Did I Do The Right Thing?

[Alan®]

Ok so this has been a long standing argument between my girl and I.

My ex and I did not end well as she cheated on me but months later we reconciled and decided to put the friendship back together that we had had before we had started dating. Since then her and I have still maintained contact and continue to be friends.

I am now dating a different girl that i have been with for a year and half that i love to death but she has to be one of the most insecure people i have ever met.

So the argument is that she does not like that i still talk to her because of what happened between her and I. I honestly don;t get it. It doesn't have anything to do with her. I have tried explaining this to her a thousand times but she doesn't get it and she says that I don't Understand where she is coming from.

IMO she has no reason to even be concerned with something that happened before i even knew her and something that has already been taken care of.

So she sends me a text today after i bring her lunch to tell me that she still doesn't like me talking to my ex and that she wants to talk about it. I say fine. So she comes over and tells me that she doesn't like me talking to her and i ask her ok what do you want me to do. So she says i don't want to tell you what to do but i want you to do what you think i want you to do :thinking: . WTF. I told her I'm not going to quit talking to my ex because her and i are just friends and it has nothing to do with her. It's not like i still hang out with her or anything. she has done nothing to piss off my new girlfriend or anything so why the **** should I.

Discuss

[81911SC]

She is looking at it like, there was something there in the past, something may come up again. EVEN IF there is no chance that would happen, you can tell her all she wants but that won't convince her. I can see where she is coming from but I can also see where you are coming from. The best thing to do is nail her in the ass.

[Ruiner]

Ahh, I just notice your age. Makes sense...

[Alan®]

^I am actually a lot more mature for my age then you would think

[tony]

Ahh, I just notice your age. Makes sense...

so true so true.. I was mature at a young age too but doesn't mean I didnt make dumb decisions. As you get older you realize that the good ones do not come a dime a dozen so if she means that much to you.. it wouldn't even be a question of what you should or shouldnt do.

I know if I had to choose between someone I love and a ex that cheated on me.. it would be a no brainer.

[Double_0_Rusty]

so true so true.. I was mature at a young age too but doesn't mean I didnt make dumb decisions. As you get older you realize that the good ones do not come a dime a dozen so if she means that much to you.. it wouldn't even be a question of what you should or shouldnt do.

I know if I had to choose between someone I love and a ex that cheated on me.. it would be a no brainer.

This guys speaks the truth.

[81911SC]

Once a cheater always a cheater. Friendship counts for that too.

[SicStang03]

This guys speaks the truth.


I concure :goodjob:

[nreggie454]

so true so true.. I was mature at a young age too but doesn't mean I didnt make dumb decisions. As you get older you realize that the good ones do not come a dime a dozen so if she means that much to you.. it wouldn't even be a question of what you should or shouldnt do.

I know if I had to choose between someone I love and a ex that cheated on me.. it would be a no brainer.

QFT and reps.

I had a girlfriend who cheated on me, and the conversation in which I broke up with her was the last time I ever talked to that whore.

Your current g/f basically is saying choose your friendship with the old girl or your current relationship. You can't have both.

[Crazy Asian]

I saw my girl cheating on me and then I laughed at her sorry ass. Well the next days she calls me and I hung up. She calls again and leaves this crazy message. So the following week she comes to my house crying asking why Im not talking to her and I just said "I caught you cheating on me. Duh." LOL Then I slammed the door on her.

[Alan®]

so true so true.. I was mature at a young age too but doesn't mean I didnt make dumb decisions. As you get older you realize that the good ones do not come a dime a dozen so if she means that much to you.. it wouldn't even be a question of what you should or shouldnt do.

I know if I had to choose between someone I love and a ex that cheated on me.. it would be a no brainer.
Again though her and i had been friends before and the whole her cheating on me thing yea i can see where you are coming from but the whole ex-girlfriend thing aside which is really my point because she wants me to do the same thing with other people that i hang out with. who do you choose your friends that have been there for years or your girlfriend who has only been there for a year and a half. to me friendship first unless your married in this case i'm not. that's really what i'm getting at

[Wurm]

quit being a dumbass and quit talking to that skank before you lose your current toys

[Alan®]

so put someone else in the "skanks" shoes your saying that i should still ditch a friend for the sake of a relationship man come on be real

[Wurm]

yep

[Ruiner]

so put someone else in the "skanks" shoes your saying that i should still ditch a friend for the sake of a relationship man come on be real

Your "friend" cheated on you while you two were dating. How you can trust your "friend" again is beyond me. Cheating is a conscious effort that she willingly did.

There is a saying: "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."

[B18c1Turboed]

HAHAHAHA obviously you dont love your girl that much!! In relationships u make sacrifices as you get older and mature better you will learn that!!

[Alan®]

again though if this was just a friend like one of my guy friends and she told me to stop hanging out with them your saying that i should do it? So i give up a friendship and then what? The other thing that pisses me off is that she has told me to do change this and that and the other and I have I mean where the hell do I draw the line guys?

[B18c1Turboed]

If you where butt fu*king them!! then yea she has every right too tell you stop!!

[Ruiner]

again though if this was just a friend like one of my guy friends and she told me to stop hanging out with them your saying that i should do it? So i give up a friendship and then what? The other thing that pisses me off is that she has told me to do change this and that and the other and I have I mean where the hell do I draw the line guys?

Look at it from your gf's perspective: you are not only good, close friends with an ex, but you are friends with an ex that CHEATED on you.

No wonder she is concerned! How would you feel if your g/f was good friends with her ex that cheated on her? Something is weird about that, ya know? It's not normal.

[Double_0_Rusty]

Man, you really need to listen to the valid advice you are getting here. I mean can't see that you are only focking up your current relationship. Leave your ex aka "the friend" the fock alone. Ask yourself this question, "Do I really love (insert name)? Do I really want to mess things up with her, over someone that cheated on me in the past?" I understand what you saying though. But, be real man. My ex cheated on me, and she tries to this day after 2 years to be my friend, hell she wants me back ( and she is married now). I ignore that b!tch all I can. Just don't lose what you have now for someone from the past. That's just my two cents.

[Alan®]

^^^To me that's called mature when two people can sit down and resolve a problem to where there is no more drama resulting from that problem.

Again though no one has answered my question where do you draw the line? I have done everything she has ever asked but yet have not asked anything of her? Yes in relationships there are sacrifices but they are all coming from me

[B18c1Turboed]

Theres a song that goes you cheated on him, whats going to say you wont cheat on me! obviously you ex is a whore for cheating on you, and your girl know this, so she cheated on you. So obviously she has no morals.
So if she walked in your house naked? could you resist? why even give her room too have the chance,. Obviously you dont love or care for your girl like you claim!!

Why be friends with a girl cheated on you anywas? friendship or not!! shes always gonna be a whore!

[B18c1Turboed]

1 more thing! obviously your realationship with your ex didnt mean anything too her, why would a friendship?

[Alan®]

Theres a song that goes you cheated on him, whats going to say you wont cheat on me! obviously you ex is a whore for cheating on you, and your girl know this, so she cheated on you. So obviously she has no morals.
So if she walked in your house naked? could you resist? why even give her room too have the chance,. Obviously you dont love or care for your girl like you claim!!

Why be friends with a girl cheated on you anywas? friendship or not!! shes always gonna be a whore!
yes absolutely i could because it wouldn't happen because she doesnt go back to people she has already dated once shes done shes done.

[Wurm]

resolving a problem to cause another one lol

[Wurm]

good luck with you relationships i guess you will learn your lesson the hardway

[Alan®]

well i already texted her to tell her she won so i get problem solved but i still feel like im doing all the giving and not getting anything

[OneSlow5pt0]

well i already texted her to tell her she won so i get problem solved but i still feel like im doing all the giving and not getting anything

welcome to a relationship:D

[Alan®]

^and you think thats right this is the whole point of all this I am tired of doing all the giving and not getting its supposed to be give and take and all i have done is give and give and give

[JITB]

Life will be alot easier if u jsut stop talkin to her. honestly what is your ex doing for you as a friend. Besides intefere with your current relationship with the girl u "love". Same sex friends are different unless ur gay..lol, which ur obviously not. Most girls wont tell u to stop hanging with male friends, unless they are messing up the relationship, and "good/real" friends never do. and truthfully, the only reason ex's that have done wrong want to be friends, is to make themselves feel better about what they did in the first place.

[tony]

drop the girlfriend then and keep the friendship with the cheating ex :goodjob:

[JITB]

drop the girlfriend then and keep the friendship with the cheating ex :goodjob:


and get some of this after....
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[Alan®]

well either way i guess im ****ed i gave her what she wants now she wants to know what the big deal is whatever i could really care less at this point this whole thing is pissing me off and depressing as all hell

[Double_0_Rusty]

Once you drop the g/f, send her my way. I will know how to treat her, as opposed to you.

[Vteckidd]

If you broke it off with her, grow up and move on. There is no reason to stay CLOSE friends with an ex, shes an EX FOR A REASON.

I stay CORDIAL with my exes for the most part in the event that i might run into them, but i dont stay their friends nor call them ever.

Shes an ex for a reason, cut her off, time to move on. Either that or break up with the current GF. Shes right, you have to choose, cant have it both ways.

[Alan®]

nce you drop the g/f, send her my way. I will know how to treat her, as opposed to you.
hey you know what **** you man aight just because we have different views on ex's doesnt mean i dont know how to treat my girl you don't know me ***** what part of the last three times i have said i gave her what she wanted did you not understand. if you cant understand that what makes you think you can treat her better than i can

[Double_0_Rusty]

hey you know what **** you man aight just because we have different views on ex's doesnt mean i dont know how to treat my girl you don't know me ***** what part of the last three times i have said i gave her what she wanted did you not understand. if you cant understand that what makes you think you can treat her better than i can

Am I the one that made a thread on IA of all places asking for advice? No. Another thing, I am laughing irl at you for even posting this, and then getting pissed off when someone is being saracastic. You have some growing up to do. There shouldn't have been anything to think about. Obviously, you just did the right thing by telling your girl she won, but do you really think that she is going to let you forget about this?

Either way carry on with your b!tching and crying.

Oh btw, F*CK you chump.

[Alan®]

Am I the one that made a thread on IA of all places asking for advice? No. Another thing, I am laughing irl at you for even posting this, and then getting pissed off when someone is being saracastic. You have some growing up to do. There shouldn't have been anything to think about. Obviously, you just did the right thing by telling your girl she won, but do you really think that she is going to let you live this down?

Oh btw, F*CK you chump.
forgive me if you were in fact being sarcastic but as im sure you can understand i am in no shape to be guessing if someone is being sarcastic. my mind is all over the place.

[MudderFugger]

If you broke it off with her, grow up and move on. There is no reason to stay CLOSE friends with an ex, shes an EX FOR A REASON.

I stay CORDIAL with my exes for the most part in the event that i might run into them, but i dont stay their friends nor call them ever.

Shes an ex for a reason, cut her off, time to move on. Either that or break up with the current GF. Shes right, you have to choose, cant have it both ways.QFT! :yes:

Why f*ck up a good relationship for the sake of a girl that f*cked you over in the past?? Don't try to be greedy.

[Double_0_Rusty]

forgive me if you were in fact being sarcastic but as im sure you can understand i am in no shape to be guessing if someone is being sarcastic. my mind is all over the place.

Forgiven my son. But don't you think that it is just a wee bit ridiculous to let a chick get you this twisted?

[Alan®]

Forgiven my son. But don't you think that it is just a wee bit ridiculous to let a chick get you this twisted?
:goodjob: Reps if i can for being an adult. It is ridiculous man and thats what i can't wrap my mind around is where to draw the ****ing line in the sand. I have given so much yet asked for nothing and yet it never seems like enough. And then on top of all this ****. I'm trying to make plans for new years and as my dad didn't have anyone to spend it with i didn't just want to leave him and my girlfriend and her mom are breathing down my neck about coming over and staying the night after i told her i didnt feel right about just leaving him and that even if i did he wouldnt let me stay the night. and her mom as usual chiming in her two cents in the background telling me to just ask or whatever and it pisses me off. there is no respect from her or her mom for what i want its what they want when they want no exceptions. example her mom bought her tickets to the american idol concert for her birthday without knowing what our school schedules were going to be like at the time. then when i found out that i was going to have a class i told her that my dad wasn't going to let me go. and what do i get from her mom? that she's not oging if i don't take her and yada yada yada. and that pissed me off and my dad off even more. and then last night i pick her up to watch the game and told her i would drop herr off a lil after 11 and she said ok but what happens in the middle of the third quarter right as the pats are rallying back. her mom calling demanding that i bring her home because she needs to take her dog out after i had already told her when she would be home and she agreed. i'm just saying im tired of giving without asking for anything but yet no matter how much i give its never enough thats why i was so stubborn on this. See what I'm saying?

[Double_0_Rusty]

:goodjob: Reps if i can for being an adult. It is ridiculous man and thats what i can't wrap my mind around is where to draw the ****ing line in the sand. I have given so much yet asked for nothing and yet it never seems like enough. And then on top of all this ****. I'm trying to make plans for new years and as my dad didn't have anyone to spend it with i didn't just want to leave him and my girlfriend and her mom are breathing down my neck about coming over and staying the night after i told her i didnt feel right about just leaving him and that even if i did he wouldnt let me stay the night. and her mom as usual chiming in her two cents in the background telling me to just ask or whatever and it pisses me off. there is no respect from her or her mom for what i want its what they want when they want no exceptions. example her mom bought her tickets to the american idol concert for her birthday without knowing what our school schedules were going to be like at the time. then when i found out that i was going to have a class i told her that my dad wasn't going to let me go. and what do i get from her mom? that she's not oging if i don't take her and yada yada yada. and that pissed me off and my dad off even more. and then last night i pick her up to watch the game and told her i would drop herr off a lil after 11 and she said ok but what happens in the middle of the third quarter right as the pats are rallying back. her mom calling demanding that i bring her home because she needs to take her dog out after i had already told her when she would be home and she agreed. i'm just saying im tired of giving without asking for anything but yet no matter how much i give its never enough thats why i was so stubborn on this. See what I'm saying?

I understand dude. I have been there, and it sucks. Just go hang out with some friends, do something not to think about it so much. It'll get better.

[Alan®]

point is i shouldn't have to go do something to not think about it so much it shouldnt be like this

[JITB]

as long as u or uf gf live with your parents, you will always be faced with BS from both sides. So get used to it, until u move out.

[Alan®]

yea but this isnt the first time she has made me stop hanging out with someone or stop talking to someone i have friends that i go to college with but i can't hang out with because of her so i sit in my dorm all week with no one to hang out or talk to all week. and then i get home and hang out with her all weekend and do it all over agiain. i'm tired of it man for real

[tony]

i think we need pics of current girlfriend and ex to make a true decision on this

[JITB]

yea but this isnt the first time she has made me stop hanging out with someone or stop talking to someone i have friends that i go to college with but i can't hang out with because of her so i sit in my dorm all week with no one to hang out or talk to all week. and then i get home and hang out with her all weekend and do it all over agiain. i'm tired of it man for real


well make a decision, and tell us what happens.... :goodjob:

[Alan®]

I am not posting pics of the ex cause yall will laugh but hte current is an upgrade fo sho

http://i75.photobucket.com/albums/i311/midnightracer05/homecoming/Homecoming12.jpg

[nreggie454]

yea but this isnt the first time she has made me stop hanging out with someone or stop talking to someone i have friends that i go to college with but i can't hang out with because of her so i sit in my dorm all week with no one to hang out or talk to all week. and then i get home and hang out with her all weekend and do it all over agiain. i'm tired of it man for real

Long distance relationship FTMFL. Get a totally new chick that doesn't suck so much (read: not the ex, either).

[Alan®]

its not a long distance relationship we both go to the same school only i live on campus she commutes

[nreggie454]

its not a long distance relationship we both go to the same school only i live on campus she commutes

If you have to travel to hang out, then it is long distance to me. Is she your girlfriend from highschool? I have found that highschool relationships usually suck because with the limited amount of people to choose from, it makes you have to "deal with" a lot more stuff in a relationship than you should.

Your current GF seems too controlling (along with long distance), so I say that you should start dating other girls (definitely not the ex, though). There's a million of them out there.

[HeLLo iM iZzY]

No offense man but you're being hardheaded as fawk. Leave the girl who cheated on you because "once a cheater, always a cheater." You might not be dating but she'll screw you over as a friend eventually. You said you loved her to death did you not? Then why don't you do that to fulfill her wishes. I'm telling you man, from experience, it will only get worse. Do the right thing the first time because if you don't it'll come back to bite you. In the long run, this will cause you so many problems that you will not be read to face cause they're all gonna come at you at once. It might even cause her to walk away from you. Don't take it as you're ***** whipped because that has nothing to do with this situation. I'm sure you'd do anything for the one you love, am I right? If so, then you know what to do man.

[Alan®]

done did it homie thanks^

[HeLLo iM iZzY]

You've given up everything but you havn't asked for anything? Sh1ttttttttttt, ask to do her dirty in the booty, ask for some upgrades on your car, ask for three somes. Damn son, you're playing the wrong game.

[Alan®]

^Oh now you see what I've been getting at. DaMN where was that like a hour ago when i needed it before i gave up.Lol

[HeLLo iM iZzY]

LOL,my bad..

Go get some alcohol but don't get trashed, just a bit tipsy, then enjoy some X360.

[Alan®]

exactly my plan

[isa2o3]

lol its simple if u dont want to listen to these peoples' advices and ur girl, just talk to her in secret and tell ur girl u stopped talking to her.

[tony]

So the ex is uglier too???

[Alan®]

what you think the current is ugly?^yea you would have hated the ex then

[tony]

Nah the current is very cute.. just confused as to why you would want to even associate with the ex if she did you dirty and you upgraded.

[IndianStig]

so put someone else in the "skanks" shoes your saying that i should still ditch a friend for the sake of a relationship man come on be real


if you really love the girl your with. ditch the skank.

she cheated on you, she only wants to be friends with you cause deep down inside she wants to get back with you or use you. you are a moron for not seeing this.

[Alan®]

^see thats the funny thing she wanted nothing to do with me i had to make her act like an adult. you are an idiot for making assumptions

[IndianStig]

you don't really love the girl your with if you can't ditch a girl who cheated on you to make this current one happy.

sorry, bro, not as smart as you think

[Alan®]

well i ditched her but if you had read the entire thread you would have seen what the real argument was about. it was about me giving and giving and giving and asking for nothing but yet it never seems like enough.

[babygurl]

well i ditched her but if you had read the entire thread you would have seen what the real argument was about. it was about me giving and giving and giving and asking for nothing but yet it never seems like enough.


If you are tired of giving so much, and not getting **** in return. Then dump your current girl, stay single and focus on yourself. You are 19. I dont give a **** how mature you are for your age. Youre still young. You have your whole life ahead of you to be in a relationship. At your age, you should ****ing around and being stupid. Not to the point where it runs the rest of your life.

Secondly, if all your girl does is take, why are you with her? Is she really that perfect to be with, where you are miserable half the time, becuase her controlling mother is always in the way? And she is exactly like her mother?

Geez...makes sense. But if that is what you want then go with it.

Or you could be a man and tell her, that you always giving and her taking, and not getting anything in return is bogus, and try and and talk it out. But if then after you try that and it still doesnt get better, then step.

IMO!

[Alan®]

^dually noted told her that i was tired of giving and never getting tonight but she was half asleep so saving the discussion for tommorow.I completely agree with you and have been thinking about leaving for a lil bit simply because of this but i'm trying to make it work.if i do dump her i will stay stingle for at least a year probably.reps if i can

[babygurl]

^dually noted told her that i was tired of giving and never getting tonight but she was half asleep so saving the discussion for tommorow.I completely agree with you and have been thinking about leaving for a lil bit simply because of this but i'm trying to make it work.if i do dump her i will stay stingle for at least a year probably.reps if i can


Thanks, just no sense in being unhappy in a relationship. I learned the hard way, and I will not go through that **** again.

Make yourself happy first, worry about girls later....most of the time they are nothing but trouble, everyonce in a while there is one or two that are worth the trouble...

[Alan®]

yup been there done that

[babygurl]

hehe been there done that twice....

[Alan®]

ouch

[1000cckiller]

so true so true.. I was mature at a young age too but doesn't mean I didnt make dumb decisions. As you get older you realize that the good ones do not come a dime a dozen so if she means that much to you.. it wouldn't even be a question of what you should or shouldnt do.

I know if I had to choose between someone I love and a ex that cheated on me.. it would be a no brainer.Tony I agree to a point, but they probably do come a dime a dozen. Most just wont meet them all, if you get my drift.

[tony]

Tony I agree to a point, but they probably do come a dime a dozen. Most just wont meet them all, if you get my drift.

well hook me up when you come across an extra one cause I'm certainly not meeting them

[LiL PaKi]

Would you like it if ur girl was talking to her ex bf?

when u are in a relationship.. trust me its not a good thing to talk/be friends with ur ex.. u can say trust me me nothing is going to happen but u can never really trust someone no matter how much u think u know them.

[Alan®]

I would not tell her not to simply because im not that type of person and i told her that if the shoe was on the other foot and it was her in my shoes i wouldnt do anything about it because its not my business. but it doesnt matter she got what she wanted i deleted all her numbers and **** last night so

[LiL PaKi]

I would not tell her not to simply because im not that type of person and i told her that if the shoe was on the other foot and it was her in my shoes i wouldnt do anything about it because its not my business. but it doesnt matter she got what she wanted i deleted all her numbers and **** last night so

if u are going out with someone u are her business and she is ur business..

think about it this way if u kiss another girl that is ur girls business...

[Alan®]

thats not even the same thing^

[1000cckiller]

well hook me up when you come across an extra one cause I'm certainly not meeting themWell if you would have told me 6 months ago, I had the perfect one for you. She is my best friend, she is a teacher in conyers. But you have to get out more, to meet these women they are there.

[redrumracer]

hmmmm so she is this insecure right now. i say leave her ass

[tony]

ehh work keeps me tied up but I'll start coming around more often

[1000cckiller]

ehh work keeps me tied up but I'll start coming around more oftenThats all it is the more you go out, the more women you can meet. Your perfect match is always around the corner, you just have to be looking.

[Alan®]

hmmmm so she is this insecure right now. i say leave her ass
very very insecure

[Evil Goat]

im not reading everything but the current girl is def. insecure....she doesnt have confidence or a feeling of self worth

no matter if people think is abnormal or not, mistakes are made by everyone, and if you can get past it and you two can still be friends then its all good, forgive and forget, and the past is just that, the past.

personally if the current girl kept this **** up id drop her like a hot sack of rocks....my wife has tons of self esteem and confidence, and therefore as long as i dont give her a reason to not trust me she can trust me in any situation with any person.

cliff notes....the current girl needs to grow up and stop being a whiny *****.

[lilmanx01]

dude. i hate insecure bitches. their head jobs. jst tap em both for me one time yo

[redrumracer]

better yet leave this thread open one day while shes over. not logged in your name tho that way she can get a very direct hint as to how she is acting

[Alan®]

im not reading everything but the current girl is def. insecure....she doesnt have confidence or a feeling of self worth

no matter if people think is abnormal or not, mistakes are made by everyone, and if you can get past it and you two can still be friends then its all good, forgive and forget, and the past is just that, the past.

personally if the current girl kept this **** up id drop her like a hot sack of rocks....my wife has tons of self esteem and confidence, and therefore as long as i dont give her a reason to not trust me she can trust me in any situation with any person.

cliff notes....the current girl needs to grow up and stop being a whiny *****.
I'm glad someone sees and understands what i have been trying to say about the whole ex situation. Well i went over and was still really pissed off at her last night and i finally exploded and told her that if this **** ever happened again it would be the last thing that would ever happen between. us i told her that i was tired of sacrificing for the sake of her insecurity and that i was done doing so. no more going through my phone or anything else like that. so lets see what happens but if it continues im done. i was really close to dumping her last night

[babygurl]

Well good luck...most women who are insecure, wont change unless they are ready to. And her maybe being around your age, is going to be a long time before she does...

[Mach1DrmGrl]

I'm glad someone sees and understands what i have been trying to say about the whole ex situation. Well i went over and was still really pissed off at her last night and i finally exploded and told her that if this **** ever happened again it would be the last thing that would ever happen between. us i told her that i was tired of sacrificing for the sake of her insecurity and that i was done doing so. no more going through my phone or anything else like that. so lets see what happens but if it continues im done. i was really close to dumping her last night

good luck!

[Evil Goat]

wow, shes going through your phone too? seriously man, ya'll aren't married....i would drop this ***** like yesterday....who the hell wants to walk on eggshells and be with a jealous possesive *****?

i think youre spot on buddy...let her be possesive of someone else...plus theres always ex sex

[bocatica]

Ok, a couple things:

1) Yes she is sounds a lil insecure. really though you are the one to judge her. But I'll say this, it depends on what you want from the relationship ie do you just want something casual or are you looking for a real girlfriend. Maybe what you want and what she wants are different.
2) really if you are not hiding anything, it should be fun to watch her go through your stuff. I make a joke about it all the time with my lady.