I need some advice

[Infinite]

alright, heres the deal

i frequent a restraunt quite often, and i got the same waitress every single time for almost a year

so we start talking and what not.. shes a car nut, into old school v-dubs, now she has a 350z yadda yadda

anyways, so we start hanging out and what not (as just friends, she had a bf at the time) but now she has changed jobs and is now an exotic dancer at a buckhead club

let me add to that by saying that this girl is absolutely gorgeous, down to earth, level headed and is doing it to get through school

she likes me, i like her.... but im just not sure if i can get used to the whole exotic dancer thing... i mean, not the jealousy thing... because i could sit there and go.. yea, thats mine... its just her line of work?!? maybe im just flipping out

plus she wants me to come down and see her... now dont get me wrong. im all for some T&A but when we are slowly becoming more than friends.. i dont really wanna walk in and see her ass naked on a pole. it would be a little bit more than ankward to me.


maybe im just blowing the whole thing out of proportion but i dunno
help?

[osnap]

:boobies:

... and thats probably about as mature of a response as you're gonna get.

[Psycho]

It ain't gonna work out, buddie. Can't make a whore into a housewife.

[Infinite]

yea well
she's far from a whore
just using what she has to her advantage i guess

she was going to work at the vortex but that didnt work out
i dont really care what she does to make money (well, sort of, there are limits)

she doesnt turn tricks or any crap like that... it would just be nice to know she does something where 90% of the people werent trying to touch her, lol

[Maniacc]

I know exactly how you feel. I'm in the same situation as you are at the moment. I know that outside it's fine but once she's at work you can't help but to feel weird. Awkward is right, especially around friends who might ask you where your girlfriend works. Don't get me wrong, I have strong feelings for her too, but I wouldn't take this situation too serious if I were you, at the end, It's not worth it.

Oh, and my situation has some differences, my girlfriend is a waitress. Not as bad as a dancer, but I can still relate to you and your feelings. If you really like this chick, which it sounds like you do, just suck it up and explain to her how you feel about the whole thing. If she has no other choice but to work there then I wouldn't. But if she does, I would tell her to look work else where because you know she's better than that.

As a side note, shouldn't this have been posted in the Lifestyle section? I'm sure you won't get too many immature posts there. Just sayin'

[Infinite]

yea, im not gonna stress too bad because i know shes better than to stoop to anything but dancing
she's really just doing to pay for school and such so if she could find another job with the same pay (good luck) then i wish she would

but its her life, im just in it. lol

[Psycho]

yea well
she's far from a whore
just using what she has to her advantage i guess

she was going to work at the vortex but that didnt work out
i dont really care what she does to make money (well, sort of, there are limits)

she doesnt turn tricks or any crap like that... it would just be nice to know she does something where 90% of the people werent trying to touch her, lol
Sorry if it offends you when I say she's a whore, but let's be realistic. What kind of a girl would be willing to get naked in front of a room full of drunk horny guys instead of making an honest income like other women? What do you think is gonna happen when a customer wants to take her into the VIP room? You think he's gonna sit there and listen to her incredibly intelligent story about how she likes her outfit because it's red, and red is her favorite color? Nah, he's gonna stuff her mouf with his junk, so he doesn't have to listen to her babble anymore. At least that's what I do.

[Maniacc]

yea, im not gonna stress too bad because i know shes better than to stoop to anything but dancing
she's really just doing to pay for school and such so if she could find another job with the same pay (good luck) then i wish she would

but its her life, im just in it. lol
You're asking for advice, yet you seem to have already know everything there to know about this kind of situation. The funny thing is, my girlfriend is saving up money so she could return to Texas and get back to school. So we're pretty much in the same boat, to a certian extent.

[Infinite]

i know what you mean
but i know she wouldnt do that

[Infinite]

You're asking for advice, yet you seem to have already know everything there to know about this kind of situation. The funny thing is, my girlfriend is saving up money so she could return to Texas and get back to school. So we're pretty much in the same boat, to a certian extent.

im just trying to make sure im not alone with my feelings

its all good when shes not there, but when i know she is i just cant help but feel... weird.

[Psycho]

she's really just doing to pay for school and such so if she could find another job with the same pay (good luck) then i wish she would

but its her life, im just in it. lol
Oh my god, that is the most cliche stripper excuse in the book.

Have you ever seen a stripper at a college campus?

[Maniacc]

im just trying to make sure im not alone with my feelings

its all good when shes not there, but when i know she is i just cant help but feel... weird.

i know what you mean
but i know she wouldnt do that
We're both in the same boat. Good luck with your situation man.

[Infinite]

thanks...
i just dont think i go down there and see her while she's working
unless she just drags me off somewhurrs and acts like she's working, lol

[Maniacc]

Oh my god, that is the most cliche stripper excuse in the book.

Have you ever seen a stripper at a college campus?
Did you even read the op? He's known this chick long enough to know if she's lying or not. If you haven't been in this situation you couldn't begin to understand. Just because a person works in a place like that doesn't automatically make them a whore. There are rules at stripe clubs, if they feel as if someone disrespected them, they could have him banned. All im getting from your posts is that you are not too familier with life.

[Infinite]

Oh my god, that is the most cliche stripper excuse in the book.

Have you ever seen a stripper at a college campus?
yes i have... you'd be amazed at how un-stripper like these grils are in public
unless you knew them personally you wouldnt have a clue

not all strippers are cracked out prostitues with broke bodies and faces

[Lucky DAWG]

I wouldn't put yourself through that man.



Personally though i would follow up on it, but i never listen to my own advice. Following up on it means nothing but trouble

[Infinite]

well
maybe in some way i can make her re-think her job choice
this girl is so talented she could do whatever she put her mind to

[Lucky DAWG]

well
maybe in some way i can make her re-think her job choice
this girl is so talented she could do whatever she put her mind to




honestly though dude... even though i say you are asking for trouble. There is an 80% chance this is going to end disastrously. But i've always been the type to go for it if i really like the girl even if it is bound to fail.



I have a better time living with myself knowing i tried then sat there wondering what would have happened 2 years down the road.

[Infinite]

^ amen to that
better to try and fail then to sit by and wonder what could have been

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to Lucky DAWG again.

[Psycho]

Did you even read the op? He's known this chick long enough to know if she's lying or not. If you haven't been in this situation you couldn't begin to understand. Just because a person works in a place like that doesn't automatically make them a whore. There are rules at stripe clubs, if they feel as if someone disrespected them, they could have him banned. All im getting from your posts is that you are not too familier with life.
Yeah, you're probably right, dude. Hey Infinite, what school is she gonna attend? Has she taken the SAT? What prepwork has she done to get into school?

[mmmmpsi]

Oh my god, that is the most cliche stripper excuse in the book.

Have you ever seen a stripper at a college campus?

I'm going to second this.. I used to DJ in a strip bar and 90% of the women there said the same thing..

IF you really want to make some money a lot quicker and get your school paid for in a lot less time just do some porn.. it's a lot healthier and you'll have fun doing it.. :D

[Maniacc]

Yeah, you're probably right, dude. Hey Infinite, what school is she gonna attend? Has she taken the SAT? What prepwork has she done to get into school?
You know what, I'm no one to say that you haven't been through life because I don't know you. I didn't mean anything by my last comment, just that you might not be familier with a situation like this. Not a lot of people are. It's really not as bad as TV or reality shows make it out to be.

[Infinite]

she's already in school
she told me where she went but i forgot, lol
she's 23.. her house is paid off, as are her cars. she has 0 debt so all she needs to do is pay the bills and pay for school.

its really just a means to an end... i've done some stuff i've hated/not so proud of to get by... but you know what, i got by

[Psycho]

she's already in school
she told me where she went but i forgot, lol
What's her major? How many years does she have left?

[Infinite]

you want her bloodtype and last physical as well? lol

[Psycho]

you want her bloodtype and last physical as well? lol
Well it's just that if you really are serious about this girl, and you believe she's doing this just so she can afford school, wouldn't these be the questions you would ask her?

[Lucky DAWG]

Well it's just that if you really are serious about this girl, and you believe she's doing this just so she can afford school, wouldn't these be the questions you would ask her?


so why the **** do u need to know

[Infinite]

she has told me
but its 4:15 in the morning... i've been up for about 2 days
i've had a ****ty ****ty day
i've taken my pain pills for my back
so im a little fuzzy to say the least

sorry all of her personal info isnt available in my Rolodex brain at the moment

[Psycho]

so why the **** do u need to know
I don't really care about any of the crap I just asked :lmfao:

I was just seeing if he knew as much about her as he thinks he does. I had a stripper tell me she was "just doing this gig to pay for school" once. I asked her the same things I just asked Infinite. She looked like a deer staring at headlights. I really didn't care about the answers to the questions back then either. I just wanted to see how far she would take her lie. Needless to say, she just shut up and gave me a lap dance.

[Lucky DAWG]

she has told me
but its 4:15 in the morning... i've been up for about 2 days
i've had a ****ty ****ty day
i've taken my pain pills for my back
so im a little fuzzy to say the least

sorry all of her personal info isnt available in my Rolodex brain at the moment



i can sympathize



just hit the self destruct button and told a girl how i felt.
always a bad idea.


so now i'm up at 4 am


got work in the morning, gl to you though
go for it if it feels right

[Infinite]

i understand

she has given me answers... and this was a year before she thought of stripping... so i highly doubt she was lying then when she was a waitress in a normal restaurant

[Maniacc]

Detective Psycho is going to get to the bottom of this crime. And he won't give up til this investigation is solved and her identity is revealed. A long with a description of her; skin tone, eye color, breast size, blood type, ect ect.

[Infinite]

i can sympathize



just hit the self destruct button and told a girl how i felt.
always a bad idea.


so now i'm up at 4 am


got work in the morning, gl to you though
go for it if it feels right

i know that button all too well
thanks man... i'll more than likely talk to you again in a few hours, lol

[Psycho]

she has told me
but its 4:15 in the morning... i've been up for about 2 days
i've had a ****ty ****ty day
i've taken my pain pills for my back
so im a little fuzzy to say the least

sorry all of her personal info isnt available in my Rolodex brain at the moment
I'm not trying to give you a hard time, even though I may have come off as an ass. I just want you to be sure of what your getting yourself into. If you really wanna be more than just friends, then become friends with benefits. But don't try to make it anything more than just that.

[Psycho]

Detective Psycho is going to get to the bottom of this crime. And he won't give up til this investigation is solved and her identity is revealed. A long with a description of her; skin tone, eye color, breast size, blood type, ect ect.
Like I said before dude, I don't give a sh!t about the chick.

[Infinite]

its just the way you are
i love you in the most straight way possible, lol
plus im kind of just bleh right now

i mean, i like her, i care about her, i would do anything for her
whatever happens happens..

reps for teh substance abuse powerhouse

[RandomGuy]

i mean, i like her, i care about her, i would do anything for her
whatever happens happens..http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lKcr5vkOxNs

[Infinite]

yea that came to mind, lol

[Brett]

I say what she does for a living does not define who she is as a person, if you have been friends with her for a year now and have become to know her character, than why would her job change how you see her?

[ksniperfox]

, but let's be realistic. What kind of a girl would be willing to get naked in front of a room full of drunk horny guys .



a girl who likes $. so if the OP doesnt make good bank when she is through stripping, hes out of the picture.


besides, work is work. it doesnt mean she has to like her job(even if shes swallowing some strangers wang), its what she has to do to make good $.

[Infinite]

I say what she does for a living does not define who she is as a person, if you have been friends with her for a year now and have become to know her character, than why would her job change how you see her?
It doesn't change the way I view her. Maybe I just can get used to someone like her working there

[Brett]

yeah but people sometimes have to do things to make thier way through college, It isnt cheap, and thats easy money

[Infinite]

Yea pretty much. I know she could have a "better" job but it does pay the bills

[DevilK9]

Here's some links.

LINK 1 - you don't have to strip or suck junk to get through school:goodjob: (http://www.fafsa.ed.gov/)

LINK 2 - if you're lonely, there's someone out there who's actually compatible with you.:( (www.eharmony.com)

[Red_Phoenix]

;) Hey Infinite. If she's in the buford/suwanee area I need someone in the office because I am switching to part time to go to school. Then you dn't have to worry about it.;)

[TheGrillMan]

not all skrippers are hoes,

plus if your invited to the club by one of the dancers 10to 1 your going to get a whole lot of atteion and make most other guys jelous haha

i dated a girl who danced for a few months and i have to say my fav thing was going to the club to hangout and not spend a dime on the girls haha

[Infinite]

Definitely downtown atlanta

And I'm not lonely. I like her what's so wrong with that

[Infinite]

not all skrippers are hoes,

plus if your invited to the club by one of the dancers 10to 1 your going to get a whole lot of atteion and make most other guys jelous haha

i dated a girl who danced for a few months and i have to say my fav thing was going to the club to hangout and not spend a dime on the girls haha
very true. Maybe it won't be so bad if all she does is hang with me. Looking but not touching will be hard

[quickdodge®]

alright, heres the deal

i frequent a restraunt quite often, and i got the same waitress every single time for almost a year

so we start talking and what not.. shes a car nut, into old school v-dubs, now she has a 350z yadda yadda

anyways, so we start hanging out and what not (as just friends, she had a bf at the time) but now she has changed jobs and is now an exotic dancer at a buckhead club

let me add to that by saying that this girl is absolutely gorgeous, down to earth, level headed and is doing it to get through school

she likes me, i like her.... but im just not sure if i can get used to the whole exotic dancer thing... i mean, not the jealousy thing... because i could sit there and go.. yea, thats mine... its just her line of work?!? maybe im just flipping out

plus she wants me to come down and see her... now dont get me wrong. im all for some T&A but when we are slowly becoming more than friends.. i dont really wanna walk in and see her ass naked on a pole. it would be a little bit more than ankward to me.


maybe im just blowing the whole thing out of proportion but i dunno
help?

Asking love advice from the same people that show no mercy begging for pics of females on here like vultures? Lolol. Later, QD.

[Zodiac]

Here's some links.

LINK 1 - you don't have to strip or suck junk to get through school:goodjob: (http://www.fafsa.ed.gov/)

LINK 2 - if you're lonely, there's someone out there who's actually compatible with you.:( (http://www.eharmony.com)


FAFSA doesnt pay for all of tution..its base on income.

and to the OP i think you should give her a chance. It sounds like you have some stuff in common. If you do end up dating her you should probably stay away from her workplace, that would get awkward.

[TheGrillMan]

very true. Maybe it won't be so bad if all she does is hang with me. Looking but not touching will be hard



i mean she will have to go up on stage and shake her ass to make some dough

how evermany times she up for the night ect...


but when she gets off stage and comes directly to you it will make you feel like a badass lol

plus bring some friends with you. then she will bring more skrippers to hangout with you guys and youll be the envy of the club and not be droping hardly any cash at all lol

[BKgen®]

if she's hot enough to be a stripper, you automatically have my approval.

go, go, go.

get to da choppa.

[Infinite]

yea she wants me to stop by friday after my friends show.

[quickdodge®]

Asking love advice from the same people that show no mercy begging for pics of females on here like vultures? Lolol. Later, QD.



I just read that she is an "exotic" dancer so you asked the right people. Good luck I suppose. I have no respect for women who live that life. It will be a lot of heart ache if you pursue this, but it's you and not me. Later, QD.

[BTLFED]

If you really wanna be more than just friends, then become friends with benefits.

I prefer the term "Hands on Friendship."

The answer to this is simple: Go over to her house, fuk her in the a$$, wipe your dik on her curtains and leave. Simple.

[Infinite]

lol @ joo

im tired of **** like that

[BTLFED]

lol @ joo

im tired of **** like that

**** like what?

[Infinite]

the whole hit it and quit it thing

plus i have this strange talent of picking up waitresses

[BTLFED]

the whole hit it and quit it thing

plus i have this strange talent of picking up waitresses

You are weird.

[quickdodge®]

the whole hit it and quit it thing

That's what a relationship with a "dancer" will end up being, man. You got to have a strong, strong will and no backbone to date a girl that strips. Not to mention no morals, lolol.


plus i have this strange talent of picking up waitresses

That's not talent. That's called easy girls. Waitresses are about as easy to pick up as change in a drive-thru window.

Lolol. Later, QD.

[AnTi-PooN]

lust and love are confusing sometimes

[DevilK9]

FAFSA doesnt pay for all of tution..its base on income.

Well no ****! But to qualify for any student loans which will take care of the rest and provide you with the money you need to survive with a decent part time job....you have to have at least applied.

Life isn't going to hand you your opportunities. You don't get a free ride. You might actually have to put your ass on the line instead of a pole.

So...I repeat...you don't have to suck c()ck to go to school.