Do you feel bad after an orgasm?

[YoTa_BoX]

I know some people wont be able to take this seriously and will joke and be immature but this is a serious issue with me and it really pisses me off. After having an orgasm does any one els just feel like shit..like they did something wrong. Its so bad for me i will have really shitty days for the next few days after i have an orgasm. It can be from any source sex,masturbation, getting oral exe...

I dont know if its just because i have a religious back ground and in the back of my mind its like * God knows what your doing yada yada * Or is it something non religious ppl get as well. I almost feel like god is punishing me. Like some of the worst things that have happened to me was right after having sex.

I know it sounds like im looking to much into this but it happens every freakin time. If it is a religious thing..Why the hell did god give man such an urge to have sex or to have an orgasm any way he can. Why give man these over powering urges..

Does any one els suffer from this crap or am i the only strange person on this planet that this happens to? Please try to keep this as mature as possible. I really didn't want to say anything about it because to be quite honest its embarrassing to ask.. But at the same time this shit is getting old and i want to know if it affects any one els.

[slowinmidga]

maybe its from da AiDz...seriously go see a urologist i guess

[nreggie454]

maybe its from da AiDz...seriously go see a urologist i guess

Why? It isn't like he is in pain or anything is physically wrong. If anything, just see a psychiatrist. You shouldn't feel bad for doing something completely natural.

[blackboi50]

NO i def dont feel like that after an orgasm!!!! but yea your religion has you in question because u want/need to do it but in the end you know your religion will call it a sin!!!

tough boat man!!!!.....1

[YoTa_BoX]

Its gotten so bad that i had to quit talking to this girl because of how shitty i would feel after we did anything. It seriously got me depressed i just felt like shit for the next few days.

I kinda figured it had to do with my religion but i just don't understand it. I get truly depressed after words. Some times its not bad at all but some times i just feel like total shit.

[alpine_aw11]

Well, you are in your most emotionally vulnerable state after an orgasm(which really is true apparently) but what you're dealing with is a little extreme. If it's really an issue with your religion, maybe you should evaluate your belief system and what parts of it you truly believe in. Taking every aspect of your religious belief literally can be more harmful than good.

[YoTa_BoX]

Thanks for the feedback so far, I guess i really need to look into gettiing some type of help then i guess if no one els suffers from this. I guess a psychologist would work but im just wondering if they will just try and put me on some pill :S seems they are quick to do that.

[Deke]

I always feel like an asshole when it involves a girl that I have no interest in (even if the lack of interest is mutual).

[efman]

I always feel like an asshole when it involves a girl that I have no interest in (even if the lack of interest is mutual).
x2 x2 !

[wrekonize]

thats your head tell you that your gay......thats why you feel bad

[slow_hatch]

x2 x2 !

He said a girl, not a dude.

[OneSlow5pt0]

sounds like either feeling bad like u used someone as stated or regret.

[YoTa_BoX]

no its not me feeling bad because i used some one..because like i said it can come from self orgasm as well. I really think its the religious aspect of my mind kicking in and i get the feeling iv done something bad. I was just curious if this happen to any one els at all.

The thing i cant figure out is i seriously have bad luck for a few days after... I know people dont believe that but its happened all my life.

[ixlr8]

I think that you are intimidated by your partner and would like to hear from that person if they are content as well. You are just trying to satisfy in this case. Don't try to compare yourself to the ex it is always about the girl. This is a very touchy subject for guys so girls don't say to much. Good communication is a key for a lasting happy sexy relation. This dance is not something you learn overnight. Don't keep doing the same thing over and over either that gets boring and dull and......predictable. Talk with her and let her know this. She should be able to help. The lady is the mans confidence and it does show.

This is normal you just want her to be satified and want to hear it said from her for closure. Just knowing will help I think . Hopefully this helps??

[ruah_23]

This is just a guess so don't take me word to word. When you had ur orgasm,ur testerone level got low.When ur test level is low,it makes you feel depress or like shit...just like someone who's on roids prohormone.The brain stopped telling the body to make test thats why people who are stop taking it may lead to depression or even suicide....

[tony]

First of all, he asked for it to stay respectful. If you can't do that in this thread you can expect a vacation from this post forward.

OP, I looked up your situation and while common.. it is not openly addressed. In males I guess since we are taught to be "tough" issues like this have a hard time coming to light.

In my search I found it could be a number of things, lower levels of testosterone, or high levels of prolactin after ejaculation. Prolactin is what gives you the feeling of withdrawal after sex.. it can result in slight depression to a full range of emotions. In men it is almost instant whereas women have a much longer delayed reaction.

It seems like a serious issue, you may want to try consulting a sex therapist and going from there. There are others out there with the same issues you have because I saw the postings, but the responses are often misguided due to a lack of knowledge. I hope it works out for you.

Also do you feel the guilt after sex or you get the same guilt on your own as well?

[YoTa_BoX]

Thanks for the post tony and others who kept it mature. To your question tony, yes it also happens when im alone..the feeling of guilt and depression.

Your right about it not being a very open topic seeing as alot of guys would not want to talk about this in fear of what people might think. It has gone on to long for me and its getting to the point where its affecting me badly.

I will look into what you were talking about with either low testosterone or high prolactin levs. much appreciated tony!!

[FlipKing]

Umm, i feel great after orgasms,lol. I have great days. :) so yeah, not normal

[canadianrcis]

go smoke a cig right after, thats what i do and i always feel good fo sho after that.

[§treet_§peed]

well generally those of us that have had sex, do feel better after we have an orgasm.

[MrBoostedCRX]

religious background u say? then thats it

[tony]

I was also going to add, do you work out much or take any supplements? If lower levels of testosterone is the issue then lifting weights can raise your testosterone levels. With the issues you're having I would say leave the supplements alone, But I can certainly tell a difference with my mindset as it pertains to sex when I have a good workout regimen going.

[YoTa_BoX]

I dont take any supplements but then again i dont work out much either. Iv been wanting to start a work out routine but i just never seem to start.

Thanks for all your input tony its really help me understand a few things. It all really makes sense now. You were saying in the other post that with guys its instant and it really is..like the second the good feeling from an orgasm is over the depressing feeling kicks in and i feel like shit for doing what i did.

Iv got a Body Plex right up the street from my house im going to check out their membership plans seeing as i dont have any weights at home. I would rep every one but thats kinda pointless lol. But deff thanks for every ones input im glad most of you kept this mature.

If i start working out and i still have the same feelings then i will know its the religious aspect of me kicking in.

[RL...]

thats your head tell you that your gay......thats why you feel bad

x2

Any straight man should feel good after finishing up with his girl...I'm not trying to be sarcastic or cyniccal but this is the case....orgasm=good not bad....

[The Creeper]

I would say this has nothing to do with your religious beliefs. From the way it sounds, its a chemical imbalance somewhere in you. If it were solely from your religious background, you would have the feeling of slight guilt, but not to the point of depression. I would talk to some type of doctor about this though, and good luck. I know the feeling that you are talking about, but my circumstances were a bit different, and mine was more of a feeling of guilt, which generally makes you feel like total shit. Cheating on a partner, or something along those lines, would make the situation you are in understandable, but the fact that you feel shitty after you masturbate clearly points to something wrong that is deeper then guilt or religious beliefs. Hope you figure the shit out though, Id hate to be in your shoes.

[YoTa_BoX]

x2

Any straight man should feel good after finishing up with his girl...I'm not trying to be sarcastic or cyniccal but this is the case....orgasm=good not bad....

Ok.. the first guy was probably joking which what ever i figured that would happen from some immature person but your saying you honestly agree with him? Did you even read my first post...or any of my posts there after?

Im not really sure weather to thank you on your input or tell you to never post your thoughts on anything ever again...because you clearly dont read everything before making judgment.

I'm not trying to start shit here but this is really important to me and is very serious. Do your self a favor and read before typing your thoughts.

[Sledlude]

go see a psycHOLOGIST... they will try to talk to you about and help you get some shit off your chest... they are trained to do so but will not prescribe you medication like a psycHIATRIST would.

... but if you are really honestly getting depressed afterwards, it maybe a chemical thing going on in your brain dealing with the re-uptake or elimination of endorphins or other neurotransmitters that are released upon orgasm. talk to someone dude because sex is just too damn good to be feeling like that afterwards. good luck.

[efman]

He said a girl, not a dude.

oh i know brad ! if you only knew man :D

[Frög]

I used to feel that way.. Back when I thought masturbation was bad and my parents would disown me if they found me beating my pecker..

But now, I realize it natural, healthy, and most importantly NEEDED!!

I must admit, I only rarely feel bad after orgasms for few and rare reasons.. One, if I masturbate to some really hardcore porn, or two, after fucking a bitch that I shouldn't be fucking (because I am in a relationship OR because she might have the aidz OR I was desperate to bust a nut but she is not hot)

[green91]

How would it be a gay thing? Even gay guys have sex to reach an orgasm.

If it weren't supposed to be enjoyed, why would it feel good? I think its very natural. In the end humans are animals.. and many animals procreate by means of traditional sex. Its an instinctual urge to have sex.. don't feel bad about it. I think most biblical references to masturbation and sex were just a means to try and control people because they didn't want their wives and daughters to be whores.

Cliff notes: enjoy it, dont feel bad LOL

[richcoosa19]

Try picking up a bottle of Yohimbe from GNC, if that helps then you probably have either low testosterone, or some sort of chemical imbalance. I used to have the same sort of feeling, and after I started taking this I no longer do. But just as a warning, you will want to drink plenty of water while taking this since it can dehydrate you. Also don't take this on an empty stomach because it can and will make you sick to your stomach if you do. Take it early in the morning when you wake up because if you take it say after 4PM, it will keep you up all night. I have actually started taking one every other day instead of daily since the feelings you describe are less frequent since I began using this.

It's worth a shot and it's only $20!

[Arm&hammer]

i used to feel bad, like god was punishing me when i first started having sex, masturbaiting and shit like that.
but after i stopped thinking it was a big deal.

[Arm&hammer]

I used to feel that way.. Back when I thought masturbation was bad and my parents would disown me if they found me beating my pecker..

But now, I realize it natural, healthy, and most importantly NEEDED!!


Quoted for fucking truth

[OWN3R]

ok look man when u skeet clean it up and smile hell if u gotta go get off in front of a mirror and watch it happen and you will see everything is alright i mean its something natural and you shouldnt feel bad... flex ur arms and stuff just make ur self feel good if you got to do it somemore times no joke and seriousnesssss

[SCtuneguy]

The endorphins released by an orgasm are just like a heart rate, the higher they spike in your body, the lower they spike in your body. You might feel like shit because the endorphins are taking longer to re-balance.

[LQQKITZME]

Why? It isn't like he is in pain or anything is physically wrong. If anything, just see a psychiatrist. You shouldn't feel bad for doing something completely natural.

+1

[ahabion]

Well, I guess IF you think it might be the faith-based portion of your life, I guess I'll address that since I'm better at that than the chemical imbalance stuff.

Assuming that you and your partner are not married, you're feeling of guilty very well may be the issue. Within my faith (Christian, could be different from others) you may be having what we would call conviction. I'm not sure how much knowledge you have on the word in its context, but put simply it is the feeling of guilt (duh!... stay with me) Anyway, if you are feeling convicted, there are a few things that you should probably do, and I'll keep it practicable...

1) Priorties
- What is most important to you?
You're feeling guilty for a reason and don't know what the cause is... You said it might be your religion... you NEED to identify WHY you think it is your religion. (what aspect of it makes you feel that way?)
- Why does your religion make you feel guilty?
or
Why do you feel guilty about your religion?
Figure out specifics, to feel guilty means that TO YOU, you are doing something wrong... I'm not going to go into Biblical details because this is a YOU issue first... get it straight with you first, then if you want, I can address the Biblical stuff later. You know something or think you may know something, but you're denying it or suppressing it.

2) Your "Needs"
- What are your needs (basically, what do you worry about most)?
(food, shelter, car, sex, money, drugs, religion, etc...)
- Lastly, do you feel your needs are clashing?
Simple enough question.

Of course, you don't have to answer to me or answer me in any way... these are solely for you to think about, because again, this is a YOU issue and you're asking for advice... which I'm just trying to steer you thru the faith based part. Again, I didn't throw any biblical stuff in there because at this time, I don't think it's needed. If you'd like, then just let me know. Hope it works out for you.

[JASONBALL]

I didn't read all post but I did most. try taking a week to medium strength test booster. this might help or take something that will control your estrogen levels.

[leobond001]

Well, I guess IF you think it might be the faith-based portion of your life, I guess I'll address that since I'm better at that than the chemical imbalance stuff.

Assuming that you and your partner are not married, you're feeling of guilty very well may be the issue. Within my faith (Christian, could be different from others) you may be having what we would call conviction. I'm not sure how much knowledge you have on the word in its context, but put simply it is the feeling of guilt (duh!... stay with me) Anyway, if you are feeling convicted, there are a few things that you should probably do, and I'll keep it practicable...

1) Priorties
- What is most important to you?
You're feeling guilty for a reason and don't know what the cause is... You said it might be your religion... you NEED to identify WHY you think it is your religion. (what aspect of it makes you feel that way?)
- Why does your religion make you feel guilty?
or
Why do you feel guilty about your religion?
Figure out specifics, to feel guilty means that TO YOU, you are doing something wrong... I'm not going to go into Biblical details because this is a YOU issue first... get it straight with you first, then if you want, I can address the Biblical stuff later. You know something or think you may know something, but you're denying it or suppressing it.

2) Your "Needs"
- What are your needs (basically, what do you worry about most)?
(food, shelter, car, sex, money, drugs, religion, etc...)
- Lastly, do you feel your needs are clashing?
Simple enough question.

Of course, you don't have to answer to me or answer me in any way... these are solely for you to think about, because again, this is a YOU issue and you're asking for advice... which I'm just trying to steer you thru the faith based part. Again, I didn't throw any biblical stuff in there because at this time, I don't think it's needed. If you'd like, then just let me know. Hope it works out for you.

good one. and seeing a regular physcologist probaly wont help. if your church has one, go talk to them. i've talked to mine a couple of times and have a way better understanding about the things i do.

you know in your heart whats going on. stick with it.:goodjob:

[YoTa_BoX]

Deff thanks for the feed back guys its helped me a lot better understand my situation.

I kinda knew in the beginning but i really wanted to see if it effected any one els and also wanted to see if any one could bring new light of something i had not thought before.. And some of you have so thanks again.