Nice Guys Finish Last...

[SLOWLYbtngU]

Everybody has heard this saying right? So what is it when the Nice Guy fucks up? I get yelled at all the time for going after the "assholes, dicks, and pussies," but at least with them I know what I am getting into....

What the fuck am I supposed to do when it is the guy that everyone is pulling for that fucks up? :???: :???:

**No more relationship section so I posted here....

[SLOWLYbtngU]

So everyone defends the good guy huh? Well damn...

/thread

[Sammich]

i pm'd u back...chk ur pms jose

what did the guy do? what happened??

[Jaimecbr900]

This is a "if a tree falls in the woods and noone's around, does it make a sound?" kinda question.

If the "good" guy screws up......doesn't that really make him "bad"???? :thinking:

So what's the question then????? :thinking:

[Sammich]

This is a "if a tree falls in the woods and noone's around, does it make a sound?" kinda question.

If the "good" guy screws up......doesn't that really make him "bad"???? :thinking:

So what's the question then????? :thinking:

i agree, he put on a phasod(sp?), he wasnt real, you HAVE to find somebody thats real, we all thought he was, but obviously we got punk'd too by thinkin that

[con]

hate to hear this ma as you really do deserve the best. damn, buddy played a good game for a while. care to share how or why he blew his cover???

[{X}Echo419]

Everybody has heard this saying right? So what is it when the Nice Guy fucks up? I get yelled at all the time for going after the "assholes, dicks, and pussies," but at least with them I know what I am getting into....

What the fuck am I supposed to do when it is the guy that everyone is pulling for that fucks up? :???: :???:

**No more relationship section so I posted here....

I don't try to be a "nice guy" or a "bad boy". I just be ME and do what I do. if she perceves(sp) that as a "nice guy" or "bad boy" that good for her, but if she likes ME for the REAL ME than GREAT for us...I hope that helps or makes sense. :goodjob:

[Sammich]

it makes sense, but d00d is a fake, he made it seem one way when it was another...UNLESS jose is wildin again

*still waiting for response*

[Jaimecbr900]

i agree, he put on a phasod(sp?), he wasnt real, you HAVE to find somebody thats real, we all thought he was, but obviously we got punk'd too by thinkin that

Facade..... ;) :D

I was actually referring to the fact that the question actually sounds more rhetorical than anything else because a good guy the screws up is actually a bad guy, so he's no different than any other bad guy.....see how the tree fell in the woods???? :D

In other words.....tell us the whole damn story and we will be glad to give you worthless and non-professional advice...... :D ;)

[SLOWLYbtngU]

This is a "if a tree falls in the woods and noone's around, does it make a sound?" kinda question.

If the "good" guy screws up......doesn't that really make him "bad"???? :thinking:

So what's the question then????? :thinking:
Ok well see this is the thing...What he did was done in good taste, it is just the fact that I guess I held him at a higher level than most guys and therefore allowed myself to feel inferior to him...Then he goes and pulls a move that I would normally expect from an "asshole." Which or course leaves me confused as hell. For those that know me I didnt want to fall for this guy from the beginning....And now I am like tha fuck happened?

[SLOWLYbtngU]

hate to hear this ma as you really do deserve the best. damn, buddy played a good game for a while. care to share how or why he blew his cover???
Let's just say that he wasnt just my "nice guy."

[Sammich]

pm me details woman

[SLOWLYbtngU]

it makes sense, but d00d is a fake, he made it seem one way when it was another...UNLESS jose is wildin again

*still waiting for response*
Nah...There was emotional playing going on....

I wont stop hanging out with him, but if I can choose not to, I wont.

I just see it as payback being a bitch again...

I didnt like him, avoided him, then became his friend again....Liked him and now I am the one chasing...One problem....I dont chase...At least not anymore...

He played a good game though.

[Sammich]

what kind of emotional game? u have us in a grey area right now

[STI LOVER]

what's up jose, u allright gurl??

[SPOOLIN]

JOHN TUCKER MUST DIE!!!!!!!!

[SLOWLYbtngU]

Facade..... ;) :D

I was actually referring to the fact that the question actually sounds more rhetorical than anything else because a good guy the screws up is actually a bad guy, so he's no different than any other bad guy.....see how the tree fell in the woods???? :D

In other words.....tell us the whole damn story and we will be glad to give you worthless and non-professional advice...... :D ;)
OK...Here goes...From the beginning....

In June, this guy that I knew from elementary, middle, and high school sent me a note thru Myspace the day I was closing my account down. Well b/c I responded I left the acct open and we became pen pals. After about a month of just typing, we started to talk on the phone, which lead to us meeting in person. Now mind you, we "knew" of each other from school but never met...I was the "popular" girl and he was :dunno: in band??? We hung out a couple of times and I could tell that feelings were being caught and b/c I knew that this was happening, I ran away from him...Not literally, just avoided him at all cost...I kept "missing" his calls or "not getting" his texts...

Fast Forward-----> My Birthday party in Nov.
I decided that I would invite him to my b-day b/c I figured the more the merrier...I ignored him all night except for when I gave him a drunken lapdance...~sigh~ (lol @ me under the influence) at the end of the night he comes up to me and hugs me and says, "I know you wont remember a lot of things from tonight but i hope you remember me being here." (kissed me on my forehead and he left.)

That next weekend, my friends (that were pulling for this guy) suggest going to Lake Lanier to go see the lights and they invite him....I dont want to go...Plans change and we end up at the movies...While there I have a slight outburst correcting his thought that this was a date...I decide to scream out the fact that, "THIS IS NOT A DATE!!!" To which he responds by giving me his jacket b/c I was shaking...:(

I dont see him for a while...Until...Yep, my holiday party...He got there extra early and sat on the couch...We didnt talk much in the beginning but by the middle of the night we were in my room talking all night on my bed. He was second to last to leave at 5am...

Christmas day my friends took me to his house to say hi and Merry Christmas...We were there for a while. Then the Lights at Lake Lanier came up again...This time i was ok with going with him...We went and cuddled and talked and held hands and drank hot chocolate and hugged....When we got dropped off at my apartment I asked him to come in...He did. We later went to Waffle House with my roomie and her man...We hugged outside in the cold. Came back to my apt where we talked until 4am. In this convo we discussed our "like" for each other....

The next weekend we went to Fernbank during the day and watched 2 movies at night, I dropped him off at his house at 3am.

And honestly I cant remember much after that one...Ummm....Which brings us to Saturday.

I went to go drop off a gift to him and maybe stay for about 30 minutes...He asked me to stay and watch Toy Story 1 and 2 with him and his son....I did..The entire night he texted...THE ENTIRE NIGHT....I wanted to leave...Then at one point in the night he says," Hold on brb, a friend from work wants to see me." I kinda look at him...Like uhhh..ok? When he comes back in he mentions it was a girl....I was like "hmm...I didnt ask...." I left at the end of the movie.

When I got home I cried with my bestfriends....Once again I have fallen into the "bestfriend" mode...SO I quit! FUCK THAT!

Well my problem is.....How the fuck can you go from feeling one thing to another and not mention it to me? I mean, dont feed me pretty little thoughts and then be just as bad as the assholes I normally date....

Fuck a nice guy....If it owns a penis it is the same thing...

[SLOWLYbtngU]

what's up jose, u allright gurl??
ehh...I quit with dicks....I think i am gonna start licking carpet...

[SLOWLYbtngU]

JOHN TUCKER MUST DIE!!!!!!!!
WTF is a John Tucker???? Can I buy it at Walmart? Target maybe? Does it come in different shapes and colors? If not then tell me wtf that is.....Or who....I guess

[con]

I understand completely.........

[Sammich]

jose..tell me if im wrong but you all havent/didnt obtain the gf/bf status yet am i right?

[SLOWLYbtngU]

I understand completely.........
Oh wait no..The best part was reading his blog after having these weird feelings since Saturday night and reading "Someone there has caught my eye." (talking about his job) Which duh!!! Has to be the same person that stopped by on Saturday while I was there....Amazing...Simply amazing....You cannot have your cake and eat it too!!! IT is impossible!!!! (unless u live alone and then you can eat your own cake...)

[SLOWLYbtngU]

jose..tell me if im wrong but you all havent/didnt obtain the gf/bf status yet am i right?
Nope but we discussed being exclusive...His family refers to me as "la novia." The girlfriend...But no...No we hadn't....

That is the thing...I am not upset at him....Not once have I said I hold anything against him...I would just rather not be around him...B/c I allowed myself to catch feelings....REMEMBER JOSELYN doesnt fuck with emotions...Apparently emotions fuck me...

[Sammich]

Oh wait no..The best part was reading his blog after having these weird feelings since Saturday night and reading "Someone there has caught my eye." (talking about his job) Which duh!!! Has to be the same person that stopped by on Saturday while I was there....Amazing...Simply amazing....You cannot have your cake and eat it too!!! IT is impossible!!!! (unless u live alone and then you can eat your own cake...)

:thinking: that is dirty..nobody deserves that..there is somebody out there that is for u i kno:boobies:

if i leg hump would it make u feel better?

[Sammich]

Nope but we discussed being exclusive...His family refers to me as "la novia." The girlfriend...But no...No we hadn't....

That is the thing...I am not upset at him....Not once have I said I hold anything against him...I would just rather not be around him...B/c I allowed myself to catch feelings....REMEMBER JOSELYN doesnt fuck with emotions...Apparently emoptions fuck me...

what did he say when yall 'discussed being exclusive?' i mean it depends on what he said when yall talked about that. IMO(referring to last post) dude was just plain wrong

[SLOWLYbtngU]

:thinking: that is dirty..nobody deserves that..there is somebody out there that is for u i kno:boobies:

if i leg hump would it make u feel better?
It's all good babe...Like I said...great guy..Just not the one for me.

[SLOWLYbtngU]

what did he say when yall 'discussed being exclusive?' i mean it depends on what he said when yall talked about that. IMO(referring to last post) dude was just plain wrong
He asked me if I thought it was something that might happen..I told him that b/c of my feelings, "yes." BUT..I also told him that I dont rush into relationships, which I thought he agreed with, and according to the comment he left me yesterday on my blog....He did/does....But Right now i am getting the whole "I am saying one thing but doing another" vibe from him...

[Sammich]

He asked me if I thought it was something that might happen..I told him that b/c of my feelings, "yes." BUT..I also told him that I dont rush into relationships, which I thought he agreed with, and according to the comment he left me yesterday on my blog....He did/does....But Right now i am getting the whole "I am saying one thing but doing another" vibe from him...
have u asked him about the comment 'this is my friend' that he made?

[STI LOVER]

ehh...I quit with dicks....I think i am gonna start licking carpet...



:no: lol well I'm sorry to hear about all this jose, man that sucks.

[Sammich]

:no: lol well I'm sorry to hear about all this jose, man that sucks.

:lmao: lookin out for ur own interest sum bish:lmfao:

[SLOWLYbtngU]

:no: lol well I'm sorry to hear about all this jose, man that sucks.
It's all good... You live, you learn...

[SLOWLYbtngU]

have u asked him about the comment 'this is my friend' that he made?
When?

[Sammich]

When?

after he made that comment, have u ever asked him about it since he said it?

its something u should know WHY he called u just a friend

[SLOWLYbtngU]

after he made that comment, have u ever asked him about it since he said it?

its something u should know WHY he called u just a friend
Babe, I am sorry I am lost...Where did I put that he called me just a friend...

[con]

Oh wait no..The best part was reading his blog after having these weird feelings since Saturday night and reading "Someone there has caught my eye." (talking about his job) Which duh!!! Has to be the same person that stopped by on Saturday while I was there....Amazing...Simply amazing....You cannot have your cake and eat it too!!! IT is impossible!!!! (unless u live alone and then you can eat your own cake...)
I assumed something similar...despite contrary beliefs, nice guys don`t always finish last. they sometimes play the game abit better than others. however, true colors always shine through sooner or later.

[SLOWLYbtngU]

I assumed something similar...despite contrary beliefs, nice guys don`t always finish last. they sometimes play the game abit better than others. however, true colors always shine through sooner or later.

YES!!! That is exactly what I was thinking...I dont think there is a such thing as a nice guy or a bad guy...Like honestly..I think that someone's nice guy is the last person's asshole...See what I mean? Fuck a title....

[Sammich]

my bad i read a paragraph wrong..

[SLOWLYbtngU]

my bad i read a paragraph wrong..
Oh it's ok..Lol...I started this thread and he has texted 3 times...That is cute....No response for him....:)

[STI LOVER]

:lmao: lookin out for ur own interest sum bish:lmfao:
:lmfao: :idb: don't hate cuz I bet u to it. :lmfao:

[STI LOVER]

It's all good... You live, you learn...

true dat.:goodjob: let's get drunk this weekend.!!:cheers: :boobies:

[SLOWLYbtngU]

:lmfao: :idb: don't hate cuz I bet u to it. :lmfao:
That is what I was thinking too!!!!!

My bad about Friday...Ended up staying home and baking cookies until 3am.

[Sammich]

:lmfao: :idb: don't hate cuz I bet u to it. :lmfao:

y u stealin all my leg humpin glory fagget:lmfao: :lmfao:


Oh it's ok..Lol...I started this thread and he has texted 3 times...That is cute....No response for him....:)

'u didnt get the txts right':lmfao:

[Sammich]

That is what I was thinking too!!!!!

My bad about Friday...Ended up staying home and baking cookies until 3am.

freak!!!

[STI LOVER]

so many ppl in this thread and only 4 ppl talking. what gives???

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[SLOWLYbtngU]

true dat.:goodjob: let's get drunk this weekend.!!:cheers: :boobies:
Let's do it!!! I think I am gonna throw a b-day party for Kashime on Saturday!!! Hmm...Actually I think I am.

[SLOWLYbtngU]

'u didnt get the txts right':lmfao:

:yes: :goodjob: ;)

[STI LOVER]

That is what I was thinking too!!!!!

My bad about Friday...Ended up staying home and baking cookies until 3am.

only one way u can make i t up to me....:idb: :boobies: :lmfao:

[STI LOVER]

y u stealin all my leg humpin glory fagget:lmfao: :lmfao:
'u didnt get the txts right':lmfao:

:lmfao: :lmfao: :taun:

[SLOWLYbtngU]

only one way u can make i t up to me....:idb: :boobies: :lmfao:
Umm..I am still celibate shawty!!! lol..U really are beating PBS to this leg humping thing....

[STI LOVER]

Let's do it!!! I think I am gonna throw a b-day party for Kashime on Saturday!!! Hmm...Actually I think I am.

sounds like a plan. I can invite rosie and them. let me know what's up.

[STI LOVER]

Umm..I am still celibate shawty!!! lol..U really are beating PBS to this leg humping thing....

:lmfao: :lmfao: oh well, pbs can't keep up with da real deal. :lmfao:

[STI LOVER]

I'll be back. off to lunch!!!

[SLOWLYbtngU]

Aww..But I dont have music...Well I do on my computer...Damn you dont think someone will steal that too...Nah...hmmm :thinking:

[SLOWLYbtngU]

:lmfao: :lmfao: oh well, pbs can't keep up with da real deal. :lmfao:
lol....Sounds like you are declaring war....


Oh and PBS-I want to respond....But I dont want to go all psycho bitch on his ass....Besides as of right now he has no clue that anything is even wrong...

[con]

^damn.........:lmao:

[Sammich]

lol....Sounds like you are declaring war....


Oh and PBS-I want to respond....But I dont want to go all psycho bitch on his ass....Besides as of right now he has no clue that anything is even wrong...

lol sweet..play him like the f00 he is..

and STI..its on muhfugga like tits on a transvestite:lmfao: :lmfao:

[SLOWLYbtngU]

Damn to him not knowing that anything is wrong or PBS and STI battling it out?

[Sammich]

Damn to him not knowing that anything is wrong or PBS and STI battling it out?

:lmao:

jose, u know what it is..im ur only lover dnt deny it:idb:

[SLOWLYbtngU]

:lmao:

jose, u know what it is..im ur only lover dnt deny it:idb:
Ummm....riiiiiight ;) Whatever you say...:screwy:

[Sammich]

I ALWAYS GET THE BEST RESPONSE...

do me jose lol

[SLOWLYbtngU]

Negro plz....STAWP!!!! we have gone through this before...You couldnt possibly handle me.

[Sammich]

o the suspense is killin me..

[Hiro]

o the suspense is killin me..

aHEM!!! O RLY???

And Jose, yeah that does seem like the asshole thing.
So, wait this is the guy we were ALL pulling for before our thread got deleted?

[Sammich]

aHEM!!! O RLY???

And Jose, yeah that does seem like the asshole thing.
So, wait this is the guy we were ALL pulling for before our thread got deleted?

im sorry hiro..i 4got about our affair, will u 4give me..ill beat ur ass if u do:lmfao:

yea same lame d00d. i feel bad for tellin her to give him a chance:(

[Hiro]

yeah no kidding, me too.
And How can I just forgive you for that?! (T_T)

[Sammich]

yeah no kidding, me too.
And How can I just forgive you for that?! (T_T)

I HAVE A NEW WHIP:goodjob: :idb:

[STI LOVER]

what up ya'll, I'm back. PBS it's on like donkey kong!!

[Jaimecbr900]

After reading your chain of events:

Unfortunately, this is what happens when young people play games.

I don't mean to sound harsh, but BOTH of you are/were playing games. Right now it seems he's playing more than you are, but it sounds like at some point or another each were playing.

I'm not meaning any disrespect towards anyone because I don't know either one of you personally, but......you can't treat "feelings" like they're the mange or chicken pox. You either have them or you don't, and you have to act accordingly. If you don't, that message needs to be conveyed loud and clear especially to men.

We are simple creatures. You have to sometimes bash us over the head (nicely though) to get your point into our heads. If you don't like him like a BF, then don't ACT/BEHAVE/HINT/VIBE like you are. Otherwise we WILL assume we are and thereby act accordingly.....emotions, jealousy, demanding time, exclusivety, etc.

Women like things done a little different....ala crystal ball style.. :rolleyes: Some of the hints you guys give are not hints to us. Sometimes just acting nice means you wanna jump our bones, when really you probably meant to just be nice. Sometimes acting all distant is supposed to be a sign for us to give chase because you're feeling a little needy and want to affirm we care. Whatever the case, we are creatures different than you are. Hence why playing games is a dangerous proposition because you will easily be misunderstood.

Not trying to be an ass, but yall should've been more direct about the situation. If his family is calling you his "novia", yet you don't wanna be.....that's where you should've said something to him. If you wanted to, you should've said something too. That way he can't act like a jerk like he is now.

:2cents:

[SPOOLIN]

WTF is a John Tucker???? Can I buy it at Walmart? Target maybe? Does it come in different shapes and colors? If not then tell me wtf that is.....Or who....I guess


lol its a movie with 4 hot girls that all get played at the same time by this guy in high school, so the girls all get even with him....i dont know, the stories seem similar, if not, FUCK YOU.

my girl made me watch it last night because she didnt wanna watch another movie of mine cause i watch some fucked up movies. Shes like those too, just not all the time.

[SLOWLYbtngU]

After reading your chain of events:

Unfortunately, this is what happens when young people play games.

I don't mean to sound harsh, but BOTH of you are/were playing games. Right now it seems he's playing more than you are, but it sounds like at some point or another each were playing.

I'm not meaning any disrespect towards anyone because I don't know either one of you personally, but......you can't treat "feelings" like they're the mange or chicken pox. You either have them or you don't, and you have to act accordingly. If you don't, that message needs to be conveyed loud and clear especially to men.

We are simple creatures. You have to sometimes bash us over the head (nicely though) to get your point into our heads. If you don't like him like a BF, then don't ACT/BEHAVE/HINT/VIBE like you are. Otherwise we WILL assume we are and thereby act accordingly.....emotions, jealousy, demanding time, exclusivety, etc.

Women like things done a little different....ala crystal ball style.. :rolleyes: Some of the hints you guys give are not hints to us. Sometimes just acting nice means you wanna jump our bones, when really you probably meant to just be nice. Sometimes acting all distant is supposed to be a sign for us to give chase because you're feeling a little needy and want to affirm we care. Whatever the case, we are creatures different than you are. Hence why playing games is a dangerous proposition because you will easily be misunderstood.

Not trying to be an ass, but yall should've been more direct about the situation. If his family is calling you his "novia", yet you don't wanna be.....that's where you should've said something to him. If you wanted to, you should've said something too. That way he can't act like a jerk like he is now.

:2cents:

Well the thing is that I am iffy about feelings b/c I was in a relationship for 5yrs that ended badly, he was in a relationship of 4yrs that ended badly...Both our significant others cheated...I didnt want to be his rebound...I really do/did like him...I still do...I would have loved to be his girlfriend...Like I said....I cant say anything bad about him...I do agree that we are both to blame...Me for playing games in the beginning and then letting my guard down....I am not upset by what you have written...For the most part it is correct...

I should have said something....:(

[SLOWLYbtngU]

lol its a movie with 4 hot girls that all get played at the same time by this guy in high school, so the girls all get even with him....i dont know, the stories seem similar, if not, FUCK YOU.

my girl made me watch it last night because she didnt wanna watch another movie of mine cause i watch some fucked up movies. Shes like those too, just not all the time.
YEah umm...I watched Requiem of a Dream..Ummm...I dunno anything about a John Tucker....Sounds cute?? :thinking: though....:dunno:

[Jaimecbr900]

Well the thing is that I am iffy about feelings b/c I was in a relationship for 5yrs that ended badly, he was in a relationship of 4yrs that ended badly...Both our significant others cheated...I didnt want to be his rebound...I really do/did like him...I still do...I would have loved to be his girlfriend...Like I said....I cant say anything bad about him...I do agree that we are both to blame...Me for playing games in the beginning and then letting my guard down....I am not upset by what you have written...For the most part it is correct...

I should have said something....:(

See that's the thing, you have to put one relationship down before you go on to another. You haven't put down your old relationship. Maybe it's not time. Maybe it is. Only you and your comfort level can tell.

I see the same thing all the time. People carry, sometimes understandably so, with them the bitterness of previous relationships.

You have to understand that it undermines your current relationships if you keep carrying that old cross. If you're not ready to put it down, just be aware of the fact that you will be limited as to how far your new dealings will go.

[Sammich]

what up ya'll, I'm back. PBS it's on like donkey kong!!

what it do cockblocker..u aint takin my punani

[STI LOVER]

what it do cockblocker..u aint takin my punani


:lmfao: too late. that choncho is mine. :lmfao: :bump:

[Sammich]

*fight*

[STI LOVER]

~pulls out shank~

[Sammich]

*reaches into gun case*


yea thatll work:lmfao:

[STI LOVER]

:lmfao: I don't have to reload mine.

[Sammich]

i dnt either, i just drop the empty one and use the next loaded..LOL

[Sammich]

u seen duplex?? w/ ben stiller and cameron diaz?

(old lady) 'how u gona bring a knife to a gunfight':lmfao: :lmfao:

[STI LOVER]

u seen duplex?? w/ ben stiller and cameron diaz?

(old lady) 'how u gona bring a knife to a gunfight':lmfao: :lmfao:


:lmfao: no, can't say that I have. but you got me on that one. :lmfao:

[Sammich]

:lmfao: no, can't say that I have. but you got me on that one. :lmfao:

:lmao:

*shaft voice*

damn right

[STI LOVER]

:lmao:

*shaft voice*

damn right


:lmfao: :lmfao: saw that movie again on sunday.

[Sammich]

neva saw that movie..always heard the commercial or somethin

[STI LOVER]

neva saw that movie..always heard the commercial or somethin


It's allright. seen better but also worse.

[Sammich]

well ill just enjoy the commercials..

*time to rent snakes ona plane*

[STI LOVER]

well ill just enjoy the commercials..

*time to rent snakes ona plane*

that movie is killa. lol that was a good movie. it scared me a little.

[Sammich]

i heard it was funny

[STI LOVER]

i heard it was funny

well yea, that too.

[Maniaç]

fuck the whole thread.. the title is true!

thats why im an asshole to females WHAT!

[Sammich]

u goin 2 hail...hail HAIL..

CRASH CRASH CRAAAAAASSSSSHHHH INTO A DITCH

[Maniaç]

u goin 2 hail...hail HAIL..

CRASH CRASH CRAAAAAASSSSSHHHH INTO A DITCH


:lmfao: who me

[STI LOVER]

u goin 2 hail...hail HAIL..

CRASH CRASH CRAAAAAASSSSSHHHH INTO A DITCH

:lmfao: :lmfao:

[Sammich]

:lmfao: who me

*shaft*

damn right