Baby Wanted

[redgst97]

My wife and I have been trying to start a family for over 2 years now with no success. We have seen every "specialist" there is, been through 3 surgeries, and still no luck.

We have decided to focus on adoption.

So, I am asking for your assistance in spreading the word. I would think there might be a few young ladies out their who have found themselves in a situation that they would rather not be in at this point in their lives.

My wife and I have been married for 9 years, are both college educated, and own our own companies. Michelle is born and raised here in Atlanta (Parkview and Ga State graduate). I have an Army father and have move around the country and world considerably...I went to 3 different high schools.

My parents live about 2 miles from us, and Michelle's mother (a widow) lives about 45 minutes away. Between my brother and sister and Michelle's brother, we have a combined total 12 nieces and nephewes. Family is important to us.

Again, if you know of someone who needs help, or are possibly someone reading this who might be able to help, PLEASE cotact us.

[email protected]
678-908-8285

The email and number above were set up SPECIFICALLY for the adoption process. Please use them if needed, and, respectfully, do not abuse them.

This is NOT a joke. This is our life, the hand we were delt, and we are trying to make the most of it.

Thank you!

John

[GIXXERDK]

Best of luck

[cactusEG]

so ur looking for a place adopt a child? or a sperm bank ?

[redgst97]

We are looking for an expecting mother who does not wish to keep her baby.
We want to adopt a baby.

[Ruststang]

I'm sorry to whom ever read my original post. I was being very rude and inconsiderate to the issues and seriousness of this thread. Im very sorry if i offended anyone and i wish the best of luck to you on your venture in starting your new family.

[EmminoDaGreat]

good luck

[redgst97]

Rustang: PLEASE reread the first post. Respect whats going on here.

Im asking for help locating a baby that is need of adoption.

[Ruststang]

^^ fixed my post, im jerk and very sorry.

[Jimmy B]

john, good luck, its the best thing EVER that has happened in my life, and it will be in yours too.. i wish you could go through the whole thing,(pregnancy, birth) its UNFORGETABLE and i am so much of a better person for having my son come into my life.

again, good luck from my family and I!!

[RandomGuy]

maybe this should be in the WTB section






heh JK [im an asshole i'm sorry] lol
On a serious note have you guys considered adopting an overseas baby, ie Chinese (VERY HIGH RATE OF ADOPTIONS), etc, I have a azn friend who was adopted into a caucasian household. But yeah if race is an issue then I'm SURE there are agencies out there. But if you get a white baby, you can't tell ppl its JDM :( So yeah, rescue foreign babies FTW

or is that out of the question..

Hrm, I'm sure theres a buncha agencies out there, just hit up google...

[Wurm]

bring me a girl and ill make you a baby

[Evil Goat]

^lol....

have you tried dfcs? they are very helpful, its a bit time consuming, but you've waited this long...we are getting the wheels rolling now on adoption, we are capable and already have a child, but i feel your pain, my nephew adopted 2 kids in the last 5 years...under the same circumstances....im all for adoption, my wifes adopted, her sister, and i now have 1 neice who is adopted and the 2 kids aforementioned


best of luck to you in your quest, family is where its at

[On_Her_Face]

hmm if i were in you're situation i would do what they did in friends.. but the problem is finding somebody you can trust... if u did not see that episode then they basically put their egg/sperm into another woman and she had the baby

[4dmin]

good luck; i built a website for a couple adopting a baby (i know that is one requirement for alot of adoption agencys). if you would like more info on the process my friends are going through let me know i can shoot you over their website/email.

[Julio]

wish you luck man !

[Nitro]

John g/l bro i wish u the best you guys seem very serious & i'm sure your wishes will be granted. :yes:

[DeeAOne]

best of luck on finding a baby to adopt :yes:

[Tech5]

GO JDM BABY !

[redgst97]

Again, thank you for the kind words, and ideas.

We are trying to stay out of an agency for the time being. We are giving a try at locating a willing birthmother on our own (with some help from you guys). This will save THOUSANDS of dollars in the long run. It might not work out, and in a few months or year, we might go with an agency.

While we have not ruled out a baby from another country, we would like to start our search locally, then regionally, then nationally, and then internationally. I believe there are too many cases locally to not at least try that route first.

A serrogate mother is not an option for us.
Sperm donor is not necessary
Egg donor would set us back another 35K.

Its never good when your wife's doctor mentions "tumor" and "cancer" in the same visit. Lets just leave it at that.

So, the focus is finding a young woman in trouble. The goal, ultimately, is to save the life of a child up against difficult and/or impossible odds.

[B16a2 Civic]

Let me know if someone comes into this thread negativly, the post will be removed and person be banned. Either report the post and me and other mods will get it immediatly, or msg he on aim orprivate msg me.

Good luck, I hope everything works out for your family and any additions to it

[Leisa]

Good Luck John... Brett and I are in the same sort of predicament... I cant have kids, and he can...and wants them... we have looked at other alternative measures but everything is so expensive... I wish you the best of luck... ;)

[Spektrewing386]

try craigslist

[Spectic Tank]

My mother has adopted 3 children from Foster homes in the past couple years. This is through the state, not through some agency. If you want more info I can get it for you. There are plenty of children who need parents...you're doing a great thing.

[quickdodge®]

Not to provide any negativity to this, but to make you more aware, John, but be very wary and careful of doing this. I'm sure you've heard/read the stories on "fake adoptions." People are put in contact with a woman who is "pregnant" and they help her through the by sending her money for doctor's visits and pre-natal vitamins and other monetary expenses only to find out that the female was never pregnant. Read up on this stuff and be very careful, dude.

With that said, I wish you the best of luck. Later, QD.

[redgst97]

QD: Yes, we have heard horror stories!! Many of them. But, we have also heard more success stories. Thanks for the caution though.

Specvee: State adoption is something we have looked into VERY little so far. It is on the "radar", just not at the top of the list just yet.

Leisa: Sorry to hear you guys are in the same situation we are.... I "think" we were in your shoes about 2-18 months ago. Let me know if you need any more information regarding IVF or Donor. Been there, done that.

Thanks again!

[B16a2 Civic]

my father was adopted, so i defintly hope you guys can find a child in need of a good family

[Wurm]

my offer still stands

[Nightsrt4]

Bah sorry to hear that.....I have a 8 month old son it's alot of work don't worry it will happen for you.

[Princess12]

Good luck with everything! I'll keep you guys in my prayers.

[kpc2593]

I feel ya man.....I wish ya luck in the future.....sorry I can't help out man...again, best of luck! :goodjob:

[redgst97]

Wurm: When your offer is relevant to the situation and request from the original post, I might talk to you about it.....
Until you have something helpful to offer, there is no need for the nonsense.

[itsjustdee]

Good luck :)

[chrisdavis]

Have you thought about becoming foster parents? I work with a guy who was a foster parent for years. He adopted two of his foster kids (he said the foster parents get first option to adopt).

[redgst97]

Chrisdavis: Sort of.,...my mom volunteer in Forsyth county, so we have gotten some information about foster parenting. Thanks for the idea....

Foster parents (from what I know) WILL get the option to adopt, but not all foster children become available for adoption. Some go back into the "system" (unfortuantely), and some go back to thier parents....its heart wrenching, and difficult ( at times).

[Spectic Tank]

Chrisdavis: Sort of.,...my mom volunteer in Forsyth county, so we have gotten some information about foster parenting. Thanks for the idea....

Foster parents (from what I know) WILL get the option to adopt, but not all foster children become available for adoption. Some go back into the "system" (unfortuantely), and some go back to thier parents....its heart wrenching, and difficult ( at times).

My mother has been a foster parent and she has adopted 3 of her foster children. It is truely sad to see these children in this situation. In my opinion these are the children that need to be rescued. While it takes a long time to take take away the birth mother's rights, they usually do end up in the custody of the state or their adopted parents.

Good luck again and if you want any more info on state adoption or foster parenting my mom is very involved and can answer any questions you might have.

[sdiddy]

Good luck with your adoption.

Please do not be discouraged about your luck (or lack thereof). My wife and I went through a similar situation. We were trying for 4 years before we conceived. I know it seems hopeless that nothing has happened after 2, but that doesn't necessarily mean that it won't.

Along with your adoption, keep the faith that you and your spouse will also be able to have children naturally one day.

[redgst97]

sdiddy: Thanks for the kind words of encouragement!!!
Unfortunately, medically speaking, my wife cannot have children. Naturally is NOT a option for us.

[tippatone]

I am so saddened to hear about your situation, especially when back in the day when i lived in NY a girl that lived in my neighborhood wrapped her newborn in a sheet and left it in a bathroom so her parents wouldn't know, and i remember thinking, child birth is a blessing from God and she is taking it for granted, may God bless you and your wife and i hope you can find a situation where you can have a welcome addition to your family.

[{X}Echo419]

is it just me or all the people that "want" children can't have them and the people that don't get pregnant by incodential contact?

Good Luck to the both of you.

[KPowerEP3]

Wow...just wow. This is really a great thing. I applaud you guys greatly for going about the situation the way you are. It's very heartwarming to see someone want to take their own terrible circumstances and use it to not only help someone else for the better, but also further themselves.

Best of luck and prayers to you, your wife, and your search.

[tko]

Wish you the best of luck.

[OG-Skinny]

Good Luck with this John. I sent you a PM' with some info that I'm hoping will help you and your wife enjoy the gift of a child.

-Rhyne

[green91]

Wow man, its very commendable of you and your wife to go this route, and you've got my utmost respect. So many children out there are nothing more than a burden to their single parent homes, and couple like yourself can really change a child's life for the better as well as your own. While i don't have a child to offer i certainly do wish you well on your endeavor

[OG-Skinny]

John,

I got all this info from the Ex. Hopefully it will help you and the wife.


http://www.dhr.georgia.gov/portal/site/DHR/ Type in Keyword Adoption Services

http://georgia.adoption.com

www.americanadoptions.com (http://www.americanadoptions.com)

Local (like as in they are locating in Lawrenceville) adoption assistance:
http://www.adoptioninfosvcs.com/default.htm

There are plenty more out there all you have to do is GOOGLE!!!

[SixSquared]

:goodjob: + reps for you, John, as well as everyone offering good advice/well wishes!

My parents were in the same situation, and got "lucky" when a coworker of my dad's mentioned that her sister (who was then in college) was pregnant unexpectedly... my parents set up a meeting with her and 9 months later I was born and adopted at birth. :D It's really great that you're looking for someone to help like that... saving two lives and getting a great gift in return. Props! I'll keep an ear out for someone to help you out!

[boostedb16]

best of luck to you and your wife. i live in dalton ga and i will keep a ear open for any one in trouble and wants to give there baby up for adoption.

[redgst97]

Thanks again everyone!!

We met with an adoption counselor Wednesday morning. She works with SEVERAL adoption agencies around the country. We will see where (if anywhere) this goes, but it IS more information for us to learna nd think about. We have also scheduled our first appointment for a "Home Study" which will happen tomorrow (Friday).

So, things are moving forward....I am not sure at what pace, but its progression nonetheless....

[manilikecars]

Good luck man

[MachNU]

Let me know if someone comes into this thread negativly, the post will be removed and person be banned. Either report the post and me and other mods will get it immediatly, or msg he on aim orprivate msg me.

Good luck, I hope everything works out for your family and any additions to it

x2, if hes not on hit me up and i will deal with teh dumbass.!

also on topic, good luck to you guys. Like the saying goes "when a door closes a window opens." it may be a smaller route to take but its not always easy getting the things you love/want! :goodjob:

[Leisa]

is it just me or all the people that "want" children can't have them and the people that don't get pregnant by incodential contact?

Good Luck to the both of you.

I agree... it sucks...

[Brett]

Good Luck John. I know Leisa and I have times we could have a child together. We have had amy talks on this issue. After her first 2 kids with her ex hsuband she had her tubes tied and her doctor also told her that her internla organs could not handle another pregnancy, so I understand what your going through... the wanting but it just isnt possible. But in my case its something I knew going into the relationship with Leisa, and maybe one day we will come across someone who would either have one for us or be pregnant and not want to keep the child, if not we will be fine how we are :)

[Smittie61984]

Good luck man.

I was adopted when I was 2weeks old. Never knew my real parents. I joke about it saying my mom was a prostitute and my father a fat drunk guy who had needed to pay to get laid.

I know that the adoption process is long and hard. I think my parents waited a year for me and the same for my sister.

Plus you get all the joys and miseries that a birth parent gets. You get to see the first steps and then you get to enjoy the hatred your kid will have for you when they turn 14years old.

The only difference is your wife doesn't have to pee, poop, fart, vomit or tear her vagina infront of complete strangers.

[BUGMAN]

I'm sorry to whom ever read my original post. I was being very rude and inconsiderate to the issues and seriousness of this thread. Im very sorry if i offended anyone and i wish the best of luck to you on your venture in starting your new family.

Maybe bad taste but still, funny!

We help pregnant teens and in the process of saving funds/building a teen home for expectant mothers. I will keep my eyes open for you but most of the expectant mothers want to keep their children once we are able to show them hope in their future.

We do occasionally have one that is willing to give them up for a better life. Just recently we ran across a soon to be mother that was not ready and more than willing to post for adoption. I will check on that but pretty sure that opportunity has passed by.

Good luck and we will keep ya posted on any situation that may be able to help you and your wife. If one does arise there are still background checks, drug test, living standards, Etc. that we require process for.

Again best of luck.

I don't know what I would do without the family that we were blessed with.

Chris

[J13eck]

maybe this should be in the WTB section






heh JK [im an asshole i'm sorry] lol
On a serious note have you guys considered adopting an overseas baby, ie Chinese (VERY HIGH RATE OF ADOPTIONS), etc, I have a azn friend who was adopted into a caucasian household. But yeah if race is an issue then I'm SURE there are agencies out there. But if you get a white baby, you can't tell ppl its JDM :( So yeah, rescue foreign babies FTW

or is that out of the question..

Hrm, I'm sure theres a buncha agencies out there, just hit up google...

wow lmao.:lmfao:


good luck john

[redgst97]

Maybe bad taste but still, funny!

We help pregnant teens and in the process of saving funds/building a teen home for expectant mothers. I will keep my eyes open for you but most of the expectant mothers want to keep their children once we are able to show them hope in their future.

We do occasionally have one that is willing to give them up for a better life. Just recently we ran across a soon to be mother that was not ready and more than willing to post for adoption. I will check on that but pretty sure that opportunity has passed by.

Good luck and we will keep ya posted on any situation that may be able to help you and your wife. If one does arise there are still background checks, drug test, living standards, Etc. that we require process for.

Again best of luck.

I don't know what I would do without the family that we were blessed with.

Chris

Thanks Chris: We have alaready begun (and finished) the Home Study with a Social Worker in planning for the future. We have finished the visits and interviews, as well as the paperwork and doctor visits.

[blown_ss]

good luck man. a really good friend of mine parents are foster parents and they have some really great kids. i know that you will be blessed with one. keep your head up. we need more people like you that are willing to adopt or be foster parents. i wish the best for you and your wife.

[MistaCee]

Good Luck man keep your head up

[ORGANIZATIONXIII]

I wish you best of luck on your search..

I know there are plenty of expecting mothers to be.. hopefully it won't back fire and be like that movie "losing isiah" that movie popped in my head while reading this thread

[redgst97]

1/16/08 Update:

We have been keeping this quite, as things tend to "happen" in our lives....

We did sign up with an agency in the early part of October, and were matched with a birthmother. We get all the paperwork signed, and things seem to be good. She is due on March 30, 2008. So, thats just 5 1/2 months to wait. No problem, we have been waiting nearly 3 years already...whats a few more months.

The weekend after Thanksgiving, we decide to go and meet the birthmother face-to-face. We had a great weekend, and got along well. I know. Its weird, but its what happens.

I have off from just before Christmas until New Years. This is a great time to begin getting the nursery ready. Paint. Cieling Fan. Furniture. Artwork. Bedding. Draperies. The works.

We talk to the birthmother almost every weekend. Things are good.

Last Friday afternoon, we get a call that she is in labor, and that we need to get up there (where she is) ASAP. There are a few issues to cover before we hop in the car and head that way.

The adoption laws in Goergia changed January 1. So, there are a few "new" things wee need to get before the adoption can be finalized. Not "that" big of a deal. We can handle a few of them with phone calls and faxes, and the last one can be handled with a visit to the doctor...now WE need drug tests too. No problem there.

I send my mom to babies-r-us for us to get a few premie outfits for us. During this time, we are frantically washing clothes, packing, making sure we have a sitter for the dog and the cats. We are told we will be out there for the next 2 months. The baby is only 28-29 weeks. WAY early.

By time we get done packing the car, drop off the dog, etc, it is 12 midnight. We go to sleep for while. The birthmother and baby are an 18-hour drive away. My wife gets up at 3:30 for a shower, and I am up at 4:00 am. We pull out of our driveway at 5:08 am. After 4 hours of sleep (not very "good" sleep either), I am going to drive the whole way there in 1 day.

We start getting calls from the lawyers around 11:30 am. There is NOT good news. I will not get into "those" details, but lets just say the adoption did not go through.

So, we are back at the beginning. We are on the search for a new birthmother.
The nursery is ready. Blue walls.

[The BUCKY]

dang bud sorry it worked out that way. things will work out for you.

[ueyedgr8tness]

MAn dude i offer my much of respect for ppl like u.cause i no my bro boss has been trying for 7 yr's and he is to selfish to adopt.He is like no its got to be my real baby that my wife has or i am not having kids at all.I really feel that he needs to loosen up like u and say..U no what there plenty of kids out ther on the way that will need a better home why not help them thrue life and give them a home they will never regret.


Man it touches me so much that you guy's or serious about it.so i say keep it up and it will come thrue for u:)

[Leisa]

1/16/08 Update:

We have been keeping this quite, as things tend to "happen" in our lives....

We did sign up with an agency in the early part of October, and were matched with a birthmother. We get all the paperwork signed, and things seem to be good. She is due on March 30, 2008. So, thats just 5 1/2 months to wait. No problem, we have been waiting nearly 3 years already...whats a few more months.

The weekend after Thanksgiving, we decide to go and meet the birthmother face-to-face. We had a great weekend, and got along well. I know. Its weird, but its what happens.

I have off from just before Christmas until New Years. This is a great time to begin getting the nursery ready. Paint. Cieling Fan. Furniture. Artwork. Bedding. Draperies. The works.

We talk to the birthmother almost every weekend. Things are good.

Last Friday afternoon, we get a call that she is in labor, and that we need to get up there (where she is) ASAP. There are a few issues to cover before we hop in the car and head that way.

The adoption laws in Goergia changed January 1. So, there are a few "new" things wee need to get before the adoption can be finalized. Not "that" big of a deal. We can handle a few of them with phone calls and faxes, and the last one can be handled with a visit to the doctor...now WE need drug tests too. No problem there.

I send my mom to babies-r-us for us to get a few premie outfits for us. During this time, we are frantically washing clothes, packing, making sure we have a sitter for the dog and the cats. We are told we will be out there for the next 2 months. The baby is only 28-29 weeks. WAY early.

By time we get done packing the car, drop off the dog, etc, it is 12 midnight. We go to sleep for while. The birthmother and baby are an 18-hour drive away. My wife gets up at 3:30 for a shower, and I am up at 4:00 am. We pull out of our driveway at 5:08 am. After 4 hours of sleep (not very "good" sleep either), I am going to drive the whole way there in 1 day.

We start getting calls from the lawyers around 11:30 am. There is NOT good news. I will not get into "those" details, but lets just say the adoption did not go through.

So, we are back at the beginning. We are on the search for a new birthmother.
The nursery is ready. Blue walls.



damn... I am sorry to hear that!

[JDMEK18]

man, I pray and wish you the best luck in finding a family that needs a home. I have 2 boys.. one 16 months and one 3 months and I love them with all my heart. It's a challenge but its the most amazing thing in the world to be there and go through the birth process.. If you get a chance to be there when the mother delivers- def. do it. If you build a relationship with the expecting mother - them I'm sure it wouldn't be a problem. I also pray for your wife and her health - God Bless You All.

[JDMEK18]

AWWW Man.. I posted before reading the update... Man - I'm so sorry that you all didn't get the adoption.

[umairejaz]

Good luck man, your doing a very good thing.

[Jimmy B]

john, very sorry to hear about the news,.. you WILL find the rigth baby to welcome into your family soon,.. this must not have been the right one!

[aaronfelipe]

Sorry to read the news and I wish you the best of luck in finding a baby soon.

[khan351]

Good luck and I hope and pray that everything works out for you

[quickdodge®]

Sorry to read, man. Good luck will come to you. Later, QD.