your kid - but not you. now mainly focus on overcoming your issues no matter what it takes.

fuck and if you wish to get back with her in the future, show her how you're trying to better yourself not so much for you, but for your wife and kid.
She didnt leave and take the kid yet Alex....He still has a chance to show he can be a great father,Husband and sober man i know he will.

[bodhi]

i dont givva fuck, that's what WILL happen if he doesn't hurry and get sober


or is he going to wait till his liver gives out? ive seen this scenario several times, bro...i know what the fuck im talking about

[Sammich]

wtf you think he is doing

[Dracc]

Rob, man I support you 100%. I remember we had this convo when you changed your name on IA. first major step was publicly admitting you have a problem, but your working on the solution. you need anything man my number is the same (the 803 number)

[slostang]

Happy for ya dude! You need anything feel free to give me shout man.

[Scotsman]

will do

[Julio]

Just don't stop sending me those famous text.

[Scotsman]

Just don't stop sending me those famous text.the same to you ,lol

[Elbow]

I love you.

[Nemesis]

Good luck with everything, hate to see shit like this happen, but things happen for a reason and sometimes its for the better.

[Scotsman]

it def will be for the better

[Drummerboy]

It definitely takes a lot for someone to admit their faults. Trust me, been there and done that more than once. But the best way to look at it is, you're seeking help and you're putting in effort in supporting your family and that's all that matters. I'm almost going through the exact thing, besides the marriage part, so I know where you're coming from. If you need anything, you know how to contact me. Best wishes in your recovery and I wish and respect everything you're doing.

I misplaced that contact information, what was it again? :look:

Rob- You got this man. You know the family is more important than the momentary "escape" of alcohol. I know it's not exactly the same, but I quit smoking green a year ago tomorrow. It was hard, but I felt like so much more of a man when I quit. I felt more in control. Good luck with everything buddy, and if you need someone to take your mind off the stuff and want to chill, hit me up.

[98blackcivic]

i think u belong in ur homeland....
WHAT ARE U DOING HERE?!?!?!?!?!??!

[Scotsman]

i think u belong in ur homeland....
WHAT ARE U DOING HERE?!?!?!?!?!??!lol , thats the last place i need to be battling this addiction

[ludeguy420]

im proud of you robert.. i have know you for about 8 years now man.. i happy you are going to stop.. i know you have done some bad things while you were drunk ( i saw the b-day pic you sent danielle) but no worries man i knew you were drunk an would say your sorry for it later.. if you ever need to come a chill with us you know our number man.. yall still need to stop by our place for dinner one night.. but good luck man i know you can do bud just give me a call if you think about taking a drink agian. your wife an boys need you man.. dont be a dead beat dad an a drunk man.. your better than that man.. i know you are doing the right thing man