Children Crying in Restaurants?

[Princess12]

How do you guys feel about children crying in a family restaurant atmosphere?

Here's the story:

My husband and I have a 3 Month old little girl, who we took to dinner with us tonight at the request of the couple whom we were dining with. It was the first time they had the opportunity to meet her, and we were excited to do so.

We chose to eat at the local Mexican restaurant, which is a family oriented atmosphere that we dine at very frequently. Well, being that our daughter is only 3 months old, her temperament is pretty unpredictable, and she just happened to be fairly cranky this evening.The couple who we were with made several very rude comments to us about her interrupting and disturbing other people who were in the restaurant. It's not like she was screaming incessantly or even letting out loud shrills. To say the least, I spent a majority of the evening with my daughter in the car.

So... if you are dining in a family oriented restaurant, and a child cries occasionally during your meal, how does it make you feel?

[TIGERJC]

makes me want to punch the baby

until you're able to control your child or the child is old enough to understand that they need to be quiet, then you need to leave the child with a sitter when you go out to eat, to the movies or any public gathering that loud children are not welcome

["B"]

^ That is such bullshit.


She wasn't at the movies or anywhere that is isn't acceptable. She was a restaruant.

[redrumracer]

I voted absolutely intolerable. Basically I don't mind at first noise, but at the first noise I believe the parent should take them somewhere and calm them down. If that can't be done then what Tiger said.(minus the punching part.)

[Mr. Clean]

yeah it pisses me off pretty bad. if i have to listen to it more than a couple of times i want to to punch the parent in the face lol. as mean as it sounds, i agree with tiger... until the kid is old enough to know when to hush, don't take them out. sounds like your baby wasn't doing anything ridiculous like crying non-stop or screaming, but it still sucks when you have to listen to it. i don't have kids for a reason lol. i don't want to listen to what i have chosen not to get into yet.

[.::UNKNOWN::.]

makes me want to punch the baby

until you're able to control your child or the child is old enough to understand that they need to be quiet, then you need to leave the child with a sitter when you go out to eat, to the movies or any public gathering that loud children are not welcome completly agreed just bc most people dont try and calm their children down they just hand them something to keep them occupied for a few seconds

[TIGERJC]

^ That is such bullshit.


She wasn't at the movies or anywhere that is isn't acceptable. She was a restaruant.
Other families are trying to enjoy themselves and it is really hard if you can't hear the person next to you because of a crying baby. You want a kid friendly restaraunt, then go to chucky cheese.

[Princess12]

As I mentioned, I did get up and sit in the car with her so my husband could enjoy the rest of dinner with our friends when I was unable to completely console her.

I understand that there is a fine line between it being ok and unreasonable, hence my move to the car.

[HyPer50]

If your at mcdonalds fine, but if your at an actual sit down resteraunt, you need to control your kids or not bring them.

[HyPer50]

^ That is such bullshit.


She wasn't at the movies or anywhere that is isn't acceptable. She was a restaruant.

Are you stupid? As I said in previous post, unless your at a fast food resteraunt or a KIDS resteraunt don't bring your screaming ass baby with you. I'm not paying more than $5 for a meal to have to sit and have a baby screaming beside me. Maybe the opinion changes when you become a parent, but when I become a parent I plan on having the COMMON SENSE and respect for people to not bring a child into a sit down resteraunt when they are still unable to behave.

Screaming at any resteraunt is "unacceptable" and if you think otherwise... refer to my first sentance.

[TIGERJC]

As I mentioned, I did get up and sit in the car with her so my husband could enjoy the rest of dinner with our friends when I was unable to completely console her.

I understand that there is a fine line between it being ok and unreasonable, hence my move to the car.
That was nice of you and I am glad that you will be passing on your manners down to your child.

I hate it when parents don't think of others and will just allow their kid to keep crying like nothings wrong. I was at a funeral awhile ago, and while the eulogy was going on a baby was cutting up and just yelling for attention. Instead of thinking of others trying to hear the eulogy, the mother just let the kid keep crying. If I was a member of the family I would have asked the mother to take the child out of the church

[BluesClues]

I don't think a child crying is that big of a deal, but if they are screaming and kicking and just pretty much throwing a fit, then you and the child should leave until they are consoled (just what you did). Some people have to understand that children are people too. Just like the rest of us, they deserve to go out and eat. They shouldn't be excluded just because they are kids. Kids will be kids. Some are just not at the age of understanding of how to act when in public. Even some adults don't know how to act when in public. Some people just need a little more tolerance. I think until some people have kids, they will not understand. I don't have kids, but I know what it's like to be around children. I have more tolerance for their behavior.

[HyPer50]

I don't think a child crying is that big of a deal, but if they are screaming and kicking and just pretty much throwing a fit, then you and the child should leave until they are consoled (just what you did). Some people have to understand that children are people too. Just like the rest of us, they deserve to go out and eat. They shouldn't be excluded just because they are kids. Kids will be kids. Some are just not at the age of understanding of how to act when in public. Even some adults don't know how to act when in public. Some people just need a little more tolerance. I think until some people have kids, they will not understand. I don't have kids, but I know what it's like to be around children. I have more tolerance for their behavior.


I perfectly understand that once I have a kid, I won't be able to go to Mt. Fuji or some other decent sit down resteraunt without a baby sitter... Other people don't need more tolerance, parents just need more respect and need to consider things before they do them. Kids don't belong everywhere.

[Princess12]

That was nice of you and I am glad that you will be passing on your manners down to your child.

I hate it when parents don't think of others and will just allow their kid to keep crying like nothings wrong. I was at a funeral awhile ago, and while the eulogy was going on a baby was cutting up and just yelling for attention. Instead of thinking of others trying to hear the eulogy, the mother just let the kid keep crying. If I was a member of the family I would have asked the mother to take the child out of the church

Thank you, and yes, I understand. I really just wanted other inputs. I'm a first time mom, and a crying child has never really bothered me even before I was pregnant. I did apologize to the couple sitting behind us as I walked out of the restaurant, and they said they understood and it was not a problem.

[BluesClues]

I perfectly understand that once I have a kid, I won't be able to go to Mt. Fuji or some other decent sit down resteraunt without a baby sitter... Other people don't need more tolerance, parents just need more respect and need to consider things before they do them. Kids don't belong everywhere.

If it's a family restaurant like Applebees or Red Lobster, then children should be allowed. If it's a more upscale restaurant, then I can understand. She was talking about a family place. Also, movie theaters are family places too. Do you all forget that there are kid movies? Are they not allowed to see those? lol

[redrumracer]

If it's a family restaurant like Applebees or Red Lobster, then children should be allowed. If it's a more upscale restaurant, then I can understand. She was talking about a family place. Also, movie theaters are family places too. Do you all forget that there are kid movies? Are they not allowed to see those? lol
If they wanna throw a fit in the movie theaters then they don't deserve the movie.

[blaknoize]

doesnt bother me at all

[Atlblkz06]

Kids will be kids. If you think they're "absolutely intolerable" - you can go fuck yourself.

Parents are responsible for them to an extent - but its a very play-by-ear situation.
Wow so your little girl is 3 months old eh? The last time I saw one of your threads you were pregnant. Time FLIES!!

[Princess12]

Kids will be kids. If you think they're "absolutely intolerable" - you can go fuck yourself.

Parents are responsible for them to an extent - but its a very play-by-ear situation.
Wow so your little girl is 3 months old eh? The last time I saw one of your threads you were pregnant. Time FLIES!!

Yeah I know! It seems like just yesterday! She will be 4 months old on 4/1. It's crazy how fast time goes by!

[HyPer50]

If it's a family restaurant like Applebees or Red Lobster, then children should be allowed. If it's a more upscale restaurant, then I can understand. She was talking about a family place. Also, movie theaters are family places too. Do you all forget that there are kid movies? Are they not allowed to see those? lol


Children are not the same thing as screaming kids. Screaming kids belong in no resteraunts other than fast food and chucky cheese.

[green91]

I vote absolutely intolerable. In a sit-down restaurant, the entire purpose of going is to sit down and eat a meal.. its a convenience and a break away from home. If Im paying for a meal thats suppose to be convenient and relaxing and having service bring the food and refills to me.. i should absolutely be entitled to a relaxing atmosphere. Hearing a kid screaming incessantly is ruining the entire point of eating a meal away from home.

[RL...]

makes me want to punch the baby

until you're able to control your child or the child is old enough to understand that they need to be quiet, then you need to leave the child with a sitter when you go out to eat, to the movies or any public gathering that loud children are not welcome

x2

[Humphrizzle]

after a while, i'll leave if it is that much of a nuisance

[quickdodge®]

I can guarantee you that the each one of you who posted a negative attitude about NOT taking your child out to eat has NO children of their own.

When you have a child (if you do), I guarantee that you change your ways of thinking. Just because you have children does NOT mean you are automatically home bound until the child grows up. That's ludicrous thinking. I agree 100% about movies, but as far as restaurants, that's a different story. Now with any four of mine, when he/she started acting up and would not calm down after a minute or so, I or my wife would take the child somewhere to calm him/her down. I wouldn't and can't stand for a child to just be left to cry until he/she is done crying.

But there is no reason at all that parents with younger children can not go to a nice restaurant with their children. I understand you voicing your opinion about liking it or not, but you have no voice when it comes to what a parent should or should not do unless you've lived on the other side of the fence.

For the record, neither of my four were really that bad in our dining out experiences. Later, QD.

[GLulic]

yea a 3 month old is understandable but if its like a 5 year old making too much noise then it would piss me off badly.
ages 13-18>4-13

just sayin'

[redrumracer]

I can guarantee you that the each one of you who posted a negative attitude about NOT taking your child out to eat has NO children of their own.

When you have a child (if you do), I guarantee that you change your ways of thinking. Just because you have children does NOT mean you are automatically home bound until the child grows up. That's ludicrous thinking. I agree 100% about movies, but as far as restaurants, that's a different story. Now with any four of mine, when he/she started acting up and would not calm down after a minute or so, I or my wife would take the child somewhere to calm him/her down. I wouldn't and can't stand for a child to just be left to cry until he/she is done crying.

But there is no reason at all that parents with younger children can not go to a nice restaurant with their children. I understand you voicing your opinion about liking it or not, but you have no voice when it comes to what a parent should or should not do unless you've lived on the other side of the fence.

For the record, neither of my four were really that bad in our dining out experiences. Later, QD.
You remove your children until they calm down, and that's the main thing that upsets me is when they don't do that.

[IMPORTchic]

First off...there is a HUGE difference from a crying baby to a crying child IMO. Babies cry and there is not too much you can do sometimes to prevent it 100%. Usually though whatever the reason be that they are crying for, it is easy to fix unless, they are sick or it is nap/bed time in which they should be doing just that and not be out. I am nanny to 3 different infants for over a year now so I should know that much. As far as a 2, 3, 4+ year old.....I feel that they should not be allowed to cry in a public resturants/places. They should be taken out immediately and probably be disciplined b/c they are more than likely throwing a fit. What gets me though is not the crying baby or crying 3yr old b/c they are tired/having a bad day/whatever....its the screaming and shouting child with no manners that is crawling around everywhere and the parent is not getting onto them and enforcing it. I want to go jerk those kids up and whoop their ass myself and make them sit there properly like a child should. No child in my family has ever been allowed to act like such in public. We ALL knew better.:no:

But to the OP....sounds like you done the right thing by taking the baby out. I know that probably sucked for you, but that is a good/respectful thing you done. It kind of bothers me to know that they other couple made such "rude" comments when the KNEW it was a baby and babies cry. Me personally.....if the baby was just kind of fussy and not screaming I would have just continued on with my dinner b/c every mexican place I have ate at is loud anyways...so what does it matter? lol Very good question and point. :goodjob:

Every child will have a bad day every once in a while, but that does not mean that they should be home bound until older. If that happens then it will be starting at square one when you do get them out. The oldest baby I keep is prime example. She is 13 months at the end of this month and she HATES people besides me and her mom/granny/dad. THat is b/c she was never socialized as a younger infant. So now...when they tried to take her out last week....she screamed the whole time from anxiety of being in new places with new people. Kids will learn. Even as infants. All of my lil cousins learned VERY young to even sit through church and be quiet but they were living terrors at home....so goes to prove.....decent behaving children in public CAN be had. :yes:

Sorry for the ranting..I am half asleep! lol

[quickdodge®]

You remove your children until they calm down, and that's the main thing that upsets me is when they don't do that.

Right. That's the part where I agree with the annoyance. But if a child cries out because he/she is hungry and it takes a second to fix the bottle or whatever is on that child's menu, then give it a second. If the crying is incessant, then the right to get upset is valid.

Another thing I might add. I was very aware of annoyances so I did not go to nice restaurants very often at all BECAUSE I knew that I might have a chance of ruining someone else dinner.

I have a good time now because my oldest daughter has a daughter of her own now (two months old) and watching her go through the motions is amusing, lolol. Haven't been out to dinner with her with the baby yet, though.

Later, QD.

[IMPORTchic]

I can guarantee you that the each one of you who posted a negative attitude about NOT taking your child out to eat has NO children of their own.

When you have a child (if you do), I guarantee that you change your ways of thinking. Just because you have children does NOT mean you are automatically home bound until the child grows up. That's ludicrous thinking. I agree 100% about movies, but as far as restaurants, that's a different story. Now with any four of mine, when he/she started acting up and would not calm down after a minute or so, I or my wife would take the child somewhere to calm him/her down. I wouldn't and can't stand for a child to just be left to cry until he/she is done crying.

But there is no reason at all that parents with younger children can not go to a nice restaurant with their children. I understand you voicing your opinion about liking it or not, but you have no voice when it comes to what a parent should or should not do unless you've lived on the other side of the fence.

For the record, neither of my four were really that bad in our dining out experiences. Later, QD.

You dear king of asses.....has said it pretty much perfectly!!! lol :ninja: *runs*

Seriously though...hit it right on the head! :goodjob:

[redrumracer]

Man QD, didn't think you were that old, your a grandfather, late congrats I guess.

[GLulic]

Man QD, didn't think you were that old, your a grandfather, late congrats I guess.
lol how exactly old is he?:ninja:

just askin'

[T34me]

why the fuck are parents bringing kids into movies that are rated R for a reason. When the first re-do of The Texas Chainsaw Massacre(sp) came out, there were couples with their infants/toddlers with them. ARE YOU FUCKING HIGH????? And bringing kids into restraunts....Im sure by now you know you know how your kid acts...is he quiet...or an obnoxious bitch....not rocket science. If he is option B, dont bring them the fuck out.

[FriskyWalrus]

why the fuck are parents bringing kids into movies that are rated R for a reason. When the first re-do of The Texas Chainsaw Massacre(sp) came out, there were couples with their infants/toddlers with them. ARE YOU FUCKING HIGH????? And bringing kids into restraunts....Im sure by now you know you know how your kid acts...is he quiet...or an obnoxious bitch....not rocket science. If he is option B, dont bring them the fuck out.now i wouldnt exactly go that far. a parent can know how the child reacts at home but doesnt know how they will react at a restaurant. as well as they may have been taken to restaurants previous times and had no problem with the child but something at that point in time, may have caused the child to react and cry or get upset. now me personally, i can stand a child crying. i guess its just one of those things you get used to. when i was younger, it annoyed me but not that much. now, i just block it out

[vinayak]

Okay I have a 3 year old boy, he has never been real fussy. Even when he was cutting teeth he never really cried or acted like he was in discomfort. He has only puked 1 time in his hole life and only been sick a handful of times. Yes I am very lucky.

As far as the other couple that is pretty shitty of them to get upset when a 3 month old cries. They wanted you to bring your child. If i were your husband I would have told them not to have children after there comments. I would really look at that "friendship".

If a child is > 2 crying is expected and never wrong. Chances are a > 2 year old child does not have the verbal skill to tell the parent what the hell is wrong. Crying is the only way.

Now if the child is < 3 it has the verbal skills to tell what the fuck wrong with them. If a child over 3 is acting up it really not there fault either. This is what they have learned is acceptable from there parents. People are a direct extension of there parents. Parents do not do a good job raising there children it shows.

To the op you did the right thing. It sounds like a bad night out and the comments from your "friends" did not help. Do not let that discourage you in going out. Since I have had my son i have not gone to the movies in 3 years. I have trust issues when it comes to letting my child stay with people. I really do not want to be in the news if someone where to hurt him.

[BobbyFresco]

It's easy to pass judgement when you're not a parent. Life doesn't end just because you have children and I don't understand why some of you suggest that parents of young children should not be able to enjoy the same activities that the rest of society can partake in. However, there is a distinct difference between a three month old baby crying in comparison to a 5 year old child.

[Arm&hammer]

it would piss me off if the child was never calmed down.
but since she tried to make the child stop crying and she took care of it it wouldn't bother me.

[ironchef]

Can't stand it. Its almost as bad as a kid crying on airplane.

[Buttons]

I was at the court house the other day trying to get a title for my car. The lady in line had three kids, two able to walk and one who looked about a few months old. The baby was in the stroller, but it was crying at the top of its lungs. And the mom didn't even look at the baby. That bothers me. The mom could have at least tried to calm the baby down or something. My mom ended up going over there and rocking the baby til it hushed.

To an extent, it bothers me. I know kids will be like that. I took my niece out the other day. She's 10 months old. Sometimes she is the best baby in the world, but sometimes she's just really fussy. If she starts crying, I try to calm her down. If I can't calm her down, we just leave. I don't like bothering people.

So you did the right thing. You at least tried to make it stop. And when it didn't, you took your baby away.

[Total_Blender]

When I was little I went everywhere with my mom. The thing about infants is, like everybody said, you have to socialize them. Once they get used to crowds they are usually OK. You just have to anticipate what they want (which is usually just a diaper change, titties, or just attention). Basically the same things an 80 year old man wants :ninja: .

When my sister and I were kids (3-7) knew if we showed our ass she would not hesitate to take us outside and spank us, she kept a hickory switch in the car. And we'd get another one when we got home. :lmfao:

[Buttons]

You dear king of asses.....has said it pretty much perfectly!!! lol :ninja: *runs*

Seriously though...hit it right on the head! :goodjob:

x2. But the OP has to consider her audience, most of these responders are immature guys.

[RL...]

I can guarantee you that the each one of you who posted a negative attitude about NOT taking your child out to eat has NO children of their own.

When you have a child (if you do), I guarantee that you change your ways of thinking. Just because you have children does NOT mean you are automatically home bound until the child grows up. That's ludicrous thinking. I agree 100% about movies, but as far as restaurants, that's a different story. Now with any four of mine, when he/she started acting up and would not calm down after a minute or so, I or my wife would take the child somewhere to calm him/her down. I wouldn't and can't stand for a child to just be left to cry until he/she is done crying.

But there is no reason at all that parents with younger children can not go to a nice restaurant with their children. I understand you voicing your opinion about liking it or not, but you have no voice when it comes to what a parent should or should not do unless you've lived on the other side of the fence.

For the record, neither of my four were really that bad in our dining out experiences. Later, QD.

Much like how my opinion is that of a single person without a child, yours is also biased because you do have children. I understand children are our future and they are important, most importantly to their parents, but they don't need to be interrupting everyones' conversations and making the atmosphere uncomfortable for everyone.

I'm not saying parents need to stay in with their children until the children mature, but if a child starts screaming and causing a ruckus in public then the parent should know/find a way to calm him/her down, and if he can't why should the child be everyone elses problem?

[twiztid cc]

Kids will be kids. If you think they're "absolutely intolerable" - you can go fuck yourself.



:cheers:

[Kourt]

I don't mind if its a little baby (like yours) who you can't relate what they need to you and may just feel bad or tired. But when the kid is 2-6 years old and screaming/acting up it pisses me off because they are old enough to know better and old enough for the parent to do something with. So I can tolerate a baby, but not children who need discipline.

[quickdodge®]

I was at the court house the other day trying to get a title for my car. The lady in line had three kids, two able to walk and one who looked about a few months old. The baby was in the stroller, but it was crying at the top of its lungs. And the mom didn't even look at the baby. That bothers me. The mom could have at least tried to calm the baby down or something. My mom ended up going over there and rocking the baby til it hushed.

To an extent, it bothers me. I know kids will be like that. I took my niece out the other day. She's 10 months old. Sometimes she is the best baby in the world, but sometimes she's just really fussy. If she starts crying, I try to calm her down. If I can't calm her down, we just leave. I don't like bothering people.

So you did the right thing. You at least tried to make it stop. And when it didn't, you took your baby away.

I will rue the day that God "blesses" you with a child. People like you should NEVER reproduce. Later, QD.

[Buttons]

I will rue the day that God "blesses" you with a child. People like you should NEVER reproduce. Later, QD.

At least I try to take care of the kids with me unlike other people.

[Paul]

i only have respect for people who know how to control their children; when we have kids if they start crying and won't stop you excuse yourself and leave the table w/ child

[quickdodge®]

i only have respect for people who know how to control their children; when we have kids if they start crying and won't stop you excuse yourself and leave the table w/ child

So you're admitting to respecting me? AWESOME! Later, QD.

[mike's02ls1]

I have a 22 month old, and understand where you are coming from. It doesn't bother me to hear a baby crying, but the baby is screaming non stop then it would be the right thing to do, and step outside until the baby is calmed down.
The other folks have no idea what you are going thru, and won't until they have children...

[Kevykev]

It can be annoying at times but I try to be as understanding as possible. Sometime parents want to go out as a family so i clearly understand why they would bring they're small child into a public family environment.

if you're child gets to the point where they hinder the enjoyment of others,then it's your responsibility as a parent to take proper action.

People who say that parents shouldn't bring there kinds into a public family environment are ignorant a-holes, totally unrealistic.

I'm not even a parent but I try my best to be fair in understanding a situation like this.

[keva52]

i dont have kids of my own but since my sister is a full time nurse i look after her 2 y/o most of the time. if he acts up in a public place i wont hesitate to take him off and calm him down of slap him on the hand if he is just throwing a temper tantrum..

my mother and myself are the only two that can control him. when he goes back to my sisters on her days off he is a hellyn but when hes with me or my mother he's a perfect angel.

but you did the right thing by taking her to the car to calm her down, thats what i think any good parent would do.

[man]

why did your husband stay?

[Princess12]

why did your husband stay?

The waiter was dropping off his margarita at the table as I was getting up to go outside, and I told him to just sit down and enjoy it. He doesn't get to do that very often.

[RL...]

I will rue the day that God "blesses" you with a child. People like you should NEVER reproduce. Later, QD.

Thank you.

Since you say that I'm just going to assume you think it's fine to bring your child to a restaurant, let him scream all he wants while disturbing everyone in the immediate area for the duration of the meal. That would be so inconsiderate to everyone around you it's not even funny. Perhaps you're the one who isn't suited for parenthood....

It's funny how you always make me the bad guy when my opinions/perspectives are pretty damn valid. :rolleyes:

but qd, if you think that doing what i said above is wrong and maybe you have even the slightest bit of consideration in you, then you're just an ass for playing devils advocate.

[RL...]

i dont have kids of my own but since my sister is a full time nurse i look after her 2 y/o most of the time. if he acts up in a public place i wont hesitate to take him off and calm him down of slap him on the hand if he is just throwing a temper tantrum..

my mother and myself are the only two that can control him. when he goes back to my sisters on her days off he is a hellyn but when hes with me or my mother he's a perfect angel.

but you did the right thing by taking her to the car to calm her down, thats what i think any good parent would do.

Exactly, but apparently QD disagrees, and would leave his child to disturb everyone....:no:

[RedEj8]

The only time it bothered me was when we were at a Hibachi restaurant where you have to sit at the table with 10 other people.. This kid started crying very loud and the bitch wouldn't take the kid out of the room to calm it down and just let it sit there and cry and scream.. We couldn't even carry on a conversation because it was so loud we would've had to yell to hear each other.

Baby finally quit crying/screaming 10 mins later... I wanted to slap a bitch. That is not something I want to hear at a restaurant with a quiet atmosphere where plates are $20 and up..

If the baby isn't right next to me, as in across the room, then it doesn't bother me.

[RL...]

The only time it bothered me was when we were at a Hibachi restaurant where you have to sit at the table with 10 other people.. This kid started crying very loud and the bitch wouldn't take the kid out of the room to calm it down and just let it sit there and cry and scream.. We couldn't even carry on a conversation because it was so loud we would've had to yell to hear each other.

Baby finally quit crying/screaming 10 mins later... I wanted to slap a bitch. That is not something I want to hear at a restaurant with a quiet atmosphere where plates are $20 and up..

If the baby isn't right next to me, as in across the room, then it doesn't bother me.

it was prob QD:ninja:

[LizBiz]

I can tolerate it at a restaurant, that's not a problem at all. But when it comes to movie theaters....that's a BIG no no. I don't know why people are bitching and moaning cuz ya'll asses did the same thing when ya'll were a kid lmao.

[amandDA]

an occasional wimper from a baby is normal but when they sit there and keep at it, it makes me think that the parents r irresponsible and need to control their kids.

[NAMNORI]

I've got a 20 month old and a 10 month old i know exactly how you feel (op) my wife and i have had to skip many dinner events and chances at hanging out with friends because our children were in bad moods. Yes even for me its annoying but maybe that's because i've got very little patience. I love kids but sometimes they can be too much. for those of you who can't take it at all, go fuck yourselves. Babies and toddlers crying are part of life get over it.


Just remember how you treat your kids because they are the ones that will chose your nursing home!!!

[quickdodge®]

Much like how my opinion is that of a single person without a child, yours is also biased because you do have children. I understand children are our future and they are important, most importantly to their parents, but they don't need to be interrupting everyones' conversations and making the atmosphere uncomfortable for everyone.

Here's the thing, stupid, and this will really set the bar for your level of stupidity pretty high, I used to be single with no children.


Wha-wha- WHAAAAT!!!!!

Call it one of nature's oddities, but it's true. Most people are indeed single and childless before they are married and having children. So, Einstein, I too know what it's like to be on the other side of that fence. Holy fuck you're an idiot.


Since you say that I'm just going to assume you think it's fine to bring your child to a restaurant, let him scream all he wants while disturbing everyone in the immediate area for the duration of the meal. That would be so inconsiderate to everyone around you it's not even funny. Perhaps you're the one who isn't suited for parenthood....

You really didn't read my initial post in here, did you? Did you just see that I posted and respond? You do know that makes you more the moron, yes? Parenthood? I hope you never enjoy those days. In fact, I wouldn't shed a tear to learn that you don't even get a chance to enjoy tomorrow.


but qd, if you think that doing what i said above is wrong and maybe you have even the slightest bit of consideration in you, then you're just an ass for playing devils advocate.

Careful, dude. Your stupidity is showing. Do you even understand what you quoted and responded to? Or is this another case of seeing a post with my name tagged on it and just rambling?

As for your other attempts, I find it humorous that you're trying to target me in your luster to gain fame from showing off how much higher your lower educational skills are than most everyone else on the board.

Later, QD.

[RL...]

QD, you're obviously better at me than e-thugging it out online. I'll give it to you, I bet you feel so badass! Congrats you're cool here on IA. :lmfao: props.



You take this internet forum stuff very seriously don't you...:rolleyes:

tisk, tisk, tisk...

I'm still right, and you're wrong.

[SuperChicken]

Shit, at McDonalds, most of the adults behave FAR worse than most of the kids there!!! I was in a McD's last week, and there was one woman in there screaming into her cell phone in like, Nigerian, or something...made me jump several times! And there was another lady there, also on her damn phone, who just started cackling at the top of her fuckin' lungs...no regard for anyone else in the place.

These people suffer from a sense of entitlement that allows them to do whatever the fuck they want, and not give a shit about those around them! Those women were far worse than the kid that was crying that she wanted an ice cream...but her father ignoring her pretty much sucked too!f

Fuck, I hate people....:2up:

[_Christian_]

How much I'm willing to put up with really depends on how nice the restaurant is. If it's a $10 plate, Im going to put up with more than if it's a $50 plate.


at the request of the couple whom we were dining with.
The people you're dining with have no reason to be pissed, but the guy sitting next to you might want to stab you. He doesn't care WHY you decided to bring the child, just that you DID.

[Tiff-O-Bitties]

How do you guys feel about children crying in a family restaurant atmosphere?

Here's the story:

My husband and I have a 3 Month old little girl, who we took to dinner with us tonight at the request of the couple whom we were dining with. It was the first time they had the opportunity to meet her, and we were excited to do so.

We chose to eat at the local Mexican restaurant, which is a family oriented atmosphere that we dine at very frequently. Well, being that our daughter is only 3 months old, her temperament is pretty unpredictable, and she just happened to be fairly cranky this evening.The couple who we were with made several very rude comments to us about her interrupting and disturbing other people who were in the restaurant. It's not like she was screaming incessantly or even letting out loud shrills. To say the least, I spent a majority of the evening with my daughter in the car.

So... if you are dining in a family oriented restaurant, and a child cries occasionally during your meal, how does it make you feel?

It was totally intolerable for me before I had my son. Now, he's usually the one causing the disturbance. I hate it when it happens and I try to console him; however, sometimes it just doesn't work. I avoid restaurants with him as much as possible now.

I actually had one lady that I didn't even know tell me that I needed to learn how to better discipline my child when in public... I told her that if she had a better way to do it, then she needed to show me - she shut up.

You should've told your friends to fuck off. :goodjob:

[Brian*]

I like kids but its only Tolerable to an extent for sure...

[AnthonyF]

lolol...this one time my family was out at a nice place, not super fancy but upcaleish. And this little kid was running around the place and the parents were doing a damn thing. And you could see other customers were upset. So as the kid came running by my dad's side of the table he got in his face and said:

"Sit down you little fucking brat!"

lolol he walked to his parents table and they didn't say a word! lots of people heard my dad too.

-Ant.

[AnthonyF]

But on topic, I HATE when a kid screams in the restaurant. NOW, if the kid is under, what...3? it is partially acceptable b/c it happens. Kids don't really know any better...BUT the parents better be trying their damndest to shut him/her up or take them out. If the kid knows when to be good and not act like a spoiled rotton child and still acts up, the parent(s) should take him/her outside or in the bathroom and tap that ass!

i'm tired of this new age bullshit where it is wrong to spank your child. Hitting your child, i dont agree with. Spanking? Very much so. My dad used to pull out a wood fork about 12" long...Forky was his name...he was a bastard. lol.

-Ant.

[Mike Lowrey]

Voted intolerable.

The OP was very nice and left the restaurant with her child. I believe more parents need to understand that they are not the only ones in a public place. They need to control their kids. Too many let their kids run all over the place causing problems, which makes me want to punch the parents and the kid.

Bottom line, control your kids in public = no issues.

[teh bri]

i CANNOT stand eating while a child is screaming it drives me nuts.

Mom used to flip when that happened.

They need to control their kids or not bring them out in public.

[Mike Lowrey]

I agree 100% about movies, but as far as restaurants, that's a different story. Now with any four of mine, when he/she started acting up and would not calm down after a minute or so, I or my wife would take the child somewhere to calm him/her down. I wouldn't and can't stand for a child to just be left to cry until he/she is done crying.

But there is no reason at all that parents with younger children can not go to a nice restaurant with their children.

Later, QD.

Exactly. Kids are going to act up, but it is what the parents do about it that makes the difference.

[Tiff-O-Bitties]

Oh, you better believe I beat the shit out of my child when he acts up in public or at home... (ok, maybe not the shit, but I do spank him)

These new laws or whatever about not spanking your kids is bullshit... My mom beat the hell out of me when I was a kid and I will do the same.. (Hopefully, Max will be a better kid than me, lol) The parents that choose not to spank their children are the parents that will have to deal with the shit their kids put them thru later.

[Mike Lowrey]

Oh, you better believe I beat the shit out of my child when he acts up in public or at home... (ok, maybe not the shit, but I do spank him)

These new laws or whatever about not spanking your kids is bullshit... My mom beat the hell out of me when I was a kid and I will do the same.. (Hopefully, Max will be a better kid than me, lol) The parents that choose not to spank their children are the parents that will have to deal with the shit their kids put them thru later.

Agreed x100.

I believe that this is the cause of alot of the kids problems later in life. If I did something wrong. My father beat the shit out of me. Guess what? I never fuckin' did it again. A child can surely understand cause and effect.

[NVEOUS]

^^X2 If i ever did anything wrong my dad beat the fuck out of me. He would grab me and i would run in circles. I think thats why kids act the way they do today.

[Princess12]

Oh believe me, as soon as she is old enough to understand the meaning of a spanking, then I will have absolutely no problem using it as an acceptable form of punishment in our household. My parents had no issues spanking me as a child, and it got the point across the first time.

I agree though. The children who are old enough and capable of associating a public outing with the proper behavior and mannerisms should not be allowed to act out without some sort of repercussion.

Perhaps I made a mistake by taking our daughter out that evening; however, she is usually very mild mannered, quiet, and an overall happy child. This particular outing just wasn't doing it for her. I think I handled it appropriately though.

[civic95]

makes me want to punch the baby

until you're able to control your child or the child is old enough to understand that they need to be quiet, then you need to leave the child with a sitter when you go out to eat, to the movies or any public gathering that loud children are not welcome

I feel the same way. I think parents of young babies become accustomed to the schrill of a baby crying. To the rest of us it is ear piercing, and very annoying. Get a baby sitter, and introduce your baby at either your house or the other persons. Don't bring it out in "quiet/ public settings" where other people are trying to relax.

[stillaneon]

I am about to have one. But I do get a little aggraveted with a kind that kicks the back of a booth, etc. Most of the time though I can deal with it, I just wish some parents would take the initiative to preoccupy their kids or not bring them out.

Princess, you did what i would consider admirable. I would have done the same.

[Paul]

more children need to be beat... i fucking can't stand this new school mentality "the naughty chair/corner" bullshit. my kids will get spanked, eat soap, and learn to respect their parents and other adults.

[Tiff-O-Bitties]

more children need to be beat... i fucking can't stand this new school mentality "the naughty chair/corner" bullshit. my kids will get spanked, eat soap, and learn to respect their parents and other adults.

I truly fear for your children... :D Although Maximus receives the same punishments as listed above.

[Paul]

I truly fear for your children... :D Although Maximus receives the same punishments as listed above.

children act out b/c they dont' have limits... my kids will know their limits. my mom was the type if we got out of line it didn't matter where we were grocery store, restaurant, car, etc you better fear that woman.

[Tiff-O-Bitties]

children act out b/c they dont' have limits... my kids will know their limits. my mom was the type if we got out of line it didn't matter where we were grocery store, restaurant, car, etc you better fear that woman.

No doubt... Mine too!

[aaronfelipe]

I said intolerable but that also depends on the age of the kid. You can't really get mad over a three month old baby but if it's a one or two year old who is louder, it's disrespectful. Sometimes the parents let their kids sit there and cry disregarding EVERYONE who is trying to have a conversation/ enjoy themselves at a restaurant. So to me, it varies.

[Ran]

These new laws or whatever about not spanking your kids is bullshit... My mom beat the hell out of me when I was a kid and I will do the same.. (Hopefully, Max will be a better kid than me, lol) The parents that choose not to spank their children are the parents that will have to deal with the shit their kids put them thru later.Behold the source of the problem. :goodjob:

["B"]

Are you stupid? As I said in previous post, unless your at a fast food resteraunt or a KIDS resteraunt don't bring your screaming ass baby with you. I'm not paying more than $5 for a meal to have to sit and have a baby screaming beside me. Maybe the opinion changes when you become a parent, but when I become a parent I plan on having the COMMON SENSE and respect for people to not bring a child into a sit down resteraunt when they are still unable to behave.

Screaming at any resteraunt is "unacceptable" and if you think otherwise... refer to my first sentance.


Are you stupid? Read her 1st post again:


It's not like she was screaming incessantly or even letting out loud shrills.

She didn't have a "screaming ass baby".

Dumb fuck.

[quickdodge®]

Dumb fuck.

Agreed. Later, QD.

[green91]

Usually when i hear a baby crying and screaming in a restaurant, i ask the parents to take the baby back out to their E36 M3, SRT4, WRX (few SRT4/WRXs found in this price), LS1 fbody, RSX, civic EP3, or MB CLK430 so i can enjoy my meal.

[quickdodge®]

^^^ Nice one, lolol. Later, QD.

[Elbow]

If the baby is like SCREAMING CRYING like total tantrum then I mind, just little crying upset baby I don't mind at all, it's a baby, they are cute, you can't control it all.

[rickgiblin]

If the baby is like SCREAMING CRYING like total tantrum then I mind, just little crying upset baby I don't mind at all, it's a baby, they are cute, you can't control it all.

She is cute... here she is. Annistyn at 3 Months.

[Princess12]

She is cute... here she is. Annistyn at 3 Months.


Who would have guessed we would make such a beautiful baby!?!?!?! I guess I'm biased, but she is the cutest thing ever!

["B"]

I am impressed. Normally babies are ugly (except for my 2 kids when they were born), but she is actually adorable. Or is it that I am just a father of 2 now so I look at babies differently?

[Ran]

She is cute... here she is. Annistyn at 3 Months.WTF @ 3 month old ear piercing? I mean, really?

[Frög]

Can't stand it. Its almost as bad as a kid crying on airplane.

Yeah, almost..

I was about to say that.. lol

When I lived in Thailand, I would fly home to Paris twice a year.. Those are 12+ hour flights.. If you are sitting by a crying baby, you will, and I mean, YOU WILL want to drown that baby no matter how cute he/she is..

Insanity makes you do crazy things.. And sitting 12 hours by a crying baby stuck in a plane WILL make you go insane..

[Princess12]

I am impressed. Normally babies are ugly (except for my 2 kids when they were born), but she is actually adorable. Or is it that I am just a father of 2 now so I look at babies differently?

Thank you! I think you always look at children differently after you have them yourself, but I have to agree with you... she is adorable. ;)



WTF @ 3 month old ear piercing? I mean, really?

I had her ears pierced at 2 months old. She cried for literally 10 seconds and was completely fine. It did not even phase her. (Unlike the 5 year old who went after her... she went home with only 1 ear pierced.)

[Ran]

I had her ears pierced at 2 months old. She cried for literally 10 seconds and was completely fine. It did not even phase her. (Unlike the 5 year old who went after her... she went home with only 1 ear pierced.)Wow, I wouldn't think that a good idea at all but if it's medically sound and you're cool with it then have at it. I've be terrified to even approach my newborn with a spork. lol

Cute kid BTW. :goodjob:

[Princess12]

Wow, I wouldn't think that a good idea at all but if it's medically sound and you're cool with it then have at it. I've be terrified to even approach my newborn with a spork. lol

Cute kid BTW. :goodjob:

Thank you!

I consulted with her pediatrician before having it done, and she even gave me a list of approved places that are "Infant Friendly."

["B"]

We tried to pierce our daughter's ear but it kept getting infected. We cleaned it every chance we got (several times a day), but it just wouldn't go away. It got so bad her earlobe swelled up AROUND the ear ring and we had to take them out with pliers. Well, my dad did. I couldn't handle her in pain so I had to go outside (crying) while they did it.

[Princess12]

We tried to pierce our daughter's ear but it kept getting infected. We cleaned it every chance we got (several times a day), but it just wouldn't go away. It got so bad her earlobe swelled up AROUND the ear ring and we had to take them out with pliers. Well, my dad did. I couldn't handle her in pain so I had to go outside (crying) while they did it.

Oh my goodness! :( That is terrible.... I'm sorry you had such a bad experience. Fortunately, we have not had any issues.

[vinayak]

We tried to pierce our daughter's ear but it kept getting infected. We cleaned it every chance we got (several times a day), but it just wouldn't go away. It got so bad her earlobe swelled up AROUND the ear ring and we had to take them out with pliers. Well, my dad did. I couldn't handle her in pain so I had to go outside (crying) while they did it.

Could have been the metal the earring was made of. I can not wear gold in my ears but i can wear gold necklaces and rings. Might want to try stainless steel or silver.

[Princess12]

Could have been the metal the earring was made of. I can not wear gold in my ears but i can wear gold necklaces and rings. Might want to try stainless steel or silver.

This is true. I have a pretty severe allergy to nickel. We used 14K gold studs in my daughter's ears as that is the only metal I have not had some sort of reaction to. Not sure whether she has the allergy yet or not, so we took precautions anyway. Stainless steel is also a pretty good alternative.

[Tiff-O-Bitties]

WTF @ 3 month old ear piercing? I mean, really?

Mine were pierced at 6 weeks. :goodjob:

[G.C]

Don't mind at all.

[IMPORTchic]

WTF @ 3 month old ear piercing? I mean, really?

Not trying to start anything, but this is just the first thing that came to my mind....not sure if you were refering to the pain or what, but what is the difference of doing that over choosing to circumcize a boy?! lol Just saying.....it's a thought.....:D

My mom had my ears pierced at 3 months..... *shrugs*

[amped4life33]

theres a very easy solution to this...just set aside one section of the restaurant for familys with young children.

[ksniperfox]

makes me want to punch the baby

until you're able to control your child or the child is old enough to understand that they need to be quiet, then you need to leave the child with a sitter when you go out to eat, to the movies or any public gathering that loud children are not welcome



x2. very true.



movies or a restaurant, it is very rude and unnerving while im trying to have a quiet dinner or a date. shit even when i am with friends it is annoying as all hail. either learn to control your child or simply leave them at home with a sitter if they are too young.

[ksniperfox]

just set aside one section of the restaurant for familys with young children.


they have that, its called chuck e cheese. or day care.

[IMPORTchic]

they have that, its called chuck e cheese. or day care.

lol

[Nemesis]

Whats better than going out after a long hard work week, and having a whiney ass baby scream in your ear when you're trying to eat your 50 dollar steak. LOL

[ALVIN]

How do you guys feel about children crying in a family restaurant atmosphere?

Here's the story:

My husband and I have a 3 Month old little girl, who we took to dinner with us tonight at the request of the couple whom we were dining with. It was the first time they had the opportunity to meet her, and we were excited to do so.

We chose to eat at the local Mexican restaurant, which is a family oriented atmosphere that we dine at very frequently. Well, being that our daughter is only 3 months old, her temperament is pretty unpredictable, and she just happened to be fairly cranky this evening.The couple who we were with made several very rude comments to us about her interrupting and disturbing other people who were in the restaurant. It's not like she was screaming incessantly or even letting out loud shrills. To say the least, I spent a majority of the evening with my daughter in the car.

So... if you are dining in a family oriented restaurant, and a child cries occasionally during your meal, how does it make you feel?


Erin obviously those aren't that great of friends to make such comments. You know I have a 3 year old and she was exactly like that when she was her age. It does get a bit worse before it gets better in age. Especially When they get a bit older than Annie (hope i spelled it right). Children cry and people should know that. I don't see why you would have had to spend the night in the car, or most of it for that matter.

But to answer you question hun. There is a point where it does get fairly annoying, and I'm saying this even with my own daughter, where we have just gotten food to go and left. The only reason it got annoying is because she was tired and 1.5 years old and SCREEAMING. But I doubt that she was doing that to yall. :crazy:

Hope that helps.

Cliffs Notes:
- Children Cry and its bearable for the most part. Your friends were just being rude.

[hondachik]

I have a 3 yr old daughter and currently pregnant with my 2nd child. I don't too much take her out to public restaurants just because she's unpredictable, just like any human being. I don't have any problems with her because since an early age shes been familiar with an ass whooping.

But a 3 month old? C'mon. Instead of sitting in my car, I would have snapped on their ass and got my check and a to-go box and went home. U can't control what a newborn does. You shouldn't at all feel bad or embarassed. You were in a FAMILY ENVIROMENT. I'm sure there were kids there a whole lot louder than your baby, and other couples who've had kids tend to be a lot more tolerable to infants, and even tend to find it cute when they cry. Infants don't bother me as long as I see the parents trying to console them. Same with kids. But if the parents are just sitting there enjoying their meal...then I get pissed. I don't throw mean looks but I just hurry to leave....I hate being rude because I already have my daughter and about to pop another kid out....so I wouldn't want anyone mean to me. But srsly, I would have told that other couple to kiss my ass, fuck them other people meal. Hell your only priority is trying to calm your child & make her happy...Not caring if someone can't chew their fcking chalupa.

[Elbow]

She is cute... here she is. Annistyn at 3 Months.

VERY cute, let her make as much noise as she wants, who could be annoyed at her?

[Princess12]

VERY cute, let her make as much noise as she wants, who could be annoyed at her?

LOL! Thank you!!!

[Princess12]

But a 3 month old? C'mon. Instead of sitting in my car, I would have snapped on their ass and got my check and a to-go box and went home. U can't control what a newborn does. You shouldn't at all feel bad or embarassed. You were in a FAMILY ENVIROMENT. I'm sure there were kids there a whole lot louder than your baby, and other couples who've had kids tend to be a lot more tolerable to infants, and even tend to find it cute when they cry. Infants don't bother me as long as I see the parents trying to console them. Same with kids. But if the parents are just sitting there enjoying their meal...then I get pissed. I don't throw mean looks but I just hurry to leave....I hate being rude because I already have my daughter and about to pop another kid out....so I wouldn't want anyone mean to me. But srsly, I would have told that other couple to kiss my ass, fuck them other people meal. Hell your only priority is trying to calm your child & make her happy...Not caring if someone can't chew their fcking chalupa.

I completely understand! The restaurant was loud in general, and I was ready to just get my food to go. It was the first time she had ever acted that way in public. Generally, she is very mild mannered and quiet, so I was slightly panicked and doing everything I possibly could to console her. When all else failed, I went to the car. The waiter had just brought my husband's margarita to the table, and I really wanted to give him a chance to enjoy it. I sat in the car, fed her, rocked her to sleep, and watched a movie.

Congrats on the baby by the way!

[stephanie]

a few outbursts fine....an all out tantrum....no

i will straight up leave a store and beat some ass, i have kids also

just remember if you went out on a date night without your child and someone brought their kids how would you feel.

[eraser4g63]

I just plain hate kids