Relationship advice AGAIN

[Brut]

Damn I sure don't have good luck with relationships now do I? lol Ok well this time this is what happened. Sunday (july 1) I was at work and she was with some friends at the movies. Well while she was at the movies the guy with her made a move and ended up making out with her and gave her a hickey. She just now told me today all her friends said don't tell me because I might break up with her. Well she told me and I was crushed, I was real hurt and all and upset. I didn't break up with her I was kinda glad she had told me too. I knew something was wrong and cause on Sunday I got sick and all I have bronchitis as of right now, the weather has been shit tomorrow is the day that my older brother commit suicide :cry: (july 4) and all. So you could say July is the greatest month for me. My girlfriend says she loves me still with all her heart and all and I still love her but she has lost a lot of my trust from doing that. I asked one friend what his opinion was and what he would do in my position he said forgive and forget he said she told you right? and I said yes and then that means she loves you and all. Well I want some of yall's opinions what would you do if you were in my position or what is some advice you would give me? Thanks in advance No flaming me and all please thanks

[Blitanicle99]

Break up with her, if she comes crawling back she does care about you. If not, shes full of it.

[Wurm]

you can take the girl our the trailer park but you can never take the trailer park out the girl

[cactusEG]

hol shit dude srry to hear about ur bro... and i say dump the girls fast cus if she really loves u she wouldnt of pulled that faul shit on u. go to a nice club and find u a new girl

[Brut]

you can take the girl our the trailer park but you can never take the trailer park out the girl

huh :???:

[Wurm]

huh :???:
lmao if you cant understand that then you need to stay away from women

[Hektik]

first of all how long have yall been dating and how old are yall.. are there any ties within the relationship ie. do yall live together, do yall have shared bank accounts. im assuming from just reading your post that there are no kids involved...


if there are no ties and you guys are still young than i would leave her.. no point in cotinuing in a relationship that has already been tainted.. she can regain your trust but it will take alot on her part. plus you will always have it in the back of your head at least for a long time. what she did wasnt just a mistake if she went along and "madeout" with this guy to the point where she got a hickey then there was alot more than him just making a move on her... she had alot to do with it.. also just because she told you doesnt mean she trully loves you or that she is sorry... just think really hard about it and wether its worth all the trouble, and the heart ache that continuing in a relationship with someone who has cheated on you will bring...
G/L....

[Brut]

hol shit dude srry to hear about ur bro... and i say dump the girls fast cus if she really loves u she wouldnt of pulled that faul shit on u. go to a nice club and find u a new girl
Ya thats what I was thinking and she. if she really loved me why would she pull that on me and all. As for the club thing I don't believe I would find 'nice' girls there and all. Ionno maybe?


Break up with her, if she comes crawling back she does care about you. If not, shes full of it.
The thing is I don't want to leave her I really love her and all and I don't want to leave her. Maybe I should try that I suppose?

[VooDooXII]

The unfortunate events of July are irrelevant. I can understand that it RUINS your mood and outlook towards things, and I'm sorry to hear about all that, but really...they're separate issues.

That aside, you need to leave that girl. Alright, she told you...but the fact that she didn't want you to know earlier is no good. Leave that girl...if she can't stay faithful to you, fuck it. How are you supposed to feel like you've got someone special when she's making out with every next guy she goes to a movie with. I mean, that's what I'd do...no "forgive and forget" with garbage like that. If you've lost that much trust...then it's probably not worth it.

How long have you two been together anyway?

[blackshine007]

She's not as in love with you as you are with her. Dump the skank and call it a day. If she "allowed" another man to put a hickey on her neck, Think about what else she's "allowed". Real talk, pimp, dump the skeezer, and find new love. But make sure to take it slow with the next female. But not too slow.

[VooDooXII]

But make sure to take it slow with the next female. But not too slow.

It's all about balance! :goodjob:

[cactusEG]

Ya thats what I was thinking and she. if she really loved me why would she pull that on me and all. As for the club thing I don't believe I would find 'nice' girls there and all. Ionno maybe?


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you work at the Mall of Ga, how hard could it be to find a girl or date?

[sullen]

break up..... tell her you guys will just have to be friends for a while. no benefits. see if she is still interested, if she goes straight into dating, she's full of shit. and if she does, you do too. if she comes back, tell her shits gotta be different. i mean, she trusted you enough to tell you. better than keeping it a secret. at least she told you so she could let you deal with it. big breaker of the trust, but good show of character in that. but then again, loss of character in getting a hickie....


or get a mutual friend to give you a hickie and when you go to pick her up for something let it "slip" and "accidentally" show her. if she gets mad, fuck her. if not, tell her something happened....you're sorry, guage her reaction. if she still wants to work things out, go for it.

[blackshine007]

It's all about balance! :goodjob:
Tru dat :goodjob:

[sullen]

how long have you been seeing eachother?

[VooDooXII]

how long have you been seeing eachother?

I'd like an answer to this...but moreso out of curiosity.

If it hasn't been long...then she's too easy and definitely not worth it.

If it has been a while...then who knows? She may have not told you about a couple other things all the while.

[Brut]

"forgive and forget" with garbage like that. If you've lost that much trust...then it's probably not worth it.

How long have you two been together anyway?[/QUOTE]

I think about almost half a year now. She gave me the excuse that when she was making out with the guy that she thought it was me and thats why she kept going and all.


She's not as in love with you as you are with her. Dump the skank and call it a day. If she "allowed" another man to put a hickey on her neck, Think about what else she's "allowed". Real talk, pimp, dump the skeezer, and find new love. But make sure to take it slow with the next female. But not too slow.

Thats what really pissed me off was the hickey thing.


you work at the Mall of Ga, how hard could it be to find a girl or date?
Its not I could find another girl and all again lolol


break up..... tell her you guys will just have to be friends for a while. no benefits. see if she is still interested, if she goes straight into dating, she's full of shit. and if she does, you do too. if she comes back, tell her shits gotta be different. i mean, she trusted you enough to tell you. better than keeping it a secret. at least she told you so she could let you deal with it. big breaker of the trust, but good show of character in that. but then again, loss of character in getting a hickie....


or get a mutual friend to give you a hickie and when you go to pick her up for something let it "slip" and "accidentally" show her. if she gets mad, fuck her. if not, tell her something happened....you're sorry, guage her reaction. if she still wants to work things out, go for it.

This one is the one for sure so far I am going to ggo with

I'd like an answer to this...but moreso out of curiosity.

If it hasn't been long...then she's too easy and definitely not worth it.

If it has been a while...then who knows? She may have not told you about a couple other things all the while.

[Jerra]

We all make mistakes. She didn't fuck him... It happens. If ya'll have been together more than a few months, then I would think about breaking up with her, otherwise, give her a shot...if you love her. People get scared and do stupid shit. trust is important though, and if you can't trust her then it won't work.

[Brut]

We all make mistakes. She didn't fuck him... It happens. If ya'll have been together more than a few months, then I would think about breaking up with her, otherwise, give her a shot...if you love her. People get scared and do stupid shit. trust is important though, and if you can't trust her then it won't work.
I wanted a womens :2cents: Im gonna go with yours. I love her thats for sure I trust her and all but not as much as I use to.

[cactusEG]

We all make mistakes. She didn't fuck him... It happens. If ya'll have been together more than a few months, then I would think about breaking up with her, otherwise, give her a shot...if you love her. People get scared and do stupid shit. trust is important though, and if you can't trust her then it won't work.

dont take adive from here. i bet u do that shit

[Lucky DAWG]

hol shit dude srry to hear about ur bro... and i say dump the girls fast cus if she really loves u she wouldnt of pulled that faul shit on u. go to a nice club and find u a new girl

that made no damn sense.
why would u go to a club to look for a nice girl to date?

how long u been with her and how much does she mean to you? its all really a matter of your opinion. If you are able to stand the nights of worrying about her going out and doing it again then shes obviously worth it. if you don't think shes worth the hassle then don't do it.

just don't make it out to be a matter of pride and dump her to save face.

Do what you think feels right. She obviously wants a second chance so you just have to decide if you want to fight to keep what you've got or let it go and cut your losses.

gl and keep us posted

[sullen]

We all make mistakes. She didn't fuck him... It happens. If ya'll have been together more than a few months, then I would think about breaking up with her, otherwise, give her a shot...if you love her. People get scared and do stupid shit. trust is important though, and if you can't trust her then it won't work.

we dont all go fuck the people our friends bring at the movies...hopefully not. why the hell was she there with another guy anyways? be just as fucking mad at him as you are at her man. his fault just as much as hers. and she might as well have let him in her pants, she started the whole act by letting him suck on her neck. who knows, maybe ALL HE DID WAS EAT HER OUT..... is that as bad as fucking? you tell me. same fuckin ballpark. its all the same shit. no matter what it was.

[blackshine007]

break up..... tell her you guys will just have to be friends for a while. no benefits. see if she is still interested, if she goes straight into dating, she's full of shit. and if she does, you do too. if she comes back, tell her shits gotta be different. i mean, she trusted you enough to tell you. better than keeping it a secret. at least she told you so she could let you deal with it. big breaker of the trust, but good show of character in that. but then again, loss of character in getting a hickie....


or get a mutual friend to give you a hickie and when you go to pick her up for something let it "slip" and "accidentally" show her. if she gets mad, fuck her. if not, tell her something happened....you're sorry, guage her reaction. if she still wants to work things out, go for it.

Dude, that has to be one of the dumbest things I've read from you, so far. Why the hell would you wanna play some dumb game like that? Basicly, what you're saying is to string some other girl along so you could piss off some skeezy slut to make her just jealous enough to wanna get back with you? In the end, going that route just makes you look like a true dumbass. Then you're back to square one.

I better not EVER hear any more bullshit like that come from you again. That's freaking retarded. No more love advice for you :smackass:

[Jerra]

Be careful...check up on her when you can...but don't let her know about it. It will make you feel better to know that she isn't doing shit she shouldn't be. Just watch for changes in her behavior and pay attention to what she is doing and with whom. I love my man, but lord knows I have made mistakes that would suggest otherwise. In the end, I get scred when a guy gets too close...my own problem, and I try to run...or push him away. I also have a nasty habit of testing him...to see how he'll react. Be careful, but chances are, based on her past...she may have some trust issues herself. Love her, be good to her...and expect the same.

[Lucky DAWG]

we dont all go fuck the people our friends bring at the movies...hopefully not. why the hell was she there with another guy anyways? be just as fucking mad at him as you are at her man. his fault just as much as hers. and she might as well have let him in her pants, she started the whole act by letting him suck on her neck. who knows, maybe ALL HE DID WAS EAT HER OUT..... is that as bad as fucking? you tell me. same fuckin ballpark. its all the same shit. no matter what it was.

they made out in a movie theater, stop putting ideas in his head and making him feel like shit. it doesn't matter what happened then, its a matter of if he wants to trust her in the future.

and don't be mad at the guy, you'll be letting the girl off too easy. your concern is with her not him, he is nothing but an obstacle. And i see no problem with him being there, you should allow your girl to go out friends if they are guys, you should be able to trust them like that. She obviously just slipped up. as i said before your call if you want to handle the stress of thinking she might cheat again.

[ironchef]

She loves you with all her heart, yet makes out with another guy? And then gives you the excuse that she thought it was you? WTF man, get your shit straight, go dump that whore, get a happy ending from an asian massage parlor, and then find a new broad.

[Jerra]

we dont all go fuck the people our friends bring at the movies...hopefully not. why the hell was she there with another guy anyways? be just as fucking mad at him as you are at her man. his fault just as much as hers. and she might as well have let him in her pants, she started the whole act by letting him suck on her neck. who knows, maybe ALL HE DID WAS EAT HER OUT..... is that as bad as fucking? you tell me. same fuckin ballpark. its all the same shit. no matter what it was.

I'm not saying what she did was ok, but I do think that if they love one another he should be able to give her another chance.

Was there alcohol involved?

[Lucky DAWG]

Be careful...check up on her when you can...but don't let her know about it. It will make you feel better to know that she isn't doing shit she shouldn't be. Just watch for changes in her behavior and pay attention to what she is doing and with whom. I love my man, but lord knows I have made mistakes that would suggest otherwise. In the end, I get scred when a guy gets too close...my own problem, and I try to run...or push him away. I also have a nasty habit of testing him...to see how he'll react. Be careful, but chances are, based on her past...she may have some trust issues herself. Love her, be good to her...and expect the same.

i have the same bad habit.

but jerra is right.
keep doing what you are doing, don't stoop and become the asshole boyfriend who bullies her and won't let her go out.

if hurting you wasn't enough to make her change, then she never will. So one more chance i say. just don't change what you do is what i'm saying

[Lucky DAWG]

She loves you with all her heart, yet makes out with another guy? And then gives you the excuse that she thought it was you? WTF man, get your shit straight, go dump that whore, get a happy ending from an asian massage parlor, and then find a new broad.

she said she thought he was you?
thats a new twist. if thats true then that puts a new spin on this

[Jerra]

dont take adive from here. i bet u do that shit

Watch yourself. You can talk about me all you want, but do not question my relationship. I'm giving advice not directions...he does not have to listen to me. I have seen many good and bad relationships...and am an outside oppinion. Don't bring my shit into this when there is no need.

[VooDooXII]

I think about almost half a year now. She gave me the excuse that when she was making out with the guy that she thought it was me and thats why she kept going and all.

That's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard.

I don't know...personally, I wouldn't want to be with some girl who says she loves me but just goes off playing tonsil hockey with random guys.

Think things through, and do what you think is right. Personally, I'd leave her...though I'm not exactly an expert with things like this.


maybe ALL HE DID WAS EAT HER OUT..... is that as bad as fucking? you tell me. same fuckin ballpark.

I thought you were about to go Pulp Fiction on us...

[Brut]

they made out in a movie theater, stop putting ideas in his head and making him feel like shit. it doesn't matter what happened then, its a matter of if he wants to trust her in the future.

and don't be mad at the guy, you'll be letting the girl off too easy. your concern is with her not him, he is nothing but an obstacle. And i see no problem with him being there, you should allow your girl to go out friends if they are guys, you should be able to trust them like that. She obviously just slipped up. as i said before your call if you want to handle the stress of thinking she might cheat again.

REPS to you for sure. I am comfortable with letting her go out with guy friends and all no prob other guys have hit on her and all in hte past and shes pushed them away and I don't know why this time it fell through. It was just a slip up I suppose.

[Jerra]

Man all I'm saying is if you break up now you will wonder about things. If you wait, and she fucks up again, be done with her. Then, you will know for sure that things won't work out...and it will make moving on a lot easier.

[ironchef]

she said she thought he was you?
thats a new twist. if thats true then that puts a new spin on thisYea man check his earlier post...



She gave me the excuse that when she was making out with the guy that she thought it was me and thats why she kept going and all.


This bitch sounds fucked up lol.

[blackshine007]

We all make mistakes. She didn't fuck him... It happens. If ya'll have been together more than a few months, then I would think about breaking up with her, otherwise, give her a shot...if you love her. People get scared and do stupid shit. trust is important though, and if you can't trust her then it won't work.
This was a dumb post, too. If she just so decided to tell you that she cheated, how many other dudes do you think she might have went through behind your back. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Let her be. Way too many fishes in the ocean to be fucked up over a scampie

[Jerra]

REPS to you for sure. I am comfortable with letting her go out with guy friends and all no prob other guys have hit on her and all in hte past and shes pushed them away and I don't know why this time it fell through. It was just a slip up I suppose.

Don't make it less of an issue than it is. It is a big deal, and not just a slip up. You have to work through it. Don't try to tell her she can't go out with dudes...that just means you shouldn't be with her. Take it as a compliment that otehr guys hit on your chick.

[Brut]

she said she thought he was you?
thats a new twist. if thats true then that puts a new spin on this

Yes she did. I think she made it up because I was pressuring her for a reason why she did what she did.

[Lucky DAWG]

yea honestly dude, i just read that part about her excuse thinking it was you.

time to leave her.

she either thinks you are stupid for coming up with something like that and is directly insulting your intelligence or is that dumb herself to actually think that. Either way its something you don't want to be involved with

[ironchef]

REPS to you for sure. I am comfortable with letting her go out with guy friends and all no prob other guys have hit on her and all in hte past and shes pushed them away and I don't know why this time it fell through. It was just a slip up I suppose.There are things you can slip up in a relationship, such as forgetting to call or random shit like that. But making out with another guy? Thats not something you should ever slip on.

[Jerra]

This was a dumb post, too. If she just so decided to tell you that she cheated, how many other dudes do you think she might have went through behind your back. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Let her be. Way too many fishes in the ocean to be fucked up over a scampie

Not a dumb post. She told him...he should take it as a one-time thing, but watch for anything fishy.

[VooDooXII]

and don't be mad at the guy, you'll be letting the girl off too easy. your concern is with her not him, he is nothing but an obstacle. And i see no problem with him being there, you should allow your girl to go out friends if they are guys, you should be able to trust them like that. She obviously just slipped up. as i said before your call if you want to handle the stress of thinking she might cheat again.

:goodjob:

Even still man, you're 18...so don't get too caught up. You've got a lot more time.

[Lucky DAWG]

oh trust me voodoo

i'm not the relationship type.
but i like to think i have a good head on my shoulders about it. friends come to me for advice all the time.

i have an issue with pushing girls away when they get too close.

[Tracy]

I don't care if she told you. Break up with her. I have never thought of cheating on any of the men I have been with...no matter how long we were together. It's called character ;) Some people have good and some people have bad. IMO cheating isn't just a mistake...it's a matter of character.

[VooDooXII]

oh trust me voodoo

i'm not the relationship type.
but i like to think i have a good head on my shoulders about it. friends come to me for advice all the time.

i have an issue with pushing girls away when they get too close.

I meant Brut's still 18...but yea, you're right on about the guy friends.

[Lucky DAWG]

I meant Brut's still 18...but yea, you're right on about the guy friends.


oh shit i thought u were talking to me.

i got the impression brut was in his twenties
no idea why, everyone seems to be older then me on here so i guess i assume it now lol.

[Brut]

Damn y'all post way to fuckin fast for me to respond. I go pee and then this thread like 3 pages. What I want to do is this I am gonna give her a 2nd chance and all and trust her and if she makes the same mistake and all again I am gone no questions asked gone. I love her a lot which is a extremely rare thing for me because of my past. My brother which commit suicide only July 4, 1995 in front of me when I was 6. He killed himself because his gf cheated on him and she left him and all. Before he died he told me don't let love happen to you like this. SO I try my best not to get close to girls and all and stay away from falling in love. But for some reason I did fall in love with this girl

[Lucky DAWG]

Damn y'all post way to fuckin fast for me to respond. I go pee and then this thread like 3 pages. What I want to do is this I am gonna give her a 2nd chance and all and trust her and if she makes the same mistake and all again I am gone no questions asked gone. I love her a lot which is a extremely rare thing for me because of my past. My brother which commit suicide only July 4, 1995 in front of me when I was 6. He killed himself because his gf cheated on him and she left him and all. Before he died he told me don't let love happen to you like this. SO I try my best not to get close to girls and all and stay away from falling in love. But for some reason I did fall in love with this girl

dang dude, i really feel for ya.
and i respect your decision and wish you the best of it.

+reps to you for as long as i can :goodjob:
fill me in on how it goes, and send one her friends to my door for the advice :lmfao:

[Tracy]

/thread now

[blackshine007]

I don't care if she told you. Break up with her. I have never thought of cheating on any of the men I have been with...no matter how long we were together. It's called character ;) Some people have good and some people have bad. IMO cheating isn't just a mistake...it's a matter of character.
Brut, take advice from this woman. This is a GREAT POST!!! Not someone who don't know a damn thing about relations.

[Jerra]

Good luck.

[Jerra]

I agree with Tracy, it is a matter of character...but this guy needs to know its over. It will take her doing it again for him to let her go.

[Brut]

Thanks to everyone that posted advice and everything +2 for everyone. Don't think I never took anyone post into thought I did I sat and read each one of em through and thought about them. I will keep y'all posted I made my decision but feel free to keep saying what you would do and all just because I made my decision already.

[VooDooXII]

Damn y'all post way to fuckin fast for me to respond. I go pee and then this thread like 3 pages. What I want to do is this I am gonna give her a 2nd chance and all and trust her and if she makes the same mistake and all again I am gone no questions asked gone. I love her a lot which is a extremely rare thing for me because of my past. My brother which commit suicide only July 4, 1995 in front of me when I was 6. He killed himself because his gf cheated on him and she left him and all. Before he died he told me don't let love happen to you like this. SO I try my best not to get close to girls and all and stay away from falling in love. But for some reason I did fall in love with this girl

:no: Aw man...now I know why that tied in. I thought it was just the fact that the date was coming up. Stuff like that makes it hard to give the best advise, since it's such a circumstance.

That said, I don't know what I'd personally do there...because it's just that hard for me to relate. As long as you feel you did the right thing...then :goodjob:

Good luck man!

[Jerra]

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to Brut again.

[2.0civic]

it takes two people to make out. Since this isnt your first thread about her, im willing to bet shes a whore.

Drop her ass while you can.if she cant go see a movie with "friends" without coming home with a mark, theres a problem..theres PLENTY of pussy out there....

Good luck

[VooDooXII]

it takes two people to make out. Since this isnt your first thread about her, im willing to bet shes a whore.

Drop her ass while you can.if she cant go see a movie with "friends" without coming home with a mark, theres a problem..theres PLENTY of pussy out there....

Good luck

READ!

[2.0civic]

nah im too lazy lol. If it hurts though and you stay with her, fuck her in the ass next time then when she asks why be like "thats what you made me feel like"

Hell IDK what the fuck im saying...dating 4 hoes at one time FTW

[blackshine007]

READ!
lolz

[Hektik]

Be careful...check up on her when you can...but don't let her know about it. It will make you feel better to know that she isn't doing shit she shouldn't be. Just watch for changes in her behavior and pay attention to what she is doing and with whom.

Why would anyone want to live like this..... If you cant completely 100% trust who you are with then why spend your life chasing them around hiding behind corners and shadows trying to catch them in the wrong... yea sure there are moments when that trust might be questioned, but not to the point where you would have to go through their email and shit....



either way G/L to you and your relationship...

[sullen]

i think you should be just as pissed at the dude. i mean, if he knew she was taken, then why the hell was he messing around with her? and for her, she still fucking did it. does she deserve another chance? i dunno. if you only been going out with her for like 6 months....shitty call man. my girlfriend and i are coming up on the 3 year mark in like 2 months....never done anything to lose trust, nor has she. thats what the caring is about, not just saying you care and slide around with other people...period. she fucking did it, so did he. either teach her the lesson, or get the fuck rid of her.

[2.0civic]

i just read the first page...the "give her a shot again shit cause she was nervous" Thats BS...Sheknew it wasnt you. Ask her how his dick tasted.

Dating 4 girls at one time and no committment FTW!

Sorry if that sounded assholeish...Come out with me and my buddys one night and we'll show you how to swing it

[VooDooXII]

Hell IDK what the fuck im saying...dating 4 hoes at one time FTW

:lmfao: :no: Four naggin bitches FTL!

[2.0civic]

nah they dont nag lol. i dont put up with that shit.

[2.0civic]

Not really sure where to post this at. So Mods if you have a better place move it there be my guest.Ok, so I've been going out with this girl for 1 year and 9 months now. Everything has gone great so far nothing bad. 6 months prior her going out with me she had broken up with her ex Chris. She loved him a whole lot and she broke up with him because she found out that he had cheated on her with another girl and they were having sex. Well they brake up and he moves away to Washington I believe. Shes been going out with me for this while and she knows and I know I love her more than anything in the world. I've never gone out with a girl before and had the feelings I have for her. I'd do literally anything for her. But now her ex Chris is talking to her and today she told me he said, "that he really loves her and he wants to get back with her". The only reason he cheated on her was because he was heartbroken and he wanted to be with someone or some BS excuse like that. She told him that shes going out with me and that I care about her a whole lot and that I'm not in the relationship just for sex and all. She stopped talking to him then and then she is crying and everything and she says her heart hurts and that shes confused and all now. She said she won't go back out with him because of what he did to her. When she told me what he said my heart dropped and I felt empty. Like my heart was ripped out and threw it away. I started to get really cold and I was nervous and scared. What I want to know is what should I do now? I really love her and I do not want to break up with her. Whats everyones 2 cents about this? Please no flaming I'd really appreciate it if no one would do that. Thanks


i pulled this from your old thread..dont take this the wrong way but god damn. Is she retarded? she apparently gets confused from anything with a penis.

Find an older girl (24-30). They know what THEY want and dont want and dont play games with shit.If you gave me her info where i could "get to know her" i would have her ass up somewhere in under a week, videotape it, then you could use it against her permanently..


Is she that good in bed you want to stick with it?

[VooDooXII]

nah they dont nag lol. i dont put up with that shit.

FTW then...

By the way...sharing is caring, it can be fun.

[GSRteg®]

Ok, first def that she lost your trust and it might take time to get it back. :thinking:
Second, forgive you can forget (never you can never forget) that thought will be with you till the day you die of what she did.
Third, It doesnt mean she loves u bc she told you.... She might have felt bad bro? She also might think (oh, he loves me hell take me back no matter what I do?)

Look if I was in your shoes ill let her go. Bro there is so many women out there better and trust worthy.... btw im not saying she not bc I dont really know her man.




Damn I sure don't have good luck with relationships now do I? lol Ok well this time this is what happened. Sunday (july 1) I was at work and
she was with some friends at the movies. Well while she was at the movies the guy with her made a move and ended up making out with her and gave her a hickey. She just now told me today all her friends said don't tell me because I might break up with her. Well she told me and I was crushed, I was real hurt and all and upset. I didn't break up with her I was kinda glad she had told me too. I knew something was wrong and cause on Sunday I got sick and all I have bronchitis as of right now, the weather has been shit tomorrow is the day that my older brother commit suicide :cry: (july 4) and all. So you could say July is the greatest month for me. My girlfriend says she loves me still with all her heart and all and I still love her but she has lost a lot of my trust from doing that. I asked one friend what his opinion was and what he would do in my position he said forgive and forget he said she told you right? and I said yes and then that means she loves you and all. Well I want some of yall's opinions what would you do if you were in my position or what is some advice you would give me? Thanks in advance No flaming me and all please thanks

[2.0civic]

Stop doing shit for her and tell her to let the other guy play the boyfriend role and that you are tired of being the number 2 guy in her life

[aznanhnhan86]

id say break up! b/c if she loves u then she would think about u before she went along kissing the guy.

[Black R]

fuck that shit.

i'll tell you straight up, once a whore always a whore.

here's how you'll feel better, fuck her best friend and don't wash your dick - then later that same day, get her to suck it telling you how good it tastes. win/ win. i leave it up to you whether or not you want to tell her where your dick has been.....

[keevo54]

If you dont break up now she will probably fuck him the next time she is near him. A cheater is always going to be a cheater with very few exceptions

[VooDooXII]

Fuckers! You are reading not?

[tony]

You take her back and basically there was no consequences for her actions.. plus you'll be a sucker. Of course she was going to tell you about it, she had a damn hicky on her (which having a hicky on your girl from another dude is just nasty) Man the more I think about it the more pissed I get about it, c'mon dude no woman will respect you when you cannot put your foot down. If you love her kick her to the curb, she'll do one of two things.. run back to him or put forth an honest effort to make things right with you.. if she chooses the latter do NOT be quick to forgive.

If the thing with your brother still effects the way you are toward women or how you deal with yourself then consider counseling.. seriously.

[quickdodge®]

why would u go to a club to look for a nice girl to date?

You don't. Later, QD.

[Maniaç]

you're fucking 18 years old! why the fuck are you tripping over some slut? move on and continue to give the bitches that "cack", yes i said "cack"..

stop acting like a bitch and grow some balls...

ps; sorry about your bro.

[ueyedgr8tness]

:ninja: *date doctor steps in* I rly say dump her cause it seems like to me that u have a very young gf cause most women that have value worth keeping wouldnt do some bs in a theater...*my thoughts after all why not just go back to the house and fuck???* No that what sets young girls from older women>Girls play around<women fuck around> ..Thats the differents. So i say go find u a older women just like some of the other guy's are saying and leave this tramp alone:goodjob:



And sry to hear about your bro man i just went to my cousins funeral yesterday and he was like my big brother So i feel u:(

[CRXchic19]

thats crap - take advise from a woman, the only reason she told you about what happened is because she felt GUILTY and she had to fess up. any girl who REALLY cared about you would not do that to you.

you trusted her enough to go out will her friends and guys without you, and look how she repaid you. would you ever do that to her? its a complete lack of respect. ok everyone "makes mistakes" but a mistake would have been that she kissed him, once, then told you about it, not a full-on makeout session.

for all you really know she could have already slept with him, and you would never have known the difference because now she feels better that she "told you what happened"

i dont know all of the details of yalls relationship, but i know damn well that if my bf of 2 years ever pulled that, he would be gone in a heartbeat, and if i ever did that to him, i would fully expect him to dump me. there are some lines you just should not cross in any relationship, she doesnt really love you man, she is just used to having you around.

[00CelicaGT]

Damn I sure don't have good luck with relationships now do I? lol Ok well this time this is what happened. Sunday (july 1) I was at work and she was with some friends at the movies. Well while she was at the movies the guy with her made a move and ended up making out with her and gave her a hickey. She just now told me today all her friends said don't tell me because I might break up with her. Well she told me and I was crushed, I was real hurt and all and upset. I didn't break up with her I was kinda glad she had told me too. I knew something was wrong and cause on Sunday I got sick and all I have bronchitis as of right now, the weather has been shit tomorrow is the day that my older brother commit suicide :cry: (july 4) and all. So you could say July is the greatest month for me. My girlfriend says she loves me still with all her heart and all and I still love her but she has lost a lot of my trust from doing that. I asked one friend what his opinion was and what he would do in my position he said forgive and forget he said she told you right? and I said yes and then that means she loves you and all. Well I want some of yall's opinions what would you do if you were in my position or what is some advice you would give me? Thanks in advance No flaming me and all please thanks

first off if u ever need any advice u shouldn't ask anyone on here. and second i would break up wit her because if she cheats once she will cheat twice. third dont believe that she still loves u cuz that is some bullshit, if she still loved u she have never made out wit another guy. whats even worse is that she almost wasn't going to tell u, so that should be a sign right there that there is no love on her end of the relationship. but thats just my advice

long story short breake up wit her and find someone better, cuz there is someone for everyone. (even fat people:lmfao:)

[Lizbiz101]

You can't get a hickey on accedent. She let that happen. I'd be pissed too. If she wanted one so bad you could have given her a damn hickey. Well at least she knows your pissed and she hurt you. If the love is there, you can work anything out. Just let her know if it happens again, you won't be sticking around, a person can only take so much.

[ShooterMcGavin]

made out? that's it? young grasshoppa u have much to learn :yes:

[Elbow]

I would let it slide once, ONE other mistake leave her she wont change if she does it again.

[Kelly]

I think the fact that she felt bad enough to tell you means a lot. If you want to be with her, stick it out... BUT tell her you don't want her hanging out with those friends until your trust is built back up for her.

My :2cents:

[Nissangeek]

Leave her skank ass

[Leisa]

"forgive and forget" with garbage like that. If you've lost that much trust...then it's probably not worth it.

How long have you two been together anyway?

I think about almost half a year now. She gave me the excuse that when she was making out with the guy that she thought it was me and thats why she kept going and all.



[/QUOTE]

She thought it was you???? What the fuck was she not aware you were at work and that another guy was sitting beside her?

[quickdodge®]

I think the fact that she felt bad enough to tell you means a lot.

I won't bother letting you know how fucked up that is. Just so that you know that it is. Later, QD.

[ahmonrah]

DUMP HER ASS......'cause if you dont, that little hickey is gonna go to "ohh babby.i didnt tell you i gave him a blow job 'cause you'd dump me.....~sniff~(cue in croccodile tears)do n't be mad i wuv you...do you wuv me ??"

[Elbow]

You know, reading it again, dump her. Dont make the mistake I did ;) she will just come hurt you more later, keep your head up and walk away.

[Tasuki_Civic]

I think the fact that she felt bad enough to tell you means a lot. If you want to be with her, stick it out... BUT tell her you don't want her hanging out with those friends until your trust is built back up for her.

My :2cents:


:no: you need counseling

[2.0civic]

I think the fact that she felt bad enough to tell you means a lot. If you want to be with her, stick it out... BUT tell her you don't want her hanging out with those friends until your trust is built back up for her.

My :2cents:holy shit are you on crack ?? shes been dragging his ass through shit the entire time...

Tell you what, im going to go shoot both your parents, then go confess and nothing will happen cause i admitted it right?

awesome


dump her ass

[Jerra]

Gah...silly boy asking for advice from people on IA...

[Tasuki_Civic]

Gah...silly boy asking for advice from people on IA...


haha but this time IA is right.

[Jerra]

Eh..none of us know the whole situation...and none of us really care...so its really easy to tell him to just drop the bitch...IDK...I think its cool to get some oppinions, but I would talk to people who know the whole story and who know both people involved.

[Stormhammer]

^^ okay, if the girl I was seeing made out and got a hickey from another guy, and claimed that she thought it was me, I would dump her straight out of the sheer stupidity of what she just told me

Ditch the bitch. That excuse doesn't fly. Plenty of people keep their heads on when they want to do something with someone else, but don't. I know I've passed up many an opportunity and so have girls that I have dated when they were with me.

It doesn't matter what the story is, the point is she still did what she did. Sure she saved some portion of trust by telling you, but its pretty much ruined. And I can vouch for this because I've been in your position before - I was dating a girl for almost 2 years and she went out with some friends to 6Flags, one of them being her ex, and they ended up making out. She felt horrible and told me, and for a week I wasn't sure what to do, to forgive and forget or to let her go. I decided it was time to let her go and date other people. Ironically, the next relationship after her was the best one I've had yet.

If you're young ( as in 24 and younger ) - don't let a break up hold you down so much unless its been a long time, and 6 months isn't something that you should cry about. Ditch the bitch, and go have some fun with the guys - thats what I did

[K20Z1]

she pregnant with BRUT LOL! ! and she live in west coast while brut live in atl !!

[dumpdaccord]

keep her long enough to have sex with as many of her friends as you can :idb: :idb: and look for another girlfriend while doing it;) ..then when you find another girl that your interested in get rid of her:zxflipoff :slap:...

you wont feel a thing:goodjob:

[ahabion]

dont drag your ass either, leave, move, adapt!!! you evolve bitch!!! leave the hoe!!