POLL: How Secure Is Your Relationship

[BABY J]

Your gf/bf/wife/husband calls you at work - asks you what you want for dinner... she/he makes your fav dinner and after a delicious meal - just before you're done eating he/she says...

Him/Her: "You know I love you very much right?"

YOU: Yes

Him/Her: "Okay - so you said that I can talk to you about anything right?"

YOU: Yes

Him/Her: *crying* I had sex w/ Baby J(or some1 else, but it'd actually prob be me if you're a guy and if you're a girl let's say it's some chick :) ) ... it didn't mean anything. He wasn't even that good... okay, I'm lying... it was good. But he has a small dick... okay - I'm lying, that fucker is huge! But it will NEVER happen again (b/c he/she is moving far away... but she leaves that out)... LOL.


Do you work it out? Do you break up on the spot? Do you get a divorce???

[SiRed94]

Kill all parties involved.

[nreggie454]

Wouldn't hit her or anything, but it would be over. Don't think I'd ever be able to trust her again.

[u8myore0]

Kill all parties involved.

rep'd.

[stillaneon]

Your gf/bf/wife/husband calls you at work - asks you what you want for dinner... she/he makes your fav dinner and after a delicious meal - just before you're done eating he/she says...

Him/Her: "You know I love you very much right?"

YOU: Yes

Him/Her: "Okay - so you said that I can talk to you about anything right?"

YOU: Yes

Him/Her: *crying* I had sex w/ Baby J(or some1 else, but it'd actually prob be me if you're a guy and if you're a girl let's say it's some chick :) ) ... it didn't mean anything. He wasn't even that good... okay, I'm lying... it was good. But he has a small dick... okay - I'm lying, that fucker is huge! But it will NEVER happen again (b/c he/she is moving far away... but she leaves that out)... LOL.


Do you work it out? Do you break up on the spot? Do you get a divorce???

I'd break up with her. Unless it was with you. I'd be honored.


Wait, are you moving?

[roche]

I send her back for more.

[BABY J]

Wouldn't hit her or anything, but it would be over. Don't think I'd ever be able to trust her again.

So what you are saying is that Trust is stronger than Love... correct?

[stillaneon]

So what you are saying is that Trust is stronger than Love... correct?


Thought they were the same thing?

[Vteckidd]

cut her head off and mount it on a stake outside my domicile letting all future bitches know what happens when you cheat

[nreggie454]

So what you are saying is that Trust is stronger than Love... correct?

I think that they go hand in hand. I can't love someone fully if I don't trust them fully. Don't want to be second guessing everything she does if I go out of town or something.

[MistaCee]

I'll tell her I fucked her friend/friends and if I actually didn't I'll make it my duty that they get my revenge meat.

[BABY J]

LOL @ Kidd.

So you hold her above being human??? Is your relationship not bigger than a mistake? If it's not then what's the point of being in it if it's so disposable?

[stillaneon]

LOL @ Kidd.

So you hold her above being human??? Is your relationship not bigger than a mistake? If it's not then what's the point of being in it if it's so disposable?

If it was once, I could be a little more understanding, but how disposable was your relationship to her if she's out screwing other guys. Part of a relationship is being faithful.

[§treet_§peed]

Well that will never happen to me. Unless you chop my hand off, cause my hand and I have a very strong and close relationship.

[BABY J]

If it was once, I could be a little more understanding, but how disposable was your relationship to her if she's out screwing other guys. Part of a relationship is being faithful.




^^ That's something to consider b/c I rarely fuck some1 just once... *pops collar*

But isn't part of a relationship working things out? She promised to never do it again. Does that not stand for something or is her/his word total JUNK from now until death?

[roxie911]

So what you are saying is that Trust is stronger than Love... correct?

I don't think you can have love without trust. I couldn't trust my ex after he cheated. We tried to work things out, but he could never fully regain my trust and it killed our relationship.

[Me86Rob]

Ive been cheated on b4. Homie dont play dat. bishes out the door.

[BABY J]

I don't think you can have love without trust. I couldn't trust my ex after he cheated. We tried to work things out, but he could never fully regain my trust and it killed our relationship.

Was it that he could never regain your trust, or could it be that you could never get over yourself (ego) enuff to allow yourself to trust him?

Those are 2 different things.

[BABY J]

Ive been cheated on b4. Homie dont play dat. bishes out the door.

Have you ever cheated before?

[roxie911]

Was it that he could never regain yoru trust, or could it be that you could never get over yoruself (ego) enuff to allow yourself to trust him?

Those are 2 different things.

Both, I guess. Plus the fact that I got yelled at for getting upset about it when I found out about it. That's probably the main reason, actually (now that I'm talking about it). Never felt like he was sorry.

I still stand by what I said though. I don't think you can have love without trust. If you tell someone you love them and that you want no one else, then you need to stick by it. I would break up with someone before I ever had sex with someone else.

[BABY J]

AAAAAAHHH

So if he showed remorse or made u feel that he was genuine in his apology for his lapse of judgement then possibly it could have worked out. Yes?

I also assume that every1 feels that their relationshp(s) are secure.

[oneSLOWex]

Cheating is cheating....you cant forgive them for something like that no matter what. Obviously the relationship meant nothing when they were doing it....so why should it matter now?

If you forgive someone for something like that....you are weak.


Alcohol is not an excuse either..you still know WTF you are doing.

[BABY J]

Cheating is cheating....you cant forgive them for something like that no matter what. Obviously the relationship meant nothing when they were doing it....so why should it matter now?

If you forgive someone for something like that....you are weak.

Alcohol is not an excuse either..you still know WTF you are doing.

^ I bet you just opened a can of worms. LOL

[roxie911]

AAAAAAHHH

So if he showed remorse or made u feel that he was genuine in his apology for his lapse of judgement then possibly it could have worked out. Yes?

I also assume that every1 feels that their relationshp(s) are secure.

I honestly don't know. I'd like to say it would've solved everything, but I still think the trust would've been gone.

[stillaneon]

^^ That's something to consider b/c I rarely fuck some1 just once... *pops collar*

But isn't part of a relationship working things out? She promised to never do it again. Does that not stand for something or is her/his word total JUNK from now until death?

Who knows. would go on a case by case. I have been cheated on by 3 previous girls in a row. So I went into my most current relationship already guarded.

I also have a kid with the current one, so it changes things a little bit too. I really don't think that the answers of going off to fuck her friends is good.

[BABY J]

^^ Damn. How did you find out about the previous 3 girls cheating?? Did u wake up w/ AIDS one day or did they tell you outright?

[stillaneon]

^^ Damn. How did you find out about them cheating?? Did u wake up w/ AIDS one day or did they tell you?

The first one admitted it. She got drunk (guy was trying to get her drunk to fuck her) She was actually a good girl. I was her first and she honestly was sorry.

Second one isn't proven, but I drove by her house and a guy was there (that she subsequently ended up dating after she and I broke up)

The third fucked God knows how many. Luckily only one of them was Man enough to tell me, even though it took a while for him too. All the guys that she dated in the last 3 years are on this site. Even before he did, I had my suspicions. (Girls like this crack me up, because she would get pissed after we broke up if she found out I was talking to someone else even though she was screwing our room mate).

[MistaCee]

Cheating is cheating....you cant forgive them for something like that no matter what. Obviously the relationship meant nothing when they were doing it....so why should it matter now?

If you forgive someone for something like that....you are weak.


Alcohol is not an excuse either..you still know WTF you are doing.


I agreed with this post 100%. You have to go through a mental process before cheating.

[punkr6]

its more of a respect issue for me, If your girl don't respect you and your relationship enough not to cheat. what's the point in being together...

[oneSLOWex]

its more of a respect issue for me, If your girl don't respect you and your relationship enough not to cheat. what's the point in being together...

QFMFT!!

[BABY J]

its more of a respect issue for me, If your girl don't respect you and your relationship enough not to cheat. what's the point in being together...


So ... have you cheated?? Or are the rules different for men and women?

[oneSLOWex]

I agreed with this post 100%. You have to go through a mental process before cheating.

YUP! If someone can sit and say its not hard or they dont care....then why be in a relationship with someone? Theres not point.

[MistaCee]

So ... have you cheated?? Or are the rules different for men and women?

The rules should be the same but I think soceity takes it harder on the a female more than a male. IMO

[stillaneon]

So ... have you cheated?? Or are the rules different for men and women?

Sure I have, then I grew up. I'm not saying that if you are single and a married woman wants you not to go for it. You're single. And it's not your job to make her moral decisions for her.

[EL42]

it's a double edged sword,because it's like you should have trust and common sense. if you had common sense you'd see it coming. but if you had trust you wouldn't believe cheating would be possible. like this one corolla meet,i was driving my car and i looked over at this girl-powered porsche. i was like man that car looks like fun. then i went to start my car later and it almost didn't want to. my car told me to stay focus on what i love before i fuck it up.(i think there's a point in there somewhere)

[MistaCee]

Sure I have, then I grew up. I'm not saying that if you are single and a married woman wants you not to go for it. You're single. And it's not your job to make her moral decisions for her.


Karmas a bitch.

[punkr6]

So ... have you cheated?? Or are the rules different for men and women?

I refuse to play your twisted game any longer.....:2up:

[BABY J]

it's a double edged sword,because it's like you should have trust and common sense. if you had common sense you'd see it coming. but if you had trust you wouldn't believe cheating would be possible. like this one corolla meet,i was driving my car and i looked over at this girl-powered porsche. i was like man that car looks like fun. then i went to start my car later and it almost didn't want to. my car told me to stay focus on what i love before i fuck it up.(i think there's a point in there somewhere)

I lost you right at the part that started with "it's".

[MistaCee]

it's a double edged sword,because it's like you should have trust and common sense. if you had common sense you'd see it coming. but if you had trust you wouldn't believe cheating would be possible. like this one corolla meet,i was driving my car and i looked over at this girl-powered porsche. i was like man that car looks like fun. then i went to start my car later and it almost didn't want to. my car told me to stay focus on what i love before i fuck it up.(i think there's a point in there somewhere)

I think that would make me want that porsche more lol:D

[stillaneon]

Karmas a bitch.

Oh, I did it once. It bit me in the ass.

Trust me.

[punkr6]

it's a double edged sword,because it's like you should have trust and common sense. if you had common sense you'd see it coming. but if you had trust you wouldn't believe cheating would be possible. like this one corolla meet,i was driving my car and i looked over at this girl-powered porsche. i was like man that car looks like fun. then i went to start my car later and it almost didn't want to. my car told me to stay focus on what i love before i fuck it up.(i think there's a point in there somewhere)

i now have a headache....

[MistaCee]

Oh, I did it once. It bit me in the ass.

Trust me.

Same here(wasn't married though) but you live and you learn.

[punkr6]

Same here(wasn't married though) but you live and you learn.

some people never learn...

[roxie911]

it's a double edged sword,because it's like you should have trust and common sense. if you had common sense you'd see it coming. but if you had trust you wouldn't believe cheating would be possible. like this one corolla meet,i was driving my car and i looked over at this girl-powered porsche. i was like man that car looks like fun. then i went to start my car later and it almost didn't want to. my car told me to stay focus on what i love before i fuck it up.(i think there's a point in there somewhere)

:lmfao::lmfao::lmfao:

I know. My baby is soooo irresistible lmao

[stillaneon]

Same here(wasn't married though) but you live and you learn.


Yep. I just realized that none of the shit is worth the drama.

If a girl is going to cheat on you, she probably thrives on Drama.

[u8myore0]

some people never learn...


qft. couldnt agree more.

[MistaCee]

some people never learn...

Well thats when they should plead insane. Doing the same thing expecting different results.


Yep. I just realized that none of the shit is worth the drama.

If a girl is going to cheat on you, she probably thrives on Drama.

Very true and there are alot of drama queens out there. Me personally if I was really feeling a girl and she cheats on me I'd completely lose any feelings I had for her, she wasn't worth my time I wouldn't want to dwell any longer on that.

[EL42]

i now have a headache....
my bad:(

I think that would make me want that porsche more lol:D
:thinking: some things are best left the fantasy there meant to be

I lost you right at the part that started with "it's".
:???: sorry

:lmfao::lmfao::lmfao:

I know. My baby is soooo irresistible lmao
:ninja: causing strife in my automotive relationship.lol

[punkr6]

Well thats when they should plead insane. Doing the same thing expecting different results.

who said they are expecting different results ?

[MistaCee]

who said they are expecting different results ?

Well I guess I mistaken you. I'm guessing you meant some people don't want to learn or they just don't care.

[roxie911]

my bad:(

:thinking: some things are best left the fantasy there meant to be

:???: sorry

:ninja: causing strife in my automotive relationship.lol

Don't hate because she's beautiful ;)

[JDMbabe]

ive tried working things out after cheating and try
to trust them again but i never really gained it back either
and relationship is just falling apart. I say fuck the hoe!

[roxie911]

ive tried working things out after cheating and try
to trust them again but i never really gained it back either
and relationship is just falling apart. I say fuck the hoe!

This girl :goodjob:

[Stol3n]

Kill all parties involved.

x2. :goodjob:

[Vteckidd]

i treat it like a business decision. I know what im worth and i respect myself more than to stay with someone that would abuse my trust like that.

Im VERY trusting, i have had girlfriends that were friends with other guys and stuff it never bothers me. Just like i have girl friends doesnt mean im trying to bang them(although most i would haha).

its just a simple respect issue, if you cheat you are gone. It means you have something ingrained in you that is a quality i dont want to associate with. If you want to cheat, at least have the balls to break up with me or end it before you do something like that.

If i was in a relationship and some other chick wanted to do something and i had the urge to go through with it, it means my relationship was already in trouble.

Ive never cheated, although i was cheated on once

[u8myore0]

i treat it like a business decision. I know what im worth and i respect myself more than to stay with someone that would abuse my trust like that.

Im VERY trusting, i have had girlfriends that were friends with other guys and stuff it never bothers me. Just like i have girl friends doesnt mean im trying to bang them(although most i would haha).

its just a simple respect issue, if you cheat you are gone. It means you have something ingrained in you that is a quality i dont want to associate with. If you want to cheat, at least have the balls to break up with me or end it before you do something like that.

If i was in a relationship and some other chick wanted to do something and i had the urge to go through with it, it means my relationship was already in trouble.

Ive never cheated, although i was cheated on once



i love u. dont tell anyone ha.

[Vteckidd]

i love u. dont tell anyone ha.

shhhhhhhhhh we dont want anyone to catch on to us

[u8myore0]

shhhhhhhhhh we dont want anyone to catch on to us



ha it was bound to happen!!!!!!!:D

[bdydrpdmazda]

murder solves all problems

[neon_ert3]

kill that bitch

[BABY J]

Yeah - she'd be dead and ud be getting raped in prison - sounds fair.

[LizBiz]

LOL @ this thread.

There's really nothing you can do but move past it with him/her or without him/her (even tho trust is kinda shot to hell). Anything can happen in a relationship when you're not married. I'd be pissed for a min, when I cool off I'd want to talk about it and see wtf they want so we can move on. If I was married and that happened OR it wasn't the first time you cheated........you might want to call the cops before you even tell me.

[Firefightin_tC]

Respect, Trust, and Love.

It's a fookin' triangle. And without one of them, they all fall.

You can't respect someone you don't trust and love.

You can't love someone you don't trust and respect.

You can't trust someone you don't love and respect.

You get the picture.

Cheating is a touchy subject. I've been cheated and I've cheated before. I'm not proud of it, but I'll gladly man up and admit my mistakes.

Personally, I'm a guy who keeps a small circle of trust who I'd trust with my life. And in a relationship it's the same way, which has proven to be a fault at times. But regardless, once you betray my trust...it's very hard to get it back, not to say it isn't possbile.

But the odds are stacked against it.

[MistaCee]

LOL @ this thread.

There's really nothing you can do but move past it with him/her or without him/her (even tho trust is kinda shot to hell). Anything can happen in a relationship when you're not married. I'd be pissed for a min, when I cool off I'd want to talk about it and see wtf they want so we can move on. If I was married and that happened OR it wasn't the first time you cheated........you might want to call the cops before you even tell me.


I have a question why would it be so different if you was married as opposed to a commited relationship?

[CHRISNITTOLO]

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