Is Marraige overrated

[1000cckiller]

Man I must ask is marraige overrated, because it is like people are getting married for stupid reasons and then end up getting divorced. Like I have a friend who is also on IA, he talking to someone from here too. He has been talkin to her for two months and now he wants to marry her. So let me state his reasons for wanting to marry her.

1. we do all the same shit.
2. she hangs out with all my friends.
3. she has dinner cooked when I get home.
4. we smoke together.

Those reasons are for cut buddies, or jumpoffs.

Marrige lately has become just a form of companionship and not a form of love.

When I marry it is going to be with a woman on my level, that means smarts and money wise. And it is no way she is going to be on my nuts eveyday.

Also as most people know the first six months a relationship is pretty much perfect, after that it goes how it goes.

[2.0civic]

marriage=tax writeoff

[william_jeff]

what about divorce

btw this is too deep for the whoreslounge, this should be in lifestyles.

don't nobody in the whoreslounge want to talk about this shit

[JstAneon]

yes

[JennB]

I don't think it's overrated at all. It's a really great thing if done for the right reasons. Too many people either rush in or don't think it through. Be patient... if the person you are with truly wants to spend their life with you, just wait a little while... they aren't going to run off if you don't marry them immediately. And if they are, then they aren't worth it.

[Kelly]

Wow... This thread has potential.

I agree 100%. Marriage isn't what it use to be.

[Jimmy B]

personally, i cant wait to get married.. i have been with her for about a year and 3 mos now, we are engaged we have a beautiful son together, we get along great(of couse little arguments here an there) and i love her deeply.

sometimes its true that when you meet someone you know its the right person..

[PhAtBoYMr2]

marriage is over rated and bitches are psycho

if there not pyscho now they will get crazy when they get older...

[1000cckiller]

well some one move it to lifestyles please, and also this is not deep. And JenB it not me, I am a hoe, I can admit that. It's one of my boys on here he needs to wake up, he can barely support himself a wife isnt going to cut it.

[Leisa]

Hell no marriage isnt overrated..Marriage is a wonderful thing as long as you know without a doubt you are with the person you are supposed to spend the rest of your life with... They are there through thick and thin, good and bad... to experience new things together and enjoy the beauty of it all..

Marriage is what you make it... I love being married to Brett and couldnt imagine life with out him.

[PhAtBoYMr2]

just leave it here it's fine.

[1000cckiller]

marriage is over rated and bitches are psycho

if there not pyscho now they will get crazy when they get older...I completely agree Mark, but what do us players know uhm.....

[Kelly]

I can't wait to get married. I just know it's important to not have any doubts.

[PhAtBoYMr2]

I know that if you leave your heart in someone elses hands they will probaly end up crushing it and your just leaving yourself vulnerable. Maybe not by cheating on you but what if they die? You will probaly die with them or can't go on with life.

Love will get you killed.

[PhAtBoYMr2]

oh yeah and what lag who are you?

[Killer]

marriage itself is NOT over rated.....

marrying for the wrong reasons just means ur an idiot...

[1000cckiller]

marriage itself is NOT over rated.....

marrying for the wrong reasons just means ur an idiot...i agree but why do people think the early part of a relationship constitutes marraige

[Killer]

i agree but why do people think the early part of a relationship constitutes marraige

no idea, other than fairy tales make them believe so... and also they see their friends getting married, so they think they ought to as well....

the first yr, even 2 years of a relationship are normally perfect... then you hit the 3 yr mark and everything starts getting rough... called the third year lull, if you haven't made it to that or through that i don't think you should get married... there are exceptions, but i've personally been through it, and so have most of my friends...

[Kelly]

Because they are ignorant... :dunno:


However *puts on flame suit*
I don't think you should date anyone you couldn't see yourself marrying. Why waist the time? That's my :2cents:

[Ruiner]

I don't think it's overrated at all. It's a really great thing if done for the right reasons. Too many people either rush in or don't think it through. Be patient... if the person you are with truly wants to spend their life with you, just wait a little while... they aren't going to run off if you don't marry them immediately. And if they are, then they aren't worth it.

Troof.

I couldn't see myself waking up next to any other woman in all honesty. To tell you the truth, I've woken up next to many beautiful women over the years, but it's a very shallow feeling after a while. It's hard to explain. You sorta realize it as you get older.

Is it overrated? No, unless you do it for the wrong (immature) reasons.

[Kelly]

no idea, other than fairy tales make them believe so... and also they see their friends getting married, so they think they ought to as well....


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[Killer]

Because they are ignorant... :dunno:


However *puts on flame suit*
I don't think you should date anyone you couldn't see yourself marrying. Why waist the time? That's my :2cents:


true, but dating and hooking up are two different things...

going on a date with someone is how u find out if you could see yourself w/them or not (unless u know them some other way)

but i agree you should not actually start a relationship unless you see it working out in the long run.

[Killer]

....


what?



Because they are ignorant... :dunno:


.....

[1000cckiller]

no idea, other than fairy tales make them believe so... and also they see their friends getting married, so they think they ought to as well....

the first yr, even 2 years of a relationship are normally perfect... then you hit the 3 yr mark and everything starts getting rough... called the third year lull, if you haven't made it to that or through that i don't think you should get married... there are exceptions, but i've personally been through it, and so have most of my friends...
i understand, i have been with my girl three years, and I am just now thinking of marraige.

[Bballjamal]

good thread!

[Kelly]

what?

...

Just lettin you know I saw it...

[Killer]

Just lettin you know I saw it...


k... it wasn't directed towards you....

[Kelly]

It has been...

And I'll admit to it. It happens, when you see all your friends getting married you kinda catch yourself wishing it was you... Or at least I did. Especially since I don't get to see Killer every day like I'd like.

[Jimmy B]

To tell you the truth, I've woken up next to many beautiful women over the years, but it's a very shallow feeling after a while. It's hard to explain. You sorta realize it as you get older.

i feel ya, trust me, i feel ya!

you speak the truth my friend, i have had more than my fair share of beautiful, hot, desired women. but like brandon said, sometimes it just gets plain repetitive.

i love waking up in the middle of the night, looking over at my beautiful finace' knowing that i will do that every day for the rest of my life.

scary? you bet it is, you always wonder and hope that the other person will always feel the same way but that is what trust is, most of teh people on here are too young to know what it really feeels like, but the ones that do, its a beautiful thing!

[Killer]

what most people in general don't realize that just because you've been together for a year doesn't mean you should get married... you shouldn't base marriage on other peoples standards, you take your own time (how ever long it may be) you wait till you are stable, and work things out for yourself....

do not go on what you see others do, or what your parents did...

"my parents were married at 20" is not an excuse, and neither is "my friends just got married and they just graduated"

you hear that way too often from people...

[Kelly]

i love waking up in the middle of the night, looking over at my beautiful finace' knowing that i will do that every day for the rest of my life.


That is the sweetest thing I think I have ever heard...

[quickdodge®]

Marriage is what and your spouse make of it. Plain and simple. This question can only be answered based on opinions. Especially if you think it is over rated. There is only one fact to remember about marriage: It is what you make of it. Later, QD.

[quickdodge®]

i love waking up in the middle of the night, looking over at my beautiful finace' knowing that i will do that every day for the rest of my life.

Lolol @ your fiance hi-jacking your screen name. Later, QD.

[04CoorsCan]

I dated my highschool sweetheart for 8 years and we were engaged, bought a house, etc. But one day we both decided this wasn't for us. Then I met my "now" wife and we dated for two years, been together 5, and have a beautiful 3 month old baby boy. I never knew love until I met her and had my son. Marriage is hard, being a parent is hard, but nothing in life that is worth having is easy....We fight and bicker just like anyone else, but before my dad died....the one piece of advice he gave me was "Never go to bed mad"...and as corny as it sounds, we abide by that and are just as happy now as we have ever been.

To quote what Leisa said about Brett...."I couldn't imagine my life without my wife and my baby boy"...Marrige/love is NOT 50% / 50%.....it's 100% / 100% and lots of give and take...but in the end...it's MORE THAN WORTH IT!! But that's just my .02.

[04CoorsCan]

Marriage is what and your spouse make of it. Plain and simple. This question can only be answered based on opinions. Especially if you think it is over rated. There is only one fact to remember about marriage: It is what you make of it. Later, QD.


You are so wise....You are IA's personal YODA.:yes:

[quickdodge®]

going on a date with someone is how u find out if you could see yourself w/them or not (unless u know them some other way)

As stupid as I think everything you ever post on IA is, this is 100% true. How the hail else are you going to know if you could think of marrying someone by just guessing and not going out/dating? Later, QD.

[PhAtBoYMr2]

Marriage is what and your spouse make of it. Plain and simple. This question can only be answered based on opinions. Especially if you think it is over rated. There is only one fact to remember about marriage: It is what you make of it. Later, QD.

and thats some real shit right there....

But i guess it all depends on the person. I'm the type of person that really can't see myself with just one person because i love going out and meeting people and i can't put all my trust in someone because chances are they will fuck you over more then once.

[quickdodge®]

You are so wise....You are IA's personal YODA.:yes:

I don't always teach E-thugonomics. I'm an English teacher, math teacher, proofreader, ghost hunter and personal therapist. Later, QD.

[1000cckiller]

okay I need some reps for this post:Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 16 (15 members and 1 guests)
WHAT_LAG, Bballjamal, PhAtBoYMr2, quickdodge®, Kelly, william_jeff, Jimmy B, Jaimecbr900, 04CoorsCan, Killer, Sayajin, NevrNufTorq, civic95, kelly marie, AirBrcak

[william_jeff]

Marriage is what and your spouse make of it. Plain and simple. This question can only be answered based on opinions. Especially if you think it is over rated. There is only one fact to remember about marriage: It is what you make of it. Later, QD.

real talk right there

one other fact is that if you do not communicate well, your marriage will be the complete shits. you MUST communicate and be willing to work shit out. like someone said, it's all in give and take. you can't just take take take, there are two people in that marriage and you have to come to agreements in alot of things. communication is by far the largest factor in marriage period. by communicating you will learn if you have that person's trust, love, etc.

[william_jeff]

okay I need some reps for this post:Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 16 (15 members and 1 guests)
WHAT_LAG, Bballjamal, PhAtBoYMr2, quickdodge®, Kelly, william_jeff, Jimmy B, Jaimecbr900, 04CoorsCan, Killer, Sayajin, NevrNufTorq, civic95, kelly marie, AirBrcak

*waits for QDs reps*

[quickdodge®]

and thats some real shit right there....

Thanks.


But i guess it all depends on the person. I'm the type of person that really can't see myself with just one person because i love going out and meeting people and i can't put all my trust in someone because chances are they will fuck you over more then once.

And you get much respect from that statement. You're doing the right thing in your life. Marriage isn't for party hoppers/club goers. It is for growing up and settling down. I don't mean that the single life is full of non grown-ups. To me, clubbing is for single people. On the real ,why do most people go to clubs? Not to dance. Not to drink. To meet other people. What I like about Mark's attitude is that he knows he doesn't want to settle down and if he did, life would be fucked up for him and his husband(lolol). Later, QD.

[quickdodge®]

*waits for QDs reps*

He's getting them.

This was an excellent post until that comment. I was fixing to hit him up, too. Later, QD.

[PhAtBoYMr2]

I think im just too much of a fucking pimp

IMHO

[Kelly]

communication is by far the largest factor in marriage period. by communicating you will learn if you have that person's trust, love, etc.

Bingo. Communication is so important... :yes:

[04CoorsCan]

I don't always teach E-thugonomics. I'm an English teacher, math teacher, proofreader, ghost hunter and personal therapist. Later, QD.

I have noticed this .... however "math teacher" was one that has escaped me. I have not seen you use these talents yet.

[william_jeff]

lol @ QD for not 'fixing him up' anymore

but 'repping' him

PhAtBoYMr2 got a boyfriend?

how is that working out?

[quickdodge®]

communication is by far the largest factor in marriage period.

You left out one HUGE other factor that probably matches communication in this position. Trust. Without trust, a good relationship will NOT be had. Later, QD.

[1000cckiller]

Thanks.



And you get much respect from that statement. You're doing the right thing in your life. Marriage isn't for party hoppers/club goers. It is for growing up and settling down. I don't mean that the single life is full of non grown-ups. To me, clubbing is for single people. On the real ,why do most people go to clubs? Not to dance. Not to drink. To meet other people. What I like about Mark's attitude is that he knows he doesn't want to settle down and if he did, life would be fucked up for him and his husband(lolol). Later, QD.And you are correct sir, but some little children think that if a girl does one thing right for them, that they must marry them. But just because something is going well at the beginning doesnt mean it will later, you have to know its right, but maybe he thinks it is right.

[quickdodge®]

I have noticed this .... however "math teacher" was one that has escaped me. I have not seen you use these talents yet.

Haven't had a chance to use these in a while. I am also a hip hop and old school rock professor, I forgot to add. Later, QD.

[william_jeff]

I have noticed this .... however "math teacher" was one that has escaped me. I have not seen you use these talents yet.

those rep points signify his mathematical skills. he has to use numbers in order to correctly rep someone.

he is also a known owner, that probably goes under e-thugonomics though.

[04CoorsCan]

those rep points signify his mathematical skills. he has to use numbers in order to correctly rep someone.

he is also a known owner, that probably goes under e-thugonomics though.

Valid points....and duely noted..like I said...he is "our" Yoda...and uses the force wisely.

[william_jeff]

You left out one HUGE other factor that probably matches communication in this position. Trust. Without trust, a good relationship will NOT be had. Later, QD.

yeah that is true. but i feel communication is first in the whole relationship, then comes trust (probably an opininated statement when it comes down to it, but that's my feelings). when you communicate, you talk about how you feel, your insecurities if you have them, what's going on with you, you feel what i'm saying? constant communication can and will nullify that whole insecurity bullshit. it has happened in my relationship, my fiancee and i had a SERIOUS issue, both of us, on us trusting each other. we never cheated on each other, it was just a result of the shit we've been put through in our past relationships and we had to learn to trust each other. i know i will never do anything wrong to her and she will never do anything wrong to me. it's all about communication and understanding where that person is coming from.

IMO

1. communication

2. trust

[Ruiner]

i feel ya, trust me, i feel ya!

you speak the truth my friend, i have had more than my fair share of beautiful, hot, desired women. but like brandon said, sometimes it just gets plain repetitive.

i love waking up in the middle of the night, looking over at my beautiful finace' knowing that i will do that every day for the rest of my life.

scary? you bet it is, you always wonder and hope that the other person will always feel the same way but that is what trust is, most of teh people on here are too young to know what it really feeels like, but the ones that do, its a beautiful thing!

It's true, though. She has a certain smell, a certain something about her that you cannot explain. You'll always remember it and it is the best feeling when you wake up next to her. As you said, most people on here are too young to realize/know this, but they will (hopefully) one day. :)

[quickdodge®]

IMO

1. communication

2. trust

Respected, but I think they are on the same level. The things, good or bad, that can be said, can be said about one, can be said about the other. Also, a breakdown in one can lead to a breakdown in the other. If your line of communication starts fading, so does your trust level. You start to wonder why the spouse isn't talking with you anymore or as much. You start thinking if the other person is talking to someone else instead. Same with trust. If you start to not trust your mate and your mate know, that mate has a good chance of lashing out and starting the process of a cracked fault line of communication. Later, QD.

[OneSlow5pt0]

i dont think its overrated when done right........now skylines are overrated,lol

[Lizbiz101]

I can't wait to get married. I just know it's important to not have any doubts. I agree!!! These guys sayin bitches crazy....but if the picked the right damn girl there wouldn't be any problems!!! lol

[Jaimecbr900]

As probably the oldest person on IA.....wait, forgot about Brett :D ....as one of THE oldest people on IA and I think probably also the one that's been with his wife the longest (this is our 20th yr together).....I can tell yall from experience that both Leisa and QD are right on the money.

Marriage is exactly what two people make of it.

It is wayyyy too easy and even trendy to get divorced now. People all too often end up in relationships where only one person carries the entire relationship. Sometimes they drag on for a long time for one reason or another. Sometimes they throw in the towel right away. Divorces are sometimes necessary, but IMO often times they really aren't. Now, I'm not saying that divorces aren't warranted or necessary. They sometimes damn sure are. I'm only saying that if society took a different approach towards marriage, maybe we would have more couples TRY and work things out instead of their first answer to a problem be divorcing.

People take marriage way too lightly. It's no joke. It's actually a lot of work. Work that requires a certain maturity level and a huge commitment to compromising.

Long story short, if you don't take marriage seriously, there is no way it will ever be anything fruitful. Children only make that instability worse. Children NEVER fix ANY marriage problems, they only compound them.

My advice? Date as long as you can, hell even live together BEFORE you get married. The honeymoon phase is easy to get thru, it's the "you piss me off so bad I wanna gouge your eyes out while you sleep" phase that really separates the men from the boys sort of speak. ;)

[Kelly]

Good advise Jamie :goodjob:

Reps if I can

[quickdodge®]

As probably the oldest person on IA.....wait, forgot about Brett :D ....as one of THE oldest people on IA

HEY! Dammit. I'm the oldest here. Lolol. Later, QD.

[Kelly]

That's what I was thinkin :thinking:

[Jaimecbr900]

HEY! Dammit. I'm the oldest here. Lolol. Later, QD.

My bad, I thought Father Time Brett was.....my bad. :D

[william_jeff]

HEY! Dammit. I'm the oldest here. Lolol. Later, QD.

old = wisdom

you are wise, wiser than moses

[Sayajin]

i dont think its overrated when done right........now skylines are overrated,lol

ROTFLMAO!

Low blow... how did I get involved in here! Punk. lol

-Sayajin

[william_jeff]

lol well i think your skyline is sexy

[Jaimecbr900]

I will not reveal whom, but this is in response to a PM I just got...... ;)



Marriage is a big deal. It is NOT to be taken lightly. If you are in a committed relationship, there are certain steps (IMO) that may increase the chances for success. One of those steps is, and this is only AFTER you've been together for a long time already dating exclusively, living together for a little while just before getting married.

Notice there are some hidden caveats in there. The first being that living together should come ONLY after you've been dating for an extended amount of time. IMO that means like YEARS, not months. The second is that you are in a monogamous and exclusive dating situation. Finally, you should really limit your living together to certain finite amount of time BEFORE you get married. In other words, living together for 10 yrs, buying houses together, having children together, YET NOT taking the final step is ridiculous to me.

But if you are together with your mate for say......3 years ;) , and then you start discussing marriage for some point in the near future and you are both ready to possibly move-in together IN CONTEMPLATION OF getting married in that near future.....well, that actually makes sense. It's not like doing a "trial run" or a "test drive" at all. It is in preparation for a marriage in an upcoming date. I personally feel that you should really have atleast a target date for getting married discussed before you decide to co-habitate.

Living together brings out things, both positive and negative, that you certainly can not see before then. Let me just bust a few bubbles right here and now......her farts DO stink.....she is often times NOT going to have dinner sitting on the table when you get home.....she is going to get pissed at you for throwing your underwear into the hamper inside out....folded clothes don't magically get into the drawers by themselves.....bills will have to eventually get paid and SOMEONE is going to have to take charge of those duties....she does SNOAR and LOUD.....she does wake up with messy ass hair/no make up/and with dragon breath..... :D So those of you who are "waiting" until the perfect mate comes along.......that doesn't happen in real life. Everyone has their quirks and faults and hang ups......YES, even me :D ...... :D

There are also great joys that will surface that otherwise aren't possible. There are things that only happen behind closed doors that are everything from hilarious to emotional to down right touching. You can not usually experience those things while apart. So there are many positive discoveries as well.

If you can't live with someone, you certainly shouldn't marry them. You will not be able to nit pick every single thing that bothers you or it will fall apart. You have to pick your battles. Sometimes it's NOT worth it to bitch about inside out underwear, sometimes it is. That recognition only comes from experience in knowing your mate. The hardest transition from single to married comes when you have to SHARE, COMMUNICATE, and COMPROMISE with another person. No matter how much you THINK you love someone, that's the real test. If you can't do even 1 of the 3, you really are doomed to failure the majority of the time. It's almost impossible to have a successful marriage w/o even one of those components missing, and therefore by default all 3 of those will have to be used when you just live with someone. If you can use them effectively when you live together, marriage will be so much an easier road to hoe.

Anyway, I hope that answered "someone's" question. I thought some of yall may have the same question too, so I posted it here vs PM.

Good luck to all comtemplating marriage......You'll need it......JP :D ;)

[Ruiner]

Good advise Jamie :goodjob:

Reps if I can

advice ;)

[Jaimecbr900]

advice ;)


:lmfao: :lmfao: :lmfao: :lmfao:

[Kelly]

advice ;)

:doh:

[william_jeff]

yea she's been having trouble lately spelling...

[Kelly]

I know, right...

W
T
F
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*sigh*

[william_jeff]

i still have love for the unknown white girl

[Kelly]

Unknown???

[thepolecat]

Just got married a few weekends ago- we have been together for over 5 years and known each other for about 10 years. We didn't rush into it and that has been the best thing. too many people get caught in that feeling when they first start dating and don't wait to see what happens when the "honeymoon" ends

[william_jeff]

Unknown???

let's just keep it a secret

killer doesn't have to know;)

:lmao:

[Killer]

let's just keep it a secret

killer doesn't have to know;)

:lmao:

ya'll are both pathetic.....

[Kelly]

ya'll are both pathetic.....

I can always count on a kind word from you...


Oh, and text me back

[Killer]

I can always count on a kind word from you...


Oh, and text me back

and i can always count on you to flirt with a fuck tard from ia :goodjob:

[william_jeff]

LOL

i've been waiting for you to come into this thread

what's been your hold up bo duke?

[Evil Goat]

lmao at the lovers quarrel up there...

marriage is badass...the day i got married my spendable income doubled and i have pussy on call....what more could you ask for?

[Killer]

LOL

i've been waiting for you to come into this thread

what's been your hold up bo duke?

i work.

[william_jeff]

lol

[Killer]

lmao at the lovers quarrel up there...

marriage is badass...the day i got married my spendable income doubled and i have pussy on call....what more could you ask for?


hmmmmmmmm..... lol

[william_jeff]

i work.

what you trying to say

i bet you wouldn't step foot out of that charger:lmfao:

[Killer]

.... why step out when i could just push the throttle...


and i'm not trying to say anything but that i was busy at work.

[william_jeff]

LOL @ pun intended

fag

i'm at work too

but i don't work

not until after the sun goes down

[Killer]

back on topic....

marriage should not be asked for, begged for, used to fix a broken relationship, a reason to break off a relationship. a marriages only purpose is to bond a man and a woman together for the rest of their lives.... but as always, man has tainted something that is so meaning full.. and taken it for granted. it is more tradition these days than anything... and isn't taken as serious as it should be... most of america has it in their head that if it doesn't work out i'll just get a divorce and either lose half my stuff, or take half of the others....

[william_jeff]

x2

marriage is almost becoming a tradition like having children. no offense to those who have them, but i hear SOOOOO much these days that i want a child because i saw such and such child or whatever. it's fucking crazy if you ask me

[Jaimecbr900]

BTW, props to people like Mark who really understand themselves and acknowledge that "marriage" is not for them right now. I'd much rather see a person that says that and acts like that, than to see someone marry for all the wrong reasons.

Props for people who are honest with themselves. :goodjob:

[seksicarlovinchick]

Man I must ask is marraige overrated, because it is like people are getting married for stupid reasons and then end up getting divorced. Like I have a friend who is also on IA, he talking to someone from here too. He has been talkin to her for two months and now he wants to marry her. So let me state his reasons for wanting to marry her.

1. we do all the same shit.
2. she hangs out with all my friends.
3. she has dinner cooked when I get home.
4. we smoke together.

Those reasons are for cut buddies, or jumpoffs.

Marrige lately has become just a form of companionship and not a form of love.

When I marry it is going to be with a woman on my level, that means smarts and money wise. And it is no way she is going to be on my nuts eveyday.

Also as most people know the first six months a relationship is pretty much perfect, after that it goes how it goes.

Marriage is not so much over-rated as misunderstood. People think that when you get married, everything will be perfect. If you get married too soon or for the wrong reasons...shit will go sour. Marriage should be the combination of two separate lives...it should be the joining of two people that feel that this person is someone they will be happy with forever.

It has to be more than good sex...and we have fun together...you have to know that come thick or thin this person will be there. You have to trust that they will only be with you. You have to both want the same things (kids, house...etc). There has to be mutual understanding that neither is better than the other. Both should have something to bring to the marriage in a financial way. Marriage is hard work and not to be taken lightly. This "all you need is love" bull-shit is far too common. Yeah, you love her now when she's hot and wants to fuck all teh time...but how about 20 years from now when she's had two kids and isn't so hot...and at the end of the day she wants to pass out and have nothing to do with you or your dick? You still gonna lover her then.

All I'm saying is that you have to respect it and not take it too lightly...or the shit may be the end of you...and all women are not crazy. I am very rational...Thanks.

***Steps off soapbox***

[Evil Goat]

Marriage is not so much over-rated as misunderstood. People think that when you get married, everything will be perfect. If you get married too soon or for the wrong reasons...shit will go sour. Marriage should be the combination of two separate lives...it should be the joining of two people that feel that this person is someone they will be happy with forever.

It has to be more than good sex...and we have fun together...you have to know that come thick or thin this person will be there. You have to trust that they will only be with you. You have to both want the same things (kids, house...etc). There has to be mutual understanding that neither is better than the other. Both should have something to bring to the marriage in a financial way. Marriage is hard work and not to be taken lightly. This "all you need is love" bull-shit is far too common. Yeah, you love her now when she's hot and wants to fuck all teh time...but how about 20 years from now when she's had two kids and isn't so hot...and at the end of the day she wants to pass out and have nothing to do with you or your dick? You still gonna lover her then.

All I'm saying is that you have to respect it and not take it too lightly...or the shit may be the end of you...and all women are not crazy. I am very rational...Thanks.

***Steps off soapbox***


tits?

[seksicarlovinchick]

tits?

:boobies: Are you asking if I have them? Yes...would a guy really say some shit like that?

[Sayajin]

ROFTLMAO.

Nice response.

-Sayajin

[seksicarlovinchick]

ROFTLMAO.

Nice response.

-Sayajin

Thanks. :D You just liked the :boobies: ...

[Sayajin]

Well I must say I do enjoy a nice pair....

Care to take part in the study we are conducting to find the primary differences between parts in the female physique and how males react to each component of the body? Also as to what is prefered by different males and why?

-Sayajin

[seksicarlovinchick]

Well I must say I do enjoy a nice pair....

Care to take part in the study we are conducting to find the primary differences between parts in the female physique and how males react to each component of the body? Also as to what is prefered by different males and why?

-Sayajin

Anywhere in this survey do I get to kick you in the balls to test their sensitivity...? If so...I'm game. :D

[Sayajin]

Anywhere in this survey do I get to kick you in the balls to test their sensitivity...? If so...I'm game. :D

Not mine in particular as I need mine for further study and the advancement of the human race.

However I am sure that I can work something out with one of my associates to have your request met. As long as you meet his... ;)


-Sayajin

[seksicarlovinchick]

Not mine in particular as I need mine for further study and the advancement of the human race.

However I am sure that I can work something out with one of my associates to have your request met. As long as you meet his... ;)


-Sayajin

Something tells me that after being kicked in that balls his requests will involve pain coming my way...and while I'm always down for some hair pulling...getting punched in the jaw or kneed in the cunt don't sound so fun. I'll pass.

[Sayajin]

Something tells me that after being kicked in that balls his requests will involve pain coming my way...and while I'm always down for some hair pulling...getting punched in the jaw or kneed in the cunt don't sound so fun. I'll pass.

LOL.

Im sure we can work something out of a more "delicate and personal" sort.

-Sayajin

[Tasuki_Civic]

overrated? hmmm not really? but i assume its worth it to those who love each other. i dont think you need a title and papers to know you love someone and your with them for life but what the hell make it official. i guess.

[seksicarlovinchick]

LOL.

Im sure we can work something out of a more "delicate and personal" sort.

-Sayajin

nah...I'll just kick you in the balls and be done with it...k? :D

[Jaimecbr900]

Once again, this is in response to a subsequent PM I got. I'm long winded and PM box has a size limit..... :D ....and it may help some of you out there that have questions about moving in with someone.


As many people have already stated, marriage is not just a rosy birds chirping sun shining proposition. There ARE going to be times when it gets rough, sometimes downright ugly. It happens. It's part of the package deal. Some relationships have it more than others, but ALL at some point or another are going to wonder if they've made the right decision to be with this other person.

IF your relationship ALREADY has doubts and turmoil, then moving in....much like having children....will only compound those issues. Sure, it may be very nice and rosy cool in the beginning, but those same issues you're having now WILL resurface sooner or later. Remember, if you don't RESOLVE the problem it will always come back in some form or another later regardless if you live together, are married, just BF/GF, just friends....whatever. It will ALWAYS come back to be dealt with again. Sometimes it's wise to let something simmer for a minute before you walk over to it and stir it though. In other words, sometimes right in the middle of a heated argument is probably NOT the best time to get on your soapbox and tell your significant other about ALL the faults you think they have that have been bothering you forever. BUT issues need to be RESOLVED and a common consensus needs to be reached EVENTUALLY. You either do it now or do it later, but you will have to do it. Moving in together is NOT the answer if you have serious doubts or issues with your partner because that safety barrier of "going home" and being alone to think about things when you get upset is no longer there. Now you have to stew over things TOGETHER. If you can't resolve the issues now when you CAN get away from each other to calm down and think rationally.....what do you think is going to happen when you're sharing a home and a bed???? It could get ugly.

With that said, I still think living together for a brief time just before taking the big step of marriage is a good litmus test for both of you to either realize this is a great thing you have or something that needs work. Either way, it is far better to realize you need work and make a decision vs going through the stigma of a divorce later on. Again, the caveat is that living together shouldn't be used as LONG term "test drive". I mean if you live with someone for 5 yrs and you still WANT to continue, why not make it official? What's the hold up? If there is a hold up, then maybe you shouldn't be together to begin with. There is no set time limit for someone to make up their mind about marriage, but there is a limit to someone's patience. I for one wouldn't feel all too comfortable with my partner if she couldn't make up her mind about marrying me or not.

Anyway, I hope this helps answer the question. :goodjob:

[1000cckiller]

Once again, this is in response to a subsequent PM I got. I'm long winded and PM box has a size limit..... :D ....and it may help some of you out there that have questions about moving in with someone.


As many people have already stated, marriage is not just a rosy birds chirping sun shining proposition. There ARE going to be times when it gets rough, sometimes downright ugly. It happens. It's part of the package deal. Some relationships have it more than others, but ALL at some point or another are going to wonder if they've made the right decision to be with this other person.

IF your relationship ALREADY has doubts and turmoil, then moving in....much like having children....will only compound those issues. Sure, it may be very nice and rosy cool in the beginning, but those same issues you're having now WILL resurface sooner or later. Remember, if you don't RESOLVE the problem it will always come back in some form or another later regardless if you live together, are married, just BF/GF, just friends....whatever. It will ALWAYS come back to be dealt with again. Sometimes it's wise to let something simmer for a minute before you walk over to it and stir it though. In other words, sometimes right in the middle of a heated argument is probably NOT the best time to get on your soapbox and tell your significant other about ALL the faults you think they have that have been bothering you forever. BUT issues need to be RESOLVED and a common consensus needs to be reached EVENTUALLY. You either do it now or do it later, but you will have to do it. Moving in together is NOT the answer if you have serious doubts or issues with your partner because that safety barrier of "going home" and being alone to think about things when you get upset is no longer there. Now you have to stew over things TOGETHER. If you can't resolve the issues now when you CAN get away from each other to calm down and think rationally.....what do you think is going to happen when you're sharing a home and a bed???? It could get ugly.

With that said, I still think living together for a brief time just before taking the big step of marriage is a good litmus test for both of you to either realize this is a great thing you have or something that needs work. Either way, it is far better to realize you need work and make a decision vs going through the stigma of a divorce later on. Again, the caveat is that living together shouldn't be used as LONG term "test drive". I mean if you live with someone for 5 yrs and you still WANT to continue, why not make it official? What's the hold up? If there is a hold up, then maybe you shouldn't be together to begin with. There is no set time limit for someone to make up their mind about marriage, but there is a limit to someone's patience. I for one wouldn't feel all too comfortable with my partner if she couldn't make up her mind about marrying me or not.

Anyway, I hope this helps answer the question. :goodjob:That is a very true. But all women and men dont think the same, so there in lies the problem. Because we all think so differently we react on feelings, Moving in with someone and marrying the takes big sacrifices on both parts mainly because your space is fixing to invaded by this other person. Also I have seen some couples that hate their partners love them the most. So I have to say in my opinion, I believe there can be a yes or no to this thread.

[JennB]

I couldn't agree more, Jaime. I am always puzzled by people who live together for 3, 4 or even 5 years and aren't married... why? I mean it's their life, they can do what they want, maybe marriage isn't a big deal to them but whatever. To me, if there is any doubt after a few years then maybe it's not the relationship you should be in. After a couple of years, it's either be sure this is the person you want to be with or stop wasting time. IMO, there is no sense in spending that much of your life with someone unless you know or really think they may be the one. Of course that doesn't mean to rush into it but to give it time, get to know the person, get past the honeymoon stage, have a few fights, learn each others flaws and then decide if this could be where you want to spend your life.

It seems like some people want to build a life together but still have the freedom to just walk away with no consequences if things get bad.... though some people seem to do that even if they ARE married and it's sad.

Divorce is not the solution to a fight. I see "I do" as a promise... a promise to always try, to always put in as much effort as it takes.

[SPOOLIN]

i got married after 6 years with my woman. I vowed before we got married that i would make sure that my life wouldnt end by stopping doing the things that i love mainly RACING. I made her wait 2 years before we got married and that i had a good job and was done with school. I see people get married and then you never hear from them again and they just turn into a house whore. I like to sit around my house but i gotta get out on the weekends and work on my shit too, LOL.

[Jaimecbr900]

Moving in with someone and marrying the takes big sacrifices on both parts mainly because your space is fixing to invaded by this other person.

I think I know what you're trying to say, but you may have worded it incorrectly.

If I invite you over for a cook-out, you're not "invading" my space....I invited you to come by, right? The same idea goes when you comingle your life with someone else. It should not be looked at as what "I'm losing" rather it should be looked at as "what I'm gaining". If your partner is someone that you feel crowds you or invades your space, then to be honest you really should not be with that person and you should get out NOW while you can.

All too often people have this notion that "he'll EVENTUALLY change to this.." or "she'll eventually CHANGE and do that WHEN we get married..."...... :no: Ummm, NO!!!! Change is something that an individual has to decide ON THEIR OWN. When someone "changes" due to someone else's pressures, they often times revert right back sooner or later to the same place they were. Why?, because it wasn't THEM who wanted the change.

So you have to look at things as a positive rather than a negative conotation. If you have it in your mind that this person is an "invader" then you will always have in the back of your mind that they are taking something AWAY from you.

[quickdodge®]

There's so much worth in a marriage that I don't see how it can be considered overrated. Marriage has been shown to be a major factor in good mental and physical health. It calms the soul. For the most part, people do a lot less risky things when you have more to live for than just yourself. Married people take better care of themselves. Marriage has been shown to provide a safe haven and good moral upbringing for children. Children brought up in a married home are less likely to be brought up poor, uncivilized and irresponsible. A marriage provides for a good foundation for morals, responsibility, education and just plain life in general.

I don't see how living a longer, healthier, responsible, safer, life could be taken as overrated.

This is not to trash people that don't marry. And it does not apply to every human on Earth. Later, QD.

[william_jeff]

yea i was on yahoo one day and they said that marriage maybe help for those who are suffer from depression. of course they brought out that COMMUNICATION, again, was necessary in order for the household to be happy.

marriage does/can bring out the best in people.

[Jaimecbr900]

It seems like some people want to build a life together but still have the freedom to just walk away with no consequences if things get bad.... though some people seem to do that even if they ARE married and it's sad.

Divorce is not the solution to a fight. I see "I do" as a promise... a promise to always try, to always put in as much effort as it takes.

Amen!!!! +500 If I could. :goodjob:

[Jaimecbr900]

There's so much worth in a marriage that I don't see how it can be considered overrated. Marriage has been shown to be a major factor in good mental and physical health. It calms the soul. For the most part, people do a lot less risky things when you have more to live for than just yourself. Married people take better care of themselves. Marriage has been shown to provide a safe haven and good moral upbringing for children. Children brought up in a married home are less likely to be brought up poor, uncivilized and irresponsible. A marriage provides for a good foundation for morals, responsibility, education and just plain life in general.

I don't see how living a longer, healthier, responsible, safer, life could be taken as overrated.

This is not to trash people that don't marry. And it does not apply to every human on Earth. Later, QD.

Amen to that too!!!!

BTW, I didn't get home until late last night, hence the no call but I haven't forgotten. ;)

[quickdodge®]

Amen to that too!!!!

BTW, I didn't get home until late last night, hence the no call but I haven't forgotten. ;)

Tis all good, James. Lolol. Later, QD.

[1000cckiller]

I think I know what you're trying to say, but you may have worded it incorrectly.

If I invite you over for a cook-out, you're not "invading" my space....I invited you to come by, right? The same idea goes when you comingle your life with someone else. It should not be looked at as what "I'm losing" rather it should be looked at as "what I'm gaining". If your partner is someone that you feel crowds you or invades your space, then to be honest you really should not be with that person and you should get out NOW while you can.

All too often people have this notion that "he'll EVENTUALLY change to this.." or "she'll eventually CHANGE and do that WHEN we get married..."...... :no: Ummm, NO!!!! Change is something that an individual has to decide ON THEIR OWN. When someone "changes" due to someone else's pressures, they often times revert right back sooner or later to the same place they were. Why?, because it wasn't THEM who wanted the change.

So you have to look at things as a positive rather than a negative conotation. If you have it in your mind that this person is an "invader" then you will always have in the back of your mind that they are taking something AWAY from you.yeah that is part of what I am saying.

[ShooterMcGavin]

marriage stopped being what it used to be once the divorce rate overtook the marriage rate...now who's ur buddy and who's the girl? :D

[1SICKLEX]

Once again, this is in response to a subsequent PM I got. I'm long winded and PM box has a size limit..... :D ....and it may help some of you out there that have questions about moving in with someone.


As many people have already stated, marriage is not just a rosy birds chirping sun shining proposition. There ARE going to be times when it gets rough, sometimes downright ugly. It happens. It's part of the package deal. Some relationships have it more than others, but ALL at some point or another are going to wonder if they've made the right decision to be with this other person.

IF your relationship ALREADY has doubts and turmoil, then moving in....much like having children....will only compound those issues. Sure, it may be very nice and rosy cool in the beginning, but those same issues you're having now WILL resurface sooner or later. Remember, if you don't RESOLVE the problem it will always come back in some form or another later regardless if you live together, are married, just BF/GF, just friends....whatever. It will ALWAYS come back to be dealt with again. Sometimes it's wise to let something simmer for a minute before you walk over to it and stir it though. In other words, sometimes right in the middle of a heated argument is probably NOT the best time to get on your soapbox and tell your significant other about ALL the faults you think they have that have been bothering you forever. BUT issues need to be RESOLVED and a common consensus needs to be reached EVENTUALLY. You either do it now or do it later, but you will have to do it. Moving in together is NOT the answer if you have serious doubts or issues with your partner because that safety barrier of "going home" and being alone to think about things when you get upset is no longer there. Now you have to stew over things TOGETHER. If you can't resolve the issues now when you CAN get away from each other to calm down and think rationally.....what do you think is going to happen when you're sharing a home and a bed???? It could get ugly.

With that said, I still think living together for a brief time just before taking the big step of marriage is a good litmus test for both of you to either realize this is a great thing you have or something that needs work. Either way, it is far better to realize you need work and make a decision vs going through the stigma of a divorce later on. Again, the caveat is that living together shouldn't be used as LONG term "test drive". I mean if you live with someone for 5 yrs and you still WANT to continue, why not make it official? What's the hold up? If there is a hold up, then maybe you shouldn't be together to begin with. There is no set time limit for someone to make up their mind about marriage, but there is a limit to someone's patience. I for one wouldn't feel all too comfortable with my partner if she couldn't make up her mind about marrying me or not.

Anyway, I hope this helps answer the question. :goodjob:


Great post Jaime!!!

[Jaimecbr900]

Great post Jaime!!!

My boy Mike in tha house!!!!!

Yall wanna know somebody that can get deep??? This guy right here after about 15 Coronas can get mofo DEEP..... :D ;)

What up Mike? :goodjob:

[Stopsnitchin]

Marriage is overrated. Just remember one word if you do it.....



PRENUP!!!!!!!!!

[quickdodge®]

^^^ Dumbass post of the thread. Later, QD.

[Stopsnitchin]

hahahahahaha you obviously didnt sign one!!!!
any real mother fucker would!! whos with me?

[quickdodge®]

hahahahahaha you obviously didnt sign one!!!!
any dumb mother fucker would!! whos with me?

There you go. Now this thread was a good thread until idiocy started making it's way in. If you could go spread your disease in another thread and leave this alone. Later, QD.

[Stopsnitchin]

I wish I had! Now that my wife found me cheating on her with a man and she found out I gave her a disease she's gonna take all my money cuz I didnt sign a prenup. damn Im stupid. Later, QueerDodge.



Im just stating my opinion you fuck. heres a lil something since you like changing my posts.

[william_jeff]

we have a game cock sucker on board

[quickdodge®]

Im just stating my opinion you fuck. heres a lil something since you like changing my posts.

You're not stating anything, little boy. Get your head out of your little "trap" and try an intellectual approach to the topic. This thread is full of nothing but good, reasonable, mostly thought out, informative posts. Yours is full of nothing but shit.

Wow. Nice editing. Especially on the "name" for me. I've never seen that done before. Later, QD.

[quickdodge®]

we have a game cock sucker on board

Isn't this the truth. Later, QD.

[Stopsnitchin]

hahahaha in your fuckin sig you have a pic of that nick cannon!!! and you call me a fag?!?!

look in the mirror

[Stopsnitchin]

dont get married unless you sign a prenup. bitches are scandalous.

is that too intellectual for you or not enough?

[quickdodge®]

dont get married unless you sign a prenup. bitches are scandalous.

is that too intellectual for you or not enough?

I'm going to go out on a limb and take a wild stab at your lack of intelligence. Well, no I'm not. You've done that for me. I'm out of this thread as far as this is concerned. When the IQ level rises again, I'll be back. Later, QD.

[Stopsnitchin]

lack of intelligence!?! you make me laugh!!! for one your not funny and #2 its obvious you didnt sign one. she's gonna take you for everything!!!

AHAHAHAHAHAHA WHOS LAUGHIN NOW!??!!?!?

me

[william_jeff]

ok it's time for you to STFU so we can proceed on intelligent opinions and not idiotic utterances

[Stopsnitchin]

oh well MR. nick cannon dick sucker.

marriage is overrated