Is this really cheating?

[Tasuki_Civic]

ok ive been reading some pples threads and their relationship questions. i have one.


If you have been with someone from 6 month and up and you find a number or 2 numbers laying around in the their car or just in the the house like next to the computer.

what would you do? would you call it off or would you be mad and let them explain and if it sounds like its excusable you let it ride and keep going with the relationship.

i would like to know this especially from the person who has been in a relationship more than a yr and half.

[Tasuki_Civic]

reason why im askin is because many pple go threw this and i was watching videos and notice that some r&b artist talk about that as well.

[Bballjamal]

If its been that long of a relationship pull them to the side and find out what's going on! If they can't be real with you, and you're SURE of what they're doing, out the door they go! Why be with someone fake who can't talk out their problems with you!

[Tasuki_Civic]

true buuuuut how DO YOU know for sure? i mean really you never would have thought this person would do such a thing but they have 2 guy numbers in their car. knowing she went out the other nitgh or a couple of days ago. why would you keep the number. asking that question would you continue?

[william_jeff]

if you are with somebody for a short period of time and they still have numbers around, they are keeping them just in case you two don't work out. if you two have been together for a while there is a SLIGHT chance they forgot(like i forgot i had female pictures in my wallet behind my nephew's pictures) and i explained to my fiancee that it was an honest mistake. as soon as she saw them i took them out ripped it up and threw them away and told her what the deal was. or they may just be, again, holding on to that number for some undercover type shit.

either way allow for explanation, if it seems valid, then do what you do.

[Bballjamal]

Knowing for sure is the hard part! That's where talking it out comes in big play! You know they kept the number but it might not be a 100% choice on their mind. There's obviously a problem brewing, just see if you can figure it out and stop it before it does get to the "cheating" point!

[LiL PaKi]

is there a name with the number?

[GregR]

Its not cheating unless its skin-on-skin.

[Tasuki_Civic]

is there a name with the number?


well yea.....i mean this hasnt happened to me. lol yet atleast but ive heard plenty of stories where women or men wil see this after several years or just a year into the relationship. and they look stuck like "damn this person mite be cheating on me"

[Tasuki_Civic]

Its not cheating unless its skin-on-skin.


not really....because its starts somewhere. yea pple flirt but there is limit to it b4 it comes to reality. it doesnt start off by fucking.

[william_jeff]

i would never cheat on you civic :D

[LiL PaKi]

I would call it anticipated cheating.

[Tasuki_Civic]

i would never cheat on you civic :D


;)

[Tasuki_Civic]

I would call it anticipated cheating.


yea but the main thing is its still cheating almost. i dunno...so lets change it up a little bit. what if they said it was this person they met somewhere. not work related just someone they met of the opposit sex. would you allow that or fell comfortable with that?

see women know their man....and what i mean by this men would never understand. thats why women would trip the way they do cuz they know he can be.....and vice versa for men but they dont look into it like they do cuz men are stuck on how women are devoted to their men. which in most cases are true.

[william_jeff]

yea but the main thing is its still cheating almost. i dunno...so lets change it up a little bit. what if they said it was this person they met somewhere. not work related just someone they met of the opposit sex. would you allow that or fell comfortable with that?

see women know their man....and what i mean by this men would never understand. thats why women would trip the way they do cuz they know he can be.....and vice versa for men but they dont look into it like they do cuz men are stuck on how women are devoted to their men. which in most cases are true.

false to a point

i let it go for a while, but i started doing my own investigations, my own undercover operation to see what was going on. some women are faithful some are grimy.

it's probably the same percentage of men as women who cheat and aren't devoted.

[Killer]

depends on who's the numbers are...

if it's someone that's a friend or of the same sex, obviously not cheating...


if it's opposite sex, and they are banging or seeing that other person.. well then yeah cheating... (of course if they are gay or lesbian it's same sex you have to watch out for.)

[scionara]

This is a very good question.

[william_jeff]

personally i have the phone number of my cousin's wife just incase i can't get in contact with that bone crusher replica.


i have 2 phone numbers in my phone i'm not suppose to have but i neither call them and they don't call me

[LiL PaKi]

yea but the main thing is its still cheating almost. i dunno...so lets change it up a little bit. what if they said it was this person they met somewhere. not work related just someone they met of the opposit sex. would you allow that or fell comfortable with that?

see women know their man....and what i mean by this men would never understand. thats why women would trip the way they do cuz they know he can be.....and vice versa (#) for men but they dont look into it like they do cuz men are stuck on how women are devoted to their men. which in most cases are true.

i agree :goodjob:

[Crazy Asian]

last time cheating was when I guy was macking with my girl. I laughed, when up to get the guy and shoved me fist up in his face. Lets just say after that he look like a mummy. AHAHAHAHAHAH so I guess numbers are okay just for me cheating is when a girl or guys is seeing someone else kissing or fondling each other.

[Jaimecbr900]

If it's only 6 mos, then you have to decide if yall are really all that serious. If you are, then you just come out and ask "what's the deal?". If it's innocent, he will have a good logical reason for having someone else's phone numbers. If it's not, he'll fall all over his tongue trying to anticipate a good answer.

You have to also remember that sometimes people have phone numbers for a good and valid reason. I had, until my phone died, over 500 contacts and phone numbers. Was I screwing around with all of them? Of course not, but if go out by myself and suddenly she finds phone numbers in my pockets.....I got some explaining to do for real. So would she if the shoe was on the other foot.

My :2cents:

[LiL PaKi]

last time cheating was when I guy was macking with my girl. I laughed, when up to get the guy and shoved me fist up in his face. Lets just say after that he look like a mummy. AHAHAHAHAHAH so I guess numbers are okay just for me cheating is when a girl or guys is seeing someone else kissing or fondling each other.

what if your girl was flirting with a guy and then got his number? you wouldn't call that cheating until they actually did something?

[Crazy Asian]

True..but I dont go for girls like that. I hate flirty type.

[Jaimecbr900]

what if your girl was flirting with a guy and then got his number? you wouldn't call that cheating until they actually did something?

How would you know they were "flirting"?

[Crazy Asian]

Flapping the eyes....licking him?

[Killer]

Flapping the eyes....licking him?


lol....

[LiL PaKi]

How would you know they were "flirting"?

how would u know if they weren't making out before the number was givin? it was just an assumption

[LiL PaKi]

Flapping the eyes....licking him?

you sir.. have issues.. :yes:

[Jaimecbr900]

how would u know if they weren't making out before the number was givin? it was just an assumption

That's exactly my point, it's your assumption that some flirting took place and that's the reason for the number exchange. What if it has a less sinister reason? Why not just merely ask him and based on their reaction act accordingly? It seems that people try and make up their mind before they even ask. That is only going to make you bias to their answer, not necessarily the truth. ;)

[LiL PaKi]

That's exactly my point, it's your assumption that some flirting took place and that's the reason for the number exchange. What if it has a less sinister reason? Why not just merely ask him and based on their reaction act accordingly? It seems that people try and make up their mind before they even ask. That is only going to make you bias to their answer, not necessarily the truth. ;)

agree
Can't help it... it's like you want to trust someone then you can't..

[silver]

See thats a tough one cause ask me my opinion 8 months ago and it would be totally different, lol

I think though it all depends on each individual realationship. You know what kind of person you are dating. Esp after 6-12 months you should know if there are any red flags, if they are flirty or shy, if they are mean and insensitive, etc. Although I have had my trust issues in the past, that's something I have become smarter about and a different mentality on cause it can ruin a relationship (or for me it can, lol). I think after 6-12 months I'm going to have some sort of idea if I can trust someone 110% or if its a relationship that is going to work or not. If I find a number 6 months into a relationship, I might be curious and I don't think there is anything wrong with asking.. But at the same time if you trust someone, should you have to ask??? If there is any doubt whatsoever that the phone number might be someone that your partner is cheating with someone or intentions of, you might want to rethink where your relationship stands as far as on a trust level and what exactly you are looking for out of the relationship. But thats just IMO.. so not saying its right or wrong

[silver]

Can't help it... it's like you want to trust someone then you can't..

This is where I have learned alot from. And this is just me.. but its like if you can't trust someone or decide to trust them you are only going to convince yourself that there is something not to trust.. if that makes sense..

Its hard to say either trust someone or dont, cause people get screwed over and make it hard for people to move on and trust others... but then again why penalize someone for something someone else did in the past to make you have trust issues. Everyone is going to get burned, but you have to remember that you are picking the people that you give your trust to from the get go.

The guy I am dating now.. its been about 6 mths now. He has never given me any doubt in my mind a reason to not trust him. He has even gotten the phone calls from girls he dated years ago.. and its come a long way for me to do this but I trust him 110% or I would not even be wasting my time in the raltionship.. But that is a chance that I have taken to see if someone values my trust. Yeah it sucks to be burned but when you find a person that you can trust and also can trust you it makes it worth it and is just that much better.

[Crazy Asian]

I dont have issues. Im normal as an asian guy can be.

[Tasuki_Civic]

personally i have the phone number of my cousin's wife just incase i can't get in contact with that bone crusher replica.


i have 2 phone numbers in my phone i'm not suppose to have but i neither call them and they don't call me


and whats the point of having them ....see what i mean? stuff like that pple dont understand. there is no reason why have them then why are they there. cuz you lazy to delete them ( ha i think not) its another reason. can you say BACKUP.

if you say no then whats the reason. thats if you have a female.

[Tasuki_Civic]

That's exactly my point, it's your assumption that some flirting took place and that's the reason for the number exchange. What if it has a less sinister reason? Why not just merely ask him and based on their reaction act accordingly? It seems that people try and make up their mind before they even ask. That is only going to make you bias to their answer, not necessarily the truth. ;)


you tellin me that the idea of "who tha fuck is this dude" number is and it wouldnt cross your mind that dude would want more than what he says. there are men out here like that. no matter status.

[Tasuki_Civic]

This is where I have learned alot from. And this is just me.. but its like if you can't trust someone or decide to trust them you are only going to convince yourself that there is something not to trust.. if that makes sense..

Its hard to say either trust someone or dont, cause people get screwed over and make it hard for people to move on and trust others... but then again why penalize someone for something someone else did in the past to make you have trust issues. Everyone is going to get burned, but you have to remember that you are picking the people that you give your trust to from the get go.

The guy I am dating now.. its been about 6 mths now. He has never given me any doubt in my mind a reason to not trust him. He has even gotten the phone calls from girls he dated years ago.. and its come a long way for me to do this but I trust him 110% or I would not even be wasting my time in the raltionship.. But that is a chance that I have taken to see if someone values my trust. Yeah it sucks to be burned but when you find a person that you can trust and also can trust you it makes it worth it and is just that much better.

dont blind yourself....alot of women do that

there is one thing of not trusting someone and there is a nother when you see what is going to happen before it actually goes down. like you see the outcome before it happens.

its happen to me b4 and i deaded the relationship cause i knew what was gonna happen over time. and it did. some pple choose to wait it out and others dont.

as far as the number thing i dont know what i would do. i assume i would ask. but its almost whats the point. if they cheat they cheat. id have to sit back and watch first before i ask. i dont want to say something and look like worry wort and im wrong. but then again it depends how things were between us

[SLOWLYbtngU]

ok ive been reading some pples threads and their relationship questions. i have one.


If you have been with someone from 6 month and up and you find a number or 2 numbers laying around in the their car or just in the the house like next to the computer.

what would you do? would you call it off or would you be mad and let them explain and if it sounds like its excusable you let it ride and keep going with the relationship.

i would like to know this especially from the person who has been in a relationship more than a yr and half.


Ok I dunno if maybe I am wrong or whatever...But 6 months is nothing to me. I dont say I love you until I am a good year to two years in.

I dont stress when I see other chicks numbers in the phone. I dont trip over comments left on myspace. I figure if a man wants to stray than he will. Regardless of how psycho I go. I am secure enough to let him call whoever he wants, whenever he wants.

I think that it is something that needs to be talked about early on in the realtionship....6 months is still so new, if it is something that bothers you then that is the time to get it out.

[Tasuki_Civic]

Ok I dunno if maybe I am wrong or whatever...But 6 months is nothing to me. I dont say I love you until I am a good year to two years in.

I dont stress when I see other chicks numbers in the phone. I dont trip over comments left on myspace. I figure if a man wants to stray than he will. Regardless of how psycho I go. I am secure enough to let him call whoever he wants, whenever he wants.

I think that it is something that needs to be talked about early on in the realtionship....6 months is still so new, if it is something that bothers you then that is the time to get it out.


yea i wouldnt worry about 6 months either the longest ive been in relationship was 4 yrs. so 6 aint much. but there is a behavior that could happen you have to look for if things change.

im like you i dont care either but also if you dont care as much then it will be taken for granted. naturally its like that for me and women but men especially cuz if they dont work for what they have it wont be appreciated. then again men now-a-days like things givin to them as if its expected. lol my 2 cents right

[SLOWLYbtngU]

yea i wouldnt worry about 6 months either the longest ive been in relationship was 4 yrs. so 6 aint much. but there is a behavior that could happen you have to look for if things change.

im like you i dont care either but also if you dont care as much then it will be taken for granted. naturally its like that for me and women but men especially cuz if they dont work for what they have it wont be appreciated. then again men now-a-days like things givin to them as if its expected. lol my 2 cents right

What I have noticed is that when you care too much...You're a psycho stalker bitch...

When you care too little...You're a heartless bitch..

I figure if I am gonna be a "bitch" might as well be my own type...The "I'm-cool-but-dont-push-me bitch."

I tend to be straight up with people when it comes to what will/does bother me. After they know that I see how far they push. When they push too far, I let them know.

About men getting things handed to them..I suppose. Even though, as of late, I have many many single guy friends because they arent really being handed anything and at the same time they really arent working for anything.

[Tasuki_Civic]

yea i see your point. the less you care the better off you are is how i see it. LOL nah really. if you dont care as much as you could then you dont have shit to worry about. you have the upper hand on the relationship and he wont think your crazy like some bitches are. every female can get crazy just depends on what button you push. lol

then they start fukin up pples cars up shit. crazy females

[ep9716]

Its Not Cheating Unless Both Chicks Know Then Your Just Fucked.LOL

[Jaimecbr900]

you tellin me that the idea of "who tha fuck is this dude" number is and it wouldnt cross your mind that dude would want more than what he says. there are men out here like that. no matter status.


See, you're doing exactly what I was trying to show Lil Paki is not good either. You are totally convinced that something bad is happening BEFORE you even ask what's up. That in turn will likely automatically make you think in only one direction regardless. That is counter productive. He MAY very well be screwing around or he may just be flirting and forgot to throw away the number or he may have gotten the number for that girl to sew you a special valentine's day pillow. The point is that you DON'T KNOW for sure until you ask.

A lot of women are awful about making their worst fears into prophecies. Sometimes this could be avoided by merely giving someone the benefit of the doubt until they don't deserve it. If the guy HAS cheated before and is on thin ice, then shoot yeah you're gonna think the worst right out of the gate. But if he's been a decent guy up until that point, which after only 6 mos is highly likely, then why not give him the benefit of the doubt until he DOES screw up. If you can't look at someone you're sleeping with in the eyes and tell when he/she is lying to you, then you probably shouldn't tie up your feelings with that person. That's what booty calls and friends with benefits are for. If it's someone you "love", then by the time you tell them you "love" them you should be able to read them enough to tell if they're lying to you. Besides, the story is either plausible or not. If it's not, then break it off in him. If it is, don't act like a psycho and go postal because you may just be over reacting.

By the way, no offense but this is one of the reasons both guys and girls get the bad rep of being "psycho" is because they are always thinking of the worst before they think of the best in common scenarios. If I was in the dating scene and I was liking a certain someone for a few months when she suddenly without asking freaks out about a phone number on MY dresser, I'd kick her to the curb on the spot. This is exactly why a lot of relationships which otherwise may work out end up NOT working out. People come with pre-dispositions that "I'm gonna get hurt", "he's GONNA cheat on me because the last one did", "hes gotta be cheating because he smells good", or whatever other pre-conceived idea they come in with.

There is nothing wrong with merely asking what's up, and then based on their answer you react.

[Tasuki_Civic]

See, you're doing exactly what I was trying to show Lil Paki is not good either. You are totally convinced that something bad is happening BEFORE you even ask what's up. That in turn will likely automatically make you think in only one direction regardless. That is counter productive. He MAY very well be screwing around or he may just be flirting and forgot to throw away the number or he may have gotten the number for that girl to sew you a special valentine's day pillow. The point is that you DON'T KNOW for sure until you ask.

A lot of women are awful about making their worst fears into prophecies. Sometimes this could be avoided by merely giving someone the benefit of the doubt until they don't deserve it. If the guy HAS cheated before and is on thin ice, then shoot yeah you're gonna think the worst right out of the gate. But if he's been a decent guy up until that point, which after only 6 mos is highly likely, then why not give him the benefit of the doubt until he DOES screw up. If you can't look at someone you're sleeping with in the eyes and tell when he/she is lying to you, then you probably shouldn't tie up your feelings with that person. That's what booty calls and friends with benefits are for. If it's someone you "love", then by the time you tell them you "love" them you should be able to read them enough to tell if they're lying to you. Besides, the story is either plausible or not. If it's not, then break it off in him. If it is, don't act like a psycho and go postal because you may just be over reacting.

By the way, no offense but this is one of the reasons both guys and girls get the bad rep of being "psycho" is because they are always thinking of the worst before they think of the best in common scenarios. If I was in the dating scene and I was liking a certain someone for a few months when she suddenly without asking freaks out about a phone number on MY dresser, I'd kick her to the curb on the spot. This is exactly why a lot of relationships which otherwise may work out end up NOT working out. People come with pre-dispositions that "I'm gonna get hurt", "he's GONNA cheat on me because the last one did", "hes gotta be cheating because he smells good", or whatever other pre-conceived idea they come in with.

There is nothing wrong with merely asking what's up, and then based on their answer you react.


wow? in many words....like i said i would ask. im not gonna assume the worst but i wouldnt let it blind me either. i wouldnt expect for the guy to cheat and i would be surprised if it happened.

what you quoted is what i was asking how you would act. would you keep it in mind that you saw this number and then you saw it again? how would you feel? like something is going on?

wouldnt you question because it made you think twice like who is this dude? and you would want to know if he was a threat to you or not? on the first time that you saw the number? if you dont think that then you that means you dont give a shit about who she meets and where. you would think if your married you would care about who is in your loved ones life......am i wrong......if i am its ok. im learning from what you think.

[Tasuki_Civic]

See, you're doing exactly what I was trying to show Lil Paki is not good either. You are totally convinced that something bad is happening BEFORE you even ask what's up. That in turn will likely automatically make you think in only one direction regardless. That is counter productive. He MAY very well be screwing around or he may just be flirting and forgot to throw away the number or he may have gotten the number for that girl to sew you a special valentine's day pillow. The point is that you DON'T KNOW for sure until you ask.

A lot of women are awful about making their worst fears into prophecies. Sometimes this could be avoided by merely giving someone the benefit of the doubt until they don't deserve it. If the guy HAS cheated before and is on thin ice, then shoot yeah you're gonna think the worst right out of the gate. But if he's been a decent guy up until that point, which after only 6 mos is highly likely, then why not give him the benefit of the doubt until he DOES screw up. If you can't look at someone you're sleeping with in the eyes and tell when he/she is lying to you, then you probably shouldn't tie up your feelings with that person. That's what booty calls and friends with benefits are for. If it's someone you "love", then by the time you tell them you "love" them you should be able to read them enough to tell if they're lying to you. Besides, the story is either plausible or not. If it's not, then break it off in him. If it is, don't act like a psycho and go postal because you may just be over reacting.

By the way, no offense but this is one of the reasons both guys and girls get the bad rep of being "psycho" is because they are always thinking of the worst before they think of the best in common scenarios. If I was in the dating scene and I was liking a certain someone for a few months when she suddenly without asking freaks out about a phone number on MY dresser, I'd kick her to the curb on the spot. This is exactly why a lot of relationships which otherwise may work out end up NOT working out. People come with pre-dispositions that "I'm gonna get hurt", "he's GONNA cheat on me because the last one did", "hes gotta be cheating because he smells good", or whatever other pre-conceived idea they come in with.

There is nothing wrong with merely asking what's up, and then based on their answer you react.

that is soooo cheesie i would beat his ass for doin some corny ass shit like that. THEN i would think he was cheating LOL no lie.

[Extrememustang]

Call it and ask who it is? If a guy picks up, hang up, if a girl picks up say hey hwo is this I had your number in my phone but couldnt remember who it is. If they say I dont know you say well my BF uses this phone also maybe u know him.

[Tasuki_Civic]

Call it and ask who it is? If a guy picks up, hang up, if a girl picks up say hey hwo is this I had your number in my phone but couldnt remember who it is. If they say I dont know you say well my BF uses this phone also maybe u know him.



AHALOL you scandalous! i see all what you would go thru. nah im not up to call a bitch if she was tryin to holla at my man. i would check him not her. ha that is unless she was callin my house..THEN I would check her ass quick

[Jaimecbr900]

would you keep it in mind that you saw this number and then you saw it again? how would you feel? like something is going on?

You're still killing me with the crazy grammar, so it's hard to understand what you're trying to say.

If you are asking if I would question my wife for having some random phone number in her pocket, the answer is absolutely yes. If you're asking if I would think something was up, the answer is depends on what she says when I ask what's up. If it's shady, then yes. If it's logical, then no.


wouldnt you question because it made you think twice like who is this dude? and you would want to know if he was a threat to you or not?

Honestly, whomever he/she is can only be a threat to me if I let them. If my wife decided she needed something from someone else, she KNOWS she would have to KEEP that someone else because I wouldn't wait around for her, period. It's that clear cut and dry in my head. It really is.

I think you're understanding what I'm saying. I'm just saying that people that you care about should get the benefit of the doubt to begin with, don't think negatively, until they give you a reason NOT to. When they do, you have two choices; Give them another chance, or cut them loose. Either way, you will be better served if you let the other person hang themselves with a rope instead of you hanging everybody you come across at the slightest sign of problems. You may just hang someone that doesn't deserve it. That's all.

[Tasuki_Civic]

You're still killing me with the crazy grammar, so it's hard to understand what you're trying to say.

If you are asking if I would question my wife for having some random phone number in her pocket, the answer is absolutely yes. If you're asking if I would think something was up, the answer is depends on what she says when I ask what's up. If it's shady, then yes. If it's logical, then no.



Honestly, whomever he/she is can only be a threat to me if I let them. If my wife decided she needed something from someone else, she KNOWS she would have to KEEP that someone else because I wouldn't wait around for her, period. It's that clear cut and dry in my head. It really is.

I think you're understanding what I'm saying. I'm just saying that people that you care about should get the benefit of the doubt to begin with, don't think negatively, until they give you a reason NOT to. When they do, you have two choices; Give them another chance, or cut them loose. Either way, you will be better served if you let the other person hang themselves with a rope instead of you hanging everybody you come across at the slightest sign of problems. You may just hang someone that doesn't deserve it. That's all.


so how many chances would you give ya wife?

[caseyT]

If its been that long of a relationship pull them to the side and find out what's going on! If they can't be real with you, and you're SURE of what they're doing, out the door they go! Why be with someone fake who can't talk out their problems with you!

x2

[Tasuki_Civic]

?? how many chances would you give someone??

and youve been together more than 2 yrs

[seksicarlovinchick]

ok ive been reading some pples threads and their relationship questions. i have one.


If you have been with someone from 6 month and up and you find a number or 2 numbers laying around in the their car or just in the the house like next to the computer.

what would you do? would you call it off or would you be mad and let them explain and if it sounds like its excusable you let it ride and keep going with the relationship.

i would like to know this especially from the person who has been in a relationship more than a yr and half.


Ask...don't assume the worst. fact is...there are times when people give you their number and its more trouble to say no or throw it away than just to put in in your pocket and say thanks. If he's your man and you love him...give him the benefit of the doubt. I guess just keep an eye out and make suer that it is an isolated incident...trust, but don't get walked all over.

[Tasuki_Civic]

Ask...don't assume the worst. fact is...there are times when people give you their number and its more trouble to say no or throw it away than just to put in in your pocket and say thanks. If he's your man and you love him...give him the benefit of the doubt. I guess just keep an eye out and make suer that it is an isolated incident...trust, but don't get walked all over.


in so many words thats exactly what im saying :yes: so how many chances would you give your man?

[seksicarlovinchick]

Its Not Cheating Unless Both Chicks Know Then Your Just Fucked.LOL

HAHAHAHA...

[seksicarlovinchick]

in so many words thats exactly what im saying :yes: so how many chances would you give your man?

I love him...and I have yet to catch him...so I've given him...I'm ashamed to say...like 4 now...he keeps fucking up...I keep letting it go...he has yet to do anything. Long story really...

As many as it takes for him to not fuck up...LOL

[silver]

dont blind yourself....alot of women do that


Oh lol I worded that wrong.. meaning what you are saying for the most part..

[Tasuki_Civic]

I love him...and I have yet to catch him...so I've given him...I'm ashamed to say...like 4 now...he keeps fucking up...I keep letting it go...he has yet to do anything. Long story really...

As many as it takes for him to not fuck up...LOL


yea the question really is when do you call it quits. i mean no one is perfect but if the person doesnt understnad or not wanting to then dont you have to let it go? or be submisive to the subject and let him do whatever it is he keeps doing?

i mean i cant tail behind a guy like some women do about their man when they do wrong...its like being a mother. im not that type. i mean to some pple 4 times is more than enough.....you should tell someone once maybe twice but thats it. ive heard men say these things not women. usualy its the men who say she fucks up once im done.theres no talkin thru it and if they do and it happens a agin then they feel they wont understand so why bother

[Tasuki_Civic]

yea the question really is when do you call it quits. i mean no one is perfect but if the person doesnt understnad or not wanting to then dont you have to let it go? or be submisive to the subject and let him do whatever it is he keeps doing?

i mean i cant tail behind a guy like some women do about their man when they do wrong...its like being a mother. im not that type. i mean to some pple 4 times is more than enough.....you should tell someone once maybe twice but thats it. ive heard men say these things not women. usualy its the men who say she fucks up once im done.theres no talkin thru it and if they do and it happens a agin then they feel they wont understand so why bother


depending on how bad the situation is

[seksicarlovinchick]

Some things are worth holding on to. Some aren't. Its that simple. You have to decide if it is or isn't. I trust him and every time there is any doubt he explains and it checks out. I'm not one to tail after a man either...my man is a lot older than me, but hasn't been in many relationships...so a lot of his shit is inexpieriance.

[Tasuki_Civic]

yea i feel you

[nightracer]

ok ive been reading some pples threads and their relationship questions. i have one.


If you have been with someone from 6 month and up and you find a number or 2 numbers laying around in the their car or just in the the house like next to the computer.

what would you do? would you call it off or would you be mad and let them explain and if it sounds like its excusable you let it ride and keep going with the relationship.

i would like to know this especially from the person who has been in a relationship more than a yr and half.
ibthisreallyhappenedtoyouinreallifeanditssomengayo ureallyfeelinanddontwanaletgoof

[Tasuki_Civic]

ibthisreallyhappenedtoyouinreallifeanditssomengayo ureallyfeelinanddontwanaletgoof


so make up your mind guy you wanna be like that or are you gonna be nice to me....which one is it...you switchin ya shit up like a female on her period.

[Tasuki_Civic]

and no its not real....im not dating anyone right now. i explained earlier that ive heard pplre talk about it. and what got me to make the thread was that i heard the new song by Tank. you know what song im tawkin'bout

[GSRteg®]

Hmmmm

[Tracy]

Dan and I have been together for 7 years :) I have menses #'s all up in my phone. When I go out, guys offer to buy me drinks and I accept. I get phone numbers and dance with all kinds of dudes. I have even gone to the male strip club and had a strippper call me the next day and Dan answered the phone...and handed it to me :) He's usually there with me while all of this goes on. He watches and laughs with his friends about it.

Dan's not like that really. He's shy for the most part. He has the occasional girl from his past call his phone. I'm not a jealous girl and I don't really care if another girl calls his phone.

I think it's about being secure in your relationship and being friends with your man. Dan is my BFF. We talk about everything and we know how each other is. If I found a number, I'd prolly pick on him about it and tell him how much game he doesn't have...since he didn't get the girl :D

I think the best thing is to always give the benefit of the doubt...especially if you have no reason to think other wise. I personally don't feel that phone numbers=cheating...although it could. I guess it just depends on the guidelines and expectations you 2 have set for your relationship.

[Lizbiz101]

Tracy you are so right!!!!

I don't think phone numbers = cheating. To me cheating has to involve both people/ physical contact. I guess when you haven't been with someone that long it's harder to trust them. You gain trust over time. So if you've been with someone for a few months and they get a number, it's going to be different than if you've been with someone for a few years. A few years, you don't have that 'he might leave me' feeling anymore. Your pretty comfortable with eachother. A few months is when you figure out if that person is for you or not.

[Jaimecbr900]

I think the best thing is to always give the benefit of the doubt...especially if you have no reason to think other wise. I personally don't feel that phone numbers=cheating...although it could. I guess it just depends on the guidelines and expectations you 2 have set for your relationship.

Exactly. That is EXACTLY what I've been trying to say about this.

Like I said, you can react rationally or like a psycho...it's your choice. Most of the time people overreact instead of just asking, "hey, what up wit this?" and seeing what they answer.

Good post Tracy. :goodjob:

[Tracy]

Exactly. That is EXACTLY what I've been trying to say about this.

Like I said, you can react rationally or like a psycho...it's your choice. Most of the time people overreact instead of just asking, "hey, what up wit this?" and seeing what they answer.

Good post Tracy. :goodjob:

Yay! From the second smartest person I know (Dan being first of course :))

[Jaimecbr900]

Yay! From the second smartest person I know (Dan being first of course :))

Stop it....you're gonna make me :o