I feel I need to get this out...

[CHRISNITTOLO]

LOL...

[thecrazyone]

Well.. I have a huge problem... I am 18 with a 1 year old, and a dead beat baby momma that is old enough for anything(24). She just skipped out on us a couple nights ago. No calls and no answers. So what am I supposed to do? DFCS is giving me custody when legitimation goes through court(I am excited). And I do have a car, job, and housing. But a Baby!? And I say she is a dead beat because she is 24, no job, no steady housing, and another 4 year old she never makes effort to see. All she does is lie, cheat, and drink...

So.. What should I do??

1st

[bdydrpdmazda]

fuck er (not in the literal sense) you can only do what you can, just make sure she pays her child support or call the cops on her ass. Youre taking responsibility for your actions, make sure she does the same.

[CHRISNITTOLO]

LOL...

[bdydrpdmazda]

I really think she would rather go to jail.... Seriously...
then put her in jail, i bet she changes her mind after a little time in jail...

[speedminded]

More pics of her :camera:

[redrumracer]

whats her number?

[jR1_kS14]

cute baby man.

but damn brah, seems like you made some bad choices.

bad choices that basically changed the route of your life.

[speedminded]

lolol I don't want her...just needs pics to know who to stay away from haha!

[dallasb84]

get custody......

go back home to your parents.....

take the obama baby daddy college fund my fucking taxes are paying for....

and get a degree.....


then pay me back for my taxes to your dumb ass.....

[punkr6]

1-move back home with your mom and let her help you with the baby ( you're 18 and have no clue what to do with a baby )

2-Put that piece of shit bitch on child support

3-go back to school and learn something that will pay you enough to raise that kid right.

4-Teeth whitener ( its your friend )

[Elbow]

First: Quit being a whiny bitch on IA, asking IA for real advice is like sending your nudes to every girl on the site and expecting they keep their mouths shut. AKA stupid.

Second: Turn internet connection off to save money.

[DB4LYFE ™]

Damn

~DB4LYFE

[Catnip]

Second: Turn internet connection off to save money.


What if he's on the internet at the library, while he researches resources for aid in his situation?

[Me86Rob]

then put her in jail, i bet she changes her mind after a little time in jail...
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[BABY J]

Hey man --- what do u do for work... just outta curiosity and what is your living situaion (u and the kid, w/ the parents, etc).

[CHRISNITTOLO]

Lol...

[CHRISNITTOLO]

Lol...

[Julio]

If she was such a hoe like you are saying.. The 1st I would do is a DNA..

[dallasb84]

Hey... I'm payin' for that shit too...

lol use it man get some education and be a good parent

[CHRISNITTOLO]

Lol...

[EJdm]

wow good luck...

[B18c1Turboed]

Read this, then go file charges for

VI. CRIMINAL ABANDONMENT

If the mother or father of a child, which is either legitimate or born out of wedlock, abandons the child who is in a dependent condition, the abandoning parent commits the crime of child abandonment. When the abandoning parent does not furnish sufficient food, clothing, or shelter for the needs of the child, the child shall be considered to be in a dependent condition. O.C.G.A. 19-10-1.

Child abandonment shall be punishable as a misdemeanor, unless the abandoning parent leaves the state while the abandoned child is in a dependent condition. In that event, the abandoning parent shall be guilty of a felony, punishable by imprisonment of not less than one nor more than three years.



Child abandonment in Georgia; what does it mean? The criminal side, "Criminal Non-Support (Abandonment Warrant) Child abandonment is a misdemeanor offense in Georgia with a penalty of a $1,000 fine or up to 12 months in prison, when a parent has failed to provide sufficient food clothing, or shelter for the needs of the child for 30 days. (O.C.G.A sec. 19-10-1)."



Read the complete code here
http://law.justia.com/georgia/codes/19/19-10-1.html

[IMPORTchic]

Just please try to make the most conscience decisions for the child and never do anything just to get back at the mom. Forget her. Sounds like she would only bring heartache/drama to the childs life and not love. Good luck with everything.

[CHRISNITTOLO]

Lol...

[B18c1Turboed]

I was the only one taking care of her anyway, I still am...

Go file charges then man, make her grow up!!

[speedminded]

Read this, then go file charges for

VI. CRIMINAL ABANDONMENT

If the mother or father of a child, which is either legitimate or born out of wedlock, abandons the child who is in a dependent condition, the abandoning parent commits the crime of child abandonment. When the abandoning parent does not furnish sufficient food, clothing, or shelter for the needs of the child, the child shall be considered to be in a dependent condition. O.C.G.A. 19-10-1.

Child abandonment shall be punishable as a misdemeanor, unless the abandoning parent leaves the state while the abandoned child is in a dependent condition. In that event, the abandoning parent shall be guilty of a felony, punishable by imprisonment of not less than one nor more than three years.



Child abandonment in Georgia; what does it mean? The criminal side, "Criminal Non-Support (Abandonment Warrant) Child abandonment is a misdemeanor offense in Georgia with a penalty of a $1,000 fine or up to 12 months in prison, when a parent has failed to provide sufficient food clothing, or shelter for the needs of the child for 30 days. (O.C.G.A sec. 19-10-1)."



Read the complete code here
http://law.justia.com/georgia/codes/19/19-10-1.htmlIf the child was in the care of the father is it still abandonment?

[B18c1Turboed]

If the child was in the care of the father is it still abandonment?


Yes, because from what i take, they where not married. So he would have to legitimize that he is the father.

[e30pwr]

and to think i thought you were gonna be the irresponsible one. kudos to you, and fuck her. thats one hell of an atrocious woman

[CHRISNITTOLO]

Thank you...

[quickdodge®]

Yes, because from what i take, they where not married. So he would have to legitimize that he is the father.

If his name is on the birth certificate, then it is already legitimized. Later, QD.

[CHRISNITTOLO]

Lol...

[quickdodge®]

It hasn't been 30 days, either. I see this female going through the court and having her rights removed. She'll then be free of any responsibilities to the child and won't reap the (legal) woes of doing so.

The OP, I hope you're a better dude in real life than you portray on IA because if not, I feel for the child.

The only kudos I can give you right now is your word and intentions with this child. I have a feeling that this child will be majority raised by a grandparent.

We;ll see, I guess. Later, QD.

[CHRISNITTOLO]

Lol...

[BanginJimmy]

At 18 you have almost no chance to raise the kid right. Adoption is your friend. Do it while the kid is still young enough to not be negatively affected.

[PSINXS]

Well.. I have a huge problem... I am 18 with a 1 year old, and a dead beat baby momma that is old enough for anything(24). She just skipped out on us a couple nights ago. No calls and no answers. So what am I supposed to do? DFCS is giving me custody when legitimation goes through court(I am excited). And I do have a car, job, and housing. But a Baby!? And I say she is a dead beat because she is 24, no job, no steady housing, and another 4 year old she never makes effort to see. All she does is lie, cheat, and drink...

So.. What should I do??

are you dating my ex? lol

[CHRISNITTOLO]

Lol...

[PSINXS]

At 18 you have almost no chance to raise the kid right. Adoption is your friend. Do it while the kid is still young enough to not be negatively affected.

FUCK YOU. my aunt had her first child at 15, and all her kids make 6 figures plus. Age has nothing to do with it. its a maturity thing an obviously this guy is more mature than most 18yr olds. hes manning up tot take care of his kid.

a child needs their biological parents more than anything. i can tell you dont have kids. Even if he did put her up for adoption, 13yrs later she is gonna be trying to find her mom and dad to ask "why". my cousin found out he was adopted in his 20s and sure enough went looking for his biological parents.


Keep your child, the tramp doesnt deserve her and she deserves at least one good parent. Foster care and the state care is super bullshit!!!!! they dont give a fuck about those kids and most wind up being molested. heritage high school is full of girls that are left in state care. all of them were sluts and some had had sex witht the director of the group home.

[CHRISNITTOLO]

Lol...

[Firefightin_tC]

Wow to the OP.

Welcome to the Adulthood Crash Course.

Maybe time for a career change so you can better support your little girl?

[CHRISNITTOLO]

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[B18c1Turboed]

I had my daughter when i was 18 and her mom was 17 years old. We did an awesome job in raising her, she is now 12 years old. It aint the end of the world you just gotta work hard in it and have a family that will help you when you need it.

Anything is possible, it aint easy but you can do it!!


Fuck adoption, that is for little pussies that cant take care of their own shit.

[BABY J]

At 18 you have almost no chance to raise the kid right. Adoption is your friend. Do it while the kid is still young enough to not be negatively affected.

Wow.

Speechless on this one.

[CHRISNITTOLO]

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[Firefightin_tC]

That's what I was thinking... Thanks...Lol. (no sarcasm)

Only because it was one of the major reasons why I joined....

...look at joining a Fire Department. Benefits for you and your little girl, retirement (most places are 25 years and out.), and not to mention a group of guys who will always have your back. A family away from your family.

And not to mention chicks dig Firefighters.

[CHRISNITTOLO]

Lol...

[quickdodge®]

I had my daughter when i was 18 and her mom was 17 years old. We did an awesome job in raising her, she is now 12 years old. It aint the end of the world you just gotta work hard in it and have a family that will help you when you need it.

Anything is possible, it aint easy but you can do it!!


Fuck adoption, that is for little pussies that cant take care of their own shit.

Disagree with that comment. Later, QD.

[PSINXS]

how old is your child?

i may have some things around the house from when my son was little. LMK.

[PSINXS]

Disagree with that comment. Later, QD.

i can see y. some circumstances it is very necesssary.(drug addicts, lack of parents etc)

but he is capable and has family support. Adoption would be the pussy route here.

[quickdodge®]

i can see y. some circumstances it is very necesssary.(drug addicts, lack of parents etc)

Exactly.


but he is capable and has family support. Adoption would be the pussy route here.

Do you know this dude (the OP) personally. All we know is what we see on here. He presents himself well and I hope he is as good as he is posting in this thread. You see? Later, QD.

[B18c1Turboed]

THe thing is , you can lay down and make a baby.But you cant be person enough too raise it. Thats the problems with the people in this world, everyone thinks their is a simple fix for everything.

Dont bring a person into the world if you cant handle taking care of them. Plain and simple, i dont care if your a drug addict, drunk or so forth clean your shit up and raise your child. When i had my daughter i didnt have shit too my name, it made me grow up and face it. Just like everyone else should. Stop taking the easy way out pussies!!!

[Firefightin_tC]

I have one down the street from my house and from my work... How old do you have to be, what are the requirements? I'm about to turn 19 in March. It's funny, you know that band 311? That's my birthday...lol...

18 years old with a H.S. Diploma or a GED.

In decent shape? Able to solve simple problems? When I started I was 20, been fighting fire for almost 6 years now, best choice I ever made.

Then again I wanted to make some major money and actually improve myself, so I left Clayton County Fire Department and went overseas to make 75K.

[B18c1Turboed]

It easy enough too put on a condom also. But no you rather be selfish and enjoy the 2 sec of satisfaction. Rather then take care of your responsibilites. DONT HAVE SEX OR USE PROTECTION IF YOU AINT PERSON ENOUGH TOO TAKE CARE OF YOUR BASTARD CHILD!!!

[95alty]

Dude you need a career for starters. I dont know where you work but if your with moms that needs to be changed. Go join the military and use that as a way to really set in and get on your feet. Free childcare, healthcare, housing, and extra pay to take care of the young one. You cant beat that... and if your the sole parent with no support, there is ways around you being deployed. Just a thought though

[Firefightin_tC]

Gov't jobs FTW.

[95alty]

Gov't jobs FTW.


Except you do less and make a shit ton more than us... lol you double my salary hahahahaha

[MongolPup]

And not to mention chicks dig Firefighters.

While this is true, chances are OP is a bit burned out on women at that moment haha

[quickdodge®]

THe thing is , you can lay down and make a baby.But you cant be person enough too raise it. Thats the problems with the people in this world, everyone thinks their is a simple fix for everything.

Dont bring a person into the world if you cant handle taking care of them. Plain and simple, i dont care if your a drug addict, drunk or so forth clean your shit up and raise your child. When i had my daughter i didnt have shit too my name, it made me grow up and face it. Just like everyone else should. Stop taking the easy way out pussies!!!


It easy enough too put on a condom also. But no you rather be selfish and enjoy the 2 sec of satisfaction. Rather then take care of your responsibilites. DONT HAVE SEX OR USE PROTECTION IF YOU AINT PERSON ENOUGH TOO TAKE CARE OF YOUR BASTARD CHILD!!!

Easy to type and say, but not as easy to get it through someone's head. You're intentions are true, but after the fact, I love the fact that adoptions are an alternative. If someone gets pregnant through her own fault and neither Father nor Mother are able to care for that child that way he/she should be cared for, should they just be made to keep that child anyway? Saying, "You made the baby so now you're stuck with him/her." No! Why should the child suffer for the mistakes of the parents? They can put that child somewhere where a deserving person/persons can take the child and give him/her a good life. A better life than what he/she was brought into. Later, QD.

[Firefightin_tC]

Except you do less and make a shit ton more than us... lol you double my salary hahahahaha

That is true, Devil Dog. MWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!



While this is true, chances are OP is a bit burned out on women at that moment haha


True...but just laying down the ground work...

[§treet_§peed]

Dude that sucks ass and I feel for you. I hate dead beat parents. My dad left me when I was a baby. My grandparents ended up raising me for the most part. But like others said, DO NOT GIVE UP. Just think of your little girl man and it will help you get through anything.

[95alty]

Dude that sucks ass and I feel for you. I hate dead beat parents. My dad left me when I was a baby. My grandparents ended up raising me for the most part. But like others said, DO NOT GIVE UP. Just think of your little girl man and it will help you get through anything.

Sounds like a Dr.Phil episode:eek:

[§treet_§peed]

^ Maybe so. Either way, I fucking despise dead beat parents period. I don't give a shit if she has the finest pussy on this Earth. What she needs is a good kick in the cunt. I know a lot of girls that have had guys do this to them. All but two get child support, Gov.'t housing, free utilities, free and discounted groceries, hell even free clothes and toys for the kids. Just don't give up man.

[Vteckidd]

I can think of one thing I wouldn't do.....


Come on importatlanta and ask advice lol this has to be the worst group of people to ask advice from in the world. Half of them couldn't get laid to save their life the other half are whores haha

[ATL_EG]

I can think of one thing I wouldn't do.....


Come on importatlanta and ask advice lol this has to be the worst group of people to ask advice from in the world. Half of them couldn't get laid to save their life the other half are whores haha

oh irony

[CHRISNITTOLO]

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[quickdodge®]

I can think of one thing I wouldn't do.....


Come on importatlanta and ask advice lol this has to be the worst group of people to ask advice from in the world. Half of them couldn't get laid to save their life the other half are whores haha

I'm not so sure about all that. Later, QD.

[CHRISNITTOLO]

Lol..

[quickdodge®]

I think that he saying it's not a good idea...lol

I know what he was saying. And I stand by my comment. Later, QD.

[CHRISNITTOLO]

Lol...

[quickdodge®]

I don't blame you. But the think is... We are a lot a like... NOT EVERYTHING THOUGH...lol

You and I are lot alike? How so? And I'm just curious in a "not dissing" way. Later, QD.

[CHRISNITTOLO]

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[Paul]

give kid up for adoption - ton's of families would love to have a baby

[CHRISNITTOLO]

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[BABY J]

This guy has family around who is willing to help. It's not like they live in a van down by the river. I think that the kid will be better served around family - adoption should be a last ditch effort.

[quickdodge®]

give kid up for adoption - ton's of families would love to have a baby


That just pissed me off...

In a sense, Paul is correct. If there is any doubt in your mind whether or not you can do this, you should consider it. If you don't seriously and honestly think you can give this child a good, decent life (morally and healthy), there are many qualified, financially sound couples that can provide exactly what the child needs. Couples that can't have babies on their own for whatever medical reasons they have live for the day that someone calls and gives them info on a chance at being parents.

This isn't to say to do it, but to give the child a chance. If you KNOW you can do it and KNOW that you have ample help immediately if you can't at that moment, then you should think about it.

Good luck in your decision. I also hope you can do it as every child needs their biological parents and I would hate to see a child not being with his parents. But I would rather a child be with parents that can give him/her stability than not. Later, QD.

[Paul]

That just pissed me off... I fuckin love my child more than you would ever love anybody... I know for a fact that you've never had a son or a daughter before... come back when you get one. No offence...

well man it isn't the worst thing ever; my mother had the same situation and gave up a my older sister b/c she wanted to give her a better life than she could provide. my mother later married my father and had 3 boys. my sister found us about 15 years ago. she lives in marietta and we have a cool relationship.

you have to put your kid first. sorry i didn't read the whole thread but i disagree w/ kids having kids.

[CHRISNITTOLO]

There is no ditch on my road.

[CHRISNITTOLO]

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[Paul]

Last thing I have to say... I am taking responsibility for what I've done. I was 16 when I got her pregnant, but I STILL wouldn't change a thing...


adoption is being responsible if you can't provide for a baby. i'm almost 30 and i don't even feel like an adult... i can't see how an 18 yr old can provide for a baby. not to say you can't but the odds are against you and for your child. this is why my "children have children" stance is the way it is; judging by your last few comments and the post on here you aren't old enough to care for yourself let alone a baby on your own. i wish your kid the best man.

[CHRISNITTOLO]

Thnx for the input...

[Echonova]

Well.. I have a huge problem... I am 18 with a 1 year old, and a dead beat baby momma that is old enough for anything(24). She just skipped out on us a couple nights ago. No calls and no answers. So what am I supposed to do? DFCS is giving me custody when legitimation goes through court(I am excited). And I do have a car, job, and housing. But a Baby!? And I say she is a dead beat because she is 24, no job, no steady housing, and another 4 year old she never makes effort to see. All she does is lie, cheat, and drink...

So.. What should I do??Oprah is busy right now. Come back later.


I work at FedEx loading trucks(by hand), And I am now at my moms, But that child support sounds good.You mean robots don't unload the truck for you?

But you get money just for having kids?? I want in!!


I already did(this is to J). I wasn't going to make any big decisions until I knew... But i know she's mine...

And I didn't know there was that Obama thing...Oh looky, chance to get more money!! This kid thing is awesome!!


It all depends on the mood I'm in... Someone once told me "You can be anyone online". I wouldn't act like this in person.. I'm a real calm guy with a lot of morals and respect... I should apologize to myself about the way I portray myself here on IA... It's not really who I am... But I've been through a lot, and I'm trying to forget, and the best way is to see my little girl huge smile... It's funny, When I'm changing her diaper, in the middle of doing so, I stop... and give her a blank, straight face... and she gets the biggest grin and puts her hands on her face and starts laughing...Awwww... Then you hand her back to your mom and go smoke a cigarette. Good job


That just pissed me off... I fuckin love my child more than you would ever love anybody... I know for a fact that you've never had a son or a daughter before... come back when you get one. No offence...No offense (learn to spell correctly, I heard it's important when looking for a job), but you have no fucking clue what you are in for. Your whore of a baby momma took off and all you've done is post on IA. Try spending some fucking time with your kid that you love so much. Personally I have grown weary of your life story with just the little nuggets you've posted already.

When my first wife bailed on me... I was 24yrs old, making 65k a year and had all the support I could ask for and it was still hard as hell. Wait 'till you actually have to do some of the hard stuff.


Last thing I have to say... I am taking responsibility for what I've done. I was 16 when I got her pregnant, but I STILL wouldn't change a thing...Awesome.

[Jaimecbr900]

#1. Children having children needs to stop. It is simple enough to avoid. It's not like you trip and fall into someone's vagina and "oooops, she's pregnant".....it's totally avoidable in several ways. I agree with Paul that far too often people glamorize having children w/o taking into account the child(ren) at all. It's a very selfish act all the way. If you are in a commited relationship and you plan on marrying anyway, well that's one thing.....yet, it's still avoidable. You gotta pay to play, bottomline.

#2. I don't see the same "maturity" some of you see in the OP. See above for the first reason. Second, if you are the Father of a 1 yr old and don't know what to do about your 24 yr old GF......you really need to re-think your position as a father IMO. If you already knew she had other children she didn't take care of.....um, what are you doing having unprotected sex with her? That's a loser to begin with, right? I'm not saying not to get your dipstick wet, hell go for it. Just wrap it up. Harsh, yes. True, yes too.

#3. There are many avenues to pursue. If she already lost custody of one child, more than likely she's not going to be a tough contender if you take her to court. The child support part is only as good as what you can collect, yet it belongs to the CHILD so therefore should be pursued.

[ALVIN]

#1. Children having children needs to stop. It is simple enough to avoid. It's not like you trip and fall into someone's vagina and "oooops, she's pregnant".....it's totally avoidable in several ways. I agree with Paul that far too often people glamorize having children w/o taking into account the child(ren) at all. It's a very selfish act all the way. If you are in a commited relationship and you plan on marrying anyway, well that's one thing.....yet, it's still avoidable. You gotta pay to play, bottomline.

#2. I don't see the same "maturity" some of you see in the OP. See above for the first reason. Second, if you are the Father of a 1 yr old and don't know what to do about your 24 yr old GF......you really need to re-think your position as a father IMO. If you already knew she had other children she didn't take care of.....um, what are you doing having unprotected sex with her? That's a loser to begin with, right? I'm not saying not to get your dipstick wet, hell go for it. Just wrap it up. Harsh, yes. True, yes too.

#3. There are many avenues to pursue. If she already lost custody of one child, more than likely she's not going to be a tough contender if you take her to court. The child support part is only as good as what you can collect, yet it belongs to the CHILD so therefore should be pursued.


110% truth

[CHRISNITTOLO]

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[B18c1Turboed]

yet it belongs to the CHILD so therefore should be pursued.

Can you please call and talk too my baby mama for me then. Im tired of paying her 720 a month. :crazy:

[CHRISNITTOLO]

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[Jaimecbr900]

She had custody in the begining... She decided to fuck up...


What's your point? Is this something that makes YOU better somehow???? :thinking:

Danny: That's what you get for making all that cheese you make.....;)

[D3UC3S]

Best of luck to ya bud...raising a kid is the most mentally challenging thing i have ever had to do...im only 2 months in. I can't imagine doing this in your situation. our prayers are with you and your daughter.

[quickdodge®]

AND WHY THE FUCK WOULD DFCS GIVE A FUCKING 18 YEAR OLD FULL FUCKING CUSTODY IF THEY DIDN'T THINK THEY COULD DO IT!?!?!,

Because you live at your Mom's house. That's the ONLY reason.


They come out to my house every week to see if she has everything she needs(food, medicine, doctors appt., housing, and health).

I doubt that. I don't doubt that they check on the child, but if you're at your Mom's and they see the house is in good shape, they won't come out every week.


I think I got this. I've been doing this for long enough to KNOW what I can handle.

This comment is total bullshit, man. You have ZERO room to make this comment. Long enough to know what you can handle? Your child is but a year old. You haven't seen shit yet, man. You think you're going through the rough times now and you're handling it and that you "got this?" This is the easy part, homey. Take it from a couple of us (Echonova, Jaime and I) who have had multiple children. You haven't done a thing long enough to know anything.

You have a long ways to go, dude. And it's going to get tougher and tougher each day of the way. Take my word for it. I have a 25 year old, a 17 year old, a 7 year old and a 3 year old. I'VE been doing this long enough to know what's up.

Later, QD.

[CHRISNITTOLO]

*sigh

[87 Turbo II]

All I can day is good luck man. And think for the child's best interest with every decision you make. I'd have no idea what to do in your shoes but I respect that you have to go through it. I don't want to give any advice because I don't know enough about these things, and I also don't want to offend anyone or say something that you don't agree with but make sure your little girl gets the best life anyone can give her. Weather or weather not it be you.

[quickdodge®]

*sigh

Shitty attitude, man, but what can we say.

You got that.

Poor child. Later, QD.

[§treet_§peed]

I doubt that. I don't doubt that they check on the child, but if you're at your Mom's and they see the house is in good shape, they won't come out every week.


Later, QD.
I dunno about that man. This girl I used to be with has a kid now and a dead beat ex-husband. She's 31 now. Anyways, when he walked out on them and she started pursing the road to divorcing him and getting full custody. They were over at her house once a week then eventually once a month. I love that little two year old, and I can't hardly stomach the fact that someone could do this to a little kid. She has her own apartment and they also come out every month for a random inspection to make sure everything is good.

[quickdodge®]

I dunno about that man.

I've been at this stuff for a long time, dude. There could be different situations in these two cases. When my first wife and I split up, DFACS never even came around to check up on anyone. That's because everything was hunky-dory. My current wife is the only female out of six serious relationships I've had that did NOT have children from a previous relationship. I've been exposed to a lot of these situations. I could be wrong, but I don't know. Later, QD.

[§treet_§peed]

I've been at this stuff for a long time, dude. There could be different situations in these two cases. When my first wife and I split up, DFACS never even came around to check up on anyone. That's because everything was hunky-dory. My current wife is the only female out of six serious relationships I've had that did NOT have children from a previous relationship. I've been exposed to a lot of these situations. I could be wrong, but I don't know. Later, QD.I wasn't saying you are completely wrong. I was just stating that it is very possible.

[quickdodge®]

I wasn't saying you are completely wrong. I was just stating that it is very possible.

Oh of course it is. That's why I didn't say he was straight up BS-ing. Just said doubt it, but I agree.

But this dude seems to have it all under control and knows what's up so I don't see any reason for anyone else to chime in. Later, QD.

[1990wade]

GOOD LUCK MAN........I WISH THE BEST FOR U AND UR LITTLE GIRL:D

[ahmonrah]

Best of luck to you man, with so many women claiming most men in your situation as dead beats, I applaud you on handling this "oops" moment and taking initiative.

Unless you've already covered the dna section, request it anyway when you go file for support.

But file for support. The courts will handle making sure she will be in line, or face jail time if she doesn't handle her end of making this child.

But, outside of that, handle your biz, learn this lesson and make sure you don't have another "oops" moment.

Use duct tape, saran wrap and employ my method for prevention:

1) When you know climax is near, jump from bed.

2) Run to nearest A/V apparatus.

3) Press the ON button manually.

4) grab a towel and windex.

5) Clean screen of residue.

Trust, the woman will think your nuts, but at least you won't see her in 9mths!!! Lol!

[CHRISNITTOLO]

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[mn4a15]

Wow Damn i just read the whole fukn tread shitz crazy. Fuck Adoption 4 pussies dont let ur baby suffer that shit. its not the end of the world.c'mon son get it together:thinking:

[Catnip]

He has custody and he's willing to try.


Be mature and encourage him. It's one thing to make him aware of the adoption route, but it's another thing to discourage him. I'm older than him by very little and I don't know if I could do it. He sounds like he really wants to try and he really loves his daughter... get off his nuts.

Like I said in my PM, good luck and I wish the best for you and your daughter. I hope one day I'll have a little one or two.

[ilovemyhonda.]

fuck er (not in the literal sense) you can only do what you can, just make sure she pays her child support or call the cops on her ass. Youre taking responsibility for your actions, make sure she does the same.


agreed.

[BABY J]

Not a fan of child support. I was 14 when I made my mom stop the court order for mine. I don't want anything for my daughter that her mom doesn't give freely. PERIOD.

The courts weren't there when we made the kid and shouldn't be there afterwards. That's just how I view it.

It's like saying "Hey man, you stepped on my shoe - I think you owe me an apology." If you don't know what you owe on your own, then it's not worth me "asking" for it - I can do w/ out it.

GL

[quickdodge®]

There is no need for child support, I feel no need to do whatever I can to make her life horrible,

Man, for real, dude, you really need to pursue that child support. As much as you THINK you "got this," you need to think about the child before yourself. That child doesn't "got this." I just can't believe that you think you don't need the extra money. You barely make any money so you have to live at the parent's house. Why are you thinking about messing up the Mother's life with asking for child support anyway? You should be thinking about it benefiting your baby. You're going to need it. Contrary to your belief, you don't know shit, man.


Wow Damn i just read the whole fukn tread shitz crazy. Fuck Adoption 4 pussies dont let ur baby suffer that shit. its not the end of the world.c'mon son get it together:thinking:

You're an idiot, aren't you?


He has custody and he's willing to try.


Be mature and encourage him. It's one thing to make him aware of the adoption route, but it's another thing to discourage him. I'm older than him by very little and I don't know if I could do it. He sounds like he really wants to try and he really loves his daughter... get off his nuts.

And he gets big props for his attempts. No doubt about that.

He needs good words of encouragement, true enough. Words that will help keep his mind positive.........

But his thought processes in this are completely going to tear that baby up. I'm not trying to encourage or discourage him from anything. I'm trying to let him know what real life with a child is really like....and not what he thinks it's like.

His comments about "doing this too long" and "I got this" really showed his lack of understanding and knowledge as to how being a parent really will be. So I'm trying to knock it home on him that he is just looking at the tip of the iceberg when it comes to rearing a child. Later, QD.

[The Creeper]

This goes to show, Kids really shouldn't be having Kids. I mean what's done is done, but fuck, doesn't anyone know what a Condom or birth control is, or pulling out?

[quickdodge®]

This goes to show, Kids really shouldn't be having Kids. I mean what's done is done, but fuck, doesn't anyone know what a Condom or birth control is, or pulling out?

You're true to the core, but bringing this up now is pretty moot, you know? The child is here and you have to do the best you can to ensure it's healthy and safe upbringing. No sense in arguing/pointing out what should have happened, ya know. Later, QD.

[PSINXS]

adoption is being responsible if you can't provide for a baby. i'm almost 30 and i don't even feel like an adult... i can't see how an 18 yr old can provide for a baby. not to say you can't but the odds are against you and for your child. this is why my "children have children" stance is the way it is; judging by your last few comments and the post on here you aren't old enough to care for yourself let alone a baby on your own. i wish your kid the best man.

when you have a child, certain things go out the window and you man up if you have half a brain.

but he has his parents supporting him as well and he's not out on his own. and there is tons of gov't assistance for single parents. Women are no longer the only ppl they care about. they are giving fathers more recognition these days.

I dont have much stuff for 1 yr olds since my son is the same age. sorry. ( i really think you slept with my ex's equally evil twin.)

and yes you need to seek SOLE custody and Child support from her. i have a good attorney if you need one. Custody battles are no fun. the lawyer and judge would have a field day with your case.

[Catnip]

And he gets big props for his attempts. No doubt about that.

He needs good words of encouragement, true enough. Words that will help keep his mind positive.........

But his thought processes in this are completely going to tear that baby up. I'm not trying to encourage or discourage him from anything. I'm trying to let him know what real life with a child is really like....and not what he thinks it's like.

His comments about "doing this too long" and "I got this" really showed his lack of understanding and knowledge as to how being a parent really will be. So I'm trying to knock it home on him that he is just looking at the tip of the iceberg when it comes to rearing a child. Later, QD.

I think we both get what each other is saying now :goodjob:

[ilovemyhonda.]

This is a sucky sitaution and I already told you my views. QD, Jamie and a few others have made great points as well. Just do the best you can and make sure your daughter comes first. Anyone can do it, the real question is do you want to. I don't regret any day of my life just because I am a young mom. I just make sure he is my main priority and that he is always taken care of, and I love him with all my heart. Now I miss him, because I am talking and thinking about him.

[RL...]

hopefully the juice was worth the squeeze..

[ilovemyhonda.]

hopefully the juice was worth the squeeze..


lol that sounded funny.

[mn4a15]

You're an idiot, aren't you?

fuck you Go kill yourself!!!!! i know what i said was rough. but i have two cousin's that are currently going through this... both ladies are 16. they both have dead beat boyfriends that dont do shit. just hang in there buddy you got this.

[quickdodge®]

fuck you Go kill yourself!!!!! i know what said was rough. but i have two cousin's that are currently going through this... both ladies are 16. they both have dead beat boyfriends that dont do shit. just hang in there buddy you got this.

Shut up, man. You have no sensible input in this. Later, QD.

[Catnip]

fuck you Go kill yourself!!!!! i know what said was rough. but i have two cousin's that are currently going through this... both ladies are 16. they both have dead beat boyfriends that dont do shit. just hang in there buddy you got this.


I'm sure QD has at LEAST been around, been in, or seen this, as well.


*EDIT* Got ninja'd

[95alty]

Dont get angry about a comment when you post on here trying to vent... plus you should just take the ASVAB

[PURP]

Well.. I have a huge problem... I am 18 with a 1 year old, and a dead beat baby momma that is old enough for anything(24). She just skipped out on us a couple nights ago. No calls and no answers. So what am I supposed to do? DFCS is giving me custody when legitimation goes through court(I am excited). And I do have a car, job, and housing. But a Baby!? And I say she is a dead beat because she is 24, no job, no steady housing, and another 4 year old she never makes effort to see. All she does is lie, cheat, and drink...

So.. What should I do??

there's only one answer to this question... Get your priorities in line and take care of that baby... nothing else needs to be said... or done...

[StreetHazard]

Im glad abortion is still an option

[ep9716]

Why do people think it's okay to post this on IA?

No one gives two shits really.

[BABY J]

Why do people post in threads that they don't give 2 shits about??

[BABY J]

Also - the fact that people don't "care" about shit like this is fine... bc threads like this aren't asking for people to "care". There are LOTS of intelligent people on here who have more brain-power for thinking that others... sometimes people just need to bounce ideas off of others. No1 forces you to read these threads or comment in them.

[ludeguy420]

itd called dont be a dummy cum on the tummy man..

[LizBiz]

Also - the fact that people don't "care" about shit like this is fine... bc threads like this aren't asking for people to "care". There are LOTS of intelligent people on here who have more brain-power for thinking that others... sometimes people just need to bounce ideas off of others. No1 forces you to read these threads or comment in them. QFT :cheers:

http://www.beaugrande.com/Dont%20Rain%20on%20My%20Parade.jpg

just sayin...

OP, I think you should just do the best that you can by yourself. If she's a dead beat now, what is adding child support gonna do? But you can try. Idk too many in this situation, but that's my :2cents:

[ep9716]

Also - the fact that people don't "care" about shit like this is fine... bc threads like this aren't asking for people to "care". There are LOTS of intelligent people on here who have more brain-power for thinking that others... sometimes people just need to bounce ideas off of others. No1 forces you to read these threads or comment in them.

But why on IA?
I just find it funny..Tell your family or someone in person..
Why online?

[LizBiz]

But why on IA?
I just find it funny..Tell your family or someone in person..
Why online? Why not on IA? :thinking:

[BABY J]

But why on IA?
I just find it funny..Tell your family or someone in person..
Why online?

IA is like any other subculture. It just happens to be the premier place for the automotive subculture in GA and surrounding states. You know what most subcultures have in common? Weirdos. LOL. Go to a skatepark and look around for 10 minutes --- WEIRDOS!! Go to a cyber-cafe and look around for 10 minutes - WEIRDOS!! There are lots of people that if it wasn't for car-culture they really wouldn't identify with any other people at work/or in their life - not their fam, not their other friends. Look on here... there are people who get along w/ screenames that they have never met better than they do the family that is downstairs having family night while they post upstairs alone w/ a beer. LOL. Also - the web is like a shrink - it's no-names. It's random advice from random people. Just like Yahoo! Answers. Look at how much personal shit people put out there. Doesn't take much thought to see why threads like this exist online.:goodjob:

[BABY J]

BTW - I crack hard at shit like this. I joke around can be pretty harsh just to get a few laughs, but then I follow that up w/ what I think is the best advice that I can give. So yeah, I'm fuck w/ ya for a bit but then I'll try to help the next man out w/ some of my thought-processes. My .02

[quickdodge®]

If she's a dead beat now, what is adding child support gonna do?

Wow. Later, QD.

[RandomGuy]

My current wife is the only female out of six serious relationships.
Later, QD.
outofcontextOWNDloljk




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[Firefightin_tC]

Wow...this is still going?

By the by, OP Gov't Jobs...county, city, state, national...

...Firefighters (WOO!)

...Police Officer (You need to be 21 though...)

...Post Office...

etc...etc...

Better than loading boxes.